Escorts and overweight clients

[manderville]

I know every escort is different as is every client, but wondering if a few of you on here have the time and would mind sharing your views.

 

Say you have a client who is 25-75 pounds overweight but obviously comfortable with their body and themselves. Does the weight seem like not much of an issue? I guess the real question is, is it the weight of the client (within reason) or how the client feels about his body that affects how you see him?

 

Thanks

[OneFinger]

I know every escort is different as is every client, but wondering if a few of you on here have the time and would mind sharing your views.

 

Say you have a client who is 25-75 pounds overweight but obviously comfortable with their body and themselves. Does the weight seem like not much of an issue? I guess the real question is, is it the weight of the client (within reason) or how the client feels about his body that affects how you see him?

 

Thanks

I understand that you're looking for responses from escorts. But, as a client, I'd like to give my perspective. I was obese for many years and always disclosed that to the escort. Even after losing 130 lbs. I still disclosed that to the escort because there were obvious excess skin issues that I felt they should know. I wanted to make sure they knew my body "anomalies" before we agreed to a meeting.

[+ tylerthebadwolf]

I know every escort is different as is every client, but wondering if a few of you on here have the time and would mind sharing your views.

 

Say you have a client who is 25-75 pounds overweight but obviously comfortable with their body and themselves. Does the weight seem like not much of an issue? I guess the real question is, is it the weight of the client (within reason) or how the client feels about his body that affects how you see him?

 

Thanks

 

If it's important to you to be clear about how your body looks or works, then you should definitely present that information beforehand. But, speaking for myself, unless there is some sort of profound physical impairment (perhaps an untreated hernia or something similar, limiting how I was able to engage with someone) I don't need any advance notice.

 

We've all got different bodies that look and work in different ways. If you're dealing with an escort that can't handle that, you're dealing with the wrong escort.

 

This might be an overshare, but I find this dude (who immediately came to mind based on your description) to be shockingly attractive, just based on his physical confidence and humor. He smiles so much, and looks so earnestly confident and proud. Who wouldn't get boned over this guy?

 

 

-tyler

[manderville]

Thanks Dominiking. I'd hire you in a heartbeat if you ever get to Chicago.

[Bearofdistinction]

First -- Are there not at least 2 recent thread on this topic that would answer your and everyone elses' questions on the topic.

 

Second -- Tell the Gentleman what you look like if it is a concern to you or that it will be an issue for him

 

- Better to be told No Thank You by phone/txt/email - Rather than have someone show

 

up at your door and Say -- 1) Hell No 2) Sorry Dude I just don't think this is gonna work

3) they are not into it and just go thru the motions -- and neither of you have a good time!

 

Honesty - Communication - Mutual Respect -- These are the building blocks of a successful encounter!

[ChrisWydeman]

Here is my two cents

 

I like bears I've been attracted to them since I was a teen, I like a furry belly and it gets my dick hard. I like guys with a few extra pounds that being said though there are limits. While folks may disagree with me on this I think if your at the point where you smell like ripe cheese because you can't properly clean yourself its best to give our escort a heads up about this. Let them decide if they want to see you so the appointment goes well.

[Bearofdistinction]

Here is my two cents

 

I like bears I've been attracted to them since I was a teen, I like a furry belly and it gets my dick hard. I like guys with a few extra pounds that being said though there are limits. While folks may disagree with me on this I think if your at the point where you smell like ripe cheese because you can't properly clean yourself its best to give our escort a heads up about this. Let them decide if they want to see you so the appointment goes well.

