My $400 bottle of water

[+ Keith30309]

I just finished submitting a review for an escort and it's the first negative one I've written in over 30 encounters with different guys. No names - that's for the review-vetting process - but my lessons-learned are universal.

 

I'm posting this in the hopes that someone will learn from my mistakes and failure to heed several red flags that have all been discussed in the forum. I'd summarize them as:

1. Opened the door and face photo was obviously dated
   
2. Derailed and stalled for a 30 minute chat (for him to smoke outside)
   
3. He failed to heed my request that his friend not stop by while I was there
   
4. Obsessed with his phone from the moment I arrived
   
5. He was physically distant, avoiding my touch, up until the point where money entered the discussion
   
6. At his request, mid-way thru our time, I gave him the envelope containing the fee plus a generous tip
   

It went downhill after that. I did get a bottle of water, though.

 

In general, my mistake was hoping and wishing that things would get better until it passed the point of being an obvious, dismal failure.

 

I did keep enough wits about me to let him know, all along the way, that things were not going well. I remembered the dismay that some escorts have described at receiving negative reviews from what they thought were happy clients and gave him several opportunities to reschedule on a better day and also reiterated a few times our early discussion of likes/dislikes.

 

Anyway, that was the best water I've ever tasted.

[DonaldTramp]

Can you at least tell us what city this happened in?

[+ Keith30309]

As soon as you saw the photos he used were dated you should have left. If you didnt want to be mean and just leave then you should have discussed that you felt mislead by the false photos and if you were still cool with being there then you should discuss about getting a discount as he misrepresented to you. You should have literally taken out the envelop in front of him taken out the extra tip money then take out some more out of his fee and put that money back in your pocket lol. He did all of that to you and you gave him the full fee plus tip, wow kind man but at least you know not to see him again i hope.

 

I agree 100%.

<insert emoji with 'stupid' stamped on forehead>

(Atlanta)

[Zman]

Thanks for the post Keith. Valuable advise. There are times I've done the same thing.....

[Jock123]

I'm so sorry @Keith30309 . As you mentioned You've seen over 30 Escorts..and I feel In this Business it is INEVITABLE to eventually have an Experience that makes You go.."Did that really just Happen" Both for an Escort and a Client. 99% of my Experiences had been Positive(Even no bad reviews!) Until a Few Years later I met a complete Troll. He asked me to Cut my rate multiple times and while I wouldnt based on the Fact I was Traveling he Inisted that was "Ok"...Until of course I got there and he Brings it up again, Was drunk when I got there(Around 4PM). And THEN after had already put me through Hell He started Using Drugs and Became Verbal and Borderline Aggressive/Violent. The KICKER was He then wrote a Bad Review basically making me out to be 40 and out of Shape(Again far from the truth)...It was down right nasty.

 

At first I took it Personal, Even asking some of my regulars of their Opnion for the whole Ordeal. But then once I did a little more research on his Screenname/Phone number etc I had found he wrote Bad Reviews for EVERYONE. 9 to be Exact. Anyone knows this is far from Normal...sure one Bad Experience but MULTIPLE ones?? Its a direct reflection of Yourself. It cant always be Everyone else.

 

 

Again I'm so sorry You had a Bad Experience. From Your posts Ive seen on here You seem like a great client. Just again I believe In this business eventually we all have that Experience that makes us go "Did that really Just happen!?"

[+ sync]

I add my condolences for your bad experience. Unless you are clairvoyant, you shouldn't blame yourself. You entered an agreement in good faith and the other individual proved to be unworthy of your trust. It is not uncommon in such situations. You suffered a loss, but so has he.

[geminibear]

That's a bummer buddy. Even the champ took one to the jaw eventually. I won't play armchair quarterback and spew lots of advice. I just will say pick yourself up, rub some dirt on it and hug it out.

[KJJ]

Sorry you had to go through this.

[+ dutchmuch]

I'm posting this in the hopes that someone will learn from my mistakes and failure to heed several red flags that have all been discussed in the forum. I'd summarize them as:

1. Opened the door and face photo was obviously dated.
   

 

That's why I always keep the motor running with a first time meeting.

[marylander1940]

"He failed to heed my request that his friend not stop by while I was there

Obsessed with his phone from the moment I arrived"

He's friend couldn't even wait outside? You're with a client, put the phone down god dammit...

I'm sorry to hear you had such a bad time, I would have walked away.

