Escorts asking for Personal Information and Pics?

[+ Funguy]

 

I personally have come to ask everyone their name, age, and sometimes even stats/ethnicity before meeting IF...they contact by text or email. I rarely ever have anyone turn away because of that. Asking for a picture, yes that's a bit over the top. But...more than enough people voluntarily send me their pictures anyway, and have become real actual clients. Especially with adam4adam, I don't even have to ask...and in fact I stopped meeting adam4adam clients who don't have a picture. Usually not serious is why. Most do, There's never been a reason to...unless they contacted me prior from another site, with that information.

 

If I replied that my name is Joe, I am 42 y.o., 6'1" and of mixed race, does that help you? (none of this applies).

My name is John, I'm 68 y.o., 5'9" and caucasian, does this help you make the decision?

Even the picture could be of someone else.

[tennisjock]

If I replied that my name is Joe, I am 42 y.o., 6'1" and of mixed race, does that help you? (none of this applies).

My name is John, I'm 68 y.o., 5'9" and caucasian, does this help you make the decision?

Even the picture could be of someone else.

 

I go with my gut feeling and haven't been wrong about it yet..but then I am on the cautious side

[+ Lance_Navarro]

If I replied that my name is Joe, I am 42 y.o., 6'1" and of mixed race, does that help you? (none of this applies).

My name is John, I'm 68 y.o., 5'9" and caucasian, does this help you make the decision?

Even the picture could be of someone else.

 

Exactly! Such questions aren't going to seperate the legit client from a time-waster, cause they can say anything in response and still not show up. I get that perhaps he thinks that this is a way to validate the person that shows up is the same person he was speaking with, but I can't imagine a scenario in which it wouldn't be. You really just have to trust your gut with whether someone is genuine or just chatting you up with no real intent of scheduling.

 

There's been plenty of suggestions on here as to how to recognize behavior or messages that are indicative of time-wasters. I think it's better to rely on those, as well as instinct and intuition rather than ask a whole bunch of unnecessary questions that could turn off a client.

Edited October 10, 2016 by Lance_Navarro

[+ Funguy]

I'll just have my secretary schedule my time with him.

[Reluctant Daddy]

So, did you end up hiring him? And what was the end result?

 

It didn't happen. I contacted him several times beforehand and he never responded. His RM ad expired, so I don't think he was entirely serious about being an escort.

[Wrestler]

It didn't happen. I contacted him several times beforehand and he never responded. His RM ad expired, so I don't think he was entirely serious about being an escort.

sounds about right. Sorry if that was a disappointment for you.

[+ MasssageGuy]

I've just run into someone who is "trying to build his business" on MF.com.

 

He requests a photo of me. He doesn't respond promptly to e-mail or text. He says he has a table and then doesn't. He asks if I am "law enforcement". Finally makes appointment and then does not confirm.

 

Is this guy a troll or what?

 

Why would someone pay the advertising expense and not follow through? Very, very strange.

[+ glennnn]

• Dump him! Whatever his story is, you don't need the aggravation.
  

[Reluctant Daddy]

I've added pics to my RM client profile. A body pic for the main, and a private face pic. I figure after enough communication back and forth with an escort, and I feel comfortable enough, I'll unlock the face if requested.

[jjkrkwood]

I am always open to supplying my info and pics.. That way, I know its a "lock"... I got my knee pads and sensible shoes ready for action.

 

[+ V-Vhitner]

I get asked for stats and pics pretty frequently...

I think some escorts just want to be sure that I'm someone they'll be able to "deliver" for.

 

And given how many pics are floating around - especially on Grindr - I figure it's not such a big deal anymore.

 

BUT, I keep face and body/dick pics totally separate...

 

Am I nuts?

[+ Keith30309]

I get asked for stats and pics pretty frequently...

I think some escorts just want to be sure that I'm someone they'll be able to "deliver" for.

 

And given how many pics are floating around - especially on Grindr - I figure it's not such a big deal anymore.

 

BUT, I keep face and body/dick pics totally separate...

 

Am I nuts?

 

If you're not opposed on principle or concerned about an altered experience based on your physical appearance, then imagine the worst possible outcome.

Perhaps something where your photo is posted by someone who is, for no rational reason, very angry with you. You appear on his Facebook as a meth-addled poodle-molester and passed around on Twitter. Yes, anyone could have randomly grabbed your picture from an online Rotary Club newsletter, but that seems rather unlikely.

 

 

Related story:

Earlier this week I was visiting a new gentleman on an incall and, as is the norm, he gave me his address a short time before our meeting. He lived in a gated community and informed me I would need to present my driver's license which the guard would scan. 'Scan'. As in 'retain an electronic image'.

 

He was mystified by my conniption-fit and flat refusal and insisted that nothing possibly could go wrong. I'm really surprised at the number of people unconcerned with dispersal of their private info.

(We worked it out by his contacting the guard in advance.)

[+ azdr0710]

(We worked it out by his contacting the guard in advance.)

 

were you able to get in without presenting a driver's license or any documentation?....

[+ Keith30309]

were you able to get in without presenting a driver's license or any documentation?....

 

Yes. He sent them an email with another name and then I chatted with the guard; she didn't give me any trouble.

 

The amazing thing is that they would presume to ask for that AND that people would give it to them.