 

That is usually from a common body fungus we all carry -- an anti-fungal soap will take care of that asap

[MassageDrew]

It doesn't matter if you're 150 or 250 pounds. I think it's all about attitude. If you're not comfortable in your own skin then it will show. Everyone is different so they say. Comparing yourself to let say me is not going to work. I'm Asian so I'm always going to have a smaller frame than a White or a Black guy even though I'm bigger, a bit more buffed than most Asians. LOL

[NJmusclelover]

They're people who are 150 pounds who are fit but have terrible personalities and their are people who are 250 pounds who are confident and kind people. It's definitely the way you present yourself to others. I personally always find something beautiful in each and every client that I meet. Im there to make you feel good about yourself, I'm not there to judge you. Im an escort and theirs many things a person could say about me but I wouldn't want that, so Im going to respect you and treat you like anyone else bc thats what I would want in return. That being said many of my regulars are "overweight" but its fun because its something more for me to hold on to and play with hehe I have this regular who wasn't happy taking of his shirt when we first met but now I rip that shirt off and he is comfortable and I get to lick him all over and hold him and feel much more closer to him

you sound like a great guy

[escortrod]

I've met plenty of overweight guys, and never had a serious problem. There has been a greater propensity for bodily hygiene issues, though many overweight guys are aware of this and overcompensate, so are even cleaner than most. The few extremely obese guys I have met have told me in advance. I think that's a good idea, as it protects them from being disappointed if the escort refuses business when they turn up, and it's good not to be surprised.

[AndreFuture]

This might be an overshare, but I find this dude (who immediately came to mind based on your description) to be shockingly attractive, just based on his physical confidence and humor. He smiles so much, and looks so earnestly confident and proud. Who wouldn't get boned over this guy?

 

-tyler

 

He's huge in all the right places...

[+ OliverSaks]

He's huge in all the right places...

I had an explosively good time scrolling through that tumblr.

 

Especially when he is at his hairiest!

[LADoug1]

I understand that you're looking for responses from escorts. But, as a client, I'd like to give my perspective. I was obese for many years and always disclosed that to the escort. Even after losing 130 lbs. I still disclosed that to the escort because there were obvious excess skin issues that I felt they should know. I wanted to make sure they knew my body "anomalies" before we agreed to a meeting.

I would also evaluate their responses to gauge their attitude and kindness.

[+ VictorPowers]

I know every escort is different as is every client, but wondering if a few of you on here have the time and would mind sharing your views.

 

Say you have a client who is 25-75 pounds overweight but obviously comfortable with their body and themselves. Does the weight seem like not much of an issue? I guess the real question is, is it the weight of the client (within reason) or how the client feels about his body that affects how you see him?

 

Thanks

This is a non issue for me. As long as their hygiene is fine, then so am I. The only hiccup I've found is riding a clients dick and a giant gut makes it difficult to insert let alone "ride him".

[LaffingBear]

This one is tough for me

Im a big bearish guy, and have gone through very wide fluctuations in weight over the decades. At the bigger sizes:

• When i didn't tell, i never once showed up and got rejected by an escort. But i frequently felt it affected the session. It was very common for the escort to refuse practices with me, that were listed as services in ads and reviews, and even discussed on boards such as this.
  
• Once i made a decison to disclose in advance, i found most escorts and masseurs declined. I figured that was better than the semi-satisfying experience.
  

I appreciated the escorts that were at least straightforward about it, felt annoyed by the many who simply stopped communicating after learning my size, and always felt a little tempted to argue with the purveyors of lame excuses. Example, a masseur who advertises he works on a bed or mat, saying "sorry, i don't think my table will hold you"

 

Losing weight is healthy. It certainly makes navigating society and physical life easier. But when an escort... or just another regular at the gay bar... rejects you at 300 lbs, yet is all over you at 200 lbs... it reinforces the preventive decision to disclose in advance.

[Bearofdistinction]

Being Honest upfront is best -- Id rather know before - than be rejected at the door -

 

In general -- I have lovely hot kinky wild encounter with gentleman callers -- Because I have been up front --then taken the time when they arrived to welcome them - share conversations about what were realistic expectations -- enjoyed a beer --- had a few laughs and made a personal connection --

 

Whether you are a tiny twinky or a well weathered big ol bear -- the secrets to a great session are

 

1) Hire a Well Reviewed Gentleman Caller --

 

2) Be Honest and Up Front with who and what you are

 

3) Which should actually be combined with # 1 and is to give and expect honesty and mutual respect

 

