Sugguestions On How To Make Right Of Questionable Misunderstandings!!

[tanman4u]

JD the only ones who are dissing you for self-promoting are the ones who aren't doing as good of a job at it as you do and are jealous. It's called marketing. Do you know what they call a business that doesn't do any marketing or self promotion? CLOSED. (or soon to be). You could run a class on how to market yourself as an escort as you excel in advertising (13 listing from various websites on your own homepage), your communication skills prior to even meeting someone (I felt guilty about the amount of time you spent on the phone just getting to know me long before we met for our overnight), and your follow-up (thank you email and links to some of the review sites I wouldn't have even thought of). That, of course, on top of the superb actual product that you have and I can see why others might be envious enough to talk some smack about you. Don't let 'em get you down man. You ROCK as an escort and are one helluva business guy too. Keep on keeping on.

[JDXXX]

JD the only ones who are dissing you for self-promoting are the ones who aren't doing as good of a job at it as you do and are jealous. It's called marketing. Do you know what they call a business that doesn't do any marketing or self promotion? CLOSED. (or soon to be). You could run a class on how to market yourself as an escort as you excel in advertising (13 listing from various websites on your own homepage), your communication skills prior to even meeting someone (I felt guilty about the amount of time you spent on the phone just getting to know me long before we met for our overnight), and your follow-up (thank you email and links to some of the review sites I wouldn't have even thought of). That, of course, on top of the superb actual product that you have and I can see why others might be envious enough to talk some smack about you. Don't let 'em get you down man. You ROCK as an escort and are one helluva business guy too. Keep on keeping on.

 

Hello There, Tanman,

 

Have to admit, baby, your post is very inspiring, warm, and most of all - DEEP, but also real at the sametime. I wish those who have dissed me in the past about marketing and promoting my services would see things the way you as your right on how marketing and promoting works in the world we live in.

 

Maybe one day they will as it's common sense you have to put yourself out there in order to be noticed or you'll fail in being successful in any profession.

 

Just know, baby, I appreciate your love and support as your not only a client I enjoy being with, but another dear friend I have grew a close bond with that's special to me.

 

You're post means alot, and will take what you shared with me in this post as valuable information to treasure to apply in my everyday profession as an escort. . Never too young or old to learn from others life experiences, right? .

 

Hugs,

[+ stevenkesslar]

First off, I'll go with the crowd and do my best Bernie Sanders impersonation, and get the thing you are most concerned about out of the way. I am sick and tired of hearing about your damn self-promoting behavior. There is a word for escorts, or any other professionals, who are self-promoting. It is "successful."

 

The other thing I really most want to say is what I told you already. I think there are two kinds of friends in the world. The friends who tell you what you want to hear, and the friends who tell you what you need to hear.

 

I can be the first kind of friend to anyone easily, because all it involves is agreeing and sympathizing with any perspective, right or wrong. I actually don't view people who act this way as my friends. I view them as "yes men." But I can do that, when it seems appropriate, especially when its clear someone needs sympathy or a shoulder to cry on. Lord knows I need that sometimes.

 

I prefer people who allow me to be the second type of friend, which is somebody who sees the best people can be, and encourages them to be that. That sometimes involves telling people things they don't want to hear. I know those are the kinds of friends I like to have around me most of the time.

 

As a sincere and humble human being, I apologize to my fellow forum buddies if I have been misrepresented or unjustly viewed as being "Self-Promoting" just by clients giving praises in the past postings or myself at times responding a lot to those post which is NOT my intention or why I am on the forum.

 

I'll go with Friendship Model 1 on this one. The reasoning in this post is a little convoluted, so I had to read it about half a dozen times and think about it for a while. But the way I take this is that you feel you are unjustly misrepresented by some people, persecuted really, if I may use the word, for being "self promoting." You want to apologize for that, and let us know you are sincere and humble. There is, of course, no need to apologize for being persecuted. And you do have a sincere and good heart. I know that. So mostly I take this as a backdoor request for affirmation, support, and understanding. I'll add my voice to everyone else's on that. You're a kind and gentle person, and many people here really like you, including me.

