Regrets

[beachboy]

Reading Glenn's post on Dancers saying he was a road techie but never got it on with any of the guys set me wondering what regrets other guys have. BF's let go, guys not approached, offers not accepted. Hopefully some with a happy ending.

[+ purplekow]

Regrets, I've had a few. But then again, too few to mention. Not doing an overnight with TB back when he was still bottoming comes to mind. So disregard that too few to mention thing.

[+ azdr0710]

Regrets, I've had a few. But then again, too few to mention.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5AVOpNR2PIs

[bigvalboy]

Regrets are a waste of time...

[beachboy]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5AVOpNR2PIs

Had to be done!! My big regret was a guy I used to work with-I was nuts about him & he gave me loads of signals but for some reason I couldn't go for it. Later he acquired a girl friend & tried so hard to be butch. It didn't last but she did tell me he had a very small endowment, so maybe I didn't miss out after all!!

Edited March 13, 2016 by beachboy

[+ quoththeraven]

Not exploring further, or at least asking questions, when my college boyfriend said it was okay with him if I slept with a friend of his I'd told him I was interested in as long as he was present. It wasn't until later that I found out that some guys enjoy watching their partners have sex with someone else. (My assumption was that he would be jealous.) Who knows? Maybe it would have turned into a threesome.

[+ glennnn]

I agree that regret is one useless emotion, UNLESS you learn from it. I didn't, in the case of hitting on one of the guys in the dance company back in 1968. Or maybe I did learn, but it took me 40 years to get it. Maybe that regret and others like it made me finally accept myself as a gay man (I'm soooooooo tired of the phrase about "coming out of the closet"), introduce myself to my family and finally have sex with men. So, yes, regrets are a waste of time, because you can't change the past, but you can change the future.

[+ purplekow]

I agree that regret is one useless emotion, UNLESS you learn from it. I didn't, in the case of hitting on one of the guys in the dance company back in 1968. Or maybe I did learn, but it took me 40 years to get it. Maybe that regret and others like it made me finally accept myself as a gay man (I'm soooooooo tired of the phrase about "coming out of the closet"), introduce myself to my family and finally have sex with men. So, yes, regrets are a waste of time, because you can't change the past, but you can change the future.

Glennnnn you were a dancer? http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/dont-look-back-in-anger/n8660 Video speaks to regret and being a dancer

Edited March 14, 2016 by purplekow

[+ WilliamM]

I am embarrassed to list the following as a regret after what others have written, especially since it happen so long ago. But, it is a singular regret.

 

Back in the fall of 1962 at the beginning of my second year of college, a good, very attractive friend was reading James Baldwin's "Another Country." He was supposedly not gay, but confused about how many gay men propositioned him when he was on vacation with his parents in Maine. He was reading the book to try to understand gay life. I knew immediate my friend had guessed I was gay, but still in the closet.

 

I quickly moved the conversation away instead of engaging in the subject. I missed a chance to establish a much closer friendship and perhaps a lot more.

 

Given his history as a male model, I know now it was unlikely male-on-male sex was as new to him as he said. We stayed friends that year, but more distant friends.

 

I was so young and inexperienced during my second year of college.

[+ glennnn]

I am embarrassed to list the following as a regret after what others have written, especially since it happen so long ago. But, it is a singular regret.

 

Back in the fall of 1962 at the beginning of my second year of college, a good, very attractive friend was reading James Baldwin's "Another Country." He was supposedly not gay, but confused about how many gay men propositioned him when he was on vacation with his parents in Maine. He was reading the book to try to understand gay life. I knew immediate my friend had guessed I was gay, but still in the closet.

 

I quickly moved the conversation away instead of engaging in the subject. I missed a chance to establish a much closer friendship and perhaps a lot more.

 

Given his history as a male model, I know now it was unlikely male-on-male sex was as new to him as he said. We stayed friends that year, but more distant friends.

 

I was so young and inexperienced during my second year of college.

 

Ah gees, William. We all were. That's not a small regret, buddy, that's so poignant and sad. Why did we have so much trouble reaching out, helping and accepting each other? But isn't it great that we can now?

And all the more reason to be good to each other.

[+ poolboy48220]

Lots of guys sending me signals back when I was in the closet, and either not understanding them until much later, or being too afraid to act on them.

