Is it normal for escorts not to climax during the session?

[TruthBTold]

Amen.

 

That is very, very true. But what I have found frustrating is that companions, paid or not, don't communicate the fact that they are being pleasured. I think the more you let your partner know that you are really enjoying what they are doing to you the less the emphasis on cum there might be. I guess this is similar to wanting a partner to do a specific sexual act. If they don't know you like your toes sucked then there is a chance they won't do it and you may just have to ask them to do it. Certainly, however, if one person absolutely has to see or feel cum at the end of a session then cum it has to be. But I think more pleasure communication would really help.

[Rudynate]

That is very, very true. But what I have found frustrating is that companions, paid or not, don't communicate the fact that they are being pleasured. I think the more you let your partner know that you are really enjoying what they are doing to you the less the emphasis on cum there might be. I guess this is similar to wanting a partner to do a specific sexual act. If they don't know you like your toes sucked then there is a chance they won't do it and you may just have to ask them to do it. Certainly, however, if one person absolutely has to see or feel cum at the end of a session then cum it has to be. But I think more pleasure communication would really help.

 

I agree.

[+ Truereview]

Well, one thing is apparent - different folks, different strokes when it comes to climaxing...client or companion alike. Personally, i like to diversify my "portfolio" with cummers or non-cummers, strategic or tactical partners, organic partners or actors, and such criteria. This assures me i can select the right fit for my mood. To MikeG's amazing post, we clients should also have a plan and work it to OUR advantage. Ok, gents, may your planning bring you joy!

[geminibear]

If you're gonna manage your performance to that degree based on your schedule, perhaps you're overscheduling.

 

So after thinking about this some (oh the things I think about on a Saturday afternoon in the fall) this is probably why I choose to make overnight and weekend appointments. Now there isn't that competing schedule. I know these are much more costly. But personally I would rather hire only 4-5 times a year with each session being of high quality that I am truly satisfied with at the end, rather than lots of short sessions which may or may not leaving me wanting or unfulfilled.

 

I also realize that everybody's sexual appetite, needs, desires, and finances are different.

 

No one size fits all answer.

 

Gem~

[liubit]

I always cum with my escort and I used to get frustrated when he did not. Now, I care less and less whether he cums or not. I think age has made me selfish: I finally understood that pleasure is ALL about me!

 

However, I really enjoy swallowing. Not necessarily because of the taste of cum (which I find nothing to write home about, even if not terribly unpleasant), but because I find it very very hot to see my partner moaning and squirming as I delicately lick and tease his over sensitive glans when he is shooting his load...Priceless. It makes me very happy when it happens, But if it does not, well, I now think it is HIS loss!

[Juan Vancouver]

That is very, very true. But what I have found frustrating is that companions, paid or not, don't communicate the fact that they are being pleasured.

 

I totally know what you mean! However, if escorting has taught me something it's that ALL lovers are communicating clearly at all times. Sure, there are the ones that are there laying like a mummy without making a noise or even moving and there are the loud ones, narrating in a stentorian falsetto every thing that happens, but I have learned that the communication of pleasure happens way beyond words or actions. Its the body the one who is clear at all times. A little cringe, a little sigh, muscles relaxing, breath being held, cock getting a little harder or softer, pulling back, getting a little closer, breathing changing rhythm...

 

Sometimes people are saying that they are having the time of their lives when in reality they are saying that because they want to be polite... but the body never lies.

 

Sure, it would be nicer if there was an ideal world in which ALL lovers communicated verbally and honestly at all times during intimacy, but you'd be better off learning to listen than trying to teach everyone.

[craigville beach]

As a client and a bottom it is important to me that the escort reach a climax. I am what I would say is an active participating bottom and enjoy seeing the top I am with enjoying himself. I get pleasure see him having pleasure. Notice I said climax, not cum.

[+ glennnn]

OMG! This whole thread makes me painfully hard. I don't care who cums or who doesn't. I just have a genuine, disingenuous ( and prurient) interest in reading what you- real men, escorts and clients- have to say about what makes you cum, when you cum, when you don't cum, when you cum an ounce or when you cum a gallon. Do you all realize that as recently as 10 to 15 years ago we couldn't share and celebrate our homosexuality, because m/m sex was a crime in many parts of the U.S.? You guys are so open and awesome. I am so grateful I lived long enough to see it.

