Three Questions for Review-Writers

[Guest Starbuck]

1. Are you more inclined to submit a review of a positive experience than of a negative one?

 

2. Are there guys you didn't review that, in retrospect, you wish you had?

 

3. Have you ever changed your mind about what you said in a review after it's been published?

[+ WilliamM]

3. Have you ever changed your mind about what you said in a review after it's been published?

 

Yes, I wrote a mostly favorable review about a porn star who was very famous for short period of time. I am not sorry about the review. But, it lead to answering a number of PMs, one from a reporter. I should have been more careful.

[whipped guy]

1. Yes... The stellar situations are obviously the easiest to write about, but I absolutely would not hesitate to write a negative review. In fact most positive reviews are written within 24 hours after the event while one is still riding that proverbial "high"... The tricky ones are the "in between" situations as when one not does not have a totally stellar experience and one can attribute it to a lack of chemistry as opposed to a deficiency on the escort's part. Then the guy is given the benefit of the doubt and no review is submitted... and especially when one gets the impression that the escort is trying his best.

 

2. Only once I did not submit a bad review that should have been submitted. That was in my early days and before I had officially joined the Message Forum... He is long since retired. In any event, as noted above I would not now hesitate to tell it like it is.

 

3. No... So far I have pretty much been spot on and have not changed my mind... Fortunately!

[buckguy]

1. Are you more inclined to submit a review of a positive experience than of a negative one? Positive is easiest. The toughest is a meh experience with someone who has lots of fans here. They come out in full force.

 

2. Are there guys you didn't review that, in retrospect, you wish you had? Some meh experiences with guys who had fans.

 

3. Have you ever changed your mind about what you said in a review after it's been published? No

[+ Funguy]

1. I think I would submit a review either way - the negative review would probably take longer to formulate. I haven't had the displeasure yet to have written a negative one, tho see #2.

 

2. Yes - and they would have been negative. This was prior to my discovering Daddy's Reviews/Forum.

 

3. Yes - and it would have changed from positive to negative after further reflection and subsequent encounter. I guess I could have written another review but it would have to have waited in the pipeline for quite a while and by then I didn't really care. I simply didn't hire the asshole (!) again. Actually his name came up in later threads and I had quite a few PM's going back and forth.

[Frankly Rich]

I did not post a negative review of a popular escort as I didn't want to have the negative attention that such a review gets here from fans of the escort. Over the years, I heard from several others who had similar experiences but chose not to write about them. It's a side effect of saying something negative when fans won't hear of it.

[+ Funguy]

I did not post a negative review of a popular escort as I didn't want to have the negative attention that such a review gets here from fans of the escort. Over the years, I heard from several others who had similar experiences but chose not to write about them. It's a side effect of saying something negative when fans won't hear of it.

 

Many reviewers use a separate handle for posting reviews so it doesn't come back to bite (um) you in the ass. That way, if a negative review should be posted, it gets posted - damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead.

[BaronArtz]

I don't write reviews because it involves disclosing a phone number. Sorry, but I don't want anybody on this site knowing who I really am. And that includes the owners of this site.

 

At times, I have mentioned on this board that I met with escort X or masseur Y, that he looked like his pics and that it was overall a positive experience. In these posts, I invite interested parties to PM me. When that happens, I am glad to disclose the 'gory details' to anybody who asks for it - privately.

 

Thanks to careful research and invaluable inputs and recommendations from my fellow board members, I haven't had a negative experience during the last 10 years. For which I am deeply grateful.

[Amoco]

The first review I ever wrote was intended to be a thank-you gift for the first escort I ever hired. To my mind, it was extremely positive, but did acknowledge that he wasn't as young as he advertised and that his hair was different than before - the description of the experience, however, was over-the-top-positive. I sent it in and subsequently sent him a copy of it. Within a few hours I received a note back from him suggesting that I was purposefully trying to destroy his business, and on and on and on - at one point suggesting that I was also ignoring his advice for feeding my dog! Seriously, you can't make this stuff up... Ultimately, I asked Daddy to pull it, which he did, and needless to say, I never hired that guy again. Too bad, too, because I liked him but ended up feeling threatened by him.

