Pay in advance???

[wisconsinguy]

I'm in the process of finalizing time and details with my first, and I do mean first, experience with an escort, or for that matter another guy. I have poured over countless profiles, and spent countless hrs. reading advice in the forums. I have no doubt I made the right first choice. I am looking forward to setting up a weekend with this escort. Question: Do I offer to secure our time together buy offering to at least transmit have his companionship charges before hand? Since he has no clue whom he is dealing with, I would have no problem with that. And, I really believe that there is no problem with this person ethical acceptance of such an offer. It sounds like he may be even rearranging time to meet me needs.

[+ poolboy48220]

I think this has mistake written all over it. A whole weekend with an escort you've never met, plus the fact that this is your first time ever, sounds like jumping in the pool way too fast. If I were you I'd meet the guy for an hour or two first. And pre-payment is almost never a good idea with someone you've never met before.

[+ purplekow]

Do not pre pay. As for a weekend to start, while some may say that is a bit much, I had my first encounter for an hour and immediately wanted more. I came back for an overnight the next night. So, if this is opening up long closed doors for you, the weekend might be fine. You have done your research. No one can research chemistry but if he is a professional, your will find yourself in a whirl of sex and passion and probably a bit of guilt and self evaluation and long before you can figure out whether you really like the guy or not, the weekend will be over. Expect to fall in love a little bit if things go well and he does his job. In fact, expect to fall in love a little bit with most of the escorts you hire, but remember, they are not falling in love with you.

[bigvalboy]

I think this has mistake written all over it. A whole weekend with an escort you've never met, plus the fact that this is your first time ever, sounds like jumping in the pool way too fast. If I were you I'd meet the guy for an hour or two first. And pre-payment is almost never a good idea with someone you've never met before.

 

+1 Those were my thoughts. Might be a bit much. AND I agree with PK and PB, do not pre-pay, unless he asks for something up front. At this point it doesn't sound like he has requested any front money. If he is local, he might not, however if you are flying him in, then most likely he will ask for travel costs, and there really isn't anyway around that. All I'm saying is the fact that he is well reviewed and regardless how much research you have done, there are simply no guarantees on this sort of thing.

 

Good luck and let us all know how the encounter went. Here's hoping for the most incredible time you could imagine.

[rvwnsd]

I think this has mistake written all over it. A whole weekend with an escort you've never met, plus the fact that this is your first time ever, sounds like jumping in the pool way too fast. If I were you I'd meet the guy for an hour or two first. And pre-payment is almost never a good idea with someone you've never met before.

 

I agree that pre-paying is a mistake. I also think booking a weekend with someone you do not know is a mistake. When I hired my first escort (which was also my first man-to-man experience) I lived in Chicago, so there was no shortage of available escorts. If you do not live in a city where you have a choice of escorts, I would suggest taking a weekend trip to a city that does and hire someone for an hour or two. Based on your screen name, I'm going to assume you are located in Wisconsin, in which case you could go to Minneapolis or Chicago.

[adriano46]

++ on all the above. On a first date with an escort, anything more than an hour or two could be a mistake; chemistry is essential.

On payment in advance - not when you do not know him and have never met him.

[+ Charlie]

Question: Do I offer to secure our time together buy offering to at least transmit have his companionship charges before hand? Since he has no clue whom he is dealing with, I would have no problem with that.

Escorts are always making appointments with clients they have never met, and do not normally expect pre-payment unless they are investing money of their own in the appt, or have some reason to suspect that the client is not going to follow through. If he is traveling to you and giving up a weekend of potential earnings from other clients, he may want some financial guarantee. I assume that "have" is a typo for "half;" I would not offer to send him that much, though if he asks for it, you can consider whether you want to risk it.

[wisconsinguy]

Escorts are always making appointments with clients they have never met, and do not normally expect pre-payment unless they are investing money of their own in the appt, or have some reason to suspect that the client is not going to follow through. If he is traveling to you and giving up a weekend of potential earnings from other clients, he may want some financial guarantee. I assume that "have" is a typo for "half;" I would not offer to send him that much, though if he asks for it, you can consider whether you want to risk it.

Yes, "have" should be "half." Fingers are traveling faster then the mind. Wonder why? Will take the advice on pre payment from all. But still mostly likely going to go ahead with the weekend risk. I think we will click on different "fronts" haha. Going to travel to him in Chicago, and it is feeling right. Thanks all, and I very well be letting all know what the outcomes are. Also, have every intention to add to this gentleman's list of rave reviews. Overconfident? Hope not.

 

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[Steven_Draker]

Wisconsinguy,

From an escort perspective: it's not necessary to send any kind of prepayment.

In fact, if the escort asked you to send half of his fee beforehand, it would be considered a major red flag.

[Kevin Slater]

Yes, "have" should be "half."

