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Does anyone dress-up for the holidays / holiday dinners anymore?

I was invited to both classy Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners at good friends. All guests were over 50, educated, cultured, and people 'of means', i.e.. not trailer trash. Fine china, and real silverware presented, along with nice holiday decorations.

Why do people show up in hoodies, wearing cheap jeans and sneakers. One person was in a wife-beater (tank-top) until he got the message to at least put on something with sleeves.

What happened to wearing (for men) a collared shirt and slacks / chinos with some decent and polished shoes? Skirt / dress for ladies?

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It is part of the decline of our culture... I always dress up for Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years and other traditional celebrations, especially when invited to friends or relatives houses or even going out on those occassions with friends. Sad to see IMHO>

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Does anybody remember when it was appropriate to dress nicely for airplane travel. As a youngster (ha!) - coat and tie for the airplane, nice pants and shirt for a train.

 

Obviously, not any more!

 

I remember having my parents take me to "Robert Hall" so that I could get a suit and tie to travel from Wisconsin to New York City. It was a big deal to fly back then and everyone dress up.

 

Now you get stripped searched and treated like cattle in a stock yard.

 

Guess it's called "progress". Not...

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Does anyone dress-up for the holidays / holiday dinners anymore?

I was invited to both classy Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners at good friends. All guests were over 50, educated, cultured, and people 'of means', i.e.. not trailer trash. Fine china, and real silverware presented, along with nice holiday decorations.

Why do people show up in hoodies, wearing cheap jeans and sneakers. One person was in a wife-beater (tank-top) until he got the message to at least put on something with sleeves.

What happened to wearing (for men) a collared shirt and slacks / chinos with some decent and polished shoes? Skirt / dress for ladies?

 

Gay cruises used to have tuxedo parties, now they don't do it anymore...

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Does anyone dress-up for the holidays / holiday dinners anymore?

I was invited to both classy Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners at good friends. All guests were over 50, educated, cultured, and people 'of means', i.e.. not trailer trash. Fine china, and real silverware presented, along with nice holiday decorations.

Why do people show up in hoodies, wearing cheap jeans and sneakers. One person was in a wife-beater (tank-top) until he got the message to at least put on something with sleeves.

What happened to wearing (for men) a collared shirt and slacks / chinos with some decent and polished shoes? Skirt / dress for ladies?

 

I always wear chinos and a button down shirt. That's my "uniform". I was afraid you were going to go off in a "jacket and tie" mode.

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I'm leaving on a ten cruise in two weeks. During those ten days two formal dinning evenings are scheduled in the main dinning room. To me that means a minimum of a dark suit and tie. However, I never cease to be amazed what some people consider formal attire.

 

I gave myself a sixty fifth birthday party at a beautiful restaurant and on the invitation I stipulated coat and tie for the gentlemen and evening wear for the ladies. From some of the call I received you would have thought I had insisted on white tie. In the end all the guests (65) came appropriately dressed. What surprised me was that after the party many of the guests who complained the loudest about my dress code remarked on how nice it was to get "dressed up" for a change -- go figure.

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There are other members here you should spank for the same 'insult', below is a partial list. The word is question is in bold.

 

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something that does not draw attention to yourself! lol! When I first started I used to show up to The Breakers Hotel in Palm Beach in a wifebeater and tight shorts and flip flops. After a confrontation with security i quickly learned to , "dress to the hotel," meaning look and act like a guest. This is a part of discretion. http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

 

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Swallows-a wifebeater is US("urban")slang for an athletic undershirt.

Zip-not everyone on this board is from the US nor hip to all lingo.

I would bet you a dozen donughts that swallows22 could throw some slang from his country that we in the US would never figure out :+

 

 

 

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I went to MassageM4M and found Jonas 646-337-7691.

 

I stripped, he stayed with shorts and a wifebeater.

 

I loved the message and did not really miss playing with the masseur, as I know that it distracts him from the primary purpose of the visit.