[+ Gar1eth]

As a client and a bottom it is important to me that the escort reach a climax. I am what I would say is an active participating bottom and enjoy seeing the top I am with enjoying himself. I get pleasure see him having pleasure. Notice I said climax, not cum.

 

Have you met many guys who climax without cuming-or are you saying that your interest is in the feeling accompanying cuming-ie, climax-without any interest in actual ejaculation? I mean there are medical conditions and certain drugs that can prevent ejaculation or cause retrograde ejaculation (where semen enters the bladder). And there are some guys-reportedly some yogis or students of certain eastern 'philosophies' who reportedly are multiorgasmic with ejaculating-but these aren't the usual cases.

 

Gman

[Wolfer]

And there are some guys-reportedly some yogis or students of certain eastern 'philosophies' who reportedly are multiorgasmic with ejaculating-but these aren't the usual cases.

I can attest to this. I have been doing energy conscious exercices for years now and I can (multi-)orgasm with or without actual ejaculation.

But this is very hard to do when there's another guy involved, because I get distracted. The techniques for orgasm control actually require a lot of inward focus and sustained concentration, not something that's easy when there's a smoking hot guy right in front of you. So I've had most success with this while masturbating.

[geminibear]

I can attest to this. I have been doing energy conscious exercices for years now and I can (multi-)orgasm with or without actual ejaculation.

But this is very hard to do when there's another guy involved, because I get distracted. The techniques for orgasm control actually require a lot of inward focus and sustained concentration, not something that's easy when there's a smoking hot guy right in front of you. So I've had most success with this while masturbating.

 

Oh grasshopper

[gregkidman]

Cumming sometimes mean that the escort couldn't get hard again to continue the session. So as I got older, it got to the point that the pleasure is about me. However, I get turned on if the escort also takes pleasure in the session too. Sometimes I say, 'fuck me as if you want to cum' just to see if I can handle his 'fast-n-furious' instead of my 'fast-n-furious' and then after a minute or two, I would say to him, 'okay, okay' to get him back to 'our moment' instead of 'his moment.'

If I happen to know that the escort is 'edging' -- that's a huge turn on for me. Yet I never really communicate this to escorts -- it feels like I am expecting them to be a trained seal (to borrow from an earlier post).

If there is an escort that excel at edging or at least produce a steady stream of pre-cum, I want to meet!

[Rudynate]

I can attest to this. I have been doing energy conscious exercices for years now and I can (multi-)orgasm with or without actual ejaculation.

 

This has happened to me inadvertently a few times. I have worked to bring it under conscious control, but it still eludes me. It seems very difficult to decouple orgasm and ejaculation.

[big-n-tall]

If a guy doesn't cum I'm ok with it, especially if they tell me they think they can't. However, I do like it very much when they do. I like it even more so if I know I make them precum a lot and ultimately make a big mess all over.

[+ Gar1eth]

If there is an escort that excel at edging or at least produce a steady stream of pre-cum, I want to meet!

 

I don't know if he is still escorting. But on a meeting with Skye Woods, he produced a continual 'river' of pre-cum that amounted to more than my actual cum. And then when he finally did cum, the amount was really large.

 

http://www.daddysreviews.com/search/Inactive/Skye/skye_woods_atlanta

 

http://www.daddysreviews.com/images/skye_woods_atlanta_20120912.jpg

 

Gman

[MmM]

If it's not too personal, may I ask if you trained yourself to that or have you always been that way? I'm at the other end of the spectrum unfortunately. I've always been amazed at how much stimulation some escorts can take without orgasming when I would have cum long before.

 

As for the the OP's question-I like to see when the guy orgasms. I especially like it if they can orgasm while I'm topping them. But I understand it's not always possible. #1 not all guys can cum while being topped. #2. Possibly they can while being topped but I may not be a good enough top to get them to cum. #3. They may have just cum recently. #4. They may need to save it if they are going to see other clients later.

 

Gman

 

I just finding it pleasurable and a turn on to see them cum during the session. And it's always been the case until these last few years that they seem to hold back. It's not a must for me but certainly a big turn on and a more pleasurable experience as a whole.

