Prefer Gay or Straight Escorts?

[marylander1940]

I prefer a gay guy. To many straight guys do not deliver. I am into more than muscle worship. At least a gay guy knows what I am into as is more likely to accommodate my needs. I have only hired one straight guy that was fully involved. I questioned him if he was really straight and I did not get a direct answer.

 

Gay. I've found many straight guys can't (or won't) suck cock. Skip it.

 

Gay only for me. I'm just more psychologically comfortable.

 

 

Besides can you imagine (many of us) having sex with a woman for money?

 

Wouldn't you rather as gay men that 99% of us are doing it?

 

Most of us did it (for fun) when it was the only choice or to keep up appearances?

[MrMattBig]

I have no opinion of them, I don't even know what's the percentage of truly BI people (people who are equally attracted to both sexes) in this country.

 

I agree, it is hard to know what is the percentage of truly bi people that exist in this country, let alone the world. I do not think that bi has to mean "equally". I tend to rather subscribe to Alfred Kinsley's sliding scale model and that the world very rarely deals in absolutes. I personally think the scale is way larger than merely 0-6, but we all fall on some point on that scale, rather than exclusively one side or the other, or dead in the middle.

[marylander1940]

I agree, it is hard to know what is the percentage of truly bi people that exist in this country, let alone the world. I do not think that bi has to mean "equally". I tend to rather subscribe to Alfred Kinsley's sliding scale model and that the world very rarely deals in absolutes. I personally think the scale is way larger than merely 0-6, but we all fall on some point on that scale, rather than exclusively one side or the other, or dead in the middle.

 

I didn't mean 50/50... I'm talkin people to truly like both sexes and not because of keeping up appearances or just because that's the only thing they have available like me in the boat during my Navy time.

[MrMattBig]

I didn't mean 50/50... I'm talkin people to truly like both sexes and not because of keeping up appearances or just because that's the only thing they have available like me in the boat during my Navy time.

 

Curious to see what your opinion is on the following. Kinsley also mentions that we fall on a point in a scale during moments of our lives. I agree with this. I am bi, I kiss both sexes, give oral to both, have sex with both, but certain things I prefer to do only with females, such as I rather rim a smooth hole over a hairy hole. And let's be honest, women are more likely to have less hair on there back door. Does this preference invalidate me being "bi"?

[Beancounter]

Curious to see what your opinion is on the following. Kinsley also mentions that we fall on a point in a scale during moments of our lives. I agree with this. I am bi, I kiss both sexes, give oral to both, have sex with both, but certain things I prefer to do only with females, such as I rather rim a smooth hole over a hairy hole. And let's be honest, women are more likely to have less hair on there back door. Does this preference invalidate me being "bi"?

TMI

[SROSFanboy]

Would have to say I prefer straight or bi guys, just because in my experience I personally have gotten along with them better than gay guys. I'm a bottom, so whether or not they suck dick is of no concern to me, and I'm not that much into kissing either (unless it's him nibbling on my neck to seduce me into give him what he wants ). My best experiences in the past have been with straight and bi guys, with possibly one or two exceptions. A lot of guys who identify on paper as "straight" are really straight-curious, which is fine. All that being said, straight bodybuilders who go to great pains not to disclose what their preferred sexual position is, indicate to me immediately that he's all about muscle worship and nothing else, which is of absolutely no interest to me whatsoever.

[samandtham]

I couldn't care less who the guy is intimate with before and after our session. But for the time we're together, his answer to who he's intimate with, should be me.

 

ETA: He must also like to kiss. I wouldn't mind if he doesn't speak and understand French and Greek, but if he doesn't like to kiss, I move on.

[j0ck7]

It depends. Some str8 escorts just want your money. They dont kiss, dont suck dick and dont bottom. No need to waste your money on them.

[+ glennnn]

For me it's all about cock and cum. Although I know I might be the third or fourth cock he has sucked TODAY, I want a partner who loves cock and genuinely shows it. Moans, groans and whimpers are hard to fake. I want a guy whose excited to be fucking or sucking me. I only hire gay escorts. I don't want to apologise for accidentally coming in his mouth. I Want him to swallow, or kiss me and pass it back into my mouth.

[MrMattBig]

It depends. Some str8 escorts just want your money. They dont kiss, dont suck dick and dont bottom. No need to waste your money on them.

 

I agree, some escorts just want a client's money. I think that is true regardless if they are straight, gay, or bi. Other escorts, like myself, look at it from the angle " I am getting paid doing what I love the most". I am sure those who are familiar with Michael Jordan know that he played basketball because he loved it, and the money is just sufficient compensation and an added bonus. Advice to all clients: seek out the escorts who are in this business to be able to do what they love for a living.

