Escorts Asking to Meet in a Public Place

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I was called upon on Facebook to provide some advice to a guy who is thinking about dipping his foot into the escort pool. People were providing him with all sorts of advice, much of it was about how to keep himself safe against violence or abuse. While I've been cheated out of money, I've never experienced a physical threat. Some were saying that he should meet the client in public before joining them in a private setting. I told them that I don't think many clients are gonna want to do that, but I figured it would be a great question to pose on here. How many on here would be comfortable with that and is there anyone on here that prefers that themselves?

[mattr]

I have no problem meeting an escort in a public place but if it is his request, the clock starts when we get behind closed doors.

[down_to_business]

I also have no problem meeting in a public place. I do know some people who prefer it, like meeting in the hotel lobby or the Starbucks around the corner.

 

I may prefer this myself meeting someone for the first time.

 

The only drawback I see to this (for an escort) is as a client I would feel much more empowered to walk away from an escort who used fake or misleading pictures/advertising. It might also be a little harder to find each other in a crowd, especially for someone like me who will not send out pictures of myself.

[jjkrkwood]

Always better safe than sorry, on Both sides....

[+ Keith30309]

I also have no problem meeting in a public place. I do know some people who prefer it, like meeting in the hotel lobby or the Starbucks around the corner.

 

I may prefer this myself meeting someone for the first time.

 

The only drawback I see to this (for an escort) is as a client I would feel much more empowered to walk away from an escort who used fake or misleading pictures/advertising. It might also be a little harder to find each other in a crowd, especially for someone like me who will not send out pictures of myself.

 

Agree, which begs the question of how many clients would walk away if the guy who showed up was having a bad hair day or otherwise didn't meet the client's expectation of physical perfection. Also, how many clients or escorts would have a bad vibe in the first 5 seconds and walk away. I've met guys with whom the first few minutes were a little strained or awkward but smoothed out nicely after some conversation. Frankly, if I'd had the chance to bolt on a couple of them I might have.

[+ Travis69]

Client here. I almost always do incalls at my place. I would not want to go out on a cold February night to meet someone.

[+ Truereview]

Client here too. Ive never been asked to meet in public. I always meet my companion at a hotel of my choice - neutral space for both of us and no fuss over cleaning up. Also, this way, if I or my companion wanted to meet somewhere public first, I'd offer the hotel lobby.

[beachboy]

I did once have to meet in a public place but as there was no problem I felt somehow approved of & had a great time with a hot guy! He was only protecting himself & I don't blame him.

[+ WhamIAm]

No problems at all. I've had one guy ask to meet at a coffee shop around the corner for an in-call to his apartment first time we met. I totally understood. I don't invite a guy to my home our first meeting, and if I'm staying in a hotel I come down to the lobby to get him or meet him in the bar. Both escorts and clients need to protect themselves as they see fit.

 

Hell, if I'm meeting a new guy who's a local for the first time and he can't do an in-call I'll often rent a hotel room. When I explained that to one guy, he offered to burn some of his frequent guest points to get the room. Needless to say, he's seen every room in my house since then ;-)

 

One reservation, though -- if he uses it as a screening technique to decide whether he's sufficiently attracted to a client, that would suck.

[jjkrkwood]

Client here. I almost always do incalls at my place. I would not want to go out on a cold February night to meet someone.

 

 

Especially when YOU are paying.

[+ azdr0710]

fairly well-known NYC escort asked me to stand on a Manhattan street corner and call him when I get there.....I was then instructed, by phone, to look for him across the street and go over there......was then instructed to follow him thru the service door of his building and into the service elevator......upon exiting the elevator at his floor, I was to go in the opposite direction from him, wait a minute or so, then come back down the hall to his place.....

 

many here will recognize this guy and the routine....he was/is just being careful for himself, of course....simple desert dweller that I am, looking for excitement in the big city, I didn't mind this Gotham intrigue at all!!

[jjkrkwood]

I DO agree with everyones safety approaches, but all that doesn't Insure your well being and safety. It only increases the chances of it. Afterall, Jeffrey Dahmer was a pleasant, charismatic guy. that's how he was able to LURE all those young guys.... I have always believed " when its your time to go, you will go".... but precautions are just smart....

[+ glennnn]

Client here. Hasn't come up yet, but I would have no problem since all of my dates are incalls at the escort's place. I would fully understand his need to protect his privacy.

[+ purplekow]

fairly well-known NYC escort asked me to stand on a Manhattan street corner and call him when I get there.....I was then instructed, by phone, to look for him across the street and go over there......was then instructed to follow him thru the service door of his building and into the service elevator......upon exiting the elevator at his floor, I was to go in the opposite direction from him, wait a minute or so, then come back down the hall to his place.....

 

many here will recognize this guy and the routine....he was/is just being careful for himself, of course....simple desert dweller that I am, looking for excitement in the big city, I didn't mind this Gotham intrigue at all!!

Azdr I believe I wrote exactly those words. In fact, I thought you were quoting me. I also know that it is the same escort. I followed him from 41st and 9th to his apartment

[mattr]

Azdr I believe I wrote exactly those words. In fact, I thought you were quoting me. I also know that it is the same escort. I followed him from 41st and 9th to his apartment

 

Sounds like an intriguing start to an evening. I think I would find it rather arousing! Who are we talking about?

