Forum Reality vs Personal Reality

[TruHart1]

Wow, I don't know whether I have just been lucky with my friends or just chosen wisely. I have 5 friends that I am close enough to talk about sex in any detail. All of them know that I hire and none of them have made me feel sad or pathetic in any way. They know about my regular and frequently ask how he is doing and when I will be seeing him. A couple of them jokingly call him "my Mercedes" because I chose him over a new car, but it's all very supportive with just a twinge of envy.

 

Does anyone else have supportive friends or does everyone keep it to themselves?

I have one friend especially, with whom I have shared my personal sexual life over the years (and he has always shared his sexual adventures with me!) He moved away from my area a number of years ago to Dallas, TX. I not only share my hiring adventures with him but visit him in Dallas 2 or 3 times a year, where he and his partner are happy to let me use their home to host my three favorite Dallas escorts, Logan Brock, Luca and Walter! Of course he is always interested in talking over my experiences after each appointment. We are even closer friends now, after I began sharing my experiences, than we were before! In addition, I shared with a former f**k buddy about my hiring and now he wants to take a trip with me to Vegas or NYC to hire a hot escort or two for a 3-way!

 

I am quite discreet though, and I would never share my hobby with family or the majority of my friends, straight or gay! I realize that the two friends I am open with are the exception, especially since, for many years, my own attitude toward hiring was so negative, never understanding until my urges and curiosity got so strong I felt I needed and wanted to try it out. After hiring AresApollo in NYC 5 years ago, I never looked back. I love this hobby!!!

 

TruHart1

[+ José Soplanucas]

I don't know if I would describe my friends as supportive, but they are at least open minded enough to tolerate me. I'm totally open to my close and not so close friends. I've been an open defender of prostitution, pornography, and sexual promiscuity for about 30 years now. All my friends know that I hire escorts every time I have a long weekend or a vacation.

If you have problems about being open, I think you should take a deeper look at yourself and your own feelings about these issues, specially if you are younger than I am.

[AdamSmith]

Likewise, my friends know I hire sex workers. Even a fair number of my business colleagues: one of the freedoms of self-employment is the choice to make such disclosure.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Likewise, my friends know I hire sex workers. Even a fair number of my business colleagues: one of the freedoms of self-employment is the choice to make such disclosure.

Well, I'm a high school teacher, so I cannot be totally open to everyone, but to my friends and people not connected to my career, hell yes.

[+ WilliamM]

I have one friend especially, with whom I have shared my personal sexual life over the years (and he has always shared his sexual adventures with me!)

 

If you have problems about being open, I think you should take a deeper look at yourself and your own feelings about these issues, specially if you are younger than I am.

 

In response to TruHart1: Me too.

 

In response to labear4blk: "Well, I'm a high school teacher, so I cannot be totally open to everyone, but to my friends not connected to my career, hell yes."

 

Perhaps you should delete your first response, labear4bik

[MikeyGMin]

I have a large family but am closest to one sister and my eldest niece. When I first met Kurtis I sent them both a G-rated picture and gloated a bit. My niece fell in lust. I didn't mention his name but my niece used her Google skills. (Who knew that she was familiar with Google image search?) Now she follows him on Twitter. Awk-ward!

[+ José Soplanucas]

In response to TruHart1: Me too.

 

In response to labear4blk: "Well, I'm a high school teacher, so I cannot be totally open to everyone, but to my friends not connected to my career, hell yes."

 

Perhaps you should delete your first response, labear4bik

Why? I said I am open to my close and not so close friends, and that is right. I did not say anything about colleagues. Those are not necessary friends. I do have several teachers-friends working with me and I'm totally honest to them.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Let's be more specific. I'm not open at all about my private life to my students. About my sexuality I am totally open to everyone but my students. About my opinions about promiscuity and pornography I'm totally open to everyone but my students. About me having the hobby of hiring young men I'm open to my friends, which includes some of my colleagues.

[+ WilliamM]

About me having the hobby of hiring young boys I'm open to my friends, which includes some of my colleagues.

 

Let's try to help each other: Do you really want to post the above on a public forum? I do not think so, my friend.

[jimboivyo]

Let's be more specific. I'm not open at all about my private life to my students. About my sexuality I am totally open to everyone but my students. About my opinions about promiscuity and pornography I'm totally open to everyone but my students. About me having the hobby of hiring young boys I'm open to my friends, which includes some of my colleagues.

 

this is ripe for coming back to bite you in the ass

[+ José Soplanucas]

Let's try to help each other: Do you really want to post the above on a public forum? I do not think so, my friend.

Is this a public forum? I think you would be surprised if we were facebook friends.

[+ WmClarke]

Only two friends know of my participation in this hobby.

 

One of them once posted on a social media website (without mentioning my name or anything identifying):

• Best excuse ever from my friend, "Sorry I was was late, my escort gave me 3 hours and I only paid for one."
  

We still laugh about that.

 

But, generally, most people don't know I hire.