 

In this post, maybe some of you can enlighten me on how to turn some of these negative issues about my personality being questioned (that were unintentional, and beyond my control of course) into a positive situation. Sometimes we need some uplifting advice on how to handle such situations before acting upon it in not such a kind way which is why I come to you all here on the forum

 

On this one, I'll go with Friendship Model Number 2. One of the reasons I know you're a good person is that you attract caring people who you ask for help, and who want to help you. Listen to them. Speaking for myself, that is the hardest thing to do in the world, and the best thing to do if you want to grow. The problem I have with the reasoning in this post is that in every paragraph of it you are asking questions that you have already answered for yourself.

 

If you are doing that because you need support, you have it.

 

If you are doing it because you want to grow, ask the question with an open heart and mind, and listen as carefully as you can to the answer.

 

Mary Poppins said it perfectly to the boy in the video. Do you want to be like him, or just like her - practically perfect in every way?

 

[Traveler North]

Hey JD, agree with Steven's thoughts. Be yourself. You cannot please everyone. You are in a business where you need to promote yourself. Just do what you need to do. I have only heard good things about you.

[JDXXX]

Hey JD, agree with Steven's thoughts. Be yourself. You cannot please everyone. You are in a business where you need to promote yourself. Just do what you need to do. I have only heard good things about you.

 

Hello There, TN -

 

Thank you very much for your input, and will be following, Steven's advice along with everyone else here on the forum who have posted they're kind thoughts and commits for which I appreciate dearly.

 

Just love and adore, Steven to death as he is such a wonderful friend, and a buddy of mine I am know has my back. He(like me) tells it like it is with no regrets, and I happen to like that more out of him as time goes on. Not just with him, but with anyone who is a real friend who is gonna tell me the truth in a kind, but gentle way of course(even if it may hurt to hear at times). LOL.

 

I know deep down you guys are guiding me out of love and concern. Only want what's best for me. Can't ask for more better friends in your life who look out for you, and your best interest at heart. .

 

Certainly will follow Steven's thoughts as you suggested. I realize his input and advice was all out of good intentions. Right Steven? .

[+ stevenkesslar]

Right, sweetie.

 

 

Always want the best for you.

 

P.S. Come to find out that if you don't have any sugar, a spoonful of lube helps it go down too.

[JDXXX]

Right, sweetie.

 

 

Always want the best for you.

 

P.S. Come to find out that if you don't have any sugar, a spoonful of lube helps it go down too.

 

I love how you and Marry Poppins have a "special" informative way of communicating to others in getting your points across. LOL. .

 

Very cute indeed.

OH NO.....Did you say.............LUUUUUUUBBBBEEEEE??????

 

Oh my, Steven - is that a "direct" invitation that can lead to swallowing something....."BIG"? . LOL.

 

You certainly know how to show a boy a good time nowadays. . So sweet of you to love and care for me that much buddy. ***Blushing***

 

I'll be sure to gulf down a 16 oz of "Wet Platinum" lube along with my Flintstone Vitamins once a day before bed time, so I can be sure to be up and ready for that baseball bat of a "joystick" I gotta swallow down the next day. LOL. .

 

I may wanna be careful as that can be one hell of a deadly combination for promoting something great in order to keep up with a "certain" talent.

[+ stevenkesslar]

I'll be sure to gulf down a 16 oz of "Wet Platinum" lube along with my Flintstone Vitamins once a day before bed time

 

Listen to Dr. Steven, sweetie. When making constructive criticism, sometimes less is more. Rule # 1 for mental health is this: "a dab will do ya."

 

[+ WilliamM]

The other thing I really most want to say is what I told you already. I think there are two kinds of friends in the world. The friends who tell you what you want to hear, and the friends who tell you what you need to hear

 

On friends who tell me what you need to hear:

 

My 6th grade teacher told me to try to be less shy, and be more aggressive. A month later she put me in charge of the school play. I have no idea how she knew I could write, direct, cast and take one of the lead roles -- all successfully. Even today I would never volunteer for something like that.

