RentMen client contact etiquette

[adventurous old guy]

My two cents: I like it when an escort I've checked out drops me a short message, even if its a simple Hi, saw you checked me out. For me, its a move beyond the pictures and marketing pitch (e.g., versatile/top, anything goes) to the next level -- person offering services communicating to person interested in services to discuss if we are a fit. It also conveys that the offeror of services is personable and sees me as an individual. Both factor into my decision to hire.

 

I can be the initiator of that conversation too of course, but I like it when the escort is the ice breaker. It saves me a little time: I can get to specifics about me and what I'm looking for in my first reply. When I'm the ice breaker, I usually wait for a reply before specifying what I'm looking for. I do look for friendly tone, but don't worry when the ice breaker comes across as aggressive because I have the option to respond later or not at all.

[Guest]

I do like it too when an escort reaches out. As many have said, a simple, "Hi, thanks for checking out my profile!" then a combo of either "were you interested in meeting? Is there anything I can tell you about me?" or one or the other.

 

What I didn't like was this escort I was considering but just wasn't sure was my taste, so I checked him out a few times. He then replied with something, paraphrasing here like, "Stop checking out my profile and let's just meet already!" Which may have been flirtatious, and definitely would be in a bar or something, but seemed aggressive. Probably because I was embarrassed about being caught being a stalker

[Philly50]

Count me as another one who likes a low-key thanks-for-checking-my-profile message. On two occasions it has led me to hire when I otherwise might not have.

 

As to checking a profile multiple times, if that's considered stalking, then I guess I'm guilty. I often check the profiles to see travel dates, or whether something has changes, like new pictures, etc. Or sometimes just to remind myself of what that particular escort offers.

[+ poolboy48220]

+1 on the "checking for new pictures" or any other updates on their ad, or to see if their travel plans include my area.

[+ José Soplanucas]

You can read profiles as a non-member, a free member or a premium member. At each step you receive slightly more access to information on the site. When you log on as either a free or a premium member you can set you account so escorts can track or not track that you've seen their profiles (and the same switch turns on or off your ability to track whose profile you have viewed). I'm not a paid member so I can't answer your question about what the benefit of a premium membership is.

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[+ José Soplanucas]

I think there is a huge difference between contacting somebody who has seen your profile repeatedly and somebody who has seen it once or a few times. When I check several times a profile, even if it is to check if there are new pics, I do it because I am tempted and considering a hire. I do like when the escort hits me back with a nice greeting, a kind recognition for my curiosity, and an offer to answer to it. It may make a difference and push me to make the decision if we may be a match.

 

When I am contacted by an escort because the website tells him I have "seen" his profile once or twice, it annoys me and I agree with several previous posters, I see desperation. It happens in my two main sources, RM and a4a.

Reasons why I may have "seen" a profile:

• I use an iPad and I am continuously touching the screen accidentally. It was an accident.
  
• I do want to touch the screen but I do it in the wrong place. It was an accident.
  
• Somebody in the forum mentions him for good or bad reasons, and I just want to put a face (and other body parts) to the story. I am not interested in hiring him.
  
• I am researching the market, and opening all the ads to see prices. I am not interested in hiring him.
  
• I forgot that I had checked him before and decided against him. When I open the profile, I remember. I am in his profile for no more than two seconds. I am not interested in hiring him.
  
• I am fucking bored. I am just perusing the ads. I am not interested in hiring nobody.
  
• Somebody shares the link to the ad. I do not recognize the url address. I do not know who he is until I open his profile. I am there for no more than two seconds. I am not interested in hiring him.
  

And that is just me. Multiply my reasons x human diversity = countless reasons why someone "saw" your profile but is not interested in hiring you.

 

Focus on the repeated viewers. Maybe my imagination got short, but I only see two kinds of repeated viewers from an escort perspective:

 

• Harassers. Those are not interested in hiring you either. Contact them to find out, and then you can ignore them or block them.
  
• Potential clients. These guys like something in your profile. Contact them to find out. If your wording is friendly and flirtatious, and you find you can click together, there is a good chance you will get a deal.
  

[NowOrNever]

It depends. Here's my approach:

 

If someone repeatedly views my profile, particularly if they visit multiple times over several days or weeks, I look at their profile. I look for pictures or text so I can find out a little more about this person. If I read something about them being shy and curious, I might reach out with a gentle message saying hello and offering them an opening into conversation. Sometimes I'll drop a note if the text of their profile is particularly compelling or they have pictures that I find attractive. I use my intuition. It's rare that I send one of these messages.

 

Most times, I assume the guy is just considering his choices, isn't ready to hire, or is just enjoying looking around. Like @Kevin Slater said above, they are well aware of my presence, and they will contact me when they are ready.

 

I am one of those clients who looks at the profiles of escorts whom I find attractive, but being completely new to this, I am hesitant about making the first move. I don't know what to write, and I wonder if I'll sound awkward or nervous in my message, or if the fact that I am an inexperienced newbie will turn the escort off. I've looked at your profile several times, Eric, and if you had taken the initiative to contact me first, I would have a) instantly jizzed in my jeans, LOL, and b) been thrilled to receive your note.

 

Maybe this thread should be a lesson to both hesitant clients and escorts just to GO FOR IT. What have we got to lose, right?

[+ WmClarke]

Go for it, but be low key and easy going. Try to make a connection based on something in the client's profile (if possible).

 

One of my favorite escorts made the first move after I looked at his profile on RM. I'm very glad he did.

[+ Keith30309]

I've already stated a happy willingness to be contacted after viewing a profile but I'll share an anecdote that may help explain.

