Does Sex Transport You?/Are You Noisy During Sex?

[+ Gar1eth]

While I know I'm alike many of my brothers out there in Forum Land ( for example I'm gay-and I like guys)

 

In a lot of ways I feel I am different from many of you. For example- I know that many of you talk about -or at least give the impression that having sex is an overpowering feeling. Now, don't get me wrong. I like sex. But I'm not sure that I've ever really felt 'transported away' either during the whole time-or at that one special moment. That doesn't mean it doesn't feel good to me. Well let me give an example- I was with one escort two years ago. I think he was one of those guys who had incredible control. I wasn't able to make him cum. But he could jack himself off. And when he was about to achieve 'lift-off', shall we say, it looked as if the eruption was coming from the depth of his soul. I think it was for real-and not acting because he had been in a threesome with another escort I know who described the same thing happening. And I know cuming, while feeling good, has never been that earth shattering for me not even when I was younger and my sex drive was higher.

 

And another thing-In the thread aboout Jesse Colter people mentioned that he was noisy while being topped. I dont know if bottoms are usually noisier than tops- but as a top, I'm pretty quiet during sex (or at least I think I am. It's been over three weeks since I've had any. And you know how memory is the second thing to go). So when I'm with a verbal escort, or on a rare February 29th when I have a non-escort partner, it usually sounds fake to me. I'm sure it's not always fake- or at least I hope not. The problem is I know I'm not great at sex. I hope I'm giving my partner some good feelings, but I don't expect the earth to be moving for them. So lots of times it feels to me that with all the noise, they might be trying to make me feel good about the encounter. I just want to know that I'm not hurting them. And while not wanting to direct how someone acts when they feel good - I wish there were a way to let them know that if they are only being noisy on my account, they don't have to.

 

Gman

[+ Funguy]

I have had some of the most outstanding, other-worldly sex with some of our great escorts and, believe me, they have 'transported' me - especially when these guys are at their best. Outside of escorting, as with everything in life, yea and nay.

 

As far as noise - OH YEAH! I am noisy to the extent that I have sometimes just grabbed a pillow and yelled into it! I have tried to bring it down a notch if I'm in a hotel room but then I'm conscious of what I'm doing so I just go for the pillow. Other times, just having 'good ole lie around sex' (as opposed to roll around sweaty sex) I'm not nearly as vocal but the enjoyment is no different - more moans than screams!

 

Funguy

[tom1980]

Sometimes orgasms are extremely intense and transformative experiences for me, and sometimes they are not. It often depends on how much build up is involved and how much chemistry I have with my partner. On average, I think I tend to have more intense orgasms than a lot of guys, but it's one of those things that's hard to know since I can't directly know how it feels to others.

 

Whether I make noise is also situational. I tend to moan or talk during some activities and not others. When I'm bottoming, I tend to be more vocal because there's no way I can be quiet with a good top hitting my prostate. Same thing with nipple play. When I'm getting a blow job, I moan less but try to give appropriate feedback to let whoever I'm with know what feels good to me. When I top, the amount of noise I make usually depends on how interactive the bottom is. If he talks to me or makes positive comments, then I respond. If not, I'm pretty quiet until I get close to the end. However, can't help but make some noise when I cum. Even when I have a "small" orgasm, I gasp and moan a bit.

[actor61]

Sometimes orgasms are extremely intense and transformative experiences for me, and sometimes they are not. It often depends on how much build up is involved and how much chemistry I have with my partner. On average, I think I tend to have more intense orgasms than a lot of guys, but it's one of those things that's hard to know since I can't directly know how it feels to others.

 

Whether I make noise is also situational. I tend to moan or talk during some activities and not others. When I'm bottoming, I tend to be more vocal because there's no way I can be quiet with a good top hitting my prostate. Same thing with nipple play. When I'm getting a blow job, I moan less but try to give appropriate feedback to let whoever I'm with know what feels good to me. When I top, the amount of noise I make usually depends on how interactive the bottom is. If he talks to me or makes positive comments, then I respond. If not, I'm pretty quiet until I get close to the end. However, can't help but make some noise when I cum. Even when I have a "small" orgasm, I gasp and moan a bit.

 

I'm not noisy during sex but my next door neighbor sure is. The other night, not only was I screaming at her to STFU, but the upstairs neighbor came down and pounded on her door and the neighbor in the building across the driveway yelled out, "Sounds so good! Can I get some?"