4) Be realistic - If you weigh 500lbs dont expect your musclebud to carry you around the room and fuck ya

 

5) Did I mention - Mutual Respect? --- Candor -- Honesty -- Openness - Realistic Expectations -- Can Make any Session - Regardless of your size/your kink/a success for both

 

-- And IF YOU ARE NOT CONCERNED about the pleasure of the Gentleman Caller who is sharing his time - himself - his heart - his body - his abilities with you -- Then you just DO NOT GET WHY WE ARE HERE

[+ José Soplanucas]

I agree with your post with the exception of #1. A well reviewed escort is not guarantee of good service. The reviews are an important piece of information and an useful clue, but each encounter success depends ultimately in what happens whit that specific combination of escort and client. I have four guys in my top podium right now. In order of preference:

 

1. Ron: https://rent.men/PerfectPackage

The first time I met him he had no reviews and I had no references about him. My decision was based in his pictures and the vive from a FaceTime call. He is my best escort ever, and one of my top lovers, period.

 

2. Eli:https://rent.men/PlayElii

The first time I met him he had no reviews, I did have a friend here in the forum recommending him. He gave me first quality time in our first season together, and last night (after a pause of about one year without meeting) is extremely promising.

 

3. Sean Xavier. Many reviews. Nothing to add to what everyone knows about Sean.

 

4. Kevn Ryder.https://rent.men/KevinRyder

He did have a few reviews in RM, and I contacted one of his reviewers asking for input. We met only once, but it was a promising meeting.

 

So, based in my own experience, I would recommend to ignore the lack of reviews when you check a guy and he seems to be a good match. Take the risk, you may be surprised and find a hidden pearl.

 

EDIT: I forgot to add I am overweighted, about 40/50 extra pounds decorate my pervert being.

[Bearofdistinction]

I agree with your post with the exception of #1. A well reviewed escort is not guarantee of good service. The reviews are an important piece of information and an useful clue, but each encounter success depends ultimately in what happens whit that specific combination of escort and client. I have four guys in my top podium right now. In order of preference:

 

1. Ron: https://rent.men/PerfectPackage

The first time I met him he had no reviews and I had no references about him. My decision was based in his pictures and the vive from a FaceTime call. He is my best escort ever, and one of my top lovers, period.

 

2. Eli:https://rent.men/PlayElii

The first time I met him he had no reviews, I did have a friend here in the forum recommending him. He gave me first quality time in our first season together, and last night (after a pause of about one year without meeting) is extremely promising.

 

3. Sean Xavier. Many reviews. Nothing to add to what everyone knows about Sean.

 

4. Kevn Ryder.https://rent.men/KevinRyder

He did have a few reviews in RM, and I contacted one of his reviewers asking for input. We met only once, but it was a promising meeting.

 

So, based in my own experience, I would recommend to ignore the lack of reviews when you check a guy and he seems to be a good match. Take the risk, you may be surprised and find a hidden pearl.

 

EDIT: I forgot to add I am overweighted, about 40/50 extra pounds decorate my pervert being.

 

Understood -- I tend to stay with well reviewed gentleman -- But have been known to "take one for the team as well" It all depends on the type a session -- an Hour or Two whatever session

- No Problem for somebody new.

 

An overnight/24hour with a specific scenario/theme then - I am looking for a Gentleman with reviews/credentials in the realm of which I desire to explore

[MikeyGMin]

EDIT: I forgot to add I am overweighted, about 40/50 extra pounds decorate my pervert being.

I think this is the issue we often pussyfoot around. It can come down to a matter of degrees. There is a big difference between being 30 pounds overweight and 100+ pounds overweight. I'm not saying the really large guys don't deserve the same respect and affection, but I do think it's more important that they disclose ahead of time.

 

I've mentioned here before that when my partner died 20+ years ago I really REALLY let myself go. I'm 5'10" and got up to 260 lbs. It was before smartphones and the internet made it so simple to provide pictures, but I always provided my stats and made it clear that I was a big boy. Even with that full disclosure I had a couple experiences where the guy said it was not a problem, but when when we got together it obviously was.