 

I has scheduled an appointment a week ago with a guy for Monday. He overslept and we rescheduled for today (Wednesday). He had forgotten another activity and ended up cancelling in the late morning

I then texted another guy.. he took 2 hours to get back to me... we exchanged brief notes about meeting tonight then he went radio silent ) (I heard from him about an hour ago that he didn't see my second message until then... WTF).

 

Batting zero for the week and stewing about the first fail, I absentmindedly glanced at the RM profile of a new guy I had never contacted. He immediately looked at my profile. I was "motivated" but distracted; if he'd sent me a "hey, how you doing" note I would have set something up immediately.

 

Sometimes the moment is right and it pays to be there.

[LADoug1]

I don't think someone who frequently looks at your profile is necessarily a stalker (not exactly sure what that is). I would usually take it as a compliment and respond if you are so inclined.

 

P.S. To the forum: what do you consider stalking?

[Steve9332]

I have a bunch of escorts on my list that I keep coming back to look at their profiles, they are on my "to do list" =)

but finances doesnt allow me to hire as fast as I desire, but i tend to come back and look at their pics to keep the dream alive.

I avoid contacting anyone unless I am fairly certain I am in a position to afford a overnight with them, I do not want a escort

to think I am a time waster, so I prefer to sneak back and peek at their pics. So I could be seen as a stalker, but I am a dreamer... =)

 

I do appreciate it when I get contacted by a escort that see me view their profile, it breaks the ice and makes it easier to

contact them when I am in a position to hire.

 

=)

[+ poolboy48220]

I have a bunch of escorts on my list that I keep coming back to look at their profiles, they are on my "to do list" =)

but finances doesnt allow me to hire as fast as I desire, but i tend to come back and look at their pics to keep the dream alive.

I avoid contacting anyone unless I am fairly certain I am in a position to afford a overnight with them, I do not want a escort

to think I am a time waster, so I prefer to sneak back and peek at their pics. So I could be seen as a stalker, but I am a dreamer... =)

 

I do appreciate it when I get contacted by a escort that see me view their profile, it breaks the ice and makes it easier to

contact them when I am in a position to hire.

 

=)

true. Combination of finances & scheduling (finding a time when I am sure I have the house to myself, uninterrupted).

[Phlmuscle]

I view the profiles mainly to see where the escorts are located, and how far they are from me. Since it's such a hassle to drive into the city, I prefer those guys in the suburbs which seem to be very few.

[MikeBiDude]

P.S. To the forum: what do you consider stalking?

Advertisers too: when are too many views not welcome?

 

Also, I tend to believe the vast majority of those most experienced advertisers don't even look at "who's seen me"!

[escortrod]

Advertisers too: when are too many views not welcome?

 

Also, I tend to believe the vast majority of those most experienced advertisers don't even look at "who's seen me"!

I expect that I will stop looking too. The default setting is for the Rentmen website to play an alert every time somebody looks, but I assume there's a way to turn that off. It's just a distraction.

[down_to_business]

I appreciate a low pressure contact if I view your profile more than once. What I don't like is when an escort views my profile but doesn't say anything. In those cases I just assume that he is not interested in me as a client.

[escortrod]

I appreciate a low pressure contact if I view your profile more than once. What I don't like is when an escort views my profile but doesn't say anything. In those cases I just assume that he is not interested in me as a client.

That's interesting. Do you have quite a fleshed-out profile? Most of the guys who have viewed me on RM have either little or no information on their profiles.

[down_to_business]

That's interesting. Do you have quite a fleshed-out profile? Most of the guys who have viewed me on RM have either little or no information on their profiles.

 

Don't know what is considered a lot of info, but I do have the following answered.

 

Age:

Height:

Weight:

Body:

Orientation:

Position:

Ethnicity:

Looking For:

Safe/bb:

[adventurous old guy]

That's interesting. Do you have quite a fleshed-out profile? Most of the guys who have viewed me on RM have either little or no information on their profiles.

Wow, I didn't know as a potential customer I could develop this kind of profile! Cool, just filled out mine. Grazie!

[LADoug1]

What ever happened to "when they stop (sic) looking that's when I'll mind"?

[Sandlapp]

I actually hired a guy who took the initiative to contact me after I viewed his ad. I thought it was proactive on his part.

[jeepman]

Several gentlemen have reached out to me with a nice "how are you doing"e-mail after they saw me looking at their profiles on rentmen. In fact, I arranged to see 2 of them after they broke the ice and they were absolutely fantastic.

[pubic_assistance]

I think if someone is checking out a professional's profile more than once, there is more than a little interest. Flirting back may give a shy man the confidence to seal the deal. For my part, I will contact anyone who's a match to my needs, but I don't take offense when pro's who I didn't contact, choose to say hello. I am always polite to say thanks but no thanks.

[adventurous old guy]

I think if someone is checking out a professional's profile more than once, there is more than a little interest. Flirting back may give a shy man the confidence to seal the deal. For my part, I will contact anyone who's a match to my needs, but I don't take offense when pro's who I didn't contact, choose to say hello. I am always polite to say thanks but no thanks.

Hurrah for politeness. It goes a long way.

[adventurous old guy]

That's interesting. Do you have quite a fleshed-out profile? Most of the guys who have viewed me on RM have either little or no information on their profiles.

Hi Rod -- or others. I fleshed out my profile on RM to give potential service providers more info about me. But I don't want my phone number listed, just my email address in the profile. RM has my phone as part of account info, but can't figure out from FAQs or poking around the dashboard how public they make it. Does anyone know? I'll call them if need be, checking here first.