 

For me it's all about cock and cum. Although I know I might be the third or fourth cock he has sucked TODAY, I want a partner who loves cock and genuinely shows it. Moans, groans and whimpers are hard to fake. I want a guy whose excited to be fucking or sucking me. I only hire gay escorts. I don't want to apologise for accidentally coming in his mouth. I Want him to swallow, or kiss me and pass it back into my mouth.

 

Moans, groans, whimpers, and screams are definitely hard to fake. The level of how genuine they are shine right through. However, it does not take a guy being gay to be excited to be fucking, sucking, or enjoying cum. For me, I start out each session asking the client what they are into. And in the process, I get turned on and cum a vast majority of the time, simply by knowing my client has enjoyed themselves. Them enjoying themselves is what gets me exited to suck, fuck, cum and enjoy cum, not my sexual orientation.

[WolfRamNHard]

What usually confounds this kind of discussion topic is the fact that in addition to straight men doing "gay for pay," there are also porn actors and escorts who might otherwise identify as gay but instead choose to use the label "straight" for various reasons (it's better for business; internalized homophobia in the industry, etc.)

 

I personally don't care what someone chooses to call himself or what label he feels comfortable with, as long as he's really into me when we are together, or at least making a sincere effort and doing a credible job of making me feel like he's into me even if that may not be the reality.

[pierrot]

A lot of escorts advertise as "straight", I presume because some gay men enjoy the fantasy that they're having sex with a straight guy. Personally, it does the opposite for me since I'd rather enjoy the fantasy that there is actually some mutual attraction possible. I skip the "straight" ones precisely because I think they may have a disdainful attitude or may not be able to get it up. But clearly, some clients do want to think their escort is straight.

Needless to say, whether the escort is truly straight or not doesn't matter and you probably won't find out.

Just a quick poll though, how do posters here think "straight" is a positive attribute for an escort?

 

I thought I'd add the informal poll results to date:

Prefer gay escorts: 12

Prefer straight escorts: 5

Don't have a preference or don't state it clearly: 9

 

I agree with many posters that labels such as gay, straight, and bi are problematic in general and are applied differently by different people. And of course, as many of you noted, escorts use the labels as part of a profile that may or may not be accurate in reality.

My own feeling is that it has all has to do with desire. If we desire men, even though we may have sex with women out of duty or for another reason, then imo we are gay. The reverse is also true, so that an escort who has sex with men but he desires women, is straight. But I suspect that many successful escorts who have sex with gay men but call themselves straight, are actually bi -- because they also desire men. I continue to think like many of you that if an escort is REALLY straight and has no desire to have sex with another man, he's very unlikely to be able to fake involvement with clients.

[Marlfox]

Ok, if someone's counting, put me down in the prefer gay escort column. I like to hope that the person I'm having sex with might find me attractive.

[jeezifonly]

It's all marketing in the end. An escort will describe themselves however they wish - appearance, orientation, skills. Eventually, if the description simply doesn't line up with clients' perceptions, he's going to have to change something - ether the description or what he delivers. That said, I have never been with a "straight" escort - don't feel I've missed out. Had my (real down-low) straight guy early on in my sex life, and it's not worth repeating at these prices!!

[Fyton]

Yes please.

This reminds me of, "The Panda eats, shoots, and leaves." Did the Panda eat, then shoot, then leave. Or do Pandas eat shoots and leaves.

Inclusive "or." That hunky high school quarterback B fucks blondes or redheads.

Sorry.

[+ Gar1eth]

Ok, if someone's counting, put me down in the prefer gay escort column. I like to hope that the person I'm having sex with might find me attractive.

 

I doubt any escort thinks I'm attractive. But put me in the wanting a gay escort category. I'm not even esp happy with bisexuals because I never know if it's just a label some straight guys use to make us feel better.

 

Plus I don't really understand bisexuality because on Kinsey's 0 to 6 scale with 0 being perfectly straight and 6 being perfectly gay-I must be about a 15. If it's true as Kinsey and @MrMattBig believe that our feelings can be dependent on a specific time of life, the last time I remember feeling anything about a woman was back in the 4th or 5th grade when a girl I thought was cute told me she liked me. (I still remember her name). But an important point-I still remember being attracted to bodybuilders at this age (I always have been) and this was prior to puberty.

 

Gman

[alexslaveboy]

I doubt any escort thinks I'm attractive. But put me in the wanting a gay escort category. I'm not even esp happy with bisexuals because I never know if it's just a label some straight guys use to make us feel better.