 

People are lucky to have someone who by instinct knows what you can do/be, better than you can yourself.

 

JD, you are very lucky to have steven in your life. :)

[MiamiLooker]

I doubt that any one who has met you, or talked with you on the phone has any problems, JD.

You may have missed JD’s posts in the travel thread of his bff on 10/9. Probably most readers missed them since the thread was only up for about 7 hours before all the posts except the original travel post were mercifully deleted. When is self-promotion too much? I don’t know, but the deleted posts might help to have answered that. Maybe when you begin using your friends, and then losing them over it? Considering the timing and the topic, the purpose of this current thread is to remind forum readers that Escort of the Year voting is next month. If it were up to me, I’d say just go ahead and give it to JD. Why even vote? No one’s campaigned for an entire year for EOY. I don’t recall any escort ever even campaigning at all. They’ve always let the process take its natural course. Maybe he needs it more than anyone else.

 

http://sunnycv.com/steve/projects/hanley/pictures/hanley1.jpg

[+ stevenkesslar]

I’d say just go ahead and give it to JD.

 

http://sunnycv.com/steve/projects/hanley/pictures/hanley1.jpg

 

I'm with ya on this one, Miami. I plan to vote for him.

 

But, really, in all fairness to JD. You have to admit he looks way prettier than the Queen in this picture.

[JDXXX]

You may have missed JD’s posts in the travel thread of his bff on 10/9. Probably most readers missed them since the thread was only up for about 7 hours before all the posts except the original travel post were mercifully deleted. When is self-promotion too much? I don’t know, but the deleted posts might help to have answered that. Maybe when you begin using your friends, and then losing them over it? Considering the timing and the topic, the purpose of this current thread is to remind forum readers that Escort of the Year voting is next month. If it were up to me, I’d say just go ahead and give it to JD. Why even vote? No one’s campaigned for an entire year for EOY. I don’t recall any escort ever even campaigning at all. They’ve always let the process take its natural course. Maybe he needs it more than anyone else.

 

http://sunnycv.com/steve/projects/hanley/pictures/hanley1.jpg

 

Wow. How rude. Not even gonna commit as none of this negativity is true. The only thing that's true out of Miami lookers post is about the 10/9 post that was deleted by Daddy for reasons nessersary for both parties best interest, and just surprised someone would go as far to make me look bad to bring it up back up. Very clever, sweetie.

 

May wanna be careful as I don't know if Daddy would be too happy about you bringing up something he intended to be of a dead subject as he had the post deleted for a reason.

 

Think about it.

 

I'm with ya on this one, Miami. I plan to vote for him.

 

But, really, in all fairness to JD. You have to admit he looks way prettier than the Queen in this picture.

 

Thank you, Steven for having my back as you know me from what you and others here on the forum have indicated in this thread - Miami looker doesn't know me too well as it shows in his commit. Myself and others feel he was quite negative in his post to say.

 

Just doesn't pay to be nasty to others as I'll let Daddy be the judge on this post as we both know the post dated back on 10/9 was deleted for "specific reasons" that was not beneficial for either party involved to look bad over, and don't think it was wise for Miami to have brought it up. Not wise at all as its only gonna open up a bad can of worms for him in the end.

 

After all - everyone's entitled to they're opinion as you can't please everyone, but he's only making himself look bad coming up with negative assumptions about me or other so-called "theories" that isn't true about my persona or over this EOY business/Self-promotion.

 

Who cares?? Lol.

 

What a shame to see someone behave this way toward me or anyone else in a negative manner, but we live and learn about people everyday, right? .

[+ stevenkesslar]

Wow. How rude. Not even gonna commit as none of this negativity is true. The only thing that's true out of Miami lookers post is about the 10/9 post that was deleted by Daddy for reasons nessersary for both parties best interest, and just surprised someone would go as far to make me look bad to bring it up back up. Very clever, sweetie.

