How do I review this guy?

[gp0560]

How do you rate a meeting that was fine but that you would not repeat?

 

What I mean is, I hired this guy, we got along well, he's a very nice man, he was "there" for me, he met expectations, and all that, but I would not see him again. I had a good time, but would not spend money to meet him again. Sort of a "been there, done that" experience.

 

Do I enter Rating = Satisfactory, Hire Again = No, Description = Yes, Lived Up = Yes?

 

The problem for me with that approach is that, even though it's true, it gives the wrong impression on the surface. Meaning that if a prospective client is skimming the reviews, and he sees anything but Satisfactory, Yes, Yes, Yes, he's going to move on. Especially if he's not a Forum member who knows how to use the 411 question in the Deli.

 

What do you do?

 

Escorts, what do you want me to do?

[jgoo]

I am not an escort so hope you do not mind me giving my two cents worth. Honesty is always the best so if you really feel that way (i.e. Rating = Satisfactory, Hire Again = No, Description = Yes, Lived Up = Yes) then post it that way and give some explanation in the text. If I see something that is not consistent with other reviews, I'll stop and read the text in detail to understand better why they rated the guy that way. Now if this is the escorts first review then the risk of people passing him up increases but ultimately to keep the review process as I believe it is intended, it is best to be honest in all aspects of the review. You can't control how others will use the review but all you can do is express as best you are able the experience as accurately as possible and if you would repeat or not (and why).

[seeker630]

How do you rate a meeting that was fine but that you would not repeat?

 

What I mean is, I hired this guy, we got along well, he's a very nice man, he was "there" for me, he met expectations, and all that, but I would not see him again. I had a good time, but would not spend money to meet him again. Sort of a "been there, done that" experience.

 

Do I enter Rating = Satisfactory, Hire Again = No, Description = Yes, Lived Up = Yes?

 

The problem for me with that approach is that, even though it's true, it gives the wrong impression on the surface. Meaning that if a prospective client is skimming the reviews, and he sees anything but Satisfactory, Yes, Yes, Yes, he's going to move on. Especially if he's not a Forum member who knows how to use the 411 question in the Deli.

 

What do you do?

 

Escorts, what do you want me to do?

 

As a client, I would give the rating you suggest, I think. You can point out the positives in the narrative section and perhaps elaborate on why you wouldn't see him again. Sometimes, it's just chemistry, and sometimes he's just not quite your 'type' - but he might be a better fit for another client who reads the review. Also, some clients almost never repeat, because novelty is part of the experience they're looking for.

[citylaw1]

I have been in exactly the same situation before. I chose not to review in each instance. I have only reviewed positive experiences. I would, however, review a very bad experience. The ones in the middle I leave alone.

[unsub2O17]

I think that jgoo expressed it very well. Put what you put in the OP in the descriptive section of the review. Probably Daddy will send the review to the escort for a response before he posts it which will give readers an even greater ability to make up their own minds.

[down_to_business]

I have been in exactly the same situation before. I chose not to review in each instance. I have only reviewed positive experiences. I would, however, review a very bad experience. The ones in the middle I leave alone.

 

I handled these experiences the exact same way. I personally didn't think that posting a review of an adequate or non-repeat experience would add anything to help another person make their decision.

 

I also see nothing wrong with reviewing them, but would probably prefer to put an '*' in the yes no box with the description of why '*' in the text below.

[maxwellissmart]

How do you rate a meeting that was fine but that you would not repeat?

 

What I mean is, I hired this guy, we got along well, he's a very nice man, he was "there" for me, he met expectations, and all that, but I would not see him again. I had a good time, but would not spend money to meet him again. Sort of a "been there, done that" experience.

 

Do I enter Rating = Satisfactory, Hire Again = No, Description = Yes, Lived Up = Yes?

 

The problem for me with that approach is that, even though it's true, it gives the wrong impression on the surface. Meaning that if a prospective client is skimming the reviews, and he sees anything but Satisfactory, Yes, Yes, Yes, he's going to move on. Especially if he's not a Forum member who knows how to use the 411 question in the Deli.

 

What do you do?

 

Escorts, what do you want me to do?

 

It's not a crime to want something once and once only.

 

But as Juan Vancouver might say: there are multiple ways to put a positive spin on your experience, for both the escort and yourself. Even if it's a one-time deal, you can remember it was good at the time, scratched your itchy parts and left you feeling satisfied. And now, as a client—you want to move on a try something different. This leaves a good taste in everyone's mouths, you said what you meant, and now you can use the forum to find that next experience that might leave you wanting a repeat performance next time.

 

Keep in mind, by putting "NO" in the box—you may end up damaging the escort's business, not mention that you're sending a mixed message to people who use the site. This brings up a situation I've encountered both as an escort and as a business professional—what to do when you're there and giving your all, but the client isn't. Occasionally I encounter clients with whom I have a weak or no real dynamic. They're vague and detached, they don't like intimacy, and so forth. This leaves me frustrated and wondering why these people even called me in the first place. And still others refuse to allow themselves into the moment and remain spectators while I try to coach them into having fun—or sometimes try to read their mind, because they won't tell me what would satisfy them.