 

Plus I don't really understand bisexuality because on Kinsey's 0 to 6 scale with 0 being perfectly straight and 6 being perfectly gay-I must be about a 15. If it's true as Kinsey and @MrMattBig believe that our feelings can be dependent on a specific time of life, the last time I remember feeling anything about a woman was back in the 4th or 5th grade when a girl I thought was cute told me she liked me. (I still remember her name). But an important point-I still remember being attracted to bodybuilders at this age (I always have been) and this was prior to puberty.

 

Gman

Gman

So even though I lean more towards straight escorts because I am turned on by cocky verbal dominant tops, I too can relate and agree with your post

As a 10/11 year old during Dynasty days I was in love with Heather Locklear and even had photos of her on my bedroom walls but I was always drawn to Tarzan movies and shirtless muscle guys

I remember when I was about 15 seeing a bodybuilding competition on TV and I got an instant boner.....after that I was hooked any muscular shirtless male got me going and now I don't even care if a Victoria Secret model walks right next to me......no reaction at all!

Alex

[pierrot]

I doubt any escort thinks I'm attractive. But put me in the wanting a gay escort category. I'm not even esp happy with bisexuals because I never know if it's just a label some straight guys use to make us feel better.

 

Plus I don't really understand bisexuality because on Kinsey's 0 to 6 scale with 0 being perfectly straight and 6 being perfectly gay-I must be about a 15. If it's true as Kinsey and @MrMattBig believe that our feelings can be dependent on a specific time of life, the last time I remember feeling anything about a woman was back in the 4th or 5th grade when a girl I thought was cute told me she liked me. (I still remember her name). But an important point-I still remember being attracted to bodybuilders at this age (I always have been) and this was prior to puberty.

 

Gman

 

My experience with "bi" escorts is that they are usually gay and think the "bi" label makes them more attractive to those clients who like to fantasize about straight men. I think in particular of a couple of guys I've hired often who are in lots of gay porn movies, have escorted for a while and are open to all the standard "gay" sexual acts. One of them has a long time male partner. What exactly makes them consider themselves "bi", if they really do, I don't know. Having sex a few times with a woman hardly makes one "bi" imo, I've done that too but don't consider myself bi at all. So just to reassure you Gar1eth, I think many escorts who claim to be "bi" are, by most definitions gay. At least that's my experience.

[+ Gar1eth]

I doubt any escort thinks I'm attractive. But put me in the wanting a gay escort category. I'm not even esp happy with bisexuals because I never know if it's just a label some straight guys use to make us feel better.

 

Plus I don't really understand bisexuality because on Kinsey's 0 to 6 scale with 0 being perfectly straight and 6 being perfectly gay-I must be about a 15. If it's true as Kinsey and @MrMattBig believe that our feelings can be dependent on a specific time of life, the last time I remember feeling anything about a woman was back in the 4th or 5th grade when a girl I thought was cute told me she liked me. (I still remember her name). But an important point-I still remember being attracted to bodybuilders at this age (I always have been) and this was prior to puberty.

 

Gman

 

My experience with "bi" escorts is that they are usually gay and think the "bi" label makes them more attractive to those clients who like to fantasize about straight men.

I'm always a bit suspicious of escorts who claim to be bisexual but are strict tops. I realize that if there is bisexuality, then not all of them are going to want to bottom. But it seems to me that guys who advertise as bisexual top only escorts could very well be straight -but have some kink in their make-up (or heavy use of certain erectile enhancing drugs) to be able to get an erection/have sex with gay men-and using the bisexual label to open up the gay market for people like me who won't hire straight guys.

 

 

Having sex a few times with a woman hardly makes one "bi" imo, I've done that too but don't consider myself bi at all. So just to reassure you Gar1eth, I think many escorts who claim to be "bi" are, by most definitions gay. At least that's my experience.

 

As a point of clarification, the reason I classify myself as a 15 on the Kinsey Scale is I don't think I could ever have had sex with a woman. The only time I remember becoming aroused at the sight of a woman was in a dream I had when I was around 15-I woke up and discovered I had a partial 'arousal'. If this is a true memory, and not something I dreamed up over the years, I remember being happy because I thought it meant I was developing feelings for girls. Other than that I've never been aroused by the thought or sight of the 'fairer' sex.

 

Gman

[Man Crush Morris]

Makes no difference to me as long as he's attractive to me: muscular, young, handsome to me. The best guy I ever hireed was a semi pro, and very straight.

 

My needs are a bit vanilla, though. I just like lots of body contact, and receiving a rough froting. He did excellent work for me. I honestly envied the women that were lucky enough to get his all.

