"Ask Me" Rates

[Maxx00]

Hey guys,

 

Just wondering, what is the best way to approach escorts with “ask me” rates? I know it’s risky to discuss prices but how do you find out the rate? Should the client ask in the initial e-mail/text or first check the escort’s availability and then ask in the follow-up? The “ask me” rate may be a bit high for me and I’d like to find that out before setting a time and date. I don’t want to waste the escort’s time if I’m unable to scrape up the funds.

 

The only time I approached an escort with an “ask me” rate was the only time I’ve never received a response, from either e-mail or text. I simply asked his rate for an hour of his time, not describing anything in detail, and got nothing in return. Did I handle it wrong? He was advertising as being in my town for the weekend so I know it was an active ad.

 

I much prefer to deal with escorts who are upfront with their rates but some of the “ask me” escorts are just too hot to dismiss.

 

Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

 

Maxx

[SteveEscort]

I, personally don't understand "Ask Me" rates. I sometimes wonder if those escorts with ask me rates use it to judge what the budget of the client is before committing to a price. You don't walk into a Supermarket and see their bacon priced at "Ask Me" so I don't understand why escorts do it.

[jasoncarter_dfw]

Well here's the deal...for outcalls I have no choice than list ask me. I charge more if I have to travel further from my home, as would be expected. If I could give a total breakdown of all my outcall rates...I would. But, sites like rentboy give you one rate option and that's it.

[adriano46]

Jason, thanks for your explanation, but for me that is not an excuse. In the blurb you are able to write about yourself and whatever you want to say of services, you can easily incorporate a phrase such as "For out rates, there will be an additional fee for distance" or whatever. That way your "rate" can be listed and the client is aware (as many of us are already) that if you are traveling (whether it is by taxi, car, whatever) for your extra travel expenses.

 

I personally dislike the "ask me" but to answer Maxx00, I ASK in my initial contact, and if the escort is not concrete (after all, he says "ask me" and I am asking) then I move on.

[MiamiLooker]

Hey guys,

 

Just wondering, what is the best way to approach escorts with “ask me” rates? I know it’s risky to discuss prices but how do you find out the rate? Should the client ask in the initial e-mail/text or first check the escort’s availability and then ask in the follow-up? The “ask me” rate may be a bit high for me and I’d like to find that out before setting a time and date. I don’t want to waste the escort’s time if I’m unable to scrape up the funds.

 

The only time I approached an escort with an “ask me” rate was the only time I’ve never received a response, from either e-mail or text. I simply asked his rate for an hour of his time, not describing anything in detail, and got nothing in return. Did I handle it wrong? He was advertising as being in my town for the weekend so I know it was an active ad.

 

I much prefer to deal with escorts who are upfront with their rates but some of the “ask me” escorts are just too hot to dismiss.

 

Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

 

Maxx

 

In the first email, mention what you’re into, where you’re located (assuming you want an outcall), approximately when you’d like an appointment, and finally, ask what his fee is.

[SteveEscort]

I think it's better to publish a rate rather than not publish one. For local travel I add £10 onto my fee, if it's over 10 miles but less than 40 miles I charge £20, however, if I have had a slow week and there's a guy in a hotel who doesn't want to pay an extra £20 I will usually do the appointment anyway at my incall rate. £130 is better off in my pocket than someone elses and I am not going to argue over £20 when he's booking a few hours.

[seeker630]

Its worth noting that one of the most-used sites in the US, Men4RentNow, no longer allows escorts to list their rates - the site default is 'Ask'.

[EZEtoGRU]

I no longer pursue guys that don't list their rates. Too much mystery for me and I can't be bothered to contact someone that won't put his rates in his ad. I agree with another poster that most guys that use the "Ask Me" approach want to have the latitude of sizing up the client on the phone and making a spot judgement of how high a price the client is willing to bear.

 

As for M4RN, I don't use that site any longer.

[EastbayMike]

Two things about an escort's ad send me immediately to the next ad, lack of a face/torso pic and an "ask me" rate.

[jgoo]

I guess I am in the minority but the "ask me" doesn't bother me too much. If I am generally interested, its just an added detail that I include in my initial contact to get the info. I would prefer they quoted a rate but I don't automatically reject him if it is not quoted. I won't play games and if they come back with something vague, such as "what do you think would be fair" or "what do you want to do", then I move on.

[Steven_Draker]

The only time I approached an escort with an “ask me” rate was the only time I’ve never received a response, from either e-mail or text. I simply asked his rate for an hour of his time, not describing anything in detail, and got nothing in return. Did I handle it wrong?

 

Hi Maxx and welcome to the Forum. To address your question directly: if you have sent a message with a short "How much?" I'm not surprised that you've never received a reply. As always in a first time communication, I'd recommend a short introduction about yourself along with your wishes and desires.

[bigvalboy]

Two things about an escort's ad send me immediately to the next ad, lack of a face/torso pic and an "ask me" rate.

 

Exactly the same for me. I hate to even bother to ask for a face pic. I did a few times, and was pleased when it came through, however on several additional occasions, the escort conveniently side stepped the issue. I ask once, and if the question is too complicated and they do not grant a simple request like that, then I move on. This should not be some sort of game. There are too many risks as it is.

[+ deej]

You don't walk into a Supermarket and see their bacon priced at "Ask Me" so I don't understand why escorts do it.

 

That analogy hasn't held water in years. Barcodes ended the era of items having prices printed on them.

 

Big retailers like Wal-Mart and Target (it's a US thing, Steve) have strategically placed scanners labeled "PRICE CHECK" because the prices rarely get marked on the product themselves. Those are exactly the same as "ask me".

 

There's no win-win formula on pricing. If you put in the price you want, people will gripe that you're too expensive. If you put in "ask", they complain also.

