is it THAT dick or MY dick?

[winston]

Now for an issue more important than the fiscal crisis in Greece.

 

Why do men in porno movies use the pronoun "that" when referencing parts of their anatomy? eg, "Suck THAT dick" or "Oh yeah, f**k THAT ass." Wouldn't it make more sense for him to reference his body part as though it was his own? eg, "Suck MY dick" or "Yeah, f**k MY ass." It's not like there are 5 dicks in the room and he needs to reference a specific dick: "Suck THAT dick... No, not THAT dick! THAT one over there!"

 

Imagine yourself in a sexy situation and you want to encourage your partner to go at a part of your anatomy with enthusiasm. Would you use "that" or "my" to reference thatt part of your anatomy?

[thickornotatall]

Now for an issue more important than the fiscal crisis in Greece.

 

Why do men in porno movies use the pronoun "that" when referencing parts of their anatomy? eg, "Suck THAT dick" or "Oh yeah, f**k THAT ass." Wouldn't it make more sense for him to reference his body part as though it was his own? eg, "Suck MY dick" or "Yeah, f**k MY ass." It's not like there are 5 dicks in the room and he needs to reference a specific dick: "Suck THAT dick... No, not THAT dick! THAT one over there!"

 

Imagine yourself in a sexy situation and you want to encourage your partner to go at a part of your anatomy with enthusiasm. Would you use "that" or "my" to reference thatt part of your anatomy?

I'm not a fan of dirty talk....more of an action guy...it all sounds so phony and a waste of good saliva....

[+ purplekow]

I would use either interchangeably but admit that i prefer suck that dick. Or I am going to fuck that ass.

It does serve to depersonalize the act which, when dealing with power as part of the sexual equation, puts the speaker in a position of power. He is, after all, the one distancing himself from his sex partner. You don't get to suck my dick, you get to suck the dick i tell you to suck, that dick, even if there are only two in the room. You don't own that ass, i own that ass so it is not your ass, it is that ass that I am going to fuck.

[mike carey]

To me it's a rhetorical device to emphasise encouragement for someone to do something or to keep doing what they are doing, and depersonalisation or power dynamics are not important. 'Suck that dick' would sound just as natural if it was an audience yelling at a couple performing on a stage. 'Fuck that arse' and 'Take that dick' both also sound natural to me (from a linguistic point of view I hasten to add), and the participants in the act concerned could say them simultaneously. The 'that' construction works in other contexts as well. However, if a soccer player was at the penalty spot, 'Kick that ball', and 'Kick the ball', would carry somewhat different meanings.

[winston]

It took the escort I hired last week about 5 seconds to figure out how much I wanted to suck his dick. He got his cloths off, kicked back on the couch and positioned his legs wide and inviting. He knew he had my full attention and quietly and firmly said "Suck my cock." It was perfect. It was hot. I did exactly as instructed. But had he said "Suck THAT cock" I would probably have looked around the room for another cock...either that or laughed at how contrived it sounded. I think referencing your own cock as "my cock" sounds more natural than calling your own cock "that cock" and I want my porno to sound natural. But that's just me.

[+ poolboy48220]

Didn't that turn of phrase start with Jeff Stryker's movies?

[Guest Starbuck]

SUCK THAT COCK suggests a degree of detachment (from both the cock and the blowjob). SUCK MY COCK displays pride of ownership.

 

I'm not a fan of dirty talk....more of an action guy...it all sounds so phony and a waste of good saliva....

 

 

Hilarious! But I wonder ... is that partly because so few guys are really good at dirty talk? Find one who is and it can be ... oh, let's see ... the cream in your coffee ... the frosting on the cake ... [insert additional metaphors here].

[whipped guy]

I always tell the guy to, "Lick the sweat off MY balls!" in order to get things started. That way if I get distracted and inadvertently then say, "Now suck THAT cock!" he is already in the correct position and there is no confusion what so ever.

 

Heck if I were to say, "Suck THAT cock!" initially he might think that I wanted him to perform auto-fellatio. That might turn him into a pretzel, he would throw his back out of whack, and the session would be over! I would never take that chance!

[bigvalboy]

Hmmmm...THAT /THIS/ MY...in the heat of the moment, does it really make a difference? As long as they add DADDY or PAPI to the end of that phrase, I'm good to go.

[AdamSmith]

Come to think, there is one case where "that" instead of "my" could be meaningful.

 

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-cngqag7VePI/UsX1L0_7jAI/AAAAAAAAAZY/zofG9QBhKJc/s1600/double+penis.jpg

 

[Steven_Draker]

I'm surprised nobody suggested to name it: Lil' Billy and Lil' Willy

[whipped guy]

I'm surprised nobody suggested to name it: Lil' Billy and Lil' Willy

One should NEVER reference it as a Lil' anything!!!

