ROUGH SEX -- yea or nay? (Just an informal poll of clients and escorts)

[Decatur Guy]

Mostly I'm a yea. Not all of the time. But generally, I like it. I can be the giver or the receiver, but I only like to be one or the other at any given encounter. I've only been the receiver of rough sex with escorts, and of course, some pretty well advertised themselves as tops who thrived on that, so it made the whole thing pretty easy.

 

Then there are times where some hair pulling and ass slapping and head shoving and really hard fucking and verbal and extra-aggressive kissing just aren't my thing at all, and I want something more tender and "vanilla": slow head; long, lingering kisses; a more gentle fuck; massages. (And it's not mutually exclusive. I rarely want to immediately start out with the rough play. I like to transition into it. Then other times, I just want to stay nice and easy the whole time.)

 

I'd say it's about 2 to 1 for me in favor of the rougher play. And the really aggressive kissing, rough nipple play and a good ol'-fashioned selfish face fuck are sort of the trifecta for me.

 

So just curious where others fall on the whole "rough sex continuum."

[+ honcho]

I require it to be rough but respectful. I love to dish out what I like to take but don't insist.

 

One of my profiles on one of the gay sites has a Cochran-esque phrase: "My balls must hurt for me to squirt"

(it's a bit of an exaggeration, but not much).

[jjkrkwood]

I am really not into pain, and am not an anal kinda guy, so most of the roughness is lost on me when it comes to Cocksucking. I dont mind when I guy forces my head into his but and grinds his hole against my tongue, but I hat when guys thrust and force their cocks down my throat and try to gag me. Just not my thing. I know my job, a little verbal is fine. Especially when they have a smallish cock BUT they think its a monster and try to choke you with it. Its more of a nuissance that erotica... also I am not into "painful" nipple play. Mine are not sensitive, so its not pleasurable when guys pinch hard or bite them. However, I can give it as hard as they want.... I dont mind playful smacks on the butt or the face, I dont have any hair to pull, but that was OK when I did have hair.... Bottom line, I am usually miore or a "sensual" kinda guy, like stroking and caressing and using my mouth in a slow, probing way.... but the funny thing is if you look at me, you would think that I like it "rough".... Cant judge a book as they say !

[+ Axiom2001]

When I was in Brasil a few years ago, an escort fucked my mouth/ throat to the point that I was out of commission for over a week. ...had to seek medical care when I returned to the States, and when I'd gone to another Brasilian city and to a sauna, the only thing that I could do was sit and observe. The "boys" who were there asked my friend why I was not seeking what they had to offer. My amigo smiled and feigned innocence.

 

I like big dicks but cannot have my mouth and throat treated roughly. ...like to slap ass hard with open hand as well as have mine slapped. ...like rough nip play with fingers and at time like to feel some teeth on the "twins."

Was with a hot leather man in San Francisco two years ago. He's a "ginger man" and has an ad at http://www.rentmen.com, San Francisco. When we were together, I was tied up but was not hurting in anyway. He and I had one hell of a great time. Eating ass in this position is wonderful. {...was my first time.} But like JJ, I really don't like sexual play too, too rough short of pain! {The preceding thoughts are random; excuse the organization!}

[trilingual]

Not for me -- I'm a lover, not a fighter. Some hot talk and a bit of domination can be a turn on, but that's about it for me. I don't honestly understand what other guys get from rough sex, but I recognize that our differences are what makes the world go round! But for me vanilla with just a hint of spice is all I crave!

[jawjateck]

Nay.....I'm not a fan of suffering and pain.

[Guest verymarried]

The ability to feel and impose the pressure of strong tight muscles on a sex partner to me, is the basic draw of male-male sex over male-female sex. It doesn't mean it has to be painful. I consider it art.

[buzz]

For me pain is a major turn-on. Sex without pain has no appeal to me. I thoroughly enjoy rough sex -- bondage, corporal punishment (whipping, caning, flogging, paddling), intense tit torture and cock/ball torture.

[jgoo]

I have not really had rough sex, other than a little butt slapping/spanking, but I have been very very interested in trying some. As a newbie it is a matter of finding the right escort who will be willing to introduce me to that side of things and understands I need to be introduced gradually to it. I can imagine it would be a process of a number of sessions to see how I really like it and how far I want to take things.

[SteveEscort]

No real interest in it. I don't mind verbal but tops who insists on slamming their dicks in you are dicks themselves. There's no pleasure in it

[Xander]

really not my thing ... I'm more of the slow sensual highly-erotic/romantic kind of guy. But ... different strokes for different folks.

[Bosguy]

I have not really had rough sex, other than a little butt slapping/spanking, but I have been very very interested in trying some. As a newbie it is a matter of finding the right escort who will be willing to introduce me to that side of things and understands I need to be introduced gradually to it. I can imagine it would be a process of a number of sessions to see how I really like it and how far I want to take things.

 

Rough sex to me does not have to mean pain. I believe it means aggressive, which I like. A great guy somewhat in your area to guide you into this side of gay sex would be Romann in Chicago

 

Boston Bill

[gallahadesquire]

really not my thing ... I'm more of the slow sensual highly-erotic/romantic kind of guy. But ... different strokes for different folks.