[MmM]

Of course you can say whatever you want to say. Don't hold back. Especially be clear if him having an orgasm will make you believe the session was successful.

 

Legalities aside, (in most parts of the world buying a sex act or a bodily fluid is illegal) I personally do not promise or negotiate any physical outcome. Especially an orgasm. I love having fun and enjoying a pleasurable time together, and if this leads to one or more orgasms, then that's great. For me, however, pleasure happens all throughout the process. Ejaculate is a very poor gauge of whether or not I had fun.

 

If you MUST see someone cum or you won't be able to tick the box, then be very clear in the booking process. If you told me "you have to cum or else" I would politely decline the session because I take a lot of pride in offering an organic, human, genuine, fully present experience, not a mechanical, automated, pre-planned one. I will not force myself to do anything to please someone. That is not my job.

 

Some people crave the service I provide, some others need to tick the boxes in the sexual shopping list. There is no right or wrong, but you must make sure that you meet with escorts who understand what you expect and agree with it, otherwise you will always feel shortchanged and unfairly will think they underperformed.

 

This is not to say I don't cum. I love cumming and I do it as often as I can, but I don't cum on command and don't come all the time.

 

A lot of clients say that the most important thing for them is to give their escort pleasure, and for that reason they must come to prove they were successful at that. I find this logic sadly self-defeating. Pleasure is given all throughout the session and there's thousand opportunities to do this. The problem with this logic is that if you need a quart of cum to prove he had a good time it is necessarily because you were not paying attention to your partner's cues. Had you paid attention, you would know you have been giving him pleasure. Furthermore, if in order to prove you are giving him pleasure you are cornering him to prove this to you by cumming, then I assure you there is absolutely nothing sexy, fun or pleasurable about it.

 

Try to remember how many otherwise amazing sessions of yours ended with twenty really uncomfortable minutes of a desperate escort furiously jerking off trying to make himself orgasm. The interaction is lost, the connection is gone, mutual pleasure doesn't matter. He is gone to a secret place where only he and his fantasies live to try to get himself to that place.

 

When after twenty minutes of furious jerking he actually came... was it enjoyable for you? Did it look as if you gave him this orgasm? Do you think that was a pleasurable experience for him?

 

Demanding your partner to cum is akin to forcing him to bottom. Sure, an experienced man might be able to do it to fulfill you, but I assure you that if it didn't happen organically, it didn't feel good.

 

Pay attention to your partner. Listen to his sounds and his body. You might be shocked by how much pleasure you are giving him without knowing. I assure you that if you pay attention to that, his orgasm will not be a must have or else... and if there is no pressure, there is pleasure,. which means sometimes you might actually reach that point organically.

 

Sex and intimacy is about being present, being real, being organic, together.

 

Best answer I was looking for. Just let your turn-ons be known and let it happen organically. Perhaps I hire very attractive escorts to buy a fantasy of being with someone of his physical caliber who may be attracted to me just as much. And for me this translates to him climaxing because it is uncontrollable. But there are way to many factors involved from physical attraction, dynamics of the interaction, other clients, physical status, etc that come into play. And having them climax as a gauge is a self sabotage. Paying attention to the details of the encounter would be more reasonable. And if we can smile, talk, and laugh pleasantly after sex, then that would be a better indication of good chemistry. Lord knows I can't come more than once a day. Lol.

[Brian Kevin]

I only have one word to say.

CockRing.

 

The End.

 

Side note.

 

I only see 1-2 guys a day then I shut down shop for the day.

 

I can't live with myself hooking up with 5-10 dudes in a day, I LOVE money, but I love my discretion and safety even more!

[down_to_business]

I don't know if he is still escorting. But on a meeting with Skye Woods, he produced a continual 'river' of pre-cum that amounted to more than my actual cum. And then when he finally did cum, the amount was really large.

 

http://www.daddysreviews.com/search/Inactive/Skye/skye_woods_atlanta

 

http://www.daddysreviews.com/images/skye_woods_atlanta_20120912.jpg

 

Gman

 

Ditto for Jason Markus of New York mentioned in another thread on here. Seemed to be able to cum at will and had a never ending supply.