Call back etiquette

[Guest ript4hire]

Hello everyone - I am pretty new to these boards, but I thought the best way to get to know everyone is to jump in with my own thread! Hopefully I do this right

 

I have a question for all you guys on proper call back etiquette. I am finding that I miss calls (when my phone is off ... during a movie or when I am having fun with someone!) and I am not always clear on the proper manners for returning the call. Obviously, if the caller says "looking for tonight at 9pm" and I get the message at 11pm, then I don't need to call them back - the time has passed. Conversely, if the caller says "looking for sometime later this week" the of course I call them back the following day at a reasonable hour.

 

However many guys just say "looking for tonight" - not saying the latest time I can call, or any other info. Many times I won't get the call until late - I don't want to be rude and call back at midnight ... possibly waking them up. I also feel kinda silly returning the call the next day ... just to be polite.

 

So what would you guys prefer? Always return a call? No matter how late? Or always check in the next day?

 

Eagerly awaiting an education on the subject,

 

Eric

[Boston Guy]

Hi Eric,

 

Welcome to M4M.

 

As someone who often leaves messages for escorts, asking for a callback, it's frustrating when the person never, ever calls back. So I'd vote for a callback at some time, even if the person says they're looking to get together at 9:00 pm and you get the message at 11:00 pm. Who knows -- they might still be sitting in their hotel room hoping to get together with you or with someone.

 

I think escorts can do themselves and their prospective clients a world of good by adding a bit of info governing these situations to their websites. For example, an escort might state "All calls will be returned within 24 hours; most calls will be returned within three hours but I will not call you back after 11:00 pm unless you request that I do. Please leave special callback instructions, including your email address if you want me to email you, in the voice message you leave for me. Thank you."

 

BG

[eastbayguy]

>Hello everyone - I am pretty new to these boards, but I

>thought the best way to get to know everyone is to jump in

>with my own thread! Hopefully I do this right

 

Right or wrong, eventually you'll get flamed. Meanwhile, a cheery welcome aboard. Glad to have you.

 

>So what would you guys prefer? Always return a call?

>No matter how late? Or always check in the next day?

 

You have a good flair for the ironic. I started a thread a while back in which I whined about making a dozen or so calls to escorts and receiving not a single call back 72 hours later. As a client, I know you have a life to lead, other customers to see, a job, etc. But, a call or e-mail ought to require at least the courtesy of an acknowledgement. Even if the call or e-mail just says "I'm booked thru Tuesday" or whatever. Clients know you'll return calls when you can.

 

A little touchier is returning calls really late. Obviously, you can answer e-mails any time. If the message says "call any time" then you should do so. Otherwise, normal phone etiquette applies. Which, I'd take to mean don't call after 10:00 PM or so.

 

>Eagerly awaiting an education on the subject.

 

We'll see how you feel about that statement after the lawyers hijack your thread for a debate about some arcane aspect of telecommunications law. Once again, welcome aboard. Glad to have you here.

 

--EBG

[Guest DickHo]

I think you should always call back. It's frustrating when you don't hear back and the situation may have changed since the call was placed. I was hoping to hook up by 9 but it's midnite and no one has called back...but I'm still horny and would probably make an appointment with the first one to call back.

 

A call back the next day is also nice as it says that you got the call, were busy then but are interested.

 

Dick

 

PS: Eric (ript4hire) is HOT, HOT, HOT.

[Vincent_Michael]

I have to say I often call back but then again sometimes I just cant because I am either out of town or not in a situation to give them a call back in the slightest so when the opportunity presents its self I often don’t call back if they tell me they are looking for a specific time and date and that time and date has passed by.

 

I usually prefer e-mail because like right now I can write an e-mail to someone very fast but I am in a situation were it would not be tasteful to take a call and talk about how big my penis is.

[Luv2play]

Hello Erik and welcome to the site. It is always great to have more working escorts participating on this Message Center and don't let the flamers get you down. There are lots of us anxious to hear your and other escorts' opinions on issues raised here.

 

About call back etiquette, as another escort is fond of saying "it depends"! I don't know what kind of advertising you have out there, but I know some escorts advertise their services 24/7. Others indicate their services are only available within certain times and days only. Quite a few are silent on the matter. If you are in the first category, and you receive a call without indicating a time limit on the call back, I would say call back as soon as you are able to no matter what time, the guy may be waiting by the phone in a lonely hotel room.

 

If your ads indicate specific hours of business, then only call back within those hours and if they have already expired for that day, a call back the next day is polite and can't hurt, even if the client moved on to another escort.

 

If you don't indicate any times when your services are available, I would use the normal phone etiquette, which is generally don't call after 10pm or so. Most people have made other arrangements (or if not have turned in) by then.