 

Since then, I've written 10 reviews - all positive. The truth is that I have had almost exclusively positive experiences and the ones that were 'less than' did not lend themselves to easy descriptions of the issues and might have even boiled down to bland chemistry. That said, there are 3 negative experiences, 2 with well reviewed guys, that probably deserved some kind of public reporting, but like Frankly Rich, I have no interest in the negative attention and accusations that are hurled around on this Forum. Instead, I choose to share extraordinary experiences about guys I am confident will provide the same for others.

 

That said, I think this is a problem. One need only read some of the responses to an OP who recently described an experience in which the escort was irresponsible, to say the least, to see the absurdity of some defensive responses superimposed on the needless acrimony, to know what could happen - and unless I'm missing something, the theme is always that the client has done something to be disrespectful, inconsiderate or abusive to the poor "working guy". It makes me nuts, but it's not a battle I want to fight for fear of the repercussions.

 

I should also say that I've learned a lot about myself from hiring escorts over the past two years. I'm not nearly as grandiose in my expectations and have a much fuller appreciation for what is reasonable to ask for in a Rentboy. I am also much more clear about what my bottom line is in hiring and I no longer allow an escort to talk me into an arrangement I'm not comfortable with because it meets their business needs - even if they're great to be with. In several circumstances where I felt I behaved badly, I acknowledged it and made reparations - allowing a previously satisfying relationship to continue with both parties feeling whole. In others, I have tried to address problems with the escort involved only to have it fall on deaf ears - I used to have difficulty just walking away, but don't anymore, possibly because of the explosion in opportunities online. I'm not afraid to ask for multi-hour discounts when appropriate, but once they set their fee I either accept or decline, but will not negotiate further as I've learned my lesson. I also tip a minimum of $50-$100 for each session and provide good food and accoutrements with few exceptions.

[Epigonos]

YES - Never really had a "bad" experience. Mediocre yes, bad no

 

NO

 

NO

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

1 - My decision on whether to write a review has more to do with whether it was memorable - good or bad

 

2 - No

 

3 - No, but wished I had proofed it better as some readers interpreted a positive comment as I intended and others took it in a negative context.

[rvwnsd]

1. Are you more inclined to submit a review of a positive experience than of a negative one?

 

I have never had a truly negative experience, so this is a tough question to answer. However, I am more inclined to submit a positive review than a neutral (or, as another poster put it, "meh") experience, particularly when the experience was with one of the favorite escorts of the day. The toughest for me is when there are known extenuating circumstances that contributed to the "meh" experience, such as the escort whose flight was delayed by more than eight hours causing him to get to LA at 3:00 AM instead of 7:00 PM. He explained the situation, I decided to go through with the session anyway, and (surprise!) he had problems getting hard because he was exhausted. Nonetheless, we engaged in other activities that made me leave the encounter "not unsatisfied." It just felt wrong to write a review of that encounter, given the circumstances. It would be like complaining about the smoky atmosphere at a restaurant when a fire broke out next door while I was eating there.

 

2. Are there guys you didn't review that, in retrospect, you wish you had?

 

Yes. There are two guys on two separate occasions where I forgot to write a review and realized I hadn't when I went looking for the review. I also wish I had written a "meh" review of a former escort who was practically canonized a saint on this forum.

 

3. Have you ever changed your mind about what you said in a review after it's been published?

 

Yes. I reviewed an escort and subsequently hired him again. I mentioned to him that I forgot what a great kisser he was. When I looked at my review I realized that I inadvertently said in my review that he didn't kiss. Whoops.

[uwsman2]

1. Much easier to write a positive review. I have written some negative reviews, but they almost always draw an angry rebuttal from the escort which puts me off writing more. So my standard would be not to write a negative review unless I thought it was important to warn people about somebody who shouldn't be in this line of work and presents a danger.

 

2. I've reviewed almost everybody with whom I met, although once or twice I waited until after the second time with them to be sure what I wanted to say.

 

3. Nope.

 

By the way, I review under a different handle from what I use for posting here, so you won't find any reviews by me under this name.

[+ RyanDean]

Now y'all have me wishing I had adopted a nom de critique. Seems sensible for a variety of reasons. Maybe next time...

[rvwnsd]

Now y'all have me wishing I had adopted a nom de critique. Seems sensible for a variety of reasons. Maybe next time...