 

May wanna be careful as I don't know if Daddy would be too happy about you bringing up something he intended to be of a dead subject as he had the post deleted for a reason.

 

Think about it.

 

 

 

Thank you, Steven for having my back as you know me from what you and others here on the forum have indicated in this thread - Miami looker doesn't know me too well as it shows in his commit. Myself and others feel he was quite negative in his post to say.

 

Just doesn't pay to be nasty to others as I'll let Daddy be the judge on this post as we both know the post dated back on 10/9 was deleted for "specific reasons" that was not beneficial for either party involved to look bad over, and don't think it was wise for Miami to have brought it up. Not wise at all as its only gonna open up a bad can of worms for him in the end.

 

After all - everyone's entitled to they're opinion as you can't please everyone, but he's only making himself look bad coming up with negative assumptions about me or other so-called "theories" that isn't true about my persona or over this EOY business/Self-promotion.

 

Who cares?? Lol.

 

What a shame to see someone behave this way toward me or anyone else in a negative manner, but we live and learn about people everyday, right?

 

You have my support, and my vote. But you also just took the bait, and made his point.

 

Mary Poppins apparently still has some work to do. Good thing she's got lots of patience, not to mention copious amounts of sugar.

[+ WilliamM]

You have my support, and my vote. But you also just took the bait, and made his point.

 

Mary Poppins apparently still has some work to do. Good thing she's got lots of patience, not to mention copious amounts of sugar.

 

Sorry, I need to repeat something. JD, you are very lucky to have Steven in your life. He is an extraordinary & wise person.

[TruHart1]

I doubt that any one who has met you, or talked with you on the phone has any problems, JD.

You may have missed JD’s posts in the travel thread of his bff on 10/9. Probably most readers missed them since the thread was only up for about 7 hours before all the posts except the original travel post were mercifully deleted. When is self-promotion too much? I don’t know, but the deleted posts might help to have answered that. Maybe when you begin using your friends, and then losing them over it? Considering the timing and the topic, the purpose of this current thread is to remind forum readers that Escort of the Year voting is next month. If it were up to me, I’d say just go ahead and give it to JD. Why even vote? No one’s campaigned for an entire year for EOY. I don’t recall any escort ever even campaigning at all. They’ve always let the process take its natural course. Maybe he needs it more than anyone else.

 

http://sunnycv.com/steve/projects/hanley/pictures/hanley1.jpg

 

WOW! In a thread asking for solutions for a possible perceived personality flaw or how to turn negativity into a positive, you had to take the whole thread in this negative direction, Miami. I agree with JD that inserting such rudeness is completely unsuitable and completely unhelpful in the matter. Do you have any positive ideas for how JD might try to amend your completely negative outlook about him or are you just trying to start a new flame war about JD Daniels here? I guess in some cases anonymity=no manners.

 

TruHart1

[JDXXX]

Sorry, I need to repeat something. JD, you are very lucky to have Steven in your life. He is an extraordinary & wise person.

 

Thank You, William for making me realize of my bond/friendship with Steven as I am very lucky to have such a wonderful, and wise person like him in my life. Very sweet of you to point those special qualities about him.

 

Now, I must point out something that must not be forgotten and that is that both of us my dear are wise and lucky to have each other.

 

We "both" together are there for one another as he's helped me along with Daddy though some tough times this year, and also along with Daddy was the very one to help me overcome some tough obstacles that'll help me further along in life for only the better.

 

Both Steven and I have a high level of respect and admiration for each other, and quite proud to have this wonderful man in my life I can call a dear and close friend to treasure for life as I agree with you - he is very wise, and extraordinarily special to me indeed. .

[+ WilliamM]

Thank You, William and do realize of my bond/friendship dearly with Steven as I am very lucky to have such a wonderful, and wise person like him in my life, but must point out we're both wise and lucky to have each other as we "both" together are there for one another as he's helped me along with Daddy though some tough times this year, and also along with Daddy was the very one to help me overcome some tough obstacles.