[tyro]

Sorry if this is TMI, but once I was having fun with a guy in a hotel room. We heard a knock on the door and he answered it, figuring we were (meaning I was) being too loud. (I was only at 1/3 max volume, but anyway...) He opened the door a little and I kept hearing him say, "No, I'm not opening the door any more." When he got back to bed, he told me the guy in the hallway was stroking himself through his boxers. Perhaps he was hoping to join us.

T

[Bart]

Gar1eth

I am sure anyone you hire is not thrilled to hear this. That is what gentlemen want to provide for their clients, that moment that you do have that out-of-body experience. Thankfully I have had that many times. If after all this time you have never had that in sex, than I would say

1. You are really a bottom and need a dick on that prostate to get you there.

2. Maybe having a better attitude and some desire would yield a better result. You do tend to be rather negative, just being honest. I hate to say it but wallowing in self-pity is not going to get you off. I wonder if you bring all your personal troubles with you into the bedroom. The idea is to get rid of them and thus one of the great reason's to hire.

3. Stop hiring and move on to dating sites and forums rather than here because you will get no Rolling Stone "Satisfaction," here. Some people cant get that ultimate breakthrough because it requires love. That or you really need to try to connect who you are having sex with and get pleasure out of pleasuring someone else. I swear for me the thrill when I can get someone off while they are fucking me and holding me tight is as good as an orgasm. The energy flowing through the gentlemen from him to me is just amazing. The best sex is when both relish in the pleasure of the other. You need to stop focusing so much on yourself.

 

So I think you have to look at yourself because hiring don't seem to be doing it for you as it should.

[caliguy]

I'm not noisy during sex but my next door neighbor sure is. The other night, not only was I screaming at her to STFU, but the upstairs neighbor came down and pounded on her door and the neighbor in the building across the driveway yelled out, "Sounds so good! Can I get some?"

Women are generally louder then men in sex. I had a neighbor from across the street that likes to scream when having sex with her BF. That level of noise is unnecessary and I always wonder why. What is accomplished by sharing your sex life with the whole neighborhood. Is it to make the guy feel like the worlds best stud or to make others jealous.

 

I will say that her BF was very hung though. I've seen it when he comes out of the bathroom and the over head light is on. It's huge.

[TruHart1]

Hey Gman, interesting topic. I was always a very controlled, “silent” participant in my younger days. Back in the days before AIDS when swallowing was almost a given, after cumming silently a number of times with different partners, I was told by a few that they would at least appreciate a warning when I was almost there. I began to softly state, “I’m cumming” when I got to the edge. Later, I went through a period of about a decade when all my online hook-ups seemed to be closeted married men. I had trouble at first keeping myself from laughing if a guy was so noisy during sex that it felt fake. I soon discovered during that phase, though, that if I became a bit more vocally reactive when my partner did something to my body that turned me on more, he would usually continue or escalate what he was doing to try to make me feel even more excited.

 

Now, when I hire, I always vocalize, depending on my partner, to let them know they are on track, sometimes simply saying, “That feels wonderful!” but sometimes just letting go and moaning. I admit, I do not like to be out of control with anything in my life. Over the years, though, I have found if the man has me really turned on during sex and I trust him, then just letting go of my control can amplify my orgasm and the entire love-making session tremendously. That almost “out of body” orgasmic experience was never possible for me until I found a way to surrender (at least some small amount of) control. It is still a rare occurrence for me, but when the guy is right and I allow myself to be in the moment, it can be so very intense!

 

TruHart1

[+ Gar1eth]

Bart, I'm not sure how this may read - but it was a very thoughtful answer. And I appreciate it. (I want to make sure it doesn't 'read' sarcastic. )

 

Gar1eth

 

1. You are really a bottom and need a dick on that prostate to get you there.

 

Maybe you are right. Maybe by nature I was designed to be a bottom physically in a perfect world. But the world is not perfect. I can tell you the 1st time I think I read a fiction story about bottoming in a gay magazine when I was 21- I think it was called "The Captain's Boy" (about indoctrinating a novice as a vessel went over the equator) I'm pretty sure I thought 'yuck'.

 

When Queer As Folk (USA Version) 1st came on, I was a virgin still. They were trying to make the 1st episode as shocking as possible. There was the scene where Brian the predator de-flowered the 17 year old twink Justin. I'm sure they turned up the mike as loud as possible and added extra sounds in post production- but the noise and violence of that scene - the sound of Brian's pelvis slamming into Justin's buttocks literally made my stomach turn over. I had to turn the TV off.

