Sugguestions On How To Make Right Of Questionable Misunderstandings!!

[JDXXX]

Hello Everyone,

 

As were approaching the end of 2015, and heading towards 2016, I'm on tour thinking of some of the mistakes I have possibly made here on the forum as well as other questionable situations in my life, and would like to reconcile, and clear up any misunderstandings there is out there about me as of today.

 

Some misunderstandings here on the forum and maybe outside of the forum involved being accused or labeled of being too nice - some involved by being too goal driven/Self-Promoting, and others well....we'll get into that at a later time. LOL. .

 

The reason for me addressing this here on the forum, sweethearts, and bringing this up is for me to clear up more in detail about my participation here on the forum in a much better light that's not in any way negative. Some of these matters have been brought to my attention in one form or another as I believe in being a very upbeat, and positive person for which some people I come to find out here on the forum think that I'm a little too sweet-natured, and may find it offensive as it can come across as being phony which is sad to hear.

 

Another questionable problem that's been lingering for a few months from time-to-time is this "Self-Promotion" business which I can say as of now is not relevant of my personality by any means.

 

As a sincere and humble human being, I apologize to my fellow forum buddies if I have been misrepresented or unjustly viewed as being "Self-Promoting" just by clients giving praises in the past postings or myself at times responding a lot to those post which is NOT my intention or why I am on the forum. Only trying to progress further in the business which is no different what any other escort on this forum has done of course, but all in a good way as they have done it.

 

Grant it not - I think it's true that escorts do promote certain things such as travel plans or a porn they're in possibly, but I guess there has been at one time or another have been an occasional escort or two have been known to overdue it by promoting something too much which may have caused some friction or a possible red flag for clients in hiring the escort which in the end can be a turn-off. That's not a position I want to be in or be viewed as being "Self-Promoting" as it can come off the wrong way, and unfortunately cost the escort a client in the process. It's a matter of how far to "Self-promote" yourself, and how far you wanna take it in order for it to be a success of accomplishing your goal promotion wise.

 

In this post, maybe some of you can enlighten me on how to turn some of these negative issues about my personality being questioned (that were unintentional, and beyond my control of course) into a positive situation. Sometimes we need some uplifting advice on how to handle such situations before acting upon it in not such a kind way which is why I come to you all here on the forum, so I can get a overall view of different perspectives from different individuals who may think and NOT think alike. I know not all members gonna like everyone on this forum which is perfectly fine, but would like to get along with everyone to the best of my ability as I enjoy everyone I come into contact with on the forum, and not be disliked due to a misunderstanding that is unintentional.

 

I can rest assure those who are questioning my personality that nothing about my personality is fake or phony in any way, shape or form as it's part of who I am being brought up in a Christian loving household, and one who is a highly educated individual.

 

Anything you all can throw at me that'll help turn these misunderstandings around for the better with "some" individuals on the forum not all - would be great. Not a good feeling I guess to find out your personality as a good person can come off displeasing to some people which is a learning lesion for me to come to terms with and understand.

[+ WilliamM]

I doubt that any one who has met you, or talked with you on the phone has any problems, JD.

[JDXXX]

I doubt that any one who has met you, or talked with you on the phone has any problems, JD.

 

You're absolutely right, sweetheart, but we do have certain individuals out there who don't know me, and base on what they hear may right away think the worse without talking to me first, so just wanna clear the air, so they're won't be any question of my "true" personality or who I am as a sincere escort.

[jimboivyo]

this is a self promoting business and always will be.

 

if you're not seen, you're not hired. if you're not hired, you're not reviewed. repeat, repeat, repeat

 

no need to apologize, you've done nothing wrong. being eager is not a bad thing

[JDXXX]

this is a self promoting business and always will be.

 

if you're not seen, you're not hired. if you're not hired, you're not reviewed. repeat, repeat, repeat

 

no need to apologize, you've done nothing wrong. being eager is not a bad thing

 

Hey Jim,

 

You do have a point there, baby as I can't argue with that as you have to promote to be seen or heard of what all you can bring to the table to any client in any profession. That's a given of course.

 

I think the question is how far one wants to take it before it gets out of hand and then be labeled as being "Self-Promoting". That's what I'm trying to be careful of as I've witnessed at times being labeled by certain members in a negative light of being "Self-Promoting", and didn't mean for it to happen as I thought maybe I was doing all the right things to promote myself in a positive light, and not come off negative or be perceived as "Self-Centered" which leads in being labeled as "Self-Promoting".

[jimboivyo]

only those who are jealous or insecure will call you self promoting like it's a bad thing

 

as long as you're getting clients, keeping them and posting good reviews, you're doing it right. ignore everything and everyone else

 

the greatest lesson you can learn is that you can't be liked by everyone and that is ok.