[+ Travis69]

I would have left too. You got nothing you wanted, except water, and he got everything he wanted. He has learned he can do this again to the next client.

[MiamiLooker]

I just finished submitting a review for an escort and it's the first negative one I've written in over 30 encounters with different guys. No names - that's for the review-vetting process - but my lessons-learned are universal.

Assuming he responds to your review, what do you think he'll say?

[kjun]

I just finished submitting a review for an escort and it's the first negative one I've written in over 30 encounters with different guys. No names - that's for the review-vetting process - but my lessons-learned are universal.

 

I'm posting this in the hopes that someone will learn from my mistakes and failure to heed several red flags that have all been discussed in the forum. I'd summarize them as:

In general, my mistake was hoping and wishing that things would get better until it passed the point of being an obvious, dismal failure.

 

I did keep enough wits about me to let him know, all along the way, that things were not going well. I remembered the dismay that some escorts have described at receiving negative reviews from what they thought were happy clients and gave him several opportunities to reschedule on a better day and also reiterated a few times our early discussion of likes/dislikes.

 

Anyway, that was the best water I've ever tasted.

 

You should post a review. Your message means nothing without identifying the criminal.

[Atlbottom]

Sorry for what happened to u. Reminds me of someone I hired though. That guy does have real pic. So should not be the same person. Terrible experience as well. ATL seems to have a lot going on but it is always lacking in the good ones.

[craigville beach]

I don't think piling on helps the victim here at all. I have great respect for him to stand up and acknowledged what happened. That takes guts and courage. The escort here is the coward, our fellow forum member is not. We should let daylight (in the form of the review) disinfect this person for that is the only cure to whatever aliment he has. I hope the review gets published. Bullies do their "best work" in the darkness of ignorance.

[+ dutchmuch]

I hope the review gets published.

 

+1

[+ nycman]

Assuming he responds to your review, what do you think he'll say?

 

Let me put on my "Carnac the Magnificent" turban.....

 

"What is a dirty hole"

[Brian Kevin]

I promise to itch your scratch enough for me and to compensate for him when I see you

[+ Gar1eth]

You should post a review. Your message means nothing without identifying the criminal.

 

He has written a review.

 

Sorry you had such a bad experience, Keith. Here's to hoping your next hire is twice as good as expected!!!

 

Gman

[LADoug1]

I think we as clients need to trust our intuition and have the self-worth to walk away from an escort who is as awful as the one discussed here. I'm not saying I would always be able to do it but I hope I could.

[BaronArtz]

1. He failed to heed my request that his friend not stop by while I was there
   

 

Was his friend 'hot'? Did he offer to join you in whatever it may have been you were doing? That would be the ONLY way to justify this, in my book. All joking aside, I am sorry you had a bad experience. Can't wait to read the review. Thank you.

[Moondance]

In general, my mistake was hoping and wishing that things would get better until it passed the point of being an obvious, dismal failure.

 

It's easy for others to say "I would have walked." (Maybe you would have; maybe you're always in supreme control of every encounter. Bully for you.)

 

But I'll bet A LOT OF US have done what Keith did -- stayed, hoped things would get better, tried to coax them in the right direction -- particularly if we've had mostly good experiences, with good guys, and -- because of that -- have come to expect honorable intentions.

 

Sorry this happened to you, Keith.

[+ not2rowdy]

You might send him a final email / text saying something like:

 

“Sorry our meeting didn’t work out. This will help explain why”

 

And add a link to this thread.

And block his number.

 

Daddy will give him an opportunity to state his case - so he can start thinking about it now.

Then we can all revisit this when the review is posted and both sides have had their say.

[Phil_musc]

My gosh, I am so sorry for how this went down for you. It seems like my worst nightmare.

Looking forward to reading the review - the Clif notes version here has whetted my appetite for the full disastrous story. (Sorry about the way that sounds)

 

One last point, however, for general discussion: Why did you tip the guy? Sounds like his rate was too high already (unless the friend was going to join in) and you routinely threw in the extra $$ because you always do. After all, $300/hr or so isn't enough compensation and the guy needs extra pocket change, I guess.

[+ Keith30309]

Assuming he responds to your review, what do you think he'll say?

 

I don't know - I tried to make the review as fact-based as possible rather than my opinions and feelings. If he chooses he may dispute them... there was no friend, he wasn't playing with his phone, he didn't ask for payment, the time didn't end 20 minutes early, he wasn't disinterested, he wasn't smoking, etc.