[+ WilliamM]

this is ripe for coming back to bite you in the ass

 

.....and other people, who are in charge here.

[+ WilliamM]

Is this a public forum? I think you would be surprised if we were facebook friends.

 

We are not going to be facebook friends because I do not hire young boys. Am I right: you do not live in the United States?

[+ sync]

Let's be more specific. I'm not open at all about my private life to my students. About my sexuality I am totally open to everyone but my students. About my opinions about promiscuity and pornography I'm totally open to everyone but my students. About me having the hobby of hiring young boys I'm open to my friends, which includes some of my colleagues.

 

I offer with the best of intentions that you use the "edit" function of this forum to insert the phrase "of legal age" after the words "young boys."

[+ Truereview]

Does anyone else feel a strange division or disconnect in their life between the events you experience through the Forum and those in your "real" life?

No. The forum, my hobby, all this is just part of my own reality. I honestly would find it harder to keep them apart, or even worse, hidden. I don't actively volunteer my activity in the forum, but if I'm asked, I simply state my truth and I don't waste time with judgmental folks. I believe and strive to live a fully integrated life. I consider it a privilege to do so, and I'm not ashamed to flaunt the fact that it feels damn good, but it is hard work to keep it all connected and transparent with friends/family.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I offer with the best of intentions that you use the "edit" function of this forum to insert the phrase "of legal age" after the words "young boys."

 

THANK YOU, I just edited. Now I understand some forum fellas reaction. I apologize to everyone, this was just me misusing English. I never, NEVER meant I was into hiring teens. Please forgive me, if your outrage comes from that understanding, you are absolutely right. I always meant young men, way above legal age.

Please, give me a second chance and re-read my previous posts with this clarified point and then we can go on with the conversation.

If this misunderstanding wasn't dangerous, it would be funny.

[+ purplekow]

When I was young, and carefree and people may have actually cared about my sex life, I learned the benefits of discretion, seeing others have their love lives a discussion for lunch room fodder. Once, I wore the same clothes to work two days in a row and heard whispers. (Yes the whispers were true still not a public matter) So then I wore the same clothes to work for the rest of the week, heard whispers, but it was a different discussion. 5 days in a row with the same clothes was enough. By the way, they were washed in between wearings, but a heavy dosing of an all too familiar aftershave left that subject to debate as well.

[+ Truereview]

Recently, in chatting with a pretty bright 21 yo, he told me: Discretion is a luxury & a value of the past. Today, we live our lives outloud. Interesting gen z perspective.

[bigvalboy]

THANK YOU, I just edited. Now I understand some forum fellas reaction. I apologize to everyone, this was just me misusing English. I never, NEVER meant I was into hiring teens. Please forgive me, if your outrage comes from that understanding, you are absolutely right. I always meant young men, way above legal age.

Please, give me a second chance and re-read my previous posts with this clarified point and then we can go on with the conversation.

If this misunderstanding wasn't dangerous, it would be funny.

 

Thanks for clarifying latbear...Just so that you understand, your personal life is one thing, but Daddy has a zero tolerance on the MF for talk along those lines. Good luck...

[+ Truereview]

Thanks for clarifying latbear...Just so that you understand, your personal life is one thing, but Daddy has a zero tolerance on the MF for talk along those lines. Good luck...

What's MF?

[Reluctant Daddy]

Recently, in chatting with a pretty bright 21 yo, he told me: Discretion is a luxury & a value of the past. Today, we live our lives outloud. Interesting gen z perspective.

 

It would be interesting to find out what their take would be on the possible repercussions of their indiscretion.

[+ Truereview]

It would be interesting to find out what their take would be on the possible repercussions of their indiscretion.

To clarify, he wasn't speaking about illegal acts, but he was indeed very comfortable with a very public persona about his orientation, his clubbing, partying (not drugs), etc. To your point, with experience and hard knocks, he may change his perspective, but I do feel there is a social/cultural trend towards greater flexibility on what we (older guys) woulda considered to be an indiscretion.

[Rapaz]

While not quite like trying to imagine what a radio dj looks like just from his voice, this site give you some information and you fill in the blanks. How effficiently you fill in those blanks, results in a picture of relative accuracy. I would say, that Purplekow is a bit bolder that I am in real life but otherwise relatively accurate. Fat check Horny Check Old Check Man Check

Seriously? My filled in blanks were of a violet colored cow who used Siri to communicate with us. Mind blown!

[+ WilliamM]

THANK YOU, I just edited. Now I understand some forum fellas reaction. I apologize to everyone, this was just me misusing English. I never, NEVER meant I was into hiring teens. Please forgive me, if your outrage comes from that understanding, you are absolutely right. I always meant young men, way above legal age.

Please, give me a second chance and re-read my previous posts with this clarified point and then we can go on with the conversation.

 

I am glad sync was so direct. I apologize for the indirect route I took. Instead I should have sent you a PM immediately.

 

I am at fault, and very sorry, labear4blk.