 

Hope this helps. P.S. I also think your pics look HOT!

[BobbyThompson]

I agree with VM, so much so that I don't even advertise my phone number anymore. In the past, on my outgoing voice message I would say "For privacy, I will not call you back unless you leave me your number." I wouldn't return calls based on just my caller ID. This way, the client could decide if he wanted to move on and look for someone else, or find out if I might be available later.

 

Typically, I would return a phone call the next day in the afternoon, always asking first, "Is this a good time to talk?" Half of the time I'd catch someone during a meeting or something.

 

Like VM, these days I just prefer an email. Chances are if you're getting my voicemail, I'm not available that night anyway. An email is almost guaranteed to get a faster response from me than a voicemail. Plus, there's no inappropriate time to send an email...well, maybe, if it's subject is enlarging my penis or getting a mortgage on my non-house.

[JT Brooklyn]

Welcome to the Forums ERIC..with a "C"/NYC..Your "Equipment" definitely fills up a Frame, on a roll of film! LOL For most people, you can cover alot of territory, very easily without any "But You Said" on the phone,miscommunications, by dealing mainly with e-mail contact. Cell phone conversations not always the best,depending on where and when.I personally have not run into too many guys, who don't like at least 24 hrs notice, on an Appointment. But most donot want to deal with Phone calls after 9 or 10 p.m. If someone does call you, they should at least say up to what Time or Day to get back to them..Keep taking those Sexy Photos, and your Phone and Email, will always be busy! LOL :+ :+ :+

[+ deej]

>sometimes I just cant because I am either out of town or not in a

>situation to give them a call back in the slightest so when the

>opportunity presents its self I often don’t call back if they tell me

>they are looking for a specific time and date and that time and date

>has passed by

 

I once left a message for a guy who called back 5 days later just to thank me for the call and apologize for being out of town at the time. I was struck by how utterly courteous the gesture was.

 

Next time I was in the mood, he was first on the list because of his courtesy. Sadly, he'd disappeared by then.

 

Don't ever think a call back, even if late, is wasted. It leaves an impression. "Better late than never" applies.

[Regina]

ERIC- I AGREE WITH EVERYONE!

 

Eric,

 

Having read your question and all the responses, I find I firmly agree with everyone, you do have a terrific body and an enormous penis! But that's not the question. Yes, I agree, if you can you should call someone back, even if it's the next day; and if it's a cell phone call at any time. As a rule, cell phones are off at night and let's face it, if some married man calls you with his number and his wife answers the phone, chances are he's an idiot!

 

You should come to La Fleur's some night...you would LOVE IT!

 

Oh, and Vincent Michael, just so you know, there's never a bad time to discuss how big your dick is! And why do you call yourself the spelling boy?

[trilingual]

RE: ERIC- I AGREE WITH EVERYONE!

 

I like BostonGuy's suggestion best: Find a way to work that statement about call-backs into your website, ad, voice-mail, etc. However, I'd alter the statement slightly by saying "All calls will be returned between 9:00 a.m. and 11:00 p.m., unless you let me know specifically that it's OK to call outside those hours." I think a lot of clients will find it refreshing to have some certainty about when they'll hear from you. They'll also consider you a real professional!

[trilingual]

RE: ERIC- I AGREE WITH EVERYONE!

 

I like BostonGuy's suggestion best: Find a way to work that statement about call-backs into your website, ad, voice-mail, etc. However, I'd alter the statement slightly by saying "All calls will be returned between 9:00 a.m. and 11:00 p.m., unless you let me know specifically that it's OK to call outside those hours." I think a lot of clients will find it refreshing to have some certainty about when they'll hear from you. They'll also consider you a real professional!

[+ friendofsheila]

Welcome, Eric. Thanks for joining us.

 

I'm a client who has left messages with escorts who never returned calls. I won't be calling them back to try again, since I can't rely on them to return a call, so I might be stuck (again!) waiting, waiting, waiting to see if I'm going to get a session or not.

 

If an escort DID call me back hours/days/weeks later and said "sorry I missed your call, but I was [insert reason here]. I hope you'll keep me in mind for the future" I would TOTALLY be willing to ask him again in the future. Good manners are not just good business, they're kind of a turn-on (for me, anyway). :9

 

Otherwise I agree with all the other people's ideas about changing your OGM and asking "is this an okay time to talk?" when you call.

 

I also agree about your pictures, but wasn't it enough that the Almighty gave you great abs and totally-excellent butt? As Arnold in TORCH SONG TRILOGY said the to male model passed out on his bed, "If you have an IQ over 75, there is no God..."

 

Make sure to let us know in the "Escort Travels" section when you travel, especially those of us in SF!

[HotdadENYC]

Assuming that you have a callback number, I always think its a good ideal to return a pbone call, even if the time for that particular session has passed.

