To the Escorts: What are your red flags?

[gallahadesquire]

I seem to have shot myself in the foot over the past, oh, decade, regarding my online presence.

 

Sometimes I say something I shouldn't ... not in the "Real name" or "HIV" category, but a personal question that's just not answerable.

 

SO: Can y'all give suggestions as to questions that just shouldn't be asked, or should be asked in some other way?

 

Thanks.

[SteelFan]

I'm not an escort but I think the answers would vary. I've communicated with some escorts who literally don't want to answer any questions other than when, where, and how much. Others will answer a few questions pertaining to sexual tastes but anything past two or three and they'll assume you're just a time waster. Then there are the very rare who will go days answering whatever you want to know. And I mean they are rare, I've probably only met 3 or 4 in my entire life who seemed cool with investing a lot of their time answering any and all questions I had prior to our sessions.

 

In my humble opinion, I don't think it's really about what you ask, it's more about the time it takes to answer your questions before you actually book.

[Wolfer]

Do you have any examples of said questions? Most (if not all) escorts I've talked with have almost zero tolerance for a first time communication with a new client to go beyond any more than three or four questions, mainly "What's the rate, time and place?" I recently had this happen, I posed my three regular questions (Do you bottom, do you French kiss, what's the hourly rate), but because I'd recently had a bad experience I asked one more question ("Are you an active/dominant bottom?") and he immediately started calling me a faker and time waster. I didn't book him.

I've never had any problems with just the three standard questions. Although it's hard to get a feel for the escort's personality that way.

[+ DickyF]

My recommendation is to just go by what they are saying and of course read body language. Escorts are certainly entitled to their privacy. Asking lots of questions when they are being evasive should be a clue!

A couple have told me their real names and info about their life outside of escorting. But I don't expect that. Even if they offer the BFE you have to respect their limits.

Some put their limits in their ads which is helpful. Others make their limits pretty obvious to all but the most tone-deaf. If their response to "what's your daytime job" is "let's just focus on now" should be a great clue!

I think though asking about interests and hobbies is normally fine but again take a hint if there is one!

[Rudynate]

I don't ask many questions. I have already found out a lot from their profile and reviews. I usually make an initial inquiry as to availability by email. If it is the first time with them, I want to have a short phone conversation in which I share some of what I like in a session. I keep the call to no more than 10 minutes, if that.

[RussJohnson]

I seem to have shot myself in the foot over the past, oh, decade, regarding my online presence.

 

Sometimes I say something I shouldn't ... not in the "Real name" or "HIV" category, but a personal question that's just not answerable.

 

SO: Can y'all give suggestions as to questions that just shouldn't be asked, or should be asked in some other way?

 

Thanks.

 

Are we talking before or during?

[gallahadesquire]

Are we talking before or during?

 

Before, and usually in email or text.

[Edward]

Even asking the basic qustions I have been shoot down and called a time waster. I am to the point I wont hire at all unless are a well reviewed escort. Then the only questions I ask is when and where. I have asked a couple of times when they have safe/bb ask me, HIV status or prep? It makes me not want to hire at all.

[Juan Vancouver]

Sometimes I say something I shouldn't ... not in the "Real name" or "HIV" category, but a personal question that's just not answerable.

 

Please give examples. This post is vague enough that you can receive thousand answers and still not refer to the problem at hand. I am curious to read what is it that you think you are doing wrong and what are the questions that shut escorts off.

[RussJohnson]

Even asking the basic qustions I have been shoot down and called a time waster. I am to the point I wont hire at all unless are a well reviewed escort. Then the only questions I ask is when and where. I have asked a couple of times when they have safe/bb ask me, HIV status or prep? It makes me not want to hire at all.

 

We are so sensitive to time wasters that sometimes we can be a bit aggressive about it. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt (obviously guys are nervous, new at this, etc.) but it seems often when you do it comes back to bite you. Remember escorts deal with exponentially more time wasters and fakes, than clients do. Unfortunately you can't predict how certain escorts want their initial contacts to go, but any good business savvy guy is going to find a polite way to steer the conversation or let you know you are pressing too much or using too much of their time. I personally love getting business out of the way first (when, where, rate?) and then go into other topics of concern, and then comfirm. Very simple.

[Wolfer]

I personally love getting business out of the way first (when, where, rate?)

I've learned a lot of escorts work that way. Even though I like it in the opposite way. I only want to talk when and where after I know we're gonna be a match. I know there's profiles for that, but not all escorts list their interests correctly, I've learned to double check.

Now I just lead with that I'm interested, what's the hourly rate, that I'm a top and that French kissing is a dealbreaker for me.

[geminibear]

French kissing is a dealbreaker for me.

 

Do the French just call it kissing?

[+ Truereview]

Do the French just call it kissing?

Actually they call it - biser - conjugated:

je bise

- I kiss

tu bises

- you kiss - (familiar or informal)

il, elle, on bise

- he, she, it, one kisses

nous bisons- orgy kiss.

[jcmiami1]

As a client I know escorts must get frustrated with the no shows and fakes and flakes but - geez - give some of us clients a break too. Definitely appears the ultra brief how much/where/ when question is the norm now. Recently one escort chewed me up because I got stuck in bad traffic due an accident and hedidn't believe me when I told him - I even sent him pics of bumper to bumper traffic but he told me to fuck off! I also got the ones that had me check in regularly " where are you,where are you at by now, are you near yet" on and on.