[MikeyGMin]

Sounds like an intriguing start to an evening. I think I would find it rather arousing! Who are we talking about?

 

I would find that some secret agent bullshit. I can see being discreet in his building -- neighbors and all -- but he would have to be something very, very special to have me following him through the streets of NYC.

[+ WhamIAm]

Hmmm. Not sure whether I'd find that really, really hot or really, really worrisome.

[down_to_business]

fairly well-known NYC escort asked me to stand on a Manhattan street corner and call him when I get there.....I was then instructed, by phone, to look for him across the street and go over there......was then instructed to follow him thru the service door of his building and into the service elevator......upon exiting the elevator at his floor, I was to go in the opposite direction from him, wait a minute or so, then come back down the hall to his place.....

 

many here will recognize this guy and the routine....he was/is just being careful for himself, of course....simple desert dweller that I am, looking for excitement in the big city, I didn't mind this Gotham intrigue at all!!

 

He would have to have me so hot and bothered for him by then or there is no way in hell I would have ever turned back in his direction! You guys are saints.

[MikeyGMin]

He would have to have me so hot and bothered for him by then or there is no way in hell I would have ever turned back in his direction! You guys are saints.

 

A certain other Austinite will appreciate this if he sees it (he uses the same comparison bar) -- he would have to be Ryan-fucking-Gosling.

[Nvr2Thick]

I DO agree with everyones safety approaches, but all that doesn't Insure your well being and safety. It only increases the chances of it. Afterall, Jeffrey Dahmer was a pleasant, charismatic guy. that's how he was able to LURE all those young guys.... I have always believed " when its your time to go, you will go".... but precautions are just smart....

fairly well-known NYC escort asked me to stand on a Manhattan street corner and call him when I get there.....I was then instructed, by phone, to look for him across the street and go over there......was then instructed to follow him thru the service door of his building and into the service elevator......upon exiting the elevator at his floor, I was to go in the opposite direction from him, wait a minute or so, then come back down the hall to his place.....

 

many here will recognize this guy and the routine....he was/is just being careful for himself, of course....simple desert dweller that I am, looking for excitement in the big city, I didn't mind this Gotham intrigue at all!!

 

I'm nostalgic for the intrigue as well. So many NYC escorts used to have you call from a pay phone (see below) within view of their apartments before telling you the building address and apartment number. I've had first meetings at subway entrances, bookstores, markets, newsstands. My favorite was a butch, built, very hung, Guatemalan muscle daddy who had me meet him at a bodega. "Bruno" brought a pretty, middle-aged woman with him -- his friend who was lending him her studio apartment. They led the way down the block, but he told me to follow but keep my distance even though we all had to converge at the door to the building when she unlocked it. He gave me the floor number and apt number and had me take the next elevator and wait outside. I waited in the hallway while she unlocked the door and talked to him for a bit. He waited for her to get back in the elevator before I was invited inside this tiny studio with beautiful feminine decor. He took a big leather(ette) sheet out of his backpack and covered her entire bed, linens, pillows, headboard, footboard before turning out all the lights. With just the lights from the neighboring buildings he skillfully and passionately overwhelmed me and destroyed my ass. When we were done he took a towel out of his bag, soaked a corner of it, and sponge-bathed and dried me at her kitchen sink (very affectionately, I might add) before wrapping the towel and sheet in the bag. He called his friend at the pay phone by the bodega and we left when she came back. Apparently she didn't want him to leave the place unlocked while she came up from the street. I was young and new to the scene and he enjoyed being rough with me. As a result I was still coming down from the high of such an overwhelming fuck and I was walking a bit funny because I was bruised inside and out, while she was trying to distance herself from the encounter. Later Bruno confided that he was a hairdresser and she was one of his regular clients.

 

I've learned to love the "Mystery Date" aspect of opening my door or waiting for his to open. I have no problem with a public meeting. I agree with JJ that it doesn't protect you from many scenarios.

 

Pay phone:

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[rvwnsd]

As someone else stated, I would not mind meeting in a public place as long as our allotted time started when we arrived at his place.

 

I recently had an escort ask me to park in the visitor space at his condo community and call him. Once I arrived, I understood why he did that - I would never have found his unit had he not come out to meet me.

[rvwnsd]

One additional thought - unless the escort lives (or is staying, if in a hotel) near a place such as a coffee house, meeting on the street could present its own pitfalls.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

Thanks so much everyone for sharing their opinions, feelings and interesting experiences. I've never asked a client to meet me somewhere in public and have only had a couple such requests from clients in the past, so it's interesting and good to know that the majority of you seem to not mind the idea. The stories of complex arrangements to get into an escorts apartment makes me very glad that I live in a small apartment building with no doorman, neighbors that mind their own business and a next-door neighbor that knows what I do and thinks it's awesome.

[+ Rickee]

... and a next-door neighbor that knows what I do and thinks it's awesome.

How awesome is that?!!

[+ Truereview]

I'm now taking investors for my new business:

the nest.

These is a national chain of meeting places disguised as laundromats. Bring a bag with dirty laundry, we will wash it for you, while you meet your client/companion. Additional fees apply if you'd like to use our small but spotlessly clean back rooms. We also offer a menu including intimacy kits, rejection resolutions, and sticker shock therapy for unplanned additional hours with your provider. Coffee & wifi for free, but you must prove you are meeting someone.