[craigville beach]

Don't let the bastards get you down. They have the issues, you don't

[+ sync]

JD,

 

There is a reason a saying survives to become an old saying. "You can't please everybody."

 

Don't change.

[+ Keith30309]

Be true to yourself and don't change to please others, as sync says.

You're not responsible for anyone's happiness other than your own.

 

Besides, you're a nice guy with a kind soul.

[JDXXX]

JD,

 

There is a reason a saying survives to become an old saying. "You can't please everybody."

 

Don't change.

 

Don't let the bastards get you down. They have the issues, you don't

 

You guys are right as we can't please and be well loved by everyone in this world. Just isn't reality to be well loved by every single human being. Be SUPERHUMAN for that to happen. LOL.

 

Thanks for the input and loving support you guys.

[JDXXX]

Be true to yourself and don't change to please others, as sync says.

You're not responsible for anyone's happiness other than your own.

 

Besides, you're a nice guy with a kind soul.

 

Very sweet of you, Keith and I Thank you for your advice as I welcome any words of wisdom/advice anyone here on the forum has that is beneficial with open arms. .

[Tuffpie]

Anything you all can throw at me that'll help turn these misunderstandings around for the better with "some" individuals on the forum not all - would be great. Not a good feeling I guess to find out your personality as a good person can come off displeasing to some people which is a learning lesion for me to come to terms with and understand.

 

What someone thinks is what they think and if being yourself is not enough to move them, then that's their baggage. Better to be hated for being you than for being the person you hope someone will like.

[+ WilliamM]

I think the question is how far one wants to take it before it gets out of hand and then be labeled as being "Self-Promoting".

 

I am sure the critical comments here must have bothered you. You have really grown as a person just in the short time I have known you. You thought it through, and waited quite a long time to post. It is truly wonderful that you are getting back such love and support from everyone! Well deserved.

[+ nycman]

In the words of Rupaul's mama....

 

"Unless they paying your bills pay them bitches no mind"

 

Truer words were never spoken!

[JDXXX]

I am sure the critical comments here must have bothered you. You have really grown as a person just in the short time I have known you. You thought it through, and waited quite a long time to post. It is truly wonderful that you are getting back such love and support from everyone! Well deserved.

 

You hit it right on the nose, William as I have thought it over long and hard for awhile, and felt it's about time I address the matter once and for all without any regrets.

 

I'm quite proud of the love and support I'm getting too as It's all about being kind and sincere unto others feelings, and if I said or did anything to upset others on this forum or outside of the forum in any way I need to take responsibility, and apologize(even though others are advising I've done nothing wrong), people need to know I take others advise or concerns for my well-being into consideration. Use the advise others give unto me as a learning lesson, and as a valuable tool to use further along in life.

 

I need to take responsibility and offer my deepest and sincere apologies whether "certain" members who are Anti-JD like me or not after this thread. At least I can walk away from this matter as the bigger person, and say to myself "I've tried". I can at least move on knowing I have gave my all in being a loyal and kind-hearted person by doing the right thing, and not being selfish to others feelings or concerns.

 

It's all about looking out for one another and being supportive of each other. I'm all about Peace and Harmony towards one another on the forum, and not about negativity, sweethearts. .

[gallahadesquire]

This is a hard one. One man's meat is another man's poison.

 

JD, you have been a gentleman with me. It's your nature or nurture, don't give a damn on that. It's who you are. And it comes with your territory; it's the way you are.

Other people's evaluation is just that. So screw them. Be who you are.

 

On our first meeting, a certain Escort of the Year told me: "I'd never guess you were gay." I think I'm proud of that. [i'll explain medical mores of the mid-'70's if you'd like to know.] On the otherhand, it might have been my complete lack of fashion-sense.

 

Hold in there, JD. Your Post was extremely thoughtful and indicative of the beautiful person you are inside, and to the world.

[JDXXX]

This is a hard one. One man's meat is another man's poison.

 

JD, you have been a gentleman with me. It's your nature or nurture, don't give a damn on that. It's who you are. And it comes with your territory; it's the way you are.

Other people's evaluation is just that. So screw them. Be who you are.

 

On our first meeting, a certain Escort of the Year told me: "I'd never guess you were gay." I think I'm proud of that. [i'll explain medical mores of the mid-'70's if you'd like to know.] On the otherhand, it might have been my complete lack of fashion-sense.

 

Hold in there, JD. Your Post was extremely thoughtful and indicative of the beautiful person you are inside, and to the world.