 

It's funny, that and "Do I offer to secure our time together buy offering to at least transmit have his companionship charges before hand?" made me think of all those Nigerian gentlemen who want me to send my account numbers and passwords so that they could prepay my fees as well.

 

Kevin Slater

[wisconsinguy]

It's funny, that and "Do I offer to secure our time together buy offering to at least transmit have his companionship charges before hand?" made me think of all those Nigerian gentlemen who want me to send my account numbers and passwords so that they could prepay my fees as well.

 

Kevin Slater

I simply wanted to make sure that my intentions were being regarded as sincere, and not by some flake that many of you have run into.

Time is precious to most of us.

[Guest countryboywny]

I simply wanted to make sure that my intentions were being regarded as sincere, and not by some flake that many of you have run into.

Time is precious to most of us.

 

I know exactly how you're feeling. You're trying to do everything right to avoid a disappointment. If you have chosen a top flight professional, the chances of success improve greatly. Don't prepay if it isn't absolutely necessary. I have spent weekends with guys I hadn't met before. My advice is not to have a specific agenda, be relaxed and happy and let him show you his magic... go with the flow. BTW, most experienced escorts are quite adept at spotting phonies and I'm thinking that your escort senses that about you. (That you're sincere.. )

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

If you have chosen a top flight professional, the chances of success improve greatly.

 

I'm interested in knowing how much time you've invested in speaking to this person thus far.

[wisconsinguy]

I'm interested in knowing how much time you've invested in speaking to this person thus far.

Making a guess at email plus one text, 20-30 min in the span of about 3mths. I just mailed him today to "ask" if I could call next week to set up details. He quickly got back to me, and said, "Of course, anytime." I'm such a polite guy. And, I've tried to incorporate recommendations from many of you guys as well. What stays up front in that list, is "no endless emails." So, some time with email, no actual voice contact yet. I'll most likely vomit first when he answers.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Making a guess at email plus one text, 20-30 min in the span of about 3mths. I just mailed him today to "ask" if I could call next week to set up details. He quickly got back to me, and said, "Of course, anytime." I'm such a polite guy. And, I've tried to incorporate recommendations from many of you guys as well. What stays up front in that list, is "no endless emails." So, some time with email, no actual voice contact yet. I'll most likely vomit first when he answers.

 

Well if you want to shoot me your number via PM, you're always welcome to practice with me. I have to go shopping to return these horrible Bluetooth headphones, so I have some free time. I may help you have a great time, or avoid a potential disaster.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Well if you want to shoot me your number via PM, you're always welcome to practice with me. I have to go shopping to return these horrible Bluetooth headphones, so I have some free time. I may help you have a great time, or avoid a potential disaster.

 

I would certainly take up Chris' generous offer. Trust me, he is a very easy man to talk to.

 

I'm glad you have given up the idea of pre-payment. As others have said that really isn't necessary. However, I must say I am a bit concerned about you jumping into the deep end so quickly. Booking an entire weekend with the gentlemen when to many of us it may seem to be very little communication for a newbie such as yourself. This is your first time not only with an escort but with a man at all. Trust me, we all know the rush of the adrenaline, the excitement, in my case the fear and terror that I'll screw it up. What will you do with that entire weekend? Have you thought it through? You WILL need to talk with your escort extensively. Is there a show or a sporting event he would like to go to? What about restaurants? Since you are going to his town, rely on him to choose the best places to go. For an entire weekend, and you haven't even spoken on the phone yet? That is setting off some red flags for me. So please, take Chris up on his generous offer.

 

If hired dozens of times. I've hired dozens of escorts. And I've never communicated as little as you have with your escort for a first hire as you have for your first hire and your first time with a man. It may well work, especially if he is good and well reviewed. But you certainly need a lot more communication. A lot more.

[wisconsinguy]

I would certainly take up Chris' generous offer. Trust me, he is a very easy man to talk to.

 

I'm glad you have given up the idea of pre-payment. As others have said that really isn't necessary. However, I must say I am a bit concerned about you jumping into the deep end so quickly. Booking an entire weekend with the gentlemen when to many of us it may seem to be very little communication for a newbie such as yourself. This is your first time not only with an escort but with a man at all. Trust me, we all know the rush of the adrenaline, the excitement, in my case the fear and terror that I'll screw it up. What will you do with that entire weekend? Have you thought it through? You WILL need to talk with your escort extensively. Is there a show or a sporting event he would like to go to? What about restaurants? Since you are going to his town, rely on him to choose the best places to go. For an entire weekend, and you haven't even spoken on the phone yet? That is setting off some red flags for me. So please, take Chris up on his generous offer.

 

If hired dozens of times. I've hired dozens of escorts. And I've never communicated as little as you have with your escort for a first hire as you have for your first hire and your first time with a man. It may well work, especially if he is good and well reviewed. But you certainly need a lot more communication. A lot more.

