Escorts who don't like older guys but pretend to

[Mount N Do]

Just trying to understand in my own brain that you offer a profile pic that's obviously not you. WHY? I clearly disclose that as well. WHY? I did find one that closely resembles me however. WHY?

 

This astounds me. I've hired, 99.9% successfully, with no faux REAL, FAKE or CLOSELY RESEMBLING ME pic.

 

Never provided a pic certainly at an initial contact. The fellows I chose never requested one.

 

I don't get the real/fake/closely resembling me SHIT. Forgive me.[/

All good, I just think that it's only fair that they too have, at minimum an idea of who they will be seeing. And truthfully, I have never had a single hire who requested a pic. Those would definitely be the ones who would never get it. I think I have a good feel for people. I'll typically only do that after I've communicated several times with the escort and if I feel comfortable. I'll say this again, I hire pretty frequently, I think so anyways, and to date, I can't say I've had a single bite that I would describe as regrettable.

[Mount N Do]

Okay, don't know how that happened...

[escortrod]

Okay, don't know how that happened...

It seems to be an issue that @Good Grief feels strongly about.

[Mount N Do]

It seems to be an issue that @Good Grief feels strongly about.

Lol, clearly. My balls still hurt. But seeiously, I get that a lot of people, perhaps most, are a little more skeptical than me. But I think I'm

Pretty careful.

[Mount N Do]

Lol, clearly. My balls still hurt. But seeiously, I get that a lot of people, perhaps most, are a little more skeptical than me. But I think I'm

Pretty careful.

And I dunno, you as an escort. Even tho it might not matter to you who you might be seeing. Do you feel a little better knowing in advance what that person might look like?

[Good Grief]

@GUY

It seems to be an issue that @Good Grief feels strongly about.

 

Sure, I do. I'm not looking for escorts that post pics that are "close" to their appearance.

 

Plus, I've never been asked, after all these years, to provide my pic, whether actual, semi-close or something like me. Though I would.

 

Don't know why it's such a goddamn, fucking problem for the both of us - offeror and acceptor - to meet without faux pics or either of our parts.

 

Seems again, to be the disgust factor. As I've said, never experienced it.

[escortrod]

And I dunno, you as an escort. Even tho it might not matter to you who you might be seeing. Do you feel a little better knowing in advance what that person might look like?

Definitely.

[Good Grief]

Lol, clearly. My balls still hurt. But seeiously, I get that a lot of people, perhaps most, are a little more skeptical than me. But I think I'm

Pretty careful.

And I dunno, you as an escort. Even tho it might not matter to you who you might be seeing. Do you feel a little better knowing in advance what that person might look like?

 

GOOD GOD, My dear, I AM NOT AN ESCORT. I HIRE ONE.

 

Read the posts.

 

As you say..... but one must work hard to remain stupid.

[Mount N Do]

@GUY

 

 

Sure, I do. I'm not looking for escorts that post pics that are "close" to their appearance.

 

Plus, I've never been asked, after all these years, to provide my pic, whether actual, semi-close or something like me. Though I would.

 

Don't know why it's such a goddamn, fucking problem for the both of us - offeror and acceptor - to meet without faux pics or either of our parts.

 

Seems again, to be the disgust factor. As I've said, never experienced it.

Well in all fairness, I think that the escort definitely has to post the real pics. They're selling the product dude. I, for obvious reasons am not going to put my actual pic on my profile. It's that discretion thing. And again, my pic has never been requested either. I just think it's a nice gesture. And when I do provide it, the meeting has already been scheduled. It has never been contingent on what I look like.

[Good Grief]

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Well in all fairness, I think that the escort definitely has to post the real pics. They're selling the product dude. I, for obvious reasons am not going to put my actual pic on my profile. It's that discretion thing. And again, my pic has never been requested either. I just think it's a nice gesture. And when I do provide it, the meeting has already been scheduled. It has never been contingent on what I look like.