 

And as Unsub says: "Probably Daddy will send the review to the escort for a response before he posts it which will give readers an even greater ability to make up their own minds." While that may be, the escort is going to be on the defensive and if it were me, about the only thing I would put is: "well, I tried."

[jjkrkwood]

unsub, EVERY review is merely the clients "perception" of the encounter and his opinion of the escort. So therefore, give YOURS with the current situation, exactly as you said. If it was simply a matter of NO CHEMISTRY, thats OK, say that.... Noone can fault you for taste or Honesty, and as long as you are not casting blame on the escort, he cant fault you either. Some people like citylaw choose not to review their less than stellar encounters, however I believe there is something to be said for an encounter that lacks chemistry, and its for the reader to decipher that for himself BASED on other details you provide in the "written" portion of the review.

[robberbaron4u]

An experience whch served to satisfy my need of the moment, but not the "trip to the moon" I had anticipated?

[rvwnsd]

I think you should write the review, indicate "No" in the "Hire Again" box, and explain why you would not hire him again in the text portion of the review. If someone is skimming the reviews, the "No" answer will pop out and might cause them to pause and read the body of the review.

[+ Charlie]

I have often given positive, "Satisfactory" reviews to escorts, but also said "No" to "hire again." Sometimes I explain that I rarely do repeats, but sometimes it is obvious from the situation that this was a one time deal (e.g., I was on vacation somewhere that I am not likely to return to regularly enough to meet the same guy again). I think very few clients who use the reviews to make decisions would do so simply on the basis of a "no" to "hire again," if the context of that one item is clear.

[corndog]

I think it depends on whether the escort has other (recent) reviews. If they've got some reviews, I'd just leave it alone and skip doing a review... perhaps you don't really have anything to add to what has already been said.

 

However, if the escort has very few reviews, or very old ones, you should post a review, and give a little explanation of why you wouldn't hire again. As a reader, I'm often looking to verify that an escort is for real and not some kind of scam artist, or a cop. For this purpose, even a brief or middle-of-the-road reviews helps out a lot; the lack of anything strongly negative gives me a little peace of mind. It tells me I'm probably not going to be walking into a seriously dangerous situation.

[gcursor]

Personally I wouldn't review him at all because unless the experience is something that stands out in my mind than I'd rather not review it.

[jjkrkwood]

Personally I wouldn't review him at all because unless the experience is something that stands out in my mind than I'd rather not review it.

 

GC, I think you might be missing the point of a Review. Its really not about you at this point. Its about "helping" others to make a decision, and if there was something about the encounter or the person that made you NOT want to repeat, that information might be helpful in others making THEIR decision about the guy. Just a thought...

[rvwnsd]

GC, I think you might be missing the point of a Review. Its really not about you at this point. Its about "helping" others to make a decision, and if there was something about the encounter or the person that made you NOT want to repeat, that information might be helpful in others making THEIR decision about the guy. Just a thought...

 

Excellent point. In the case of the OP, the thing that made him decide he would not hire the escort again could be the very thing that would make someone else want to hire the guy.

[seeker630]

GC, I think you might be missing the point of a Review. Its really not about you at this point. Its about "helping" others to make a decision, and if there was something about the encounter or the person that made you NOT want to repeat, that information might be helpful in others making THEIR decision about the guy. Just a thought...

 

Totally agree. It's worth noting also that we're not necessarily talking about NEGATIVE experiences - an 'ordinary', B-grade experience is still a positive one, in my mind. And sometimes that might be the only option, depending on time & location. So, an ordinary experience is worth reporting.

[bigvalboy]

I agree also. I would not pass on an escort if a client wrote a positive review then gave the escort a satisfactory grade, and noted that he would not rehire. I understand that everyones experience is different. Sometimes escorts and clients just do not click for whatever reason. I have read reviews where escorts have been a little late and that alone enraged a client, to the point where that is all that they talked about, or didn't return an email promptly. All reviews good and bad help others to make a decision.

[uwsman2]

But so far, the only escort who has weighed in on this question - which was, after all, posed to escorts in the "Ask an Escort" forum - was Max. Are there any other escorts who would care to comment? I would also find this information useful, as I have had some experiences like this in the past.

[gp0560]

But so far, the only escort who has weighed in on this question - which was, after all, posed to escorts in the "Ask an Escort" forum - was Max. Are there any other escorts who would care to comment? I would also find this information useful, as I have had some experiences like this in the past.

 

Precisely. We need more input from the escorts. At this point, I think I have three options:

• Hire Again? = No, and explain in the Experience section. This is the option closest to the truth, but it works ONLY IF the reader reads the Experience section before passing on the escort.
  

• Hire Again? = Yes, and explain in the Experience section. This option entails an even more complicated explanation in the Experience section.
  

• Do not review. The easiest option, and perhaps the best, unless I want to boost the escort enough that I’m willing to explain in the Experience section.
  

Right now, pending more escort input, I'm leaning to the third option. Part of me wants very much to use the first option, but more than that, I want to do no harm to the escort.