I refuse to give my doctor's office some things.

Businesses ask for all sorts of information that they don't need to provide service and is none of their business.

[Reluctant Daddy]

On the flip side, I have a weekend scheduled with someone. The hotel I booked seems to require some sort of ID for all guests. I need to confirm that with the hotel, but I don't know if this will be a problem with him. I'll discuss this with him once I have a chance to check details with the hotel.

 

Have any other escorts encountered something like this, and was it an issue for you?

Edited October 22, 2016 by Reluctant Daddy

[jjperry]

I've been corresponding with an 18 year old advertising on RM. His hourly rate is insanely low ($100 an hour - with the question, "with or without sex?"), but he won't discuss any further until I provide him with my age (on my RM profile), my name, and pics. He's indicated that all are required before we meet. Neither his pics nor his ID are verified on the site, and he's only been a regular member for a month. I know it's not a standard request, but is it best to walk away??

 

Hi, I’m new to the forum.

 

If I was the client and an escort was asking me to hand over these details, then I would suspect, given his age, that he is new to escorting and is perhaps a little insecure. However, that neither his photos of ID are verified would give me cause for concern that he could use this information against the client. I guess it depends on how you would interpret his request, but I’d say that he’s young, new, and hasn’t yet figured out how to deal with potential clients.

[+ Tom Isern]

Despite my cautions above, if that's your intuition -- and he's offering multiple hours for that very reasonable rate -- I would take the chance.

 

but maybe a fake name?

[Reluctant Daddy]

Hi, I’m new to the forum.

 

If I was the client and an escort was asking me to hand over these details, then I would suspect, given his age, that he is new to escorting and is perhaps a little insecure. However, that neither his photos of ID are verified would give me cause for concern that he could use this information against the client. I guess it depends on how you would interpret his request, but I’d say that he’s young, new, and hasn’t yet figured out how to deal with potential clients.

 

These were initially my thoughts, but after his ad disappeared and he stopped responding to texts I'm glad on not providing either. Seemed a little too sketchy to me.

[jjperry]

These were initially my thoughts, but after his ad disappeared and he stopped responding to texts I'm glad on not providing either. Seemed a little too sketchy to me.

 

Agreed.

[TopTierTop]

I get asked for stats and pics pretty frequently...

I think some escorts just want to be sure that I'm someone they'll be able to "deliver" for.

 

And given how many pics are floating around - especially on Grindr - I figure it's not such a big deal anymore.

 

BUT, I keep face and body/dick pics totally separate...

 

Am I nuts?

 

While it is not necessarily the first thing I ask for, I would never book an appointment with a potential client who is not willing to share their stats and send some sort of face pic. I understand that some guys are not comfortable with that so I do offer the option of meeting in person over coffee or something.

 

A client, of course, has the option to find an escort who will accept any client without any conditions, but to say that an escort should have no say in who his client is sounds demeaning. Why should it be the only occupation that does not get to decide which clients are a good match for them? Mutual respect should be a part of any encounter.

[TopTierTop]

I've been corresponding with an 18 year old advertising on RM. His hourly rate is insanely low ($100 an hour - with the question, "with or without sex?"), but he won't discuss any further until I provide him with my age (on my RM profile), my name, and pics. He's indicated that all are required before we meet. Neither his pics nor his ID are verified on the site, and he's only been a regular member for a month. I know it's not a standard request, but is it best to walk away??

 

While it is not necessarily the first thing I ask for, I would never book an appointment with a potential client who is not willing to share their stats and send some sort of face pic. I understand that some guys are not comfortable with that so I do offer the option of meeting in person over coffee or something.

 

A client, of course, has the option to find an escort who will accept any client without any conditions, but to say that an escort should have no say in who his client is sounds demeaning. Why should it be the only occupation that does not get to decide which clients are a good match for them? Mutual respect should be a part of any encounter.

[BaronArtz]

While it is not necessarily the first thing I ask for, I would never book an appointment with a potential client who is not willing to share their stats and send some sort of face pic. I understand that some guys are not comfortable with that so I do offer the option of meeting in person over coffee or something.

 

A client, of course, has the option to find an escort who will accept any client without any conditions, but to say that an escort should have no say in who his client is sounds demeaning. Why should it be the only occupation that does not get to decide which clients are a good match for them? Mutual respect should be a part of any encounter.

 

Very well said. I totally agree with what you said about deciding which clients could be a good match to the escort. This board is mostly populated by clients; it is refreshing to hear the escort's perspective.

[+ Travis69]

While it is not necessarily the first thing I ask for, I would never book an appointment with a potential client who is not willing to share their stats and send some sort of face pic. I understand that some guys are not comfortable with that so I do offer the option of meeting in person over coffee or something.

 

A client, of course, has the option to find an escort who will accept any client without any conditions, but to say that an escort should have no say in who his client is sounds demeaning. Why should it be the only occupation that does not get to decide which clients are a good match for them? Mutual respect should be a part of any encounter.

Read your ad. Unfortunately I am too old.

[MiamiLooker]

Read your ad. Unfortunately I am too old.

The ad says a lot about the escort, don't you think?

[jimboivyo]

The ad says a lot about the escort, don't you think?

 

yup

 

funny how some play the jumping through hoops card without having the reviews to back it up