 

Right on!

[Decatur Guy]

Thanks for all the replies, folks. Interesting to see the all the varied responses. (And to clarify, in my mind rough sex and true S/M are different things).

[seeker630]

Rough sex to me does not have to mean pain. I believe it means aggressive, which I like. A great guy somewhat in your area to guide you into this side of gay sex would be Romann in Chicago

 

Boston Bill

 

I don't think of my preference as 'rough sex' but 'aggressive sex'. I like the sensual mode too - and especially like cuddling & stroking afterwards - but I tend to be pretty aggressive in the main event (which came as a surprise to many of my partners, since it seems at odds with my 'normal' personality.)

 

I enjoy aggressive kissing, some ass-slapping, working on nipples (IF it's an erogenous zone for my partner) and face-fucking - but ONLY as the aggressor. And ONLY if my partner is comfortable with it or really likes it. I have no interest in S&M, but if slapping a guy's ass or nibbling on his nipples turns him on, it turns ME on. And I when I find a guy who LIKES to choke on my cock, he's a definite keeper. And on the rare occasions that I top, I like the guy pinned under me.

 

But - I'm always aware of feedback and don't persist with anything that my partner clearly doesn't like.

[Phil_musc]

I'm a lover - slow and sensual wins the race. Jack rabbit fucking does nothing for me unless it's at the end of a slow sensual build up where there is absolutely no place else to go. Aggressive is fine so long as it seems to fit the character/vibe I get from the guy. Otherwise it's kinda silly and ineffective.

[+ purplekow]

I do enjoy slapping a hard muscular ass and then kissing and licking it. Derek of Rick and Derek has a particularly slappable ass and he seems to enjoy it being slapped red. At least with me, Rick was more into rooting me on to slap Derek harder.

I enjoy rough nipple play both to give and to receive and grabbing a handful of hair, pulling a man's head back and then kissing him hard and then harder is an awful lot of fun. So put me in the likes it rough column but rough and sensible not rough and insane. I did have a session with Rick and Derek in which they bound me to the bed and did some candle wax drips and cock and ball slapping. This was spontaneous, at least for me it was they may well have been planning it. Going into something like that I would have thought, not so much fun, but in the end, it was quite the ride and I have enjoyed many subsequent but different rides.

[uwsman2]

I'm with Boston Bill. What I like is an escort who's a take-charge guy that is aggressive and forceful. I'm not a pain pig. I just enjoy feeling the strength of another man penetrating and possessing me. Surrendering control to him. And, once in a while, I'll look for an escort who can dish out light S&M and bondage as an occasional fling.

[Phil_musc]

I do enjoy slapping a hard muscular ass and then kissing and licking it. Derek of Rick and Derek has a particularly slappable ass and he seems to enjoy it being slapped red. At least with me, Rick was more into rooting me on to slap Derek harder.

I enjoy rough nipple play both to give and to receive and grabbing a handful of hair, pulling a man's head back and then kissing him hard and then harder is an awful lot of fun. So put me in the likes it rough column but rough and sensible not rough and insane. I did have a session with Rick and Derek in which they bound me to the bed and did some candle wax drips and cock and ball slapping. This was spontaneous, at least for me it was they may well have been planning it. Going into something like that I would have thought, not so much fun, but in the end, it was quite the ride and I have enjoyed many subsequent but different rides.

 

You make it sound so hot, PK. Maybe I'm not as romantic and vanilla as I thought;-) Always willing to learn new tricks. . .

[+ Axiom2001]

I'm with Boston Bill. What I like is an escort who's a take-charge guy that is aggressive and forceful. I'm not a pain pig. I just enjoy feeling the strength of another man penetrating and possessing me. Surrendering control to him. And, once in a while, I'll look for an escort who can dish out light S&M and bondage as an occasional fling.

 

This is what I like, too, but if I am with a "youngish bottom boy," {which has occurred 3Xs during 2012}, I like to be in control; I like "my boy" to receive from "his daddy." I like to slap ass {open handed} and tell "my hot bottom" boy what I desire from him! This has been too hot for me indeed! I'd liked! I liked! I liked!

[adriano46]

Another vote for "nay" -- like to have HOT sex, SWEATY sex, ROMANTIC sex, and even a tad RAUNCHY sex but no pain and no domination.

[RockHard]

Sha-nay-nay.

 

Slap my hard cock against your face as you come up for air from licking my asshole. Tap my hanging ball sack as you suck my cock shaft deep to the base. Punch my tits and pinch my nipples as I shoot my load. Just don't hurt me.

[bigvalboy]

I personally love to be cuddled, stroked softly, sensual nip play, some cock teasing, and then when my partner is completely turned on then I will turn it up a bit. So I guess that is nay to rough sex.

[Decatur Guy]

Thanks for all the different replies, guys.

[uwsman2]

One of the frustrations of hiring is being able to find an escort who has experience at this kind of rough stuff, knows how to intuit a guy's limits, and can do a spontaneous session.... When you find one, hold on tight!