Did I Lose My "Gold Star"?

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I'm sure most of us have heard the term "Gold Star Gay", meaning you've never slept with a woman. I have been Gold-Star all of my life. I tried having sex with my girlfriend when I was 16, but was so nervous that I couldn't get hard. Yesterday I had my first ever client who is trans. I was a little anxious but he was really terrific and we had an amazing time. I gotta say, I really enjoyed it. So, now I'm pondering, have I lost my "star" all together or am I a "half-star gay" now?

[+ honcho]

Some of prefer our stars a bit "tarnished" ... and the word "half" suggests statistics, so if you've had sex with, say, one hundred men in your lifetime and one biological female, that would suggest a "99%-star" rating, and if you do it on the basis of identification rather than genetics, since you used the pronoun "he", I think you could even keep your star

[mike carey]

Interesting dilemma. Part of me says, 'Does it even matter?' I also don't know whether 'Gold Star' is a good or a bad thing. Maybe it means one knew how one was wired and stayed true to it. Conversely, maybe it means one was too timid to experiment when one was working out sexual orientation. (I didn't come across the term until early this year. Disclosure: as I found out at the same time, apparently I'm platinum. For me that's good for giggles not a matter of any significance.) So, I'm not going to be the one who says you have given up your star status. If both of you consider that your meeting was same sex, who am I to judge?

[+ purplekow]

If you put you dick in his vagina, then you have had sex with a man who has a vagina. In that case, you would now be able to describe from first hand experience what vaginal sex is like. I hear you are a 5 Gold Star Escort, so I do not think anyone cares whether your penis has seen the inside of a vagina. Keep your star if you want it, but it is all good.

[+ glennnn]

If you put you dick in his vagina, then you have had sex with a man who has a vagina. In that case, you would now be able to describe from first hand experience what vaginal sex is like. I hear you are a 5 Gold Star Escort, so I do not think anyone cares whether your penis has seen the inside of a vagina. Keep your star if you want it, but it is all good.

 

+1

 

I certainly don't care as long as I can have a turn with your dick now and then. 5 Gold Star Escort Forever!

[+ Lance_Navarro]

Well, it definitely can be said that I lost my "vaginity".

[+ Truereview]

@Lance_Navarro , your star shines a li'l brighter in my eyes. Twinkle, twinkle!

[AndreFuture]

If you didn't have sex with a woman, how would this encounter change your (albeit supremely cis-centric) ranking?

[MsGuy]

The OP's original post leaves it ambiguous whether he hooked up with a male to female client or a female to male client. Seems like that might make a difference somehow.

 

And how far along in the transition was he? That also might affect your gold star status, at least from a cis-centric pov.

[Guy Fawkes]

Relax, it's only skin.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

If you didn't have sex with a woman, how would this encounter change your (albeit supremely cis-centric) ranking?

 

I hope I didn't come across as ignorant or cis-centric, I meant to convey that it was an illuminating and wonderful experience, was just having fun with the notion of "gold-star" gay. It was my first time with a vagina.

 

The OP's original post leaves it ambiguous whether he hooked up with a male to female client or a female to male client. Seems like that might make a difference somehow.

 

And how far along in the transition was he? That also might affect your gold star status, at least from a cis-centric pov.

 

I mentioned that he was trans and I said he. There are very few trans-guys that have had gender reassignment surgeries, because it isn't very developed. The majority just have breast-tissue removal and hormones.

[+ Truereview]

Let's chilax brothers & sisters. Mr Navarro is one of the kindest & most open-minded guys around. The key here is he had an adventure he had never had before and we should celebrate when any of us tries new stuff!

 

Here is a rainbow of stars for @Lance_Navarro

 

http://www.netanimations.net/Moving-picture-colorful-twinkling-sparkling-stars-animated-gif.gif

 

PS - im sitting at a roof top bar in the city, be forwarned im PWB- posting while buzzed

[+ glennnn]

If you haven't noticed, I'm crushing on Mr. Navarro and anything he does is okay with me. What a man.

[+ Topseed]

I applaud your candor, Lance. Because of that, I vote that you retain your Gold Star. :-)

[+ Just Sayin]

I'm happy you've had this experience and that you've enjoyed it; I think this makes us richer human beings to have this

[+ José Soplanucas]

In a world that has moved away from a binary universe, the stars system is outdated and regressive (as opposed to progressive). Trash your golden star and enjoy everything and everybody you can.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

Let's chilax brothers & sisters. Mr Navarro is one of the kindest & most open-minded guys around. The key here is he had an adventure he had never had before and we should celebrate when any of us tries new stuff!

 

Here is a rainbow of stars for @Lance_Navarro

 

http://www.netanimations.net/Moving-picture-colorful-twinkling-sparkling-stars-animated-gif.gif

 

PS - im sitting at a roof top bar in the city, be forwarned im PWB- posting while buzzed

 

Mwah!!! Thanks for saying that sweetie, it's my hope that most will see me that way, and thanks for the glitter, we could all use more of it in our lives.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

In a world that has moved away from a binary universe, the stars system is outdated and regressive (as opposed to progressive). Trash your golden star and enjoy everything and everybody you can.

 

I agree, there's nothing wrong with knowing what you enjoy, but we should always be open to new experiences.

[AndreFuture]

All these calls for folks to relax…sounds like someone needs a massage!

[+ nycman]

Breeder!

 

 

Grin

 

 

Even though I'm what those of us for the south used to call a "blue ribbon fag"...

I love'd the comment...."It's only skin"....so fucking true!

[+ Robster]

I'd never heard of the term "Gold Star Gay" before, but I guess I'm one.

 

However, I have to say, I've seen some trans men who are HOT!! If I had the chance, I'd certainly consider giving up my gold star for one of them.

 

Rob

[WolfRamNHard]

I'm sure most of us have heard the term "Gold Star Gay", meaning you've never slept with a woman. I have been Gold-Star all of my life. I tried having sex with my girlfriend when I was 16, but was so nervous that I couldn't get hard. Yesterday I had my first ever client who is trans. I was a little anxious but he was really terrific and we had an amazing time. I gotta say, I really enjoyed it. So, now I'm pondering, have I lost my "star" all together or am I a "half-star gay" now?

 

Much respect

[LADoug1]

Maybe you've graduated to platinum.

[mike carey]

Maybe you've graduated to platinum.

Apparently 'Platinum' means never having experienced a vagina under any circumstances, including at birth (i.e. born by caesarean section).

[+ Truereview]

My gay star is made of tin because I try anything I can