 

So my best guy was very straight. You never really know.

[MikeBiDude]

Makes no difference to me as long as he's attractive to me: muscular, young, handsome to me. The best guy I ever hireed was a semi pro, and very straight.

 

My needs are a bit vanilla, though. I just like lots of body contact, and receiving a rough froting. He did excellent work for me. I honestly envied the women that were lucky enough to get his all.

 

So my best guy was very straight. You never really know.

 

Right...you never know. I don't pre-judge based on a preference stated in an ad. That said, I'm also patient, and open minded, and don't mind trying someone out.

 

• I have had great times, good chemistry, repeat visits, overnights, with gay/bi/straight gentlemen.
  
• I have had awful times, terrible chemistry, zero repeats, and nightmares with overnights, with gay/bi/straight gentlemen.
  

 

A lot of it gets down to that "chemistry" which could be physical attraction, emotional attraction, etc. I treat the gentlemen like humans, not hires. A lot of time escort-to-escort advice says "find something about each client you like...", same advice goes both ways for me.

[MrMattBig]

The only time I remember becoming aroused at the sight of a woman was in a dream I had when I was around 15-I woke up and discovered I had a partial 'arousal'. If this is a true memory, and not something I dreamed up over the years, I remember being happy because I thought it meant I was developing feelings for girls. Other than that I've never been aroused by the thought or sight of the 'fairer' sex.

 

Gman

 

It saddens me a bit hearing you express it made you happy that you thought for a second you were starting to be attracted to girls. There shouldn't be any pressure to be attracted to one another. We should just be who we are. It sucks we live in a society that is so dependant on labels for every aspect of our world. Referring to the op, it shouldn't matter if an escort labels himself as bi, gay, or straight, it should just matter if, as a client, you can ascertain that you are going to have an amazing time together.

[30somethingsexybear]

As long as they do what they are supposed to do then it doesn't really matter to me but I do find that straight guys are less willing to bottom (which I find insane since they don't even have to be "excited" to do that. I know it's all wrapped up in the "masculine/ feminine, I don't want to be a pussy bitch" thing that straight guys, and a lot of gays get all worked up about as if being penetrated makes you less of a man... hell, taking a dick hurts like fuck and to me it takes a real man to go through that much pain so Lord bless bottoms!) I do find that the difference between straight and gay escorts are like this. Straight guys don't care how hot or how not hot you are as they are not really interested either way so if they can perform for a super hot guy, they can probably perform for us regular folk.

 

Gay escorts on the other hand are surrounded by beautiful men because typically, they are one themselves so they are having the top .001 percent of men in them or on them and then they have to do whatever with you who they are usually not attracted to in the least bit. Gay men have a harder time of hiding that. Straight guys let you know their do's and don'ts ahead of time and gay escorts do as well usually but they are way more likely loosen or tighten those do's and don'ts depending on how hot the client is. "Standard Hot Guy"... sure I can eat cum, bareback, drink piss, get fisted, eat your hole, kiss with tongue. "Not so hot to ugly, fat Guy" The gay may try to have the hour but do the least bit possible to actually interact with you. The straight one will put on his hard hat, get his lunch box and go to work. It's not what he wants but he wants his paycheck (of sorts).

 

I find this a lot in the strip club world also. Gay dancers are hitting on guys or flirting with each other or the sexy bartenders and you have to find them, where as the straight dancers are there for the guys that can provide them money so they are paying attention to clients, older guys, fat dudes and the aesthetically less fortunate. It's a fantasy, make me feel handsome and sexy, you'll get my money. I know it may not be real but hell, it's better than being treated as one would walking into a hot bar that caters to the circuit set or the twink brigade which is what some gay dancers/ escorts do.

[+ Gar1eth]

It saddens me a bit hearing you express it made you happy that you thought for a second you were starting to be attracted to girls. There shouldn't be any pressure to be attracted to one another. We should just be who we are. It sucks we live in a society that is so dependant on labels for every aspect of our world. Referring to the op, it shouldn't matter if an escort labels himself as bi, gay, or straight, it should just matter if, as a client, you can ascertain that you are going to have an amazing time together.

 

I prefer to know guys enjoy gay sex even if they aren't attracted to me.

As long as they do what they are supposed to do then it doesn't really matter to me but I do find that straight guys are less willing to bottom (which I find insane since they don't even have to be "excited" to do that. I know it's all wrapped up in the "masculine/ feminine, I don't want to be a pussy bitch" thing that straight guys, and a lot of gays get all worked up about as if being penetrated makes you less of a man... hell, taking a dick hurts like fuck and to me it takes a real man to go through that much pain so Lord bless bottoms!) I do find that the difference between straight and gay escorts are like this. Straight guys don't care how hot or how not hot you are as they are not really interested either way so if they can perform for a super hot guy, they can probably perform for us regular folk.