 

Who know when the timing might get right? Or if there is some schedule change.

 

Not to mention, that returning calls, like returning e-mails, is a clear cool sign of integrity.

 

 

hd NYC

[+ Lucky]

EBG:

a) Have you personally ever been flamed here?

b) Why so hard on us lawyers? I know nothing about telecommunications law.)

 

ript4hire: Welcome to the board!

[BuckyXTC]

Eric:

 

Another bone of contention with some clients, particularly me, is failure to respond to email inquiries. One escort, who I have seen on several occasions, and have reviewed positively, has pretty much cost himself further business with me because he never responds to email. And it's not just a matter of him being "out of town". I mean he never responds. As he lives in another part of the country, and comes to my area periodically, I have sent email just to see when he might be in the area, but he doesn't even show the courtesy of saying something like, "I don't have any plans to be in your area at the present". Nothing, nada, zip.

 

The fact that you are concerned about "doing things right" and asking questions is a good sign for your success in this endeavor. I wish you well. Now excuse me while I go and check out your photos.:9

[JT Brooklyn]

Bucky..Definitely True with "Some" Escorts. Even if you have Hungout in the Past and had a HOT Time.. IF they don't hear a Definite 'KA Ching"..They will not boither with a response, to a simple e-mail which takes about 5 seconds of their time..Some are Charging $4.16 a minute now! lol If this happens frequently, with NO explanation, "Moving On" is the thing to do. The Ocean is getting very crowded,"Fishing" can be Fun! Especially in the Larger Cities, like NY, Miami, LA.. :+ :+ :+

[Guest ript4hire]

Thanks for the compliment my friend ... I guess I shouldn't share my SAT scores or my college education with you ... I would hate to be responsible for a sudden bout of atheism!

 

Eric

[+ Charlie]

Nothing makes me crazier than calling an escort and getting no information on his voicemail message, or being told "I will call you back very shortly", and then I sit and wonder how long to wait. Whatever policy you decide on, make it very clear in your answering machine message or your ad.

 

I usually hire when I am travelling, and I don't want to sit in a hotel room waiting for a possible callback at some indeterminate time, not do I want to take a cellphone call about it in a museum or on public transport. I usually leave fairly specific instructions about when to call back; if I don't hear from the escort within those parameters, most times I don't care if I hear from him at all, since I may no longer be at that phone number, much less able to hire him. However, there are times when I want to leave plans flexible, and then I really would like some sort of callback, even if it is only to confirm that the escort is not available, so I can move on to someone else.

 

The fact that you are concerned about how to handle this is a good sign for your future success as an escort. Welcome to the board!

[Guest ript4hire]

WOW - Just wanted to thank everyone for all their input ... and for being so friendly! Makes a guy all warm and tingly inside ... hopefully I can return the favor someday and make all of YOU feel warm and tingly ... DEEP inside ;-)

 

Seems like it is always a good idea to get back to someone even if the moment has completely passed - I will keep that in mind. I think for now I am going to try really hard and keep my outgoing message updated on my phone - so people can make informed choices based on my availability for that day.

 

And of course, return all those calls that I HOPE I will be getting!

 

Best,

 

Eric

[ErikMcAlister]

EDIT!

[JT Brooklyn]

No Doubt in my mind! "Eric the Big" will definitely be Contacted! Keep in Touch thru the Forums... You definitely seem as Nice on the Inside, as We All noticed you are on the Outside! LOL Another Outlook on Life is always welcome... :+ :+ :+

[DaninWA]

Being polite is not silly. Returning a call, even if it is well past the time the caller wanted to meet, is a sign of courtesy. This shows the caller that you appreciate the opportunity and compliment that he has offered you. Responding to a call gives the caller a reason to try again another time.

 

Dan

[+ friendofsheila]

Another thought: if you ever see an overload condition for calls happening a lot, say, on weekends, including that info somewhere would be useful to us clients. Example:

 

"Things often get busy for me Friday and Saturday, mostly, so I can't always return calls before your preferred time. What works best is to ......

(call me the day before, 2 days in advance, et. al.)"

 

"Hey, this is Eric. Thanks for calling. It's Friday the 25th and ("I'm booked until ....,"

"it's turning out to be a busy weekend for returning calls. I apologize if I can't get back to you in time. If I haven't gotten back to you in 48 hours and you're still available, please try me again.)

 

Take what you can use and discard the rest. I agree with the others: if you're asking good questions now and paying attention to what's being said (and you clearly are), you're probably going to be doing a great job in the future. Good luck and keep us posted!

[Vincent_Michael]

"Better late than never" I think I might pick up on that and start reterning phone calls no matter how late the oppertunity for me to come up to call them back.