 

That's very noble and sweet of you to acknowledge in my persona for which you nailed it on the head like William did in his earlier post.

 

Thank you, Gallahad as that means a lot coming from you as you're 100% right. Believe me when I say all of this advice you all here on the forum are giving me is a learning lesion for me to take in, and use to better myself as time goes on as I feel we all need a little help and advice from others now and then. .

 

You're words of encouragement and wisdom are greatly appreciated as always, and proud of the bond we've developed together as you are a great man, and someone I can also call a "friend" in my life.

 

Thanks,

 

HUGS.....

[TruHart1]

I doubt that any one who has met you, or talked with you on the phone has any problems, JD.

only those who are jealous or insecure will call you self promoting like it's a bad thing

 

as long as you're getting clients, keeping them and posting good reviews, you're doing it right. ignore everything and everyone else

 

the greatest lesson you can learn is that you can't be liked by everyone and that is ok.

Don't let the bastards get you down. They have the issues, you don't

I have to agree with your other supporters here. There are just some people who don't know you very well (or at all) who seem to be put off by your upbeat, enthusiastic attitude about life, escorting, and just how much you enjoy your interactions with your clients! You always have a wonderful outlook on life, JD! Don't you ever, ever change the sweet nature that is an intrinsic part of your personality!!!

 

You happen to have received two more (your 111th and 112th!!!) great reviews today, October 21, 2015! Just take another look at those if you ever feel discouraged JD. In every review posted, by both first-time reviewers and those multi-reviewers (5 or more reviews!) you never fail to satisfy your clients!

 

TruHart1

[+ WilliamM]

. There are just some people who don't know you very well (or at all)......

 

I agree. You were new to posting frequently here, JD. Looking back, it makes some sense, but not at the time -- to you or me.

[+ MasssageGuy]

JD,

 

Please remember that....

 

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment".— Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Rock on my friend!

[Mocha]

JD and I communicated before in the past. Self promoting or not, I've felt you've always come off real about things without making it sound like gospel. I know when a person is huffin and puffin, and you don't come off that way. But....I will say one thing: we can all admit credit card offers and daytime tv attorneys can be annoying because they almost OVER promote themselves. I swear it's the same 3-4 attorneys and 1 or 2 car salesmen tooting their horns on the commercials day in, day out. I'm not home enough to have cable, but between 1 pm and 5 pm, I like to watch my CBS shows. But sounds like you've redeemed yourself (if you felt it was needed). But, my solution to misunderstandings is:

 

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[JDXXX]

JD and I communicated before in the past. Self promoting or not, I've felt you've always come off real about things without making it sound like gospel. I know when a person is huffin and puffin, and you don't come off that way. But....I will say one thing: we can all admit credit card offers and daytime tv attorneys can be annoying because they almost OVER promote themselves. I swear it's the same 3-4 attorneys and 1 or 2 car salesmen tooting their horns on the commercials day in, day out. I'm not home enough to have cable, but between 1 pm and 5 pm, I like to watch my CBS shows. But sounds like you've redeemed yourself (if you felt it was needed). But, my solution to misunderstandings is:

 

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LOL....LOL.....LOL.

 

OMG, MOCHA - I LOVE IT!!! Love the Barbara Walters quote. Too funny!!

Truly sweetie - Thank you so much for your being a great friend and for telling it like it is as I couldn't agree with you more as hey we all gotta promote ourselves in one form or another, and I'm glad to be getting such support from you and many of the other forum members such as yourself who can vouch for me as you have been around me personally and see the true nature of my personality as being a positive upbeat guy, and not just assuming I'm fake just because I'm too nice.

 

As you know, baby my mom and dad are from the deep south that don't take no mess from nobody. They're southerners who believe in they're kids being courteous and classy, and God help you if you came off as a heathen in they're home or around them. Those teachings have been implanted and instilled in me to this very day. Being a classy gentleman in this business has taken me a long way in life, and do intend to stay the way I am, and not be discouraged by others who can't adapt to me just being myself as many of you have indicated to remain being JD which is comforting to know that many of you enjoy my sweet and kind persona.

 

Thanks Sweetheart. You're amazing and truly one of the best there is in the business!!!

 

HUGS,

[curiousnomore]

You're a great guy and I'm glad we met. Looking forward to continuing our friendship well in to the future.

[JDXXX]

You're a great guy and I'm glad we met. Looking forward to continuing our friendship well in to the future.

 

Likewise, Curious as I'm glad of the bond we've developed in a short period of time as well. Very down-to-earth type of guy.

[JDXXX]

JD,

 

Please remember that....

 

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment".— Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Rock on my friend!

 

Brillant!!!!! Love it!!!! Will rock on, baby. :D