 

I was really only writing about posting on a message board because there is no way that I would know much else about your respective lives. Steven is far more skilled on message boards than many others including me.

 

JD, you are good too. I am sorry if I slighted you.

[JDXXX]

I was really only writing about posting on a message board because there is no way that I would know much else about your respective lives. Steven is far more skilled on message boards than many others including me.

 

JD, you are good too. I am sorry if I slighted you.

 

No worries, sweetie as I know you mean well, and had nothing but good intentions in your post.

[JDXXX]

WOW! In a thread asking for solutions for a possible perceived personality flaw or how to turn negativity into a positive, you had to take the whole thread in this negative direction, Miami. I agree with JD that inserting such rudeness is completely unsuitable and completely unhelpful in the matter. Do you have any positive ideas for how JD might try to amend your completely negative outlook about him or are you just trying to start a new flame war about JD Daniels here? I guess in some cases anonymity=no manners.

 

TruHart1

 

Well said, Truhart!! Beautifully put in the best way possible as I'm sure others would agree with you. You (along with Steven and many others here on the forum) know of my personality of one who is about peace and harmony amongst others, and not about negativity.

 

Not my style.

[JDXXX]

Listen to Dr. Steven, sweetie. When making constructive criticism, sometimes less is more. Rule # 1 for mental health is this: "a dab will do ya."

 

 

Very clever, video, " Sir Grasshopper or should I say - "Sir Budda"? .

[Juan Vancouver]

Hi JD,

 

I am going to take your word for it and I am going to assume it is true that you are asking all people with all opinions on this subject to participate, instead of writing a self-deprecatory post in order to receive a downpour of support. I absolutely take you at your word that you are a good Christian, well educated kind man. Also, before starting, I have to make clear that I don't dislike you, hate you, feel envious of you and have absolutely no ulterior motive to share my opinion other than answering your question and offering a differing point of view. Also, I think I want to be honest with you about why I have been resisting you on a personal level. I will try to be as impartial as I can.

 

The only way to answer this question is by relating the facts. This is the extent of my JD Daniels experience.

 

Last December I received an email from you. I had never heard about you, I had never read anything from you, we had never interacted in any way. The email read in a very intimate and over familiar tone, a tone that in my experience is only used by very, very close friends or by lovers. I found this strange but chucked it off to cultural differences. The email talked about how deeply you felt about me, how you valued our friendship and how my guidance had been of paramount importance for you. You then went directly to ask me to -using my ex-escort of the year vote, to vote for you for Escort Of The Year because you had never won anything in your life, because you really needed it and because at that point in your life it would mean so much for you. This was a very long, very intense, very mellifluous email.

 

I found it strange, I was somewhat impressed by your ingenuity (so far nobody had ever canvassed for escort of the year, let alone a perfect stranger) and very politely thanked you for your email and kind words and told you I would consider it.

 

The next day I received another similar email and a text message. I was impressed to see that you had actually typed both, since they were not facsimiles of the previous one but I was a little annoyed. You had made your case, I had heard it, it was time to let go and not waste my time. The next day, a new set appeared, and an extra text message. The next day again... This happened for maybe five days. By day six I was really fucking annoyed. I sent you a -still very polite- text message telling you that you had already said all that, that I had already heard you and I was thinking about it. I asked you to not ever text me or email me for this purpose. I told you I was very busy at the moment and could not waste unnecessary time.

 

A few seconds after I hit send, my phone rang. It was not a propitious time to talk. It was a very angry you demanding an explanation. I very politely told you it was not a good time to talk but you were not to be deterred. You got very confrontational and yelled at me on the phone, yelling things like "Sweetheart, I value our friendship so much and I am so hurt by this!" (Being we were not friends and had never talked before). I explained I had never heard about you and even then I would consider voting for you. You grew increasingly angry and your voice got louder, so much that people at breakfast could hear what you were saying. I tried to hang up the phone but you would not let me. 15 minutes later, I said I had to go and hung up. You called right away and kept me again five minutes even if every one of my sentences started with "Man, I cannot talk right now, I have to go."

