Shouldn't you even try to pretend?

[jjkrkwood]

Get to it!

 

Oh, my dear BP, if I even thought there was one ounce of seriousness in that command, my knee-pad would be on and my tongue out.... But it did peak my interest . (Oops, thats NOT my interest that is peaking!)

[maxwellissmart]

And just to hammer the point home...

 

Steve -- I'm a little late to the party, but I'll chime in anyway. You state repeatedly that you ignore and avoid your client's calls because you don't want to be rude to him. I think that behavior is incredibly rude and disrespectful. It would be much kinder of you to answer his call and tell him that you appreciate his interest but cannot see him. You do not have to be mean, judgmental, or rude when you inform him. If he asks why, explain to him that you do not share his role playing interests and do not want to participate any longer. The next time he tricks you and shows up at your door, you should be polite but firm while explaining that you do not want to proceed with the appointment. Although the client should not trick you to get an appointment, you share some blame for your refusal to talk to him like an adult when he calls. If he gets upset when you tell him you don't want to do it anymore, so be it. You shouldn't be guiled or tricked into double ng something you don't want to do, but the only way to stop it is to address the situation directly.

 

Now I'm being asked by the same client who I told directly yesterday that I would not meet with him: "So... that's a go then? When can we schedule?"

[jjkrkwood]

Now I'm being asked by the same client who I told directly yesterday that I would not meet with him: "So... that's a go then? When can we schedule?"

 

Well Max, there is "something" to be said for a confident, persistent man !

[maxwellissmart]

Well Max, there is "something" to be said for a confident, persistent man !

 

Yes, and it's called "Google email filter."

[tom1980]

Now I'm being asked by the same client who I told directly yesterday that I would not meet with him: "So... that's a go then? When can we schedule?"

 

Max -- Wow. I've been away for a few days and see that I caused quite a stir with you. I didn't mean to imply that this tactic would work with every guy every time. But from Steve's original tale, it was unclear whether he had been direct with the guy. Some guys are asshole stalkers. In your profession, you get to see a lot more of them than most of us. All careers paths have drawbacks, and for escorts those include stalkers and being in vulnerable situations with guys you barely know. I never accused you of having an easy job. And I know that not all clients are as great as me and that guy (can't remember who it was) who put up a post several days ago about how awesome he is as a client. It's not that I am unable to understand what it's like to be in your shoes. I think most of the guys around here can imagine the hazards you face -- especially in the case of not wanting your life turned upside down by someone talking to your family/neighbors. Clients face many of the same risks as escorts on a first meeting. Since you have first meetings a lot more often than clients, you face those risks more often. However, I certainly understand the risks and empathize with your position.

 

Steve -- I understand that you have neighbors and a lifestyle that you want to protect. You have to weigh the pros and cons of confronting this guy and make the best decision for you. I don't fault your decision to handle this guy the way you have or disagree with your right to handle this however you think is best. All I was saying is that if your goal is to not be rude and disrespectful, then being forthright with the guy is the best way to achieve that. Having not met the guy, I don't know if telling him in a respectful manner that you don't want to see him anymore is more likely to lead him to go harass your neighbors than ignoring his calls. It's a bad situation, and I accept that there is no easy answer. I wasn't claiming that if you just told the guy "no" everything would be hunky dory.

 

In the future, I'll work on not posting something controversial and then almost immediately falling off the internets for a few days.

[BostonPhil]

oh dear!

[bigvalboy]

Now if he'd let me fuck him on a picnic table in the middle of Rock Creek Park, we might have a deal...

 

Rock Creek Park? that's DC isn't it? HHHMMMM very interesting!