 

 

So sorry, the trying to explain this and have someone understand is completely FUTILE......We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid.......has worn me out more than my current guy.

 

I apologize to the OP, for the crazy south-west-east-north bound this thread gas taken. Mea culpa.

[escortrod]

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So sorry, the trying to explain this and have someone understand is completely FUTILE......We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid.......has worn me out more than my current guy.

 

I apologize to the OP, for the crazy south-west-east-north bound this thread gas taken. Mea culpa.

I think many of us understand your point. Not everybody agrees with you, or takes it quite as seriously as you do. That's not ignorance, nor stupidity.

[Mount N Do]

So sorry, the trying to explain this and have someone understand FUTILE......We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid.......has worn me out more than my current guy.

 

I apologize to the OP, for the crazy south-west-east-north bound this thread gas taken.

Na dude, I think that the rest of the forum is also entitled to an apology for your egregious breach of etiquette. I've excersised serious restraint in telling you to Fuck off with your hostility. I typically always attempt to engage in civil discourse. Apparently, you lack basic awareness in the tone with which you respond. So gloves off bro. Fuck you and your hostility! My apologies to the rest of you.

[escortrod]

Na dude, I think that the rest of the forum is also entitled to an apology for your egregious breach of etiquette. I've excersised serious restraint in telling you to Fuck off with your hostility. I typically always attempt to engage in civil discourse. Apparently, you lack basic awareness in the tone with which you respond. So gloves off bro. Fuck you and your hostility! My apologies to the rest of you.

[Good Grief]

Na dude, I think that the rest of the forum is also entitled to an apology for your egregious breach of etiquette. I've excersised serious restraint in telling you to Fuck off with your hostility. I typically always attempt to engage in civil discourse. Apparently, you lack basic awareness in the tone with which you respond. So gloves off bro. Fuck you and your hostility! My apologies to the rest of you.

 

I've already apologized.

 

I apologize to the OP, for the crazy south-west-east-north bound this thread gas taken. Mea culpa.

And I do apologize to all the other posters and readers.

[Nvr2Thick]

As a pleaser, hiring an escort can be difficult because I get the most excitement out of being with a man who is enjoying himself. If I get even a hint that an escort isn't really turned on by the action or is merely tolerating me while providing a service, even if he's good at playing the part, the tone of the session can get into a downward spiral. For this reason some of the A-list escorts in their prime who can be seen socializing with A-list beautiful boyfriends and fuckbuddies can be a turnoff because I don't get the impression they're really thrilled to be with me.

 

Some of my favorite escorts (and hookups) have been guys who are a bit jaded by the gay scene, where all the best-looking men are trying to hook up with all the best-looking men. An escort I met in the '90s put it best when he said something to the effect of, "Most of the guys I meet socially have all 'been there and done that;' they're quickly bored and looking to try out the next hot guy. My average, heavyset, and older clients can get so excited to be in bed with me, and because they're so pleased and grateful there's an energy to our encounters that I don't get from the men I date or hook up with."

[+ Gar1eth]

I'm pretty certain most of the guys I hire are probably not "attracted" to me, but I know they don't think I'm "disgusting".

But how can you really know? If there were ones who did and they remain successful escorts, then I'm assuming they are good enough actors not to let you know. When I was hiring ,I used to wonder about this all the time. I used to hope that if they found me disgusting sexually at least the majority world think I was a nice guy.

 

But case in point-one escort-I thought we were kind of friends. I'm not saying bosom buddies. But during the time we were meeting, he actually revealed some family problems and seemed grateful for my limited advice. We would also occasionally text/email (every 3 or 4 months) each other on subjects not having to do with getting together. And it was both of us-not just me initiating the text or email. It's now been about four years since we were together. I haven't heard hide nor hair from him in two years. Now friendships do change over time. But the more logical assumption is that the friendship, such as it was, was fake, and he said it to make sure I'd continue to hire. When he finally decided I was not going to hire him anymore, he had no more need to waste the time on me anymore.