 

After that call I saved your number as "JD DO NOT answer".

 

The emails didn't stop.

 

I didn't vote for you. I voted for the man who I thought had been deserving it for a long time, Andrew Justice. He didn't ask me. He didn't have a public voice, but consistently EVERY client that I met who had met Andrew had nothing but glassy eyes and Barbra Cartland style prose when reminiscing. Clearly he made an impression... every time.

 

The rest of the year you kept sending me private messages here asking me to participate on every thread that you had started about yourself. "Darling, there is a really interesting thread, it would be great to have your opinion", you would write. On top of that, totally ignoring our really uncomfortable experience on the phone, you kept asking when it was a good time for you to come to Vancouver to visit me and Thor so that we could show you around. Every time you asked I politely told you I couldn't commit and if coming here was only to visit us maybe we shouldn't plan anything.

 

Cut to the thread you started about yourself pondering "How much self-promotion is good? How many reviews are too many reviews?". You mentioned some people told you they mistrusted your reviews because you had amassed a hundred in a year, an outrageously unheard of number. You asked me to respond to the thread. I told you you might not like my response so I rather not. You kept messaging me asking me to post, until I did. My response was something like this:

 

"The best in the biz do their promotion with their work. Not through canvassing. This is not a political campaign, this is a very private, intimate service. You don't see Andrew Justice, Steven Kesslar, Steven Draker, Tristan Baldwin, David SF, to name a few of the very successful escorts we know of, come here to talk about how wonderful people they are, how they are the best, how they deserve to win anything. You don't see them canvassing people for votes of insisting they write a review. They are the best, because they go to work, and do their best work DURING their sessions. When they use their public voice is to help people better understand sex and intimacy and general stuff. NOT to talk about how amazing they are, NOT to ask people to talk about how amazing they are."

 

I am sure you are one wonderful man and I am convinced you are convinced you are a sweet, loving, kind, gentle creature. I have also experienced first hand the other side. I have been yelled at by you, I have been accused by you and have had my privacy aggressively invaded by your desperate need to make me do something for you.

 

I am not the only one. In this very thread Miamilooker posted something you didn't like and you wrote something that reads as a subtle threat.

 

I am not Anti-JD. I am not Pro-JD. I am pretty neutral about you. I think you have every right to want to receive as many accolades and acknowledgment as you need and you have every right to promote yourself as much as you think it's ok. If I responded to this thread it's because I think you have been puzzled by my resistance to engage with you and I think you have the right to have all the facts.

 

I am sure you genuinely think you can get along with everyone, but my man, that is impossible. There will be a lot of people with whom you won't be compatible and you will only ruff each other's feathers. Accept this. Enjoy the ones with whom you can connect, forget the rest.

 

If you want to canvass for escort of the year, go for it! Who gives a shit if people don't like it? But by George, I beg you, don't canvass me.

 

You have a big following, your personality suits a lot of people... Mazel Tov! Focus on those! Honour those! Make sure you try to keep those ones happy, and for Jesus Christ don't attack people who disagree with you. It only makes you look bad and makes them look right.

 

Some people think a compliment is only true when you don't ask for it, some people think all compliments are music to their ear. There is no right, there is no wrong. Just make sure to remember you will not be able to get everyone on your side.

 

I sincerely wish you a fulfilling, exciting, heartwarming life. And, my my brother:

 

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”

 

― Bernard M. Baruch

[MiamiLooker]

Hi JD,

 

I am going to take your word for it and I am going to assume it is true that you are asking all people with all opinions on this subject to participate, instead of writing a self-deprecatory post in order to receive a downpour of support. I absolutely take you at your word that you are a good Christian, well educated kind man. Also, before starting, I have to make clear that I don't dislike you, hate you, feel envious of you and have absolutely no ulterior motive to share my opinion other than answering your question and offering a differing point of view. Also, I think I want to be honest with you about why I have been resisting you on a personal level. I will try to be as impartial as I can.

