Straight Escorts

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So curious for the guys that hire straight escorts, what is the appeal? There is an interesting thread right now about gay for pay porn performers, but I am curious what it the appeal for some men about hiring a straight escort.

 

Not looking for judgement here for men that prefer straight escorts, I am just curious about the motivation. My preference is for a gay escort that is masculine, but I know that everybody has different preferences and I am curious what it is about straight men that appeals to you.

 

I recently had an interesting discussion with a guy that only hires straight men and it gave me an interesting insight to his motivation that I hadn't seen before so curious for others what their perspective is.

[m.yi]

Sometimes its just the circumstances. Hired a "straight" guy coz he was hot and available that time, wasn't looking for him to be a go-to guy (he is now). I knew it was sort of limited, in terms of physical intimacy. But our "arrangement" turned into some sort of friendship that is still growing up to now. He is very generous of his time and always available when I need him, don't feel like I'm on the clock when I'm with him.

 

As far as I know, he just needs a little supplemental sources to help support himself. He's not an advertising escort. I can talk to him about anything, and assured him he can do the same with me. There's also that ego-boost that I got a hot guy not everyone has access to.

[MikeBiDude]

I don't *because* they're str8. But often the "look" I like comes with str8 guys. Obviously, I have not had perfect visits with everyone who identifies as str8. Like m.yi above I have found some that are really good guys, are friendly, respectful. I respect their boundaries, and often find they open up to "more" after that respect has been invested.

 

I guess it all depends on what the client wants immediately on the first meet vs what some time/respect invested might yield, at least that's been my experience.

[mattr]

There are guys (not me) who fantasize about turning the hot straight guy and hiring a "str8" escort is a simple way of playing the fantasy out. I tend to agree that a truly str8 guy would not fool around with a guy for money. At best they are bisexual with a strong leaning towards women.

[liubit]

I don't hire escorts who advertise as being straight. Period.

 

Now, I wonder what motivates a seemingly straight guy to go the male escort route. Besides the money, of course.

[rogerG]

Any "straight" guy who has sex with another guy isn't straight lol.

When I was a teenager, I sucked the cocks of 3 hot guys who are now married to women and have kids. (Only one kept his body in shape.) All 3 guys sucked my cock, too. We all came. Today, all 3 guys identify as straight, and they have no desire to suck cock or kiss another guy.

 

Some people are obsessed with labels. Some people are not. Sex can be very nuanced. A lot depends on the time, place, need, and chemistry. And sometimes money can motivate.

 

IMO, every guy is capable of being bisexual if a need or curiosity exists. It doesn't mean every guy will identify as bisexual or engage in continual bisexual activity.

 

I happen to enjoy sexual contact with a masculine man who enjoys licking and fucking pussy. Kissing a guy doesn't turn me on anywhere near as much as attitude, and there's nothing quite like the attitude of a pussy-loving-man who gets hard while instructing his sub-boy how to suck his cock.

 

Gay guys often come with a ton of gay attitude, and the attitude is often not masculine. Yep, it conjures a stereotype, but I can spot the attitude a mile away. For me, it's a sexual turn off.

 

I'm not into straight guys who get off on humiliation. That scene is not for me. However, I have been with several really cool straight guys who appreciate my cock sucking technique. They are not interested in kissing me or sucking my cock or fucking me in the ass, but I sure enjoy the experience of sucking their cock and watching them cum in my mouth. Straight guys have their own way of showing appreciation, and I find it all very, very sexy.

[jimboivyo]

hiring a 'straight' guy is funny to me and a lill sad

 

like a lot of gay culture, I believe this comes from a place of self loathing

[Marlfox]

I like to imagine (fantasise?) that the person I'm having sex with finds me attractive. With a gay escort there is at least a small chance that he will. With a straight escort there's no chance at all. I'll stick to hiring the gay guys.

[Kuriousity]

For those who do hire straights, more power to you......but I just don't get it.

 

"Does not compute".

[MikeyGMin]

Any "straight" guy who has sex with another guy isn't straight lol. Even if they need the money, no real straight guy would have sex with a guy for money. They would find another way to make it. They are bisexual.