 

On a more physical basis, when I was 32- still 9 years away from my first sexual experience, I developed this incredible pelvic pain with the pain extending down to the end of my tallywacker. I had never ft such burning pain. It eventually progressed to the point I could barely urinate. They told me I had prostatitis. I had to get a cystoscopy. They thought my urethra was scarred. All they found was my bladder was severely inflamed. I had daily pain for around two months -pain bad enough to make you want to cry. It finally subsided some. But I've had recurrent attacks since then. Back then they called it Chronic Prostatitis. Now I think they call it Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome. They don't know what causes it. But now still- after 21 years- I get sore in the pelvic region after cuming. Not only that, but a prostate exam by a physician can put me in pain for days- if not a week. If a gentle prod by a physician can make me sore- there is no way in heck I'm having anyone deliberately trying to ram my prostate. Just the thought has been enough to make me go sweaty and feel like fainting- and not in a good way.

 

 

The idea is to get rid of negative feelings and thus one of the great reason's to hire.

 

The reason I first hired was because at 41 I was despairing of my status of being a virgin. I wasn't willing to admit to being gay at the time.( I still have trouble with that. But if you compared me to 20 years ago, there is some change for the better). I continued to hire because I still wasn't ready to be openly gay. I was the last person I ever thought would hire. If I had been able to accept being gay, there's a good chance I never would have hired to begin with.

 

3. Stop hiring and move on to dating sites and forums rather than here because you will get no Rolling Stone "Satisfaction," here. Some people cant get that ultimate breakthrough because it requires love. That or you really need to try to connect who you are having sex with and get pleasure out of pleasuring someone else. I swear for me the thrill when I can get someone off while they are fucking me and holding me tight is as good as an orgasm. The energy flowing through the gentlemen from him to me is just amazing. The best sex is when both relish in the pleasure of the other. You need to stop focusing so much on yourself.

 

I was on OKcupid for months and nothing happened. Well there was one guy- who seems interested. But then never wanted to meet.

 

As for dating- if we are talking non-escort dates with someone who is unpartnered- and available- and I mean real dates- not just coffee meet ups or quick bites of lunch - I've had three in my life- all with the same guy. We met strangely enough on Scruff. We met briefly at a bar to see if there was a spark. There was. So we counted our second meeting as our 1st real date. After dinner we basically spent an hour and a half continuously making out. I think you could say I was really into him. I don't think I've ever felt that way about someone before or since. He told me it was the best '1st date' he'd ever had. However when we ultimately had sex on our third date- it was nice. But again never once during sex did I feel the urge to break into singing 'Ah Sweet Mystery Of Life' ala Madeline Kahn in 'Young Frankenstein'. (Just as an FYI- the third date was the last. I don't think it was because I was horrible at sex- although it might have been. But at least one reason may have been that he really wanted a take charge 'dominant' Daddy type. And that's not me. I'm not submissive. But I'm more the 60/40-back and forth type. Not too mention he was a leather guy, and I'm very vanilla. Leather doesn't do a lot for me. There were other reasons too).

 

And just to clarify a few points- I have had mildly sweaty sex before. And I'm not saying it doesn't feel good. I have said a few 'Yes-es' or similar phrases right before the 'La petit mort' (=the special moment). But again no earthquakes or volcanos. Sometimes -but not all -I may even be saying it more for my partner's sake. And I have told my occasional partners if something feels good as TruHart1 says he does.

 

I wonder if this is related in any way to the fact that I don't 'surrender' myself to music-and can't dance.

 

In any case I admit to being depressed now with a decreased sex drive and would never expect earth shattering sex at the moment when it never happened when I was feeling better. But it doesn't really matter now anyway as I can't hire, and even if there were anyone to date (and believe me there aren't really any interested. ), I'm not in a position to date.

 

Gman

[+ quoththeraven]

As I've gotten older, I've gotten noisier. I don't know if it's because of fewer inhibitions or because I'm more comfortable about being sexual or what.

 

Giving and receiving feedback is also useful as well as sexy.

 

It can be difficult to forget everyday concerns during sex, especially with a live-in or regular partner, but at its best, sex transcends all the everyday crap.

[Professor Mitch]

I've got to go with Bart on the one...+1.