[MiamiLooker]

I guess I am in the minority but the "ask me" doesn't bother me too much. If I am generally interested, its just an added detail that I include in my initial contact to get the info. I would prefer they quoted a rate but I don't automatically reject him if it is not quoted. I won't play games and if they come back with something vague, such as "what do you think would be fair" or "what do you want to do", then I move on.

 

I agree. Doesn’t bother me either. I think it gives the client a bit of an advantage in many cases.

[SteveEscort]

That analogy hasn't held water in years.

 

It must be a states thing. In England it's illegal to display an item without a price in a shop and the price has to be the price you pay NOT the price plus tax

[jgoo]

Having the item price include taxes is a really nice thing and i miss that from the time I lived in the UK. Made life a bit simpler.

 

 

It must be a states thing. In England it's illegal to display an item without a price in a shop and the price has to be the price you pay NOT the price plus tax

[adriano46]

Just today had to deal with an escort - new very striking guy - on Rentboy. A week or so ago, sent him 2 or 3 e-mails but without an answer (and admittedly I am not sure how effective e-mailing a guy through the site of Rentboy is -- while Rentmen seems to be very effective).

 

He asked me to text (which takes me more time), and I did. I finally asked his fee for an hour -- and he openly told me it would be $400/hr. I thanked him for his honesty, but told him it was way more than I would be willing to pay. He did not try to haggle -- he was very polite thanking me for expressing an interest and writing. OPn my part, knowing the price now, I moved on.

[EXPAT]

I avoid all "ask me" price boys because I'm sure in many cases they have "chinese menu prices" and I have never supported that because "suddenly" the price goes up. I also disagree with escorts who feel they need to do that for making up for distance travel. You can easily have a rate and a policy on distance travel. That is very simple to do and solves a lot of pre-confusion. And you can put anything you want in your description. There are many escorts who outline a more complicated pricing scheme in their description on rentboy. Again, very easy to do and takes away a lot of the pre-confusion.

[EZEtoGRU]

It must be a states thing. In England it's illegal to display an item without a price in a shop and the price has to be the price you pay NOT the price plus tax

 

Steve, I honestly don't know what deej is talking about. If you go into any Walmart (or any other supermarket) in the US to buy bacon (or anything else), the price is clearly displayed. It's true there probably is not a price tag on the product itself.....but when you go to pick-up the product off the counter, the price is clearly displayed.

 

Your original analogy was valid and still holds water today.

[unsub2O17]

I've had a couple of escorts ask "are you OK with such and such a rate?". I'm very comfortable with that approach.

[jimboivyo]

I know this sounds odd, but how about you just email the escort and ASK?

 

if you're interested in a fella and his rate is what you can afford, then there's no harm in it

[SteveEscort]

It's true there probably is not a price tag on the product itself.....but when you go to pick-up the product off the counter, the price is clearly displayed.

 

Same here, most things you buy don't have a price on the product unless they're a pre printed price promotion or in the case of pre-packed meat the price has to be displayed on the product if the prices differs from joint to joint because of the weight.

[EZEtoGRU]

I know this sounds odd, but how about you just email the escort and ASK?

 

if you're interested in a fella and his rate is what you can afford, then there's no harm in it

 

I know this sounds odd, but how about the escort just publishes his hourly rate in his ad? I cannot think of a single compelling reason for the escort to not include his rate other than to take advantage of some customers or situations. I am not really a price-conscious shopper in most situations. I usually pursue quality over economy whether it is choosing an item on a restaurant menu or looking for company for the evening. But I like to know what something is going to cost. I am very much in favor of transparency. IMHO, there is something inherently disengenuous about an escort not posting his rates. For me, it reeks of some hidden agenda.

[jimboivyo]

I know this sounds odd, but how about the escort just publishes his hourly rate in his ad? I cannot think of a single compelling reason for the escort to not include his rate other than to take advantage of some customers or situations. I am not really a price-conscious shopper in most situations. I usually pursue quality over economy whether it is choosing an item on a restaurant menu or looking for company for the evening. But I like to know what something is going to cost. I am very much in favor of transparency. IMHO, there is something inherently disengenuous about an escort not posting his rates. For me, it reeks of some hidden agenda.

 

youre obviously a very negative person based on this response. other escorts gave reasonable responses here already. I've emailed guys in the past who put ASK and they've told me, simple as that.

 

hidden agenda? that's something a burned skeptic would say. thankfully I'm not that kind of person. I like to give folks the benefit of the doubt.

[down_to_business]

youre obviously a very negative person based on this response. other escorts gave reasonable responses here already. I've emailed guys in the past who put ASK and they've told me, simple as that.

 

hidden agenda? that's something a burned skeptic would say. thankfully I'm not that kind of person. I like to give folks the benefit of the doubt.

 

Maybe his opinion could have been phrased better but your personal attack on his opinion was uncalled for.

 

As to the ASk phenomenon it comes down to this. ASK is quite simply a waste of MY time and from listening to so many of the escorts post their opinions 'time wasters' are not a good thing. Yes, it is a total waste of my time for me to have to email an escort and wait 3-7 days before he responds to my question about rates (if he responds at all) when he simply could of had the courtesy to post them and save me the time of and frustration of having to contact him just to eventually find out that what he is charging is not in my comfort zone. Had he put the over $250 per hour figure in the first place, I could have moved on without the wasting 1 additional minute of my time and efforts and without a whole lot of additional and unnecessary frustration for both of us.

 

Seriously, is it so hard to list rates (when putting an ad on a decent website that allows it), post real accurate and recent pics, and offer a true description of the questions given (like age, smoking, body hair, sexual position, ethnicity, tastes/specialities/fetishes, location, etc. etc.).