 

Funny story. Once a friend's five year old daughter was in a restaurant. When there was a lull in the room the kid suddenly yelled out, "My daddy has a penis!" He then admonished his daughter never to say that in public. Never again!!!!

 

However, he wanted to add that if she were ever to do it again she was to say, "My daddy has a BIG penis!"

 

True story!

[thickornotatall]

One should NEVER reference it as a Lil' anything!!!

 

Funny story. Once a friend's five year old daughter was in a restaurant. When there was a lull in the room the kid suddenly yelled out, "My daddy has a penis!" He then admonished his daughter never to say that in public. Never again!!!!

 

However, he wanted to add that if she were ever to do it again she was to say, "My daddy has a BIG penis!"

 

True story!

good for him....important to have a good opinion of yourself....(I'd like to see for myself...was that Olive Garden?)

[+ SundayZip]

...He knew he had my full attention and quietly and firmly said "Suck my cock."

 

Your guy certainly did better than a guy I hired a couple years ago who suddenly went into a "suck that cock" routine that sounded so silly that I asked him to shut up. In hindsight, I wish I had thanked him for his effort and then worked with him to improve his dirty-talk skills.

[thickornotatall]

Your guy certainly did better than a guy I hired a couple years ago who suddenly went into a "suck that cock" routine that sounded so silly that I asked him to shut up. In hindsight, I wish I had thanked him for his effort and then worked with him to improve his dirty-talk skills.

boner killer indeed....add some fake moaning to that...

[Phil_musc]

I'd like to offer another p-o-v: "suck that cock" sounds vaguely autistic to me, like the speaker is using the third person to refer to himself and his dick. It seems that it is only appropriate to say "suck that cock" at orgies or back room bars.

[+ Gar1eth]

Hmmmm...THAT /THIS/ MY...in the heat of the moment, does it really make a difference? As long as they add DADDY or PAPI to the end of that phrase, I'm good to go.

 

I'm not sure I really like 'DADDY' but I know I definitely don't like 'PAPI'. Imagining PAPI-I just get the mental image of a really effeminate guy saying it. I'm thinking it must because when someone utters that word in a movie sex scene-it's usually either used by a woman-often often one depicted as very low class-or by a really effeminate guy.

 

Gman

[+ Gar1eth]

boner killer indeed....add some fake moaning to that...

 

I don't like moaning. I'm fairly quiet during sex. And I know I'm not that great at it. So I know everybody has their own little peccadilloes during sex. But moans almost always sound fake to me. And with porn stars I've hired even more so. I mean while I don't watch a lot of porn, sometimes I tried to watch some scenes of the porn star I was about to meet with. But often their moans with me sounded exactly like their moans onscreen. And I doubt I was anything like their hot scene partner.

 

Gman

[Guest Starbuck]

I don't like moaning. I'm fairly quiet during sex. And I know I'm not that great at it. So I know everybody has their own little peccadillos during sex. But moans almost always sound fake to me ... Gman

 

Bigger peccadillos always make for more convincing moans.

[+ Gar1eth]

I don't like moaning. I'm fairly quiet during sex. And I know I'm not that great at it. So I know everybody has their own little peccadilloes during sex. But moans almost always sound fake to me.

 

Gman

 

Bigger peccadillos always make for more convincing moans.

 

Is that any relation to the saying 'Mighty oaks from little acorns grow'?

 

Gman

[+ deej]

That dick, my dick, whatever.

 

IT'S THE ONE YOU'RE SUCKING. GET TO IT!

 

[bigvalboy]

I'm not sure I really like 'DADDY' but I know I definitely don't like 'PAPI'. Imagining PAPI-I just get the mental image of a really effeminate guy saying it. I'm thinking it must because when someone utters that word in a movie sex scene-it's usually either used by a woman-often often one depicted as very low class-or by a really effeminate guy.

 

Gman

 

Well from personal experience, I can say categorically that you would be wrong...

[thickornotatall]

I'm not sure I really like 'DADDY' but I know I definitely don't like 'PAPI'. Imagining PAPI-I just get the mental image of a really effeminate guy saying it. I'm thinking it must because when someone utters that word in a movie sex scene-it's usually either used by a woman-often often one depicted as very low class-or by a really effeminate guy.

 

Gman

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=poat6y9bkbk

[Guest]

It reminds me that in French or Spanish, one says "I'm going to wash the hands" instead of "I'm going to wash my hands." I always felt it was silly.

[mike carey]

It reminds me that in French or Spanish, one says "I'm going to wash the hands" instead of "I'm going to wash my hands." I always felt it was silly.

In French it's, 'Je vais me laver les mains', which is reflexive like the English use 'myself' and indicates, using 'me laver', that the hands are the ones that are part of me. If I were going to wash my clothes it would be, 'Je vais laver mes vêtements'. 'Je vais laver mes mains', would mean that I was going to wash some hands (clock hands or some models of hands) that I own but were not the ones attached to my arms. Things can sound silly if you translate them literally word for word.