 

The is a Thai boy, good looking, gay, and committed.:)

 

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"The movie centers around the theme of meaningless sex, which is immensely prevalent in society. I loved the relations it made to real life. Joseph Gordon-Levitt did a great job as a writer, taking witty stabs at family life, religion, relationships and routine living. The message that "Don Jon" discovers is simple and universal: Don't get trapped by routine, live different, make life mean something.

 

The film was spot-on in its details relating to younger men. It managed to focus on romance without being mushy or uncomfortable, which results in a rare, guy-friendly romantic movie. Overall, it was great, funny, witty and, most important, felt very real."

 

 

 

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Jon Martello, a pussy-hound bartender from Jersey, is home alone, focusing tight on his computer and energetically rubbing one out while hardcore porn images flash in front of him. It's better than the real thing, Jon tells us in easy, breezy voice-over: "No smell. No taste."

 

Welcome to sex and the single dude as we see it in life (be honest) and in Don Jon, a bruisingly funny, bracingly smart comic dare that marks a stellar feature directing and writing debut for Joseph Gordon-Levitt, who plays Jon with humor, heat and sneaky heart. It's not that Jon doesn't hook up with randoms. Why do you think his buds call him Don Jon? It's just that he's more eager to jump out of bed with a real live girl to turn on a laptop that always puts him in charge.

 

How did Jon get this way? How did the world? These are the hot topics that pulse through Don Jon. And don't mistake Gordon-Levitt's depiction of Jon's family life for a salute to the late, unlamented Jersey Shore. For sure, Tony Danza, as Jon Sr., knows how to rock a wifebeater (who's the boss, Tony? You are) and leer admiringly when his son brings home a "piece of ass." But Danza's tough, tender, nuanced performance goes deeper. Like the rest of the film. Glenne Headly excels as Jon's mom, Angela, running a good Catholic home but using the rituals of faith, such as Mass and confession, as a substitute for communication. Jon's sister, Monica (a terrific Brie Larson), worships at the altar of her smartphone, barely uttering a word. What's Jon's religion? Besides porn and his muscle car, it's the gym body he builds as a temple to his own narcissism. You'll lay

 

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Default The COMPLEAT escort

Since at least two threads are hashing out definitions of what makes an escort stand apart, I'd like to start a third thread devoted to a particular defining moment.

 

I love the first image, the first appearance. Again, taste and chemistry play a part in what guys like. But still, some escorts really know how to to dress to get the anticipation going.

 

Reece Rothmeier stood in the doorway to his flat wearing just chaps and a lace-up cod piece. I couldn't wait for Reece to order me to untie the leather ties with my teeth.

 

One sultry August night, Luke, late of Chelsea guys, arrived wearing a crisp white wifebeater. This blond had tanned, pumped shoulders and biceps. The undershirt hiked up at his tight waist, exposing a swirl of blond hair. Soon I was on my knees.

 

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I also thought Lanky's experience was stimulating and somehow a very New York moment (well, maybe a Chelsea moment). Seeing a built guy in a wet wifebeater is also hot but I can't see that combined with the suit pants and dress shoes. I agree that the photos of Adam #3 of NYC are hot, especially the one showing his dick hanging out of unzipped dress pants! There was one other escort who had a similar shot but I can't recall his name (he was Hispanic I believe maybe from Spain?).

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Before we spend too much energy lamenting once again the days of "proper dress," let's not forget that during those good ol' days gay men and lesbians wouldn't think of coming out of the closet, let alone be able to marry their same-sex partner.

 

Those good old days were not so good.

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Looks like I may be the odd man out. For way too many years, I was required to wear the whole suit and tie thing for work. It was every day of the week, the same thing with very little variation. Why a stiff collar wrapped around the neck and squeezed tight by a knotted strip of cloth? Please don't ask me to do this for social events as well. For those events where I need to show up looking "respectable", I'd prefer to wear a comfortable pair of slacks with a nice button down shirt open at the collar. I do agree that a tank-top/wife-beater is inappropriate for many events (add me to the list of PC incorrectness for using the term "wife-beater" in reference to an article of clothing).