 

The only way to answer this question is by relating the facts. This is the extent of my JD Daniels experience.

 

Last December I received an email from you. I had never heard about you, I had never read anything from you, we had never interacted in any way. The email read in a very intimate and over familiar tone, a tone that in my experience is only used by very, very close friends or by lovers. I found this strange but chucked it off to cultural differences. The email talked about how deeply you felt about me, how you valued our friendship and how my guidance had been of paramount importance for you. You then went directly to ask me to -using my ex-escort of the year vote, to vote for you for Escort Of The Year because you had never won anything in your life, because you really needed it and because at that point in your life it would mean so much for you. This was a very long, very intense, very mellifluous email.

 

I found it strange, I was somewhat impressed by your ingenuity (so far nobody had ever canvassed for escort of the year, let alone a perfect stranger) and very politely thanked you for your email and kind words and told you I would consider it.

 

The next day I received another similar email and a text message. I was impressed to see that you had actually typed both, since they were not facsimiles of the previous one but I was a little annoyed. You had made your case, I had heard it, it was time to let go and not waste my time. The next day, a new set appeared, and an extra text message. The next day again... This happened for maybe five days. By day six I was really fucking annoyed. I sent you a -still very polite- text message telling you that you had already said all that, that I had already heard you and I was thinking about it. I asked you to not ever text me or email me for this purpose. I told you I was very busy at the moment and could not waste unnecessary time.

 

A few seconds after I hit send, my phone rang. It was not a propitious time to talk. It was a very angry you demanding an explanation. I very politely told you it was not a good time to talk but you were not to be deterred. You got very confrontational and yelled at me on the phone, yelling things like "Sweetheart, I value our friendship so much and I am so hurt by this!" (Being we were not friends and had never talked before). I explained I had never heard about you and even then I would consider voting for you. You grew increasingly angry and your voice got louder, so much that people at breakfast could hear what you were saying. I tried to hang up the phone but you would not let me. 15 minutes later, I said I had to go and hung up. You called right away and kept me again five minutes even if every one of my sentences started with "Man, I cannot talk right now, I have to go."

 

After that call I saved your number as "JD DO NOT answer".

 

The emails didn't stop.

 

I didn't vote for you. I voted for the man who I thought had been deserving it for a long time, Andrew Justice. He didn't ask me. He didn't have a public voice, but consistently EVERY client that I met who had met Andrew had nothing but glassy eyes and Barbra Cartland style prose when reminiscing. Clearly he made an impression... every time.

 

The rest of the year you kept sending me private messages here asking me to participate on every thread that you had started about yourself. "Darling, there is a really interesting thread, it would be great to have your opinion", you would write. On top of that, totally ignoring our really uncomfortable experience on the phone, you kept asking when it was a good time for you to come to Vancouver to visit me and Thor so that we could show you around. Every time you asked I politely told you I couldn't commit and if coming here was only to visit us maybe we shouldn't plan anything.

 

Cut to the thread you started about yourself pondering "How much self-promotion is good? How many reviews are too many reviews?". You mentioned some people told you they mistrusted your reviews because you had amassed a hundred in a year, an outrageously unheard of number. You asked me to respond to the thread. I told you you might not like my response so I rather not. You kept messaging me asking me to post, until I did. My response was something like this:

 

"The best in the biz do their promotion with their work. Not through canvassing. This is not a political campaign, this is a very private, intimate service. You don't see Andrew Justice, Steven Kesslar, Steven Draker, Tristan Baldwin, David SF, to name a few of the very successful escorts we know of, come here to talk about how wonderful people they are, how they are the best, how they deserve to win anything. You don't see them canvassing people for votes of insisting they write a review. They are the best, because they go to work, and do their best work DURING their sessions. When they use their public voice is to help people better understand sex and intimacy and general stuff. NOT to talk about how amazing they are, NOT to ask people to talk about how amazing they are."