[+ azdr0710]

sometimes I don't know how escorts can wade thru all the inquiry muck of emails, texts, phone calls, voice mails, homing pigeons.....

 

and when one is cover guy of the day here with a great picture, holy jeez....

[Wolfer]

Do the French just call it kissing?

Hahaha, well, uhm, no... I thought French kissing in English meant kissing with tongue? As opposed to dry kissing?

 

As a client I know escorts must get frustrated with the no shows and fakes and flakes but - geez - give some of us clients a break too.

Yeah, I sometimes feel like that too... Like, I'm taking a risk, too, you know? Hahaha, I wanna know that we're gonna be a match.

[geminibear]

a very popular guy once told me he gets 300 business texts a day....how the hell do you manage that?

[Brian Kevin]

I have 2 cents to add.

 

1. people asking me to be "ripe" for a session.

 

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many people have asked this and soooooooooooooo many people don't actually show up.

Now when someone says that key word I ask for a mandatory 100$ deposit up front via PayPal.

 

2. People saying they want to get FF and asking who, what, where, when, how and why.

 

Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo many people do this shit too (get it?) They wanna get all descriptive in a text message then not show up for an appointment.

Now, again, when someone mentions this I ask a mandatory 100$ deposit up front via PayPal.

 

 

I hate sounding so harsh, I just HATE having my time wasted, especially when I entertain you via text message. It's so sad, because there are genuine guys out there who ARE seeking these things, but once I hear either 2 of those red lights flash in my mind like *fake*fake*fake*fake*fake*

[+ Truereview]

a very popular guy once told me he gets 300 business texts a day....how the hell do you manage that?

That's when you should consider outsourcing...think of it...as a client u could be texting with a Thai or Manila rep to meet up with your American trophy boy

[Wolfer]

What's FF? What's ripe?

[Brian Kevin]

What's FF? What's ripe?

 

FF = Fist F*cking.

Ripe = Sweaty gym cloths, socks, undies. NOT my cup of tea. I like to go for my 10k walk in the door, rip my cloths off throw them in the washer and shower the sweat away.

[RussJohnson]

As a client I know escorts must get frustrated with the no shows and fakes and flakes but - geez - give some of us clients a break too. Definitely appears the ultra brief how much/where/ when question is the norm now. Recently one escort chewed me up because I got stuck in bad traffic due an accident and hedidn't believe me when I told him - I even sent him pics of bumper to bumper traffic but he told me to fuck off! I also got the ones that had me check in regularly " where are you,where are you at by now, are you near yet" on and on.

 

I would never respond in that way because I've been the person stuck in traffic sending picture messages (as one of my reviews says, lol)...but was this a well known professional?

[Jock123]

For me, I've found the more "Talk" there is...They never follow through. Sure You can take this as some people just being nervous/curious but If it takes 10 plus emails to even Discuss WHEN You are looking to get together...I become hesitant.

 

I once had a guy who sent me a three page email...YES a THREE PAGE email about his likes/dislikes what he was expecting, How previous escorts couldnt live up to this etc. Id much rather someone be upfront about their tastes, But if I feel I wont be able to "Live up" to what someone is looking for, I politely decline meeting. I'd rather not waste someones time than Promise them the world only to show up and do something completely different(Thats just bad business)

 

When Its your First encounter with an escort, Make it simple When/Where/Cost/ Likes Dislikes. Saying "Too much" or "Blowing up" their email/texts before they meet you in person can be a turn off. Afterall they're averaging 30 emails a day, chances are theyll go with the guys whom seem less high matinence.

 

 

My favorite clients are those who are considerate. What do you like to do/ What do you like to eat/ Any drinks? etc etc. If I feel You are treating me as a Human Being rather than Your "next" and are present...It goes a long way with me. Afterall everyone pays the same but Its nice when you meet someone who You truly can connect with.

[Jock123]

For me, I've found the more "Talk" there is...They never follow through. Sure You can take this as some people just being nervous/curious but If it takes 10 plus emails to even Discuss WHEN You are looking to get together...I become hesitant.

 

I once had a guy who sent me a three page email...YES a THREE PAGE email about his likes/dislikes what he was expecting, How previous escorts couldnt live up to this etc. Id much rather someone be upfront about their tastes, But if I feel I wont be able to "Live up" to what someone is looking for, I politely decline meeting. I'd rather not waste someones time than Promise them the world only to show up and do something completely different(Thats just bad business)

 

When Its your First encounter with an escort, Make it simple When/Where/Cost/ Likes Dislikes. Saying "Too much" or "Blowing up" their email/texts before they meet you in person can be a turn off. Afterall they're averaging 30 emails a day, chances are theyll go with the guys whom seem less high matinence.

 

 

My favorite clients are those who are considerate. What do you like to do/ What do you like to eat/ Any drinks? etc etc. If I feel You are treating me as a Human Being rather than Your "next" and are present...It goes a long way with me. Afterall everyone pays the same but Its nice when you meet someone who You truly can connect with.

[Rudynate]

What's FF? What's ripe?

 

Ripe= sweaty

 

FF= fisting