 

Gman

[Epigonos]

What I'm about to say some readers might considered rude, crass and, even possibly vulgar but that's life. In all free market exchanges there is ALWAYS a seller and a buyer. If one of those doesn't exist or refuses to enter the marketplace any purchase becomes impossible. The one thing buyers expect is "truth in advertising". If a seller chooses to misrepresent a product there can, in some instance, be legal ramifications. Now when it comes to escorting the situation is the same. The escort is the seller and the client is the buyer. I, and I think "most" clients, expect an escort to be truthful in his self representation ads. If an escort, for example, decides to use photographs of someone other than himself he is advertising falsely. Speaking only for myself if I realize the escort's ad is false, I'm gone. Now if the escort/seller wants to request/demand a photograph of me/the client, I'm gone. I'm the buyer NOT the seller and as far as I'm concerned the seller DOES NOT make demands on the buyer. If an escort finds my attitude offensive, so be it, there are tons of other fish in the sea.

Now how do I treat escorts with whom I am meeting? Always with respect and appreciation for the "honest" service that are providing. All of the escorts with whom I have spend time, thus far, have been honest, honorable, and kind individuals and I admire them.

[Guy Fawkes]

Border line private information. (A public Service Announcement)

Lol, out them! A public service announcement.

[Nvr2Thick]

But how can you really know? If there were ones who did and they remain successful escorts, then I'm assuming they are good enough actors not to let you know. When I was hiring ,I used to wonder about this all the time. I used to hope that if they found me disgusting sexually at least the majority world think I was a nice guy.

 

But case in point-one escort-I thought we were kind of friends. I'm not saying bosom buddies. But during the time we were meeting, he actually revealed some family problems and seemed grateful for my limited advice. We would also occasionally text/email (every 3 or 4 months) each other on subjects not having to do with getting together. And it was both of us-not just me initiating the text or email. It's now been about four years since we were together. I haven't heard hide nor hair from him in two years. Now friendships do change over time. But the more logical assumption is that the friendship, such as it was, was fake, and he said it to make sure I'd continue to hire. When he finally decided I was not going to hire him anymore, he had no more need to waste the time on me anymore.

 

Gman

 

I've had pretty tight friendships with coworkers, similarly sharing personal issues and advice, and even socializing on occasion. These friendships often ended when he/she or I changed jobs.

 

I hung out with one of my optometrists a few times because we clicked after a few years of eye exams. We went to a gun range a few times and took two hikes together. After I had laser eye surgery and he moved to a more suburban neighborhood we fell out of the habit of keeping in touch. Usually an eye exam would renew our interest in hanging out.

 

I had a good buddy who I rode motorcycles with. Likewise, we'd hang out and talk about our lives, and get pretty deep into our problems and our aspirations. When this buddy decided to stop riding we drifted apart. We'd talk about getting together and we'd exchange the occasional e-mail or text every few months. I couldn't tell you who cut who off, but one of us dropped the ball by letting an e-mail sit too long without a response.

 

Like many gay men I've lost touch with a lot of friends over time as they got married and starting raising kids. We'd reach a point where we were just keeping in touch for the sake of keeping in touch. The loss probably meant more for me because these people had much more going on in their lives as I had less and less going on in mine.

 

It's quite possible that your casual friendship with this escort just no longer had a foundation on which to survive. You're often self-deprecating. Maybe "he had no more need to waste the time on me anymore" is not the correct way to characterize the dwindling of an informal relationship. We will probably never know for sure, but I'd be more inclined to make the logical assumption that you lost touch due to a lack that common interest than assume that he was wasting time on you because you were a paying client.