 

The refrigerator delivery guy sending me lots of signals, and no idea in retrospect why I didn't respond.

[jjkrkwood]

My greatest regret is not making more of the time I had with my partner of 22 years, before his sudden death in 2000. You never realize how much time you really have, and tend to put things off for LATER....

 

Often, Later never comes...

[+ glennnn]

My greatest regret is not making more of the time I had with my partner of 22 years, before his sudden death in 2000. You never realize how much time you really have, and tend to put things off for LATER....

 

Often, Later never comes...

 

So sorry! Life can be a hard road to travel......

[+ Truereview]

Im still regretting the last two sets of tequila shots from Saturday eve.

[beachboy]

Im still regretting the last two sets of tequila shots from Saturday eve.

Guess we've all been there!!

[+ Truereview]

Guess we've all been there!!

Misery loves empathy . I feel like this ⬇️ and it has been two days!

 

http://t.qkme.me/3okalh.jpg

[beachboy]

Misery loves empathy . I feel like this ⬇️ and it has been two days!

 

http://t.qkme.me/3okalh.jpg

Maybe it wasn't just the last 2 sets of shots that did the damage-the previous (how many?) may have had something to do with it!!

[+ Truereview]

Maybe it wasn't just the last 2 sets of shots that did the damage-the previous (how many?) may have had something to do with it!!

Shhhh...common sense is too loud! Thought about brushing my hair but it is way loud too...shhhh

 

http://www.dreadcentral.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/shhh.jpg

[beachboy]

Try not to think too-those whirring cogs in the brain sound like steam engines!

[jjkrkwood]

Never had a hangover, don't drink. but those Viagra headaches are a mutherfucker.

[AdamSmith]

Im still regretting the last two sets of tequila shots from Saturday eve.

It was one of those midsummer Sundays when everyone sits around saying, "I

drank

too much last night." You might have heard it whispered by the parishioners leaving church, heard it from the lips of the priest himself, struggling with his cassock in the

vestiarium

, heard it from the golf links and the tennis courts, heard it from the wildlife preserve where the leader of the Audubon group was suffering from a terrible hangover. "I

drank

too much," said Donald Westerhazy. "We all

drank

too much," said Lucinda Merrill. "It must have been the wine," said Helen Westerhazy. "I

drank

too much of that claret."

 

https://loa-shared.s3.amazonaws.com/static/pdf/Cheever_Swimmer.pdf

Edited March 14, 2016 by AdamSmith

[seaboy4hire]

There are things I wish I had done differently in the past but I don't and can't regret what I've done. Each situation I've tried to learn from and do better. Sometimes it's successful sometimes I'm a lil slow. As my Queen and idol Madonna has said, absolutely no regrets.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[samandtham]

I typically don't dwell on regrets, although there are two things that I would probably have done differently if I had a chance to:

 

1) Traveled more when I was younger - This is a very millenial thing to say but honestly, whenever I watch YouTube videos of 23-year-olds going on backpacking trips across Europe (and road trips in the US), I get very jealous. I'm making up for it nowadays with at least one major, out-of-the-country trip each year, barring a major expense (or losing a job, which happened to me last year), but I still wish I acted on my wanderlust earlier.

 

2) Left my former employer before I settled - "How much did they pay you to give up on your dreams?" Was the question that kept replaying in my head when I was fired from the banal job I had for 5 years. Although I was ecstatic that I was gone (my former coworkers were even saying that I was probably the happiest guy who has ever lost a job), I wished that I had left earlier and pursued a better-paying, higher-profile, and more creatively stimulating company. I would have paid for the chance to gloat at my former boss.

 

The reason I stayed for so long is because of regret #1...I had just developed a "taste" for traveling. I wanted to be sure that even if I take almost month-long trips, that there is still a job that I can go back to.

 

(The quote by the way is from "Up in the Air." Excellent movie.)

[klifhangar]

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http://www.dreadcentral.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/shhh.jpg

 

 

I think I was married to her

[klifhangar]

I dated and eventually married a girl when I was young but still had curiosities. Looking back, I was awfully naïve and think of several times that guys were definitely hinting. A couple were as hot as any escort. I didn't pick up the signals or was just too uncertain of what would happen.