 

I also review under a different handle, but for a different reason. I started reviewing before I joined the forum. When I joined, another poster had the same name as my reviewer handle.

[TruHart1]

1. Are you more inclined to submit a review of a positive experience than of a negative one?

 

Yes, every review I’ve submitted so far (14 and counting) has been about great hiring experiences with really fine escorts. In the 3 plus years I’ve been hiring, I have never had one of those bad experiences where the escort asked for payment up front, pulled a bait & switch, threatened and/or frightened me, or did not deliver what was agreed/promised in our communications. I do attribute this not to luck but to thoroughly vetting each potential escort by searching for any reviews (Daddy’s & Cruising for Escorts mainly) and seeing if a google search on the phone number raises any red flags.

 

Just as others have mentioned mediocre hires, I have had about 3 experiences with well-reviewed guys with whom I had zero chemistry. Since I consider that to be equally both our fault, I don’t feel I should write a negative review about those failed encounters. I will, however, not hesitate to submit a negative review in the future should I ever have an escort experience that deserves it.

 

2. Are there guys you didn't review that, in retrospect, you wish you had?

 

I did not write my first review until after my 5th excellent experience hiring Dane Scott in Chicago in May of 2013. I had been a lurker for over a year on the forum before I actually joined in November of 2012. I do regret not having been comfortable enough with Daddy’s forum & reviews when I started this hobby to have written the glowing reviews my very first escort, Ares (in NYC) and Romann (in Chicago) deserved for those phenomenal sessions they gave me back when I began hiring.

 

3. Have you ever changed your mind about what you said in a review after it's been published?

 

I’ve never changed my mind about any review I’ve submitted since I always carefully plan each review and try to detail what stood out to me about the escort I am reviewing. My goal is to clearly describe both the physical and personality traits that make that particular escort worth hiring, in my humble opinion.

 

TruHart1

[down_to_business]

1. Are you more inclined to submit a review of a positive experience than of a negative one?

 

I am no longer inclined to submit reviews, but in the past I started equally inclined and moved towards positive only due to fanboy backlash.

 

 

2. Are there guys you didn't review that, in retrospect, you wish you had?

 

Not really. Maybe at one time. Definitely not any more.

 

 

3. Have you ever changed your mind about what you said in a review after it's been published?

 

Absolutely. Once for finding out information after and a few times for a subsequent hire.

[+ poolboy48220]

1. Are you more inclined to submit a review of a positive experience than of a negative one?

Definitely positive. I hate thinking that I'm cutting into a guy's livelihood.

 

2. Are there guys you didn't review that, in retrospect, you wish you had?

Yes, add me to the chorus of guys having a bad experience with a very well reviewed escort with many many fans on the forum. I didn't want to deal with backlash, and the experience unsettled me for months, thinking it was something wrong with me. By the time I decided, it was out of the review window time. I wish I'd at least put a review that warned that "despite these dozens of glowing reviews, he doesn't click with everyone".

 

3. Have you ever changed your mind about what you said in a review after it's been published?

Nah, I've only written a few and I have thought them out carefully beforehand.

[Nvr2Thick]

1. For me there's often shame and humiliation that comes with a negative escort experience. I don't really have it in me to share that right after the encounter.

 

2. Here and there I've procrastinated after a great encounter. By the time I thought to write a review I wasn't able to capture the enthusiasm. Arpad Miklos and PR Miguel come to mind as experiences I should have shared.

 

3. Sometimes I provide way too much detail. I think my reviews would have been more serving of the group and less self-serving if I had edited more.

 

4. I wish I still had the reviews I wrote under the Hooboy's site.

[Bart]

Yes I can get pretty amped up after a good outing so I like writing reviews. I have also written negative reviews. I too have a different handle for writing reviews from my forum handle.

 

Yes I can think of a couple of negative reviews I should have written. But anyone I was positive about received a review.

 

Yes I can think of two instances where I wrote a review and second time around the outing was lousy. That is why I changed my stance on writing reviews to only after meeting with a gentleman twice, unless an overnight.