 

Look at it this way: I want to write to my audience. Who is my audience in Daddy's Reviews? Which option is best to use with them? Anyone here want to pontificate on the characteristics of review readers?

[bigvalboy]

Anyone here want to pontificate on the characteristics of review readers?

 

LOL LOL...not anymore, since you only want to hear from escorts...goooood night aaaalll.

[jawjateck]

Years ago, I submitted alot of "Recommended" reviews, but most of my reviews are rated "Satisfactory" now. If the encounter was good, met expectations, etc, satisfactory is an apt description. I reserve the highest rating for escort-of-the-year type candidates, of which the vast majority of escorts are not. Satisfactory means I had a good time, the escort showed up and performed as advertised, and there were no unpleasant issues. Nothing wrong with that rating at all.

 

And there are many reasons why a reviewer may report "no" to the repeat hire question. For example, I have submitted positive reviews of escorts but answered "no" to that question simply because we live so far apart, our paths are not likely to cross, and I'm not going to fly the guy thousands of miles to meet me. It's not a reflection of desirability, but of reality.

[jjkrkwood]

I can totally understand the many escorts here who do NOT reply and their reasons for such. Its kinda like a "damned if you Do, damned if you dont" situation, and the escorts perhaps are choosing to stay out of the firing line ? Their business and livlihood depends on clients, and you never know what will tick a client off. And word of mouth is a powerful tool.... So no

pressure on you guys ! :o

[BostonPhil]

You could contact the escort, tell them you are wanting to write a review and explain the situation to them and see what they would rather have you do.

[jgoo]

Years ago, I submitted alot of "Recommended" reviews, but most of my reviews are rated "Satisfactory" now. If the encounter was good, met expectations, etc, satisfactory is an apt description. I reserve the highest rating for escort-of-the-year type candidates, of which the vast majority of escorts are not. Satisfactory means I had a good time, the escort showed up and performed as advertised, and there were no unpleasant issues. Nothing wrong with that rating at all.

 

I think you make an excellent point and I need to reconsider how I rate guys going forward because the highest rating, for me, should be for exceptional escort encounters. It goes to show how difficult it is to have a uniform standard for rating and evaluating.

 

And there are many reasons why a reviewer may report "no" to the repeat hire question. For example, I have submitted positive reviews of escorts but answered "no" to that question simply because we live so far apart, our paths are not likely to cross, and I'm not going to fly the guy thousands of miles to meet me. It's not a reflection of desirability, but of reality.

 

This seems to go to how you interpret the "Hire Again?" question. Are you "Likely to Hire Again?" or "If you had the opportunity would you hire again?". I have, in the past, always gone by the second because it seems fairer to the guy. The first one can be highly influenced by the distance in many cases, as you mention. But the second is more related to the actual experience and if the opportunity came up (i.e. we were in the same place at the same time) would you hire again. Again, just how I interpret it.

[Juan Vancouver]

I think the point here is: What's your intention for posting a review? Do you want to document every encounter you have? Do you want to help other clients with your useful information? Do you want to help the escort promote himself?

 

All these options will grant different responses, but in the end I come back to the same thought:

 

If you don't like chocolate, it would be entirely useless and confusing if you posted a review about the famous "Dark Devil's Sin" chocolate cupcake.

 

"Yeah, it's chocolate, and it was fluffy. The icing has three layers of different chocolates and the centre has soft chocolate fudge... meh! I certainly won't have another. Ever. I ate it. It was satisfactory but certainly won't spend money on it again."

 

If the escort was good, accurate in his representation, worked hard and intelligently, focused on you and your needs, communicated well and was likeable but you didn't feel chemistry with him, why would you need to review him? He clearly is not your cup of tea. Posting a review, regardless of how honest it may be, would only be confusing and inaccurate.

 

If you ate the chocolate cupcake without liking chocolate and found a maggot in it and the icing was rancid, by all means, review. If your escort (which by the way is not your cup of tea) smelt funny, was late, was aloof, fat, ugly, mean or not fat enough, by all means let everyone know. Your review will be useful to both those who like chocolate and those who don't.

 

I think often clients are unaware of how hurtful it can be for the escort when they use faint praise.

 

A while ago a review of mine was posted and I was dumbfounded. The guy said something like "It was a good session. Juan is good and it was pleasant." (Of course I am exaggerating here.) I tried and tried to understand who this guy was but couldn't. At the same time I was having intense and profuse correspondence with a client who repeatedly -and ever so eloquently kept telling me how I had changed his life, opened his eyes to himself, and how mind-blowing his experience had been with me, all this in the most passionate and beautiful hyperbole even months after the session. At one point he said: "you didn't comment on my review, though." I couldn't believe this was the same person! Nothing in his review mentioned anything specific about our session and nothing in it spoke about the experience he told me he had had.

 

"I am just a private person." He explained.

 

Still today whenever I read his review, I can't help but worrying about that entirely dissatisfied client who had an OK session, even if I know he didn't.

 

If your review will be useful to anyone, by all means, post it. If you are not an expert or even interested in the product you are thinking of reviewing... why bother?

 

My point is: Do you like goddamed chocolate or not? ;-)