Social Crutch

[Odinochka]

I was reading on another thread a post by a former escort in which he stated that he saw his escorting partly as a social crutch. By social crutches, I mean things one will use or do to make it easier to be around people or to communicate with them. Or perhaps things to make it easier for one to avoid people or avoid them speaking to them.

 

Since I have never hired, and have no experience as the Jane Gooddall of male escorts, I was wondering if those you who have hired a bit think that some escorts do in fact use their work as a social crutch? This is not me attempting to be rude--I am merely curious...

[+ poolboy48220]

One of the dancers I chat with quite a bit just got a very very good job - working lots of hours, good hourly rate, tons of overtime at time and a half. There's no conceivable way he needs the money from dancing, but he says he keeps that as his social job - it gets him out and talking to people. He's got very little interaction with other people at his day job.

[corndog]

There is one escort that I know of that seemed to use Rentboy almost as a hookup site. I think he was genuinely into older guys and perhaps fetishized the payment aspect. When I did the math, the low rate that he charged barely covered the cost of the hotel room that he rented specifically to accommodate an incall. I suspect that advertising on Rentboy was the best way he knew of to meet the kind of men that he liked.

[jawjateck]

I have no info regarding this phenomenon. The primary motive of the hobby continues to be commerce....from my experience.

 

I need to branch out more and find these lads who want to be with me, just because I'm me.

[body2body]

I connected with a guy through Craig's List in 2006. Handsome and muscular, and very into a fetish of mine. We had been seeing each other for a few years a couple of times a month. One day I was asked by a business associate to join LinkedIn. I agreed, and the site searched through my contacts to find other people I knew who were enrolled in the site. Much to my surprise, my escort appeared on the list. He was an top executive with a major enterprise. I realized that he was doing this because he liked the idea of being paid, not because he needed the money, but because he enjoyed the validation of being hot enough to be paid for his company.

[Odinochka]

There is one escort that I know of that seemed to use Rentboy almost as a hookup site. I think he was genuinely into older guys and perhaps fetishized the payment aspect. When I did the math, the low rate that he charged barely covered the cost of the hotel room that he rented specifically to accommodate an incall. I suspect that advertising on Rentboy was the best way he knew of to meet the kind of men that he liked.

 

Interesting...

 

Was it older men in general, or was there a specific type of older man?

 

Now, that brings up another thought--do some escorts who do not need to escort for financial reasons escort because they seek certain types of men, and advertising as as an escort brings that type of men to them instead of them having to hunt these men out?

 

(I knew I should have gone into clinical psychology...too late for that)

[Odinochka]

I connected with a guy through Craig's List in 2006. Handsome and muscular, and very into a fetish of mine. We had been seeing each other for a few years a couple of times a month. One day I was asked by a business associate to join LinkedIn. I agreed, and the site searched through my contacts to find other people I knew who were enrolled in the site. Much to my surprise, my escort appeared on the list. He was an top executive with a major enterprise. I realized that he was doing this because he liked the idea of being paid, not because he needed the money, but because he enjoyed the validation of being hot enough to be paid for his company.

 

Did the interaction continue after you put the pieces together?

[corndog]

Was it older men in general, or was there a specific type of older man?

 

I don't really know how specific his "type" was, but there were other interesting elements to the situation, if you really want to analyze it. He was a very small guy -- short and slim, so I think it is quite possible that he was attracted to the opposite -- big, tall guys like me.

 

Also, although he advertised in the escort section of Rentboy, the text of his ad focused on massage. This created an interesting dynamic, almost a role-playing situation: The masseur is, in a way, the dominant role, controlling the action. Given his small size, this was probably a role reversal for him... it would be natural for him to be dominated by just about anybody that he was rolling around with. Also, the masseur is all about providing pleasure to the client, and like many people, he seemed to be genuinely turned on by "giving pleasure." It isn't my nature to enjoy a one-sided experience, so it eventually shifted to something more reciprocal, but I think he might have been perfectly happy if I would have remained a completely passive recipient to his affections.

 

To me, it is very, very interesting to try to understand the full motivations of the guys we hire. For many, it is strictly dollars and cents, but for others, there are a lot of other factors at play.

[Odinochka]

Sounds like he might have a Daddy Complex....and not the negative connotation of that phrase.

[nate_sf]

There is one escort that I know of that seemed to use Rentboy almost as a hookup site. I think he was genuinely into older guys and perhaps fetishized the payment aspect. When I did the math, the low rate that he charged barely covered the cost of the hotel room that he rented specifically to accommodate an incall. I suspect that advertising on Rentboy was the best way he knew of to meet the kind of men that he liked.

 

Coincidentally just the other night I was watching a movie on Netflix called "Gerontophilia." It's by Bruce La Bruce and came out in 2013. It features a very handsome young French Canadian guy who really is truly and genuinely into older guys. It makes for good watching if you haven't seen it.

[+ purplekow]

I know of one escort who only has sex with clients and most of his social interaction is with clients. Otherwise, he lives off in a rather secluded area. So perhaps he is a workaholic and needs the isolation for recuperation or maybe he likes the idea of social interaction without social obligation.

[big-n-tall]

Coincidentally just the other night I was watching a movie on Netflix called "Gerontophilia." It's by Bruce La Bruce and came out in 2013. It features a very handsome young French Canadian guy who really is truly and genuinely into older guys. It makes for good watching if you haven't seen it.

 

It's not about Mike Gaite or Chris E. is it?

 

And no that's not a slight against either of these fine gentlemen. I've seen and like both.