 

That sticks with you. So even though I dropped most of the weight many years ago and now fluctuate between 175 and 180, I still feel the need to disclose because I'm not at the 165 I feel would be ideal for my frame. I do that by inviting guys to view my Rentmen profile which contains pictures.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I think this is the issue we often pussyfoot around. It can come down to a matter of degrees. There is a big difference between being 30 pounds overweight and 100+ pounds overweight. I'm not saying the really large guys don't deserve the same respect and affection, but I do think it's more important that they disclose ahead of time.

 

I've mentioned here before that when my partner died 20+ years ago I really REALLY let myself go. I'm 5'10" and got up to 260 lbs. It was before smartphones and the internet made it so simple to provide pictures, but I always provided my stats and made it clear that I was a big boy. Even with that full disclosure I had a couple experiences where the guy said it was not a problem, but when when we got together it obviously was.

 

That sticks with you. So even though I dropped most of the weight many years ago and now fluctuate between 175 and 180, I still feel the need to disclose because I'm not at the 165 I feel would be ideal for my frame. I do that by inviting guys to view my Rentmen profile which contains pictures.

 

I was rejected once for being too fat. I am 5'9, 240lbs. Since then, I am very meticulous about having a profile with my pic and stats accessible to the guys.

[+ GregM]

I know every escort is different as is every client, but wondering if a few of you on here have the time and would mind sharing your views.

 

Say you have a client who is 25-75 pounds overweight but obviously comfortable with their body and themselves. Does the weight seem like not much of an issue? I guess the real question is, is it the weight of the client (within reason) or how the client feels about his body that affects how you see him?

 

Thanks

 

I have no issues. I battle with my weight all the time. I've been as small as 125 and as big as 195. Currently I am about 165. Frankly I don't give a shit what a client weighs. I really dont. And I'm not going to shame them for being big. Be happy with who you are and eventually things will fall into place. On a side note, even though I am big spoon theres nothing like curling up to papa bear during a cold winter day, or after some good sweaty cum drenched fun.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[SuperJunior]

I'm sorry if this is a stupid comment, but 5'9" 170 lbs on one man can look completely different that 5'9" 170 lbs on another. Isn't it easier to just exchange current photos than judge yourself as too fat (or too anything) for an appointment?

[+ José Soplanucas]

I'm sorry if this is a stupid comment, but 5'9" 170 lbs on one man can look completely different that 5'9" 170 lbs on another. Isn't it easier to just exchange current photos than judge yourself as too fat (or too anything) for an appointment?

 

Yes it is. However, many clients would share their stats with no problems, but would feel their privacy is in risk by sending a picture.

[SuperJunior]

Yes it is. However, many clients would share their stats with no problems, but would feel their privacy is in risk by sending a picture.

I've never understood how a headless photo puts anyone's privacy at risk. Assuming the subject isn't holding a copy of his driver's license.

[MartyB]

Being Honest upfront is best -- Id rather know before - than be rejected at the door -

 

In general -- I have lovely hot kinky wild encounter with gentleman callers -- Because I have been up front --then taken the time when they arrived to welcome them - share conversations about what were realistic expectation -- enjoyed a beer --- had a few laughs and made a personal connection --

 

Whether you are a tiny twinky or a well weathered big ol bear -- the secret to a great session is

 

) Hire a Well Reviewed Gentleman Caller --

 

2) Be Honest and Up Front with who and what you are

 

3) Which should actually be combined with # 1 is give and expect honesty and mutual respect

 

4) Be realistic - If you weigh 500lbs don expect your musclebud to carry you around the room and fuck ya

 

5) Did I mention - Mutual Respect? --- Candor -- Honesty -- Openness - Realistic Expectations -- Can Make any Session - Regardless of your size/your kink/a success for both

 

-- And IF YOU ARE NOT CONCERNED about the pleasure of the Gentleman Caller who is sharing his time himself - his heart - his body - his abilities with you -- Then you just DO NOT GET WHY WE ARE HERE

Perfectly stated.