 

I am sure you are one wonderful man and I am convinced you are convinced you are a sweet, loving, kind, gentle creature. I have also experienced first hand the other side. I have been yelled at by you, I have been accused by you and have had my privacy aggressively invaded by your desperate need to make me do something for you.

 

I am not the only one. In this very thread Miamilooker posted something you didn't like and you wrote something that reads as a subtle threat.

 

I am not Anti-JD. I am not Pro-JD. I am pretty neutral about you. I think you have every right to want to receive as many accolades and acknowledgment as you need and you have every right to promote yourself as much as you think it's ok. If I responded to this thread it's because I think you have been puzzled by my resistance to engage with you and I think you have the right to have all the facts.

 

I am sure you genuinely think you can get along with everyone, but my man, that is impossible. There will be a lot of people with whom you won't be compatible and you will only ruff each other's feathers. Accept this. Enjoy the ones with whom you can connect, forget the rest.

 

If you want to canvass for escort of the year, go for it! Who gives a shit if people don't like it? But by George, I beg you, don't canvass me.

 

You have a big following, your personality suits a lot of people... Mazel Tov! Focus on those! Honour those! Make sure you try to keep those ones happy, and for Jesus Christ don't attack people who disagree with you. It only makes you look bad and makes them look right.

 

Some people think a compliment is only true when you don't ask for it, some people think all compliments are music to their ear. There is no right, there is no wrong. Just make sure to remember you will not be able to get everyone on your side.

 

I sincerely wish you a fulfilling, exciting, heartwarming life. And, my my brother:

 

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”

 

― Bernard M. Baruch

What would Mary Poppins do?

[+ stevenkesslar]

I sincerely wish you a fulfilling, exciting, heartwarming life. And, my brother:

 

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”

 

I can't bring myself to hit the "like" button on that, Juan. And you don't get my vote for being as sweet as Mary Poppins would be.

 

This (meaning what Juan wrote) is actually a little bit more like the prophets in the Old Testament. Blunt, painful to hear, and I suspect difficult to write. But fundamentally grounded in truth.

 

The purpose of such prophecies was to warn those who would not listen of the coming judgment. And to offer hope and grace to those who listened and obeyed.

 

Who'd a thunk a prophet could have an ass like Juan's?

 

This moment is not about tearing apart assholes, though. It's about opening up hearts.

 

I can only repeat what I said already. Open your heart and listen, my friend. This is an excellent moment to stop hearing what you want people to tell you, and listen to what people who you have moved through your goodness are actually saying.

 

Remember that the whole point of prophecy was that no matter how good we are, or try to be, we all have infinite goodness within us. We all can be better than we think we are. That, to me, is the real prize to be won.

[+ stevenkesslar]

What would Mary Poppins do?

 

No brainer.

 

[MiamiLooker]

WOW! In a thread asking for solutions for a possible perceived personality flaw or how to turn negativity into a positive, you had to take the whole thread in this negative direction, Miami. I agree with JD that inserting such rudeness is completely unsuitable and completely unhelpful in the matter. Do you have any positive ideas for how JD might try to amend your completely negative outlook about him or are you just trying to start a new flame war about JD Daniels here? I guess in some cases anonymity=no manners.

 

TruHart1

 

JD asked for suggestions. I suggested not using friends and then losing those friends over trying to promote oneself. I’d say that’s a pretty helpful suggestion. What better suggestions has he gotten in this thread? JD was correct about one thing. The deleted posts I mentioned involved two posters. However, the deleted posts only made one of them look bad (really bad). And take note, JD is the only one of them whining about it.

 

I’ll offer another suggestion: in answer to his question on how not to be perceived as a phony is (drumroll): DON’T BE A PHONY

 

JD, I hope the pic I posted didn’t mislead you. The Escort of the Year doesn’t actually get a crown. Maybe someone can make one for you:

 

TIN CAN CROWN