Thank you Lee. I do have the beginnings of an agenda. Some things I would like to do in town, and items he would like to do as well. Sounds like to person is a grand tour guide, and of course theater type things. I'm guilty by wanting to do everything all at once. Trying to stay in the moment as pest as I can.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Thank you Lee. I do have the beginnings of an agenda. Some things I would like to do in town, and items he would like to do as well. Sounds like to person is a grand tour guide, and of course theater type things. I'm guilty by wanting to do everything all at once. Trying to stay in the moment as pest as I can.

 

Well take time and talk with him. Lots of time. Don't try to plan everything. Don't try to cram everything into the weekend. Let as much flow organically as it can. But for God's sake, call the man. But first, take up Chris' offer. I had a first hire yesterday. I'd met the gentleman in person before. And even though we had met and had talked, even though a mutual friend (one of my escorts) had conveyed what I was like to him and what he was like to me, we still had communicated more with each other than you have and my hire was for only 2 hours. And as I said, I'm hardly a newbie as you are. And please come back. The forum is great for newbies such as yourself. Because we all have been where you are.

[scottspearsxxx]

If I am travelling outside of Atlanta to meet with a client then I ask for him to pay for my transportation in order to secure my services but that is all. It lets me know that he is sincere about me coming to visit or as in some cases travel with him to that location.

[SteveEscort]

Escorts are always making appointments with clients they have never met, and do not normally expect pre-payment unless they are investing money of their own in the appt, or have some reason to suspect that the client is not going to follow through. If he is traveling to you and giving up a weekend of potential earnings from other clients, he may want some financial guarantee. I assume that "have" is a typo for "half;" I would not offer to send him that much, though if he asks for it, you can consider whether you want to risk it.

 

If I am travelling into London for an appointment with a client I have never met before I always ask for a deposit by bank transfer or cash over the counter to cover my rail and taxi fares. That's all I ever ask for. If they arnt forthcoming with it, I am not forthcoming at travelling 300 miles at considerable expense. Other than that, there is no need to prepay an escort

[bcohen7719]

I'm curious to know what kind of "research" was considered so accurate. As discussed so frequently on these forums,

the majority of escort pictures tend to be fake or hugely outdated. How do you even know what he looks like

unless you interviewed him via Skype?

[wisconsinguy]

I'm curious to know what kind of "research" was considered so accurate. As discussed so frequently on these forums,

the majority of escort pictures tend to be fake or hugely outdated. How do you even know what he looks like

unless you interviewed him via Skype?

I am not quite sure who this is directed to? If it's me, and how I came to my decisions, I will be happy to share. Just to let you know, if it's me, I spent time communicating, re- referencing with others . I have NO doubt I have made the right decision. I am still a bit confused as to even the question. Anywhooo. Can't wait for my upcoming FIRST weekend.

[McLeanspider]

It's funny, that and "Do I offer to secure our time together buy offering to at least transmit have his companionship charges before hand?" made me think of all those Nigerian gentlemen who want me to send my account numbers and passwords so that they could prepay my fees as well.

 

Kevin Slater

 

Well noticed, but let's assume is a typing mistake.

Personally I would "pay-pal" the money for the flight and a small reservation fee, not "half" or "have" his weekend fee.

[DeNeufaille]

I think this has mistake written all over it. A whole weekend with an escort you've never met, plus the fact that this is your first time ever, sounds like jumping in the pool way too fast. If I were you I'd meet the guy for an hour or two first. And pre-payment is almost never a good idea with someone you've never met before.

 

Well, I have not read the replies past this one, so not sure how it turned out for you.... I've spent weekend/ week vacations with several guys and never met before ( Zach Wilson, Peter Hung, Wood Nymph, Calvin Croft, and others) the trek. All turned out EXCELLENT as well as evenings and over nights with Ace, Scott Grey, Ryan Turner, and Tommy D.... No regrets with these gents!!! However, this "streak" did not last and much agree with "poolboy" as prepayment is almost never a good idea with some one ya never met before.. I got "had" by one of the 'best' reviewed guys and have not mentioned him. All a gamble, my friend, and find a guy ya share mutual trust and stay with it.

[wisconsinguy]

Well, I have not read the replies past this one, so not sure how it turned out for you.... I've spent weekend/ week vacations with several guys and never met before ( Zach Wilson, Peter Hung, Wood Nymph, Calvin Croft, and others) the trek. All turned out EXCELLENT as well as evenings and over nights with Ace, Scott Grey, Ryan Turner, and Tommy D.... No regrets with these gents!!! However, this "streak" did not last and much agree with "poolboy" as prepayment is almost never a good idea with some one ya never met before.. I got "had" by one of the 'best' reviewed guys and have not mentioned him. All a gamble, my friend, and find a guy ya share mutual trust and stay with it.

It turned out way beyond my best expectations. I am still working on the review, and find it hard to pull what happened out of my mind. I did not pre-pay. But in this case, it would have been fine. The weekend thing was out of the world.