 

It reminds me of a guy I was involved with he said he was straight just because he only topped guys and didnt get fucked by them. He got mad when I called him gay, but come recently he told me maybe he is bisexual lol.

 

I don't think you can make it such an absolute. In most cases, I agree, they are probably somewhere on the bisexual spectrum, but I'm sure there are some truly straight men who can handle being serviced for money. Now if they start kissing or reciprocating that's another matter.

 

How come virtually everyone can accept that truly straight men have sex with each other in prison, but can't accept they might do it out of financial necessity? I know that prison is a more extreme example but conceptually it's pretty much the same thing.

[Kuriousity]

I don't think you can make it such an absolute. In most cases, I agree, they are probably somewhere on the bisexual spectrum, but I'm sure there are some truly straight men who can handle being serviced for money. Now if they start kissing or reciprocating that's another matter.

 

How come virtually everyone can accept that truly straight men have sex with each other in prison, but can't accept they might do it out of financial necessity? I know that prison is a more extreme example but conceptually it's pretty much the same thing.

 

Well, the prison analogy is a little off, in that a slight majority of the male sexual encounters in prison happen initially as non-consensual, and that ongoing sexual encounters do have a certain degree of physical duress to them. That physical duress factor is not exactly present with the straights outside of prison.

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Well, the prison analogy is a little off, in that a slight majority of the male sexual encounters in prison happen initially as non-consensual, and that ongoing sexual encounters do have a certain degree of physical duress to them. That physical duress factor is not exactly present with the straights outside of prison.

 

interesting point, I think you are onto something with the prison situation although there may be guys that are bi or gay that are receivers and sort of enjoy it. Do you think the "top" in the situation is getting off more on the rape/aggression than the actual sex act? Like its the power that gets them off or do you think that is the start and then just a wet hole so to speak is what makes them cum?

[MikeyGMin]

Well, the prison analogy is a little off, in that a slight majority of the male sexual encounters in prison happen initially as non-consensual, and that ongoing sexual encounters do have a certain degree of physical duress to them. That physical duress factor is not exactly present with the straights outside of prison.

 

Non consensual on the part of the receiver. The perpetrator is not under any duress. I know that there is a huge element of power and dominance in prison sex, but there is also an element of "a mouth is a mouth." Forcing someone to suck your cock is not that much different than allowing someone to suck your cock for money. ( The violence aside. ) Pretty much the scene as described in post number 7. When guys thinking a mouth is a mouth and the other guy happy to do it.

[+ saminseattle]

Any "straight" guy who has sex with another guy isn't straight lol.

 

If you define sexual orientation purely in terms of behavior, I suppose that is true. But to me, orientation connotes something deeper and more fundamental about my identity. I was attracted to men before I ever had sex with them. And while I’ve never had sex with a woman, I suspect that many guys on this forum who call themselves gay have had sex with women at some point in their lives. Does that mean they’re actually “bisexual” and not “gay?”

 

While labels are useful to a degree, they also have their limits, and we should be hesitant to try to fit everyone into a box based on something as complex as human sexuality.

[MikeyGMin]

If you define sexual orientation purely in terms of behavior, I suppose that is true. But to me, orientation connotes something deeper and more fundamental about my identity I was attracted to men before I ever had sex with them. And while I’ve never had sex with a woman, I suspect that many guys on this forum who call themselves gay have had sex with women at some point in their lives. Does that mean they’re actually “bisexual” and not “gay?.

 

Excellent point! I never thought about this in reverse. I have had sex with half a dozen women in my life, and I am full blown homo. Some of them were peer pressure kind of situations, but certainly no more desperate then financial problems. What makes me gay is that I have never fallen in love with a woman. My heart never goes pitter-pat. That's what makes me queer to the core.

[marylander1940]

So curious for the guys that hire straight escorts, what is the appeal? There is an interesting thread right now about gay for pay porn performers, but I am curious what it the appeal for some men about hiring a straight escort.

 

Not looking for judgement here for men that prefer straight escorts, I am just curious about the motivation. My preference is for a gay escort that is masculine, but I know that everybody has different preferences and I am curious what it is about straight men that appeals to you.