[+ purplekow]

I can be noisy and occasionally talkative during sex. I love it when my partner moans and groans. I someimes think of doing my Urkel impression when my partner gets very loud (Did i do that?) For on line porn i will sometimes search the site for noisy. Some men get noisier than i but so far i have never grown tired of sex noise.

[Decatur Guy]

My sex is almost always enjoyable and often intense. But I'd say it's "transformative" only about 10% to 20% time -- when I totally lose track of track, fuck like an animal, have an orgasm where I lose control, etc.

 

Mr. Nate Bruno took me to that place a couple of months ago. And I once had an escort fuck me so vigorously for so long in a very dark room that I couldn't actually remember who was fucking me.

 

I don't know how noisy I am, but I do like to talk during sex, mainly along the lines of sexy questions and comments time to time: "You were in my fucking throat! You want in there again?" / "Keep doing that with your mouth" / "Easy there, motherfucker. That's a wide cock" / "Looooordddd -- you can kiss me forever and keep on after that" / "Tighten that ass on my dick. Like that. Again. And again."

[big-n-tall]

I don't get transported during sex, per se.

 

I'm not really noisy during sex. I might say a few things here or there, but I love it when the person I'm having sex with makes noise (whimpers & moans), talks dirty, & sometimes yells or screams. :-P I even like that some make some wild expressions/eyes roll when I hit their spot. I get off more on their response then my own.

 

Now when I orgasm, sometimes I lose control. I can have extremely volatile orgasms, which can last a rather long time... and that's a good thing. :-) Although, there have been times I've orgasmed and temporarily kind of lost my hearing (ringing in my ears) or pulled a muscle.

[+ Gar1eth]

Although, there have been times I've orgasmed and temporarily kind of lost my hearing (ringing in my ears) or pulled a muscle.

 

It hasn't happened in awhile, but I've gotten a cramp in my calf muscles before right after cuming.

 

Gman

[Steven_Draker]

I'm not noisy, but my orgasms are rather intense to the point of twitching my whole body.

[Racketjock]

I have had transformative sex, multiple, blessed times with AndrewD. Some sessions were loud for both of us, and as Stephen states, I have always had intense orgasms that left me spent and twitching. I would say that each time, the sex was that good and transformed my face into an ear to ear smile as well as nurtured my soul.

[+ Funguy]

Today I was a not only transported but I was teleported to another universe! I was noisy, too.

[+ Gar1eth]

Today I was a not only transported but I was teleported to another universe! I was noisy, too.

 

During office hours?

 

Gman

[+ Funguy]

During office hours?

 

Gman

 

Before…….didn't have to save lives until the afternoon! So, it wasn't a nooner - too early for that; not a quicky because it was several hours long; but an early morning tryst - a meeting of body and mind. OH SO SATISFYING!

 

That's what keeps me a

 

Funguy

[tyro]

Good for you, sir.

T

[+ Gar1eth]

Today I was a not only transported but I was teleported to another universe! I was noisy, too.

 

During office hours?

 

Gman

 

Before…….didn't have to save lives until the afternoon! So, it wasn't a nooner - too early for that; not a quicky because it was several hours long; but an early morning tryst - a meeting of body and mind. OH SO SATISFYING!

 

That's what keeps me a

 

Funguy

 

Well I'm certainly glad you had your batteries re-charged to better able you to rage, rage, rage against the dying of the light (of the 'do not go gently into the night' fame). But I'm disappointed as I was imagining something like this...

 

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Gman

[+ Funguy]

Well I'm certainly glad you had your batteries re-charged to better able you to rage, rage, rage against the dying of the light (of the 'do not go gently into the night' fame). But I'm disappointed as I was imagining something like this...

 

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Gman

 

Don't be disappointed Gman - I don't remember all that went on. There were stars, lightening flashes, roller coasters, explosions: well, all that stuff! And huffing and puffing, and lots of noises, too.

[+ Gar1eth]

Well I'm certainly glad you had your batteries re-charged to better able you to rage, rage, rage against the dying of the light (of the 'do not go gently into the night' fame). But I'm disappointed as I was imagining something like this...

 

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Gman

 

Don't be disappointed Gman - I don't remember all that went on. There were stars, lightening flashes, roller coasters, explosions: well, all that stuff! And huffing and puffing, and lots of noises, too.

 

Now add envy and jealousy to my disappointment- but not in a mean hurtful way. I would never want to prevent you from your fun. Only wishing for similar experiences, so I could be a...

 

funguy2

 

Gman

[+ Funguy]

Welcome Funguy2