 

Gay escorts on the other hand are surrounded by beautiful men because typically, they are one themselves so they are having the top .001 percent of men in them or on them and then they have to do whatever with you who they are usually not attracted to in the least bit. Gay men have a harder time of hiding that. Straight guys let you know their do's and don'ts ahead of time and gay escorts do as well usually but they are way more likely loosen or tighten those do's and don'ts depending on how hot the client is. "Standard Hot Guy"... sure I can eat cum, bareback, drink piss, get fisted, eat your hole, kiss with tongue. "Not so hot to ugly, fat Guy" The gay may try to have the hour but do the least bit possible to actually interact with you. The straight one will put on his hard hat, get his lunch box and go to work. It's not what he wants but he wants his paycheck (of sorts).

 

I find this a lot in the strip club world also. Gay dancers are hitting on guys or flirting with each other or the sexy bartenders and you have to find them, where as the straight dancers are there for the guys that can provide them money so they are paying attention to clients, older guys, fat dudes and the aesthetically less fortunate. It's a fantasy, make me feel handsome and sexy, you'll get my money. I know it may not be real but hell, it's better than being treated as one would walking into a hot bar that caters to the circuit set or the twink brigade which is what some gay dancers/ escorts do.

 

As I wrote above-my feelings are different. My thought is the straight escorts don't really like having gay sex for the most part. (I'm a top by the way). No escort is going to be attracted to me. I think most of us deep down straights and gays can recognize attractive people of whatever sex they are. I can certainly recognize beautiful women even if I'm not attracted to them. Attractive people seem to often have other attractive friends. So even if a guy is straight-I think even if he doesn't admit it -he can recognize 'male beauty' and I'll bet somewhere, maybe deep down, the straight escort appreciates having better looking clients.

 

So I know a gay escort isn't going to be attracted to me either. But I know they enjoy gay sex. And hopefully being a fellow male since I know what feels good for me-I can at the very least make him feel 1/2 good. And I'm pretty vanilla. I like kissing, cuddling, body contact, and topping. As long as the guy is good with those I'll think he is a great escort (admittedly some guys are better kissers than others). I don't have to have the guy hanging upside down in moon boots or a sling to get my jollies. The escort being gay and liking gay sex is like having half the battle won.

 

As for ecdysiasts-if that is their main occupation rather than escorting-their entire modus operandi is different from an escort. Ecdysiasts are there to tease, leave things open-ended, and induce the fantasy that they might go home with you. The more open-ended they are the more money you will hopefully drop on them with the thought that if you just pay them more they might decide you are the one guy they will go home with. Then at the end of the night they tell you they don't see patrons after hours leaving you much the poorer and with an aching tallywacker in your pants.

 

I'm not saying no ecdysiast ever goes home with a patron. But in all my years of occasional going to the dear departed Unicorn Club in Indianapolis, or Zippers/Cruise In in Dallas I've only gotten two to meet up with me-both were from the Unicorn Club. I've never been able to convince one of the guys in Dallas although often I think the guys dancing in Dallas were straight.

 

And even on here when I've heard about guys meeting up with dancers from Stock or Campus in Montreal-it has sounded like very few of them are 'full service' escorts.

 

Gman

[MrMattBig]

I prefer to know guys enjoy gay sex even if they aren't attracted to me.

 

 

As I wrote above-my feelings are different. My thought is the straight escorts don't really like having gay sex for the most part. (I'm a top by the way). No escort is going to be attracted to me. I think most of us deep down straights and gays can recognize attractive people of whatever sex they are. I can certainly recognize beautiful women even if I'm not attracted to them. Attractive people seem to often have other attractive friends. So even if a guy is straight-I think even if he doesn't admit it -he can recognize 'male beauty' and I'll bet somewhere, maybe deep down, the straight escort appreciates having better looking clients.

 

So I know a gay escort isn't going to be attracted to me either. But I know they enjoy gay sex. And hopefully being a fellow male since I know what feels good for me-I can at the very least make him feel 1/2 good. And I'm pretty vanilla. I like kissing, cuddling, body contact, and topping. As long as the guy is good with those I'll think he is a great escort (admittedly some guys are better kissers than others). I don't have to have the guy hanging upside down in moon boots or a sling to get my jollies. The escort being gay and liking gay sex is like having half the battle

 

Gman