[CatnameFelix]

What I'm about to say some readers might considered rude, crass and, even possibly vulgar but that's life. In all free market exchanges there is ALWAYS a seller and a buyer. If one of those doesn't exist or refuses to enter the marketplace any purchase becomes impossible. The one thing buyers expect is "truth in advertising". If a seller chooses to misrepresent a product there can, in some instance, be legal ramifications. Now when it comes to escorting the situation is the same. The escort is the seller and the client is the buyer. I, and I think "most" clients, expect an escort to be truthful in his self representation ads. If an escort, for example, decides to use photographs of someone other than himself he is advertising falsely. Speaking only for myself if I realize the escort's ad is false, I'm gone. Now if the escort/seller wants to request/demand a photograph of me/the client, I'm gone. I'm the buyer NOT the seller and as far as I'm concerned the seller DOES NOT make demands on the buyer. If an escort finds my attitude offensive, so be it, there are tons of other fish in the sea.

Now how do I treat escorts with whom I am meeting? Always with respect and appreciation for the "honest" service that are providing. All of the escorts with whom I have spend time, thus far, have been honest, honorable, and kind individuals and I admire them.

But I'm not seeing where the falsehood lies here. I don't remember seeing any ads stating, " I promise that I will enjoy sleeping with you, and I will find you very attractive." I've seen ads starting, "you will enjoy," or, "I will make you feel..."

 

I think people are taking this way too seriously and personall. Just because an escort is not attracted to you, doesn't mean they're having a awful time. The pros will correct me if I'm wrong, but I assume to be a decent escort, you have to enjoy having sex, a lot. I'm pretty sure that when they say something feels good, it does.

 

Believe it or not, there are people who are married to each other, and don't find each other attractive. Yet they still have sex with each other. And sometimes, they like it.

[Mo Mason]

Yo, yo, yo... I didn't mean escorts find all of you disgusting. I just meant that I find my customers at work disgusting... but I'm a misanthrope. I tend to hate people in general, so why shouldn't that sentiment extend to other service industries (such as escorting)? I know some guys think I'm disgusting looking. My beer belly is kind of gross - I will admit that - but If I lost that I swear I'd be hot. I swear.

 

You're just gonna have to trust me on this.

[+ Gar1eth]

It's quite possible that your casual friendship with this escort just no longer had a foundation on which to survive. You're often self-deprecating. Maybe "he had no more need to waste the time on me anymore" is not the correct way to characterize the dwindling of an informal relationship. We will probably never know for sure, but I'd be more inclined to make the logical assumption that you lost touch due to a lack that common interest than assume that he was wasting time on you because you were a paying client.

 

You might be right. I'll never know. But I might add that this was not a one time occurrence. I had very similar scenarios (without the family advice part) occur with at least two other escorts in my 10 years of hiring. And in each case the one to move away from the relationship, such as it was, was the escort. I think it's great that your able to come up with a more positive interpretation on these losses than mine, @Nvr2Thick, but considering everything, I think my interpretation rings more true.

 

Gman

[CatnameFelix]

So, there's a very hot guy currently in NY. His ad says he's versatile. But his Grindr account says he's looking for hung tops. Is his ad now false? If you're not hung, will you now not hire him? Even though he's very handsome and muscular, does his sizism disgust you?

[MikeyGMin]

Just because an escort is not attracted to you, doesn't mean they're having a awful time.

Excellent point. I have a regular that I've been seeing for almost 2 years. I don't know if he's fantasizing about someone else when he closes his eyes, but I am pretty certain he enjoys what's happening. The proof is in the "pudding" that shoots into my mouth. ( Sorry. I know that was extremely crass, but I just couldn't resist. )

[SizeQueen16]

So, there's a very hot guy currently in NY. His ad says he's versatile. But his Grindr account says he's looking for hung tops. Is his ad now false? If you're not hung, will you now not hire him? Even though he's very handsome and muscular, does his sizism disgust you?

 

A turn off that he's an apparent power bottom in personal life but promoting him self as a fully versatile. The truth ruins the fantasy