 

I recently had an interesting discussion with a guy that only hires straight men and it gave me an interesting insight to his motivation that I hadn't seen before so curious for others what their perspective is.

 

I guess they want something other gay men can't get for free, I've met escorts and I've realized they were on grindr during and after our session, good for them if they get laid for free with other jocks like them but I'm 75 and I can't do that.

 

I'm not into straight escort, be inspired by me and don't think it tits and pussy while being with me... huge turn off.

[Nvr2Thick]

I love playing with masculine men. My favorite escorts identify as gay, but play the role of an affectionate total top. I'm a pleaser, and I don't get much enjoyment when a guy tries to please me.

 

I've hooked up with a lot of straight men or supposedly straight men. Every now and then I'll meet one that expressed an interest in getting his dick sucked, but then wanted to reciprocate in some way or wanted to see my body. I could get into long debates about whether that type of guy is really straight, but I don't think so and their mutual interest disappoints me.

 

The best straight partners are so secure in their masculinity that nothing threatens it. They're proud of their sexual prowess and proud of their endowments. My latest straight guy hookup from the M4W section of Craigslist recently was so pleased that I admired and appreciated his big dick. He seems to end up with women who like to put him down. I was blowing him in my garage and got my tape measure to show him that he had a solid nine. It would have never occurred to him to measure it, and his girlfriends and ex wife had all said it was nothing special. He seemed to like that I had no expectations of affection and he could come and go as he pleased, but that I was hell bent on making his dick feel real good. He could be selfish about his own pleasure with no consequences.

 

Two of my favorite straight escorts are mature men who are quite used to being identified for their charisma, looks, and sexual energy. They've also been raised to be proud of their big dicks, where other men might be much more humble or take it for granted. One guy loves the verbal worship of his dick. The other likes to be with guys because he can cut loose physically in ways that he says he'd never do with a woman. He says he enjoys being passionate with a woman and figuring out how to read her and please her, but with a man he kind of loses touch with his partner and focuses on his own pleasure and needs. Both of those types of acts work very well for me because I'm at my most excited when a masculine man is enjoying himself.

[Kuriousity]

I must be odd, because I just don't really perceive straight men as really having any role/function in the Homoverse. Maybe it is because that their interaction with gays--if you peruse the posts of this thread--seem to center on "phallic worship" of their equipment by said gay. Since I have an extremely deep aversion to oral sex, straight men just really add nothing to my party.

 

All that said, to those of you who do hire straight escorts, keep rockin' out with your cock out....I'll be over in the corner with a completely baffled look on my face

[bostonman]

I'm one of those guys with a sort of backwards gaydar lol - I always seem to wind up being very attracted to straight guys, though certainly not always. But I have some funny stories lol - I remember joining the gay support group in college, and finding myself very taken by one particular guy at the first meeting I went to. Damned if he didn't turn out to be straight but just very supportive of gay issues etc. (Luckily I was spared the embarrassment of actually trying to make a pass at him lol - someone else in the group gave me the bad news when I had mentioned how cute I thought the guy was.)

 

Whether a guy who usually prefers girls calls himself straight or bi is no big deal to me. I think if a guy feels more comfortable considering himself "straight" even though he likes the attention he gets from gay men, that's his business. I once had a recurring hookup situation with a guy I met off of Manhunt, who considered himself mostly straight but enjoyed getting blown by guys (he really did seem to think that guys sucked cock much better than girls). It was fun to feel like we were satisfying each other's specific needs - he was getting the kind of head he craved, and I was getting to sample some "forbidden fruit" so to speak. Eventually things fizzled out, but it was a hot opportunity while it lasted.

 

I also remember a very erotic experience I had with a married guy around the time I turned 30. I've never been very interested in anal sex at all, but was in an experimental phase lol, and all I can say is that I was very glad this guy topped me - he was that good at it. Later, cuddling with him, he revealed more about his own situation - he did consider himself bisexual, and was really more interested in men at this point. He said that were it not for his young daughter he would have left his wife, but that he felt he needed to keep things together for the sake of the family. I really felt bad for this man who was stuck in a hetero life that he really didn't want to be in. Though I suspect that there are many men in similar situations.