[whipped guy]

Several points as an addendum to my above post:

 

I too have a different review moniker. There is nothing nefarious going on there and I have previously mentioned the fact... but I started writing reviews years before I joined the forum and the review handle was an inside joke to the escort as it dealt with the fact that interestingly we had lived in close proximity a number of years previously. The name references one of the area's claims to fame, which was something we had discussed at our session. Even though that initial encounter was a BDSM event, my nom de plume had absolutely nothing to do with S&M. I rectified that when I joined the forum many years later. Incidentally that occurred during the Hooboy days. Fortunately I saved all those reviews... on a... don't laugh out loud... floppy disk. They are now on an external hard drive.

 

Regarding the last question where it's asks if you changed your mind about a guy after submitting a review. I had forgotten about two guys.

 

Regarding the first, I submitted a great review for a basically vanilla session We discussed S&M at the session as I thought that he had it in him and convinced him to get involved with it. He subsequently did, but unfortunately over time developed an obnoxious demeanor and began ignoring safe words etc. Plus, he became so pushy about wanting to set up sessions that I finally told him that I had moved out of the area. He eventually did as well. Problem solved.

 

There was also a guy who delivered an "It's all about the me as the Dom" S&M session the first time that we met. I did not write a review, but rather sent him a lengthy email listing all the things that he had done incorrectly. He took it as constructive criticism and corrected things for our subsequent meetings. I wrote a glowing review explaining all of the above and how I thought that he had great potential. Unfortunately that potential never materialized as it could or should have. He soon thereafter retired... So again problem solved.

 

There was a third guy who pissed me off big time. It had nothing to do with his performance so no review was submitted. However, we had a fight about some operatic matters: Bellini's La Sonnambula was NOT written in the 20th Century in spite of the fact that the MET staging is a contemporary setting... and the Italian pronunciation of the word "rondine" as in the Puccini opera... the first syllable is stressed not the second to last. It all sounds so silly, but the guy was not the type to back down (as he had a reputation as being a total top dom sort of guy) and neither was I!!! He also is now retired. Still, I could see another individual submitting a "vendetta review" simply because the dude was so pigheaded.... However, that was and is not my style.

 

Incidentally, when things are going well during the session and I know I'm going to write a review it is actually being formulated in the deep recesses of my mind so putting "pen to paper" is just a mere formality. In fact with one guy upon seeing his smile when he opened the door to his hotel room, I instantly knew that not only we had clicked, but what the theme of the review was going to be... and I do like to be a bit creative with "themes"...

 

All just part of the "fun" of being involved in this crazy hobby!!!!

[JT Brooklyn]

1. Yes 2. Yes 3.NO

[Guest Starbuck]

... There was a guy who pissed me off big time ... we had a fight about some operatic matters: Bellini's La Sonnambula was NOT written in the 20th Century in spite of the fact that the MET staging is a contemporary setting ... and in the Italian pronunciation of the word "rondine" (as in the Puccini opera), the first syllable is stressed not the second to last ...

 

VERY GLAD you got that off your chest, Whipped ... more room now for the clothespins.

[whipped guy]

VERY GLAD you got that off your chest, Whipped ... more room now for the clothespins.

LOL!! ... Actually the whole thing was beyond being silly... and the guy would not give up... he sent numerous emails for two days insisting that he was right... as total top dominant dudes are always right... and even when the facts... and the history books are not in their favor... So really nothing I needed to get off my chest, but rather an illustration of how full of themselves some of these guys can be... Still, since it was a matter of chemistry... and in truth had nothing to do with the session itself I never publicized the fact by way of a nasty review. However, I can see how others might have been inclined to do so.

 

Addendum: I might have been his sub for the two hour session... but after it was over I did not need to take any crap from him whatsoever! And I didn't!

[big-n-tall]

1. Are you more inclined to submit a review of a positive experience than of a negative one?

 

2. Are there guys you didn't review that, in retrospect, you wish you had?

 

3. Have you ever changed your mind about what you said in a review after it's been published?

 

1. No. I'd post either. I had a few negative experiences but that was before I knew Daddy's existed. The experiences hence have been ok to outstanding. I have posted reviews at some escorts' request. I have asked some escorts if they wanted reviews and some have declined.

 

2. There are a few... again before I knew Daddy's existed. So it's kind of pass the statue of limitations for submitting a review.

 

3. No.