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I barely remember the days of dressing up for air travel. These days, I dress with ease of getting re-dressed in mind after the TSA inspections. My crocs are a godsend. :)

 

I did Christmas Eve with a friend's family and dressed up for that, slacks, new-bought fancy shirt, and tie. I hosted our family Christmas dinner and we're much more relaxed for that - a Christmas-themed sweatshirt seems to be the uniform.

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Business casual has been around for a while. It has led to a lot of people not maintaining their formal wardrobes. Same deal with church. I don't know if it's a chicken or the egg thing, but you're no longer expected to wear your "Sunday best". Most restaurants that used to be "jacket required" aren't turning away customers in more casual dress. When an associate's mother died one of his greatest sources of stress was getting a suit that fit in time for her funeral. This man is a VP at a major corporation.

 

There are far fewer social settings where better attire than clean jeans and a polo shirt are expected, so many people don't know better or see going to that dark corner of the closet as an inconvenience.

 

Also, wearing suits to work or to church is a middle class thing. If you weren't raised into that culture there often isn't anyone around to teach you. I met a man in his 40's who told me that, having been raised to blue collar parents in a dirt poor southern town, when he joined the business world at 22 he had only the vaguest idea of how to dress for work until a mentor showed him the way. A manager in another area took him aside and showed him the basics: how to correctly tie a necktie; to wear an undershirt especially if you're hairy or naturally sweaty; how to match shoes, belts and socks. This mentor told him to save up a few weeks pay and then he took him out wardrobe shopping for affordable staples. I thought about these things when a young interviewee showed up in an untucked embroidered shirt for clubbing. He had a few years of corporate America behind him, and he had probably always fit in.

 

I also think that free expression has become the norm over the past couple decades. Tattoos used to be discreet; now they're proudly displayed with less consideration for moderation. Radical hairstyles and facial hair used to be something you had to grow out of. These days people often choose a "look" from hair to makeup to clothes, and they are more likely to carry that look from hanging out, to work, to any social setting.

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Also, why are only skirts and dresses considered dress-up attire for women? I don't do well with pantyhose (I hate it when the elastic waist is around my hips and the crotch halfway to my knees), so unless it's warm enough for me to skip pantyhose, I only wear pants. But I have many pants outfits that I consider dressy. They're certainly many steps above a logo t-shirt and jeans.

 

I mean, for God's sakes, the Supreme Court of New Jersey deemed pantsuits appropriate attire for court for female attorneys years ago. I suspect this is true most places now.

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I prefer dressing well…but understand the TSA comment…we're more casual now, but if people are going to dress down, I sure wish their clothes were clean, without holes, and fit properly. The worst clothing choices I see almost daily are the pants, shirts, dresses…whatever…that are way too big, or way too small!

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Does anyone dress-up for the holidays / holiday dinners anymore?

I was invited to both classy Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners at good friends. All guests were over 50, educated, cultured, and people 'of means', i.e.. not trailer trash. Fine china, and real silverware presented, along with nice holiday decorations.

 

In my hometown, it's the other way. The "people of means" are less likely to dress up.

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i can hardly fit into clothes bulky sweater and cheap pants are the only thing i can wear but I spend the holidays alone anyway

 

I think that's a poor excuse. There are tailors still around that can work magic. If one can drop a few hundred on an escort one can afford to have a few items tailored.

 

Hugs,

Greg

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I think that's a poor excuse. There are tailors still around that can work magic. If one can drop a few hundred on an escort one can afford to have a few items tailored.

 

Hugs,

Greg

who said i could drop a few $$$ on an escort just because

i m on this forum haven't been able to do that in a few years

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