 

Anyway - in terms of escorts, I don't necessarily seek out profiles that say "straight" (in fact, as it's been intimated out here, I often have some doubts as to their performance abilities if indeed they really are straight), but if I were to see an ad for a straight guy who seems to be on the level and he's willing to address the situation honestly (i.e "I am straight, but enjoy the edginess of doing this on the side, and yes I can easily get it up and will cum for you" etc) I'd consider meeting,...

[LADoug1]

I suspect that many guys on this forum who call themselves gay have had sex with women at some point in their lives. Does that mean they’re actually “bisexual” and not “gay?”

 

I don't think so. Many had to try having sex with both men and women to see which was their preference. If it turned out that they absolutely preferred men then they are gay. In other words just because a guy had sex with a woman doesn't make him bisexual. The same is true for guys who had a sexual encounter with another guy and eventually identified as straight.

 

When I was a teenager, I sucked the cocks of 3 hot guys who are now married to women and have kids. (Only one kept his body in shape.) All 3 guys sucked my cock, too. We all came. Today, all 3 guys identify as straight, and they have no desire to suck cock or kiss another guy.

 

Kids do a lot of experimenting. That's how many of them find out whether they are gay or straight.

[LADoug1]

I must be odd, because I just don't really perceive straight men as really having any role/function in the Homoverse. Maybe it is because that their interaction with gays--if you peruse the posts of this thread--seem to center on "phallic worship" of their equipment by said gay. Since I have an extremely deep aversion to oral sex, straight men just really add nothing to my party.

 

All that said, to those of you who do hire straight escorts, keep rockin' out with your cock out....I'll be over in the corner with a completely baffled look on my face

I pm'd you.

[LADoug1]

he revealed more about his own situation - he did consider himself bisexual, and was really more interested in men at this point. He said that were it not for his young daughter he would have left his wife, but that he felt he needed to keep things together for the sake of the family. I really felt bad for this man who was stuck in a hetero life that he really didn't want to be in. Though I suspect that there are many men in similar situations.

 

I think this guy is gay. Not bisexual.

[+ SundayZip]

Hi jeepo1, My preference is for escorts who identify as gay but I've been vocal about having had some great experiences with guys who identify as straight. As a result, I've been asked, "why to you like to hire straight guys?" I don't hire guys because they're straight or gay. My preference is for guys who I think I'll connect with personally and with whom I can have a nice sexual experience -- and my past experiences tells that other factors are more important than whether the escort clicked on the "straight" or "gay" check-box when completing their online ad.

[adriano46]

A topic like this pops up every now and then and I added my 2-cents worth when discussing the labels in Europe.

 

Back 20-25 years ago as the Iron Curtain came down, Western Europe was suddenly flush with hot, sexy Central and Eastern young men who would easily get into gay sex for money and be very good at it (look at Bel Ami models), and yet at the same time call themselves "straight." One of the hottest Hungarian guys I saw on and off for 5 years and who did everything in every position, is now happily dating a girl and more or less dropped that "other" side, though I occasionally see him with a guy pal who starred in many porn movies with him (and wonder if they still remain F-Buddies???)

 

Even now, the majority of Eastern or Central European guys who escort prefer the label "straight" or "bisexual" to gay, although they get into most things (safe and not so safe) easily enough.

 

As much as I have a general BIAS against hiring guys who advertise as straight or even as bi, given what I hire a guy to do, if he can do my check list, I generally find the "straight" or more the "bisexual" guys the best in terms of the other parts (conversation, personality, interests, and yeah... even looks). My type is more a semi-muscular guy next door type with few (if any) tats and no piercing (or only limited)... and a guy who is very very comfortable and adept to kissing and mutual oral. If he does that, he gets my call, no matter what he labels himself as being.

[+ FreshFluff]

Remember the Jarec Wentworth case? Most of his Sean Cody costars, some of whom escorted regularly, considered themselves straight. DB, the guy who was blackmailed, famously insulted the girlfriend of one guy who refused DB's invitations.