Shouldn't you even try to pretend?

[unsub2O17]

Okay. I get that most of the escorts that I like to hire are young and gorgeous. I get that I'm old and ugly. I get that I have money, and that's what they want from me. What I don't get is why some of them don't even try to hide these unpleasant facts from me as part of their service. Recently, I used an escort that was well reviewed (yes, here) who verbalized as well as demonstrated his total indifference to me. Right up front he told me that he would pay attention to me for these two hours, but then he would totally forget me. He saw, he said, five clients a day, so, of course, he was not interested in cumming or what I did for him. He only dry kissed when he advertised French, and he only got oral didn't give. His indifference was the most cutting. I caught him watching the clock during our most intimate moments, and he remained silent and expressionless the entire time. Not only did I leave feeling belittled and used, but I couldn't understand what he hoped to gain from slapping me with the truth. Many escorts on this website, I'm sure, will criticize him for his brutal honesty, but what I want to know is why he didn't seem to realize that it was not only hurtful to me, but bad for his business?

[bigvalboy]

Okay. I get that most of the escorts that I like to hire are young and gorgeous. I get that I'm old and ugly. I get that I have money, and that's what they want from me. What I don't get is why some of them don't even try to hide these unpleasant facts from me as part of their service. Recently, I used an escort that was well reviewed (yes, here) who verbalized as well as demonstrated his total indifference to me. Right up front he told me that he would pay attention to me for these two hours, but then he would totally forget me. He saw, he said, five clients a day, so, of course, he was not interested in cumming or what I did for him. He only dry kissed when he advertised French, and he only got oral didn't give. His indifference was the most cutting. I caught him watching the clock during our most intimate moments, and he remained silent and expressionless the entire time. Not only did I leave feeling belittled and used, but I couldn't understand what he hoped to gain from slapping me with the truth. Many escorts on this website, I'm sure, will criticize him for his brutal honesty, but what I want to know is why he didn't seem to realize that it was not only hurtful to me, but bad for his business?

 

Unsub, many will chime in here on this issue, and many escorts hate that kind of behavior, because it gives a 'Black eye' to the escort industry as a whole. If I were with an escort, and if EVER even for a moment he suggested or verbalized some of things you indicated he did to you, I would have walked, immediately. Probably paid a portion of the fee, but I would have definitely let him know how he made me feel and that a bad review would be in the works.

 

If you listen to the true professional escorts who post regularly on this site, that would never happen. Guys like Max, Juan, Steven and Tristan and dozens more that post here. They will tell you that they are paid to provide the best experience possible for you. It is your dime and your time.

 

I am going to leave it at that as I know this is going to be a very verbal thread. But when the "Professional Escorts" give their opinion today, and most assuredly they will, listen carefully as to their advice, and thoughts.

 

regards for now, BVB

[MiamiLooker]

Okay. I get that most of the escorts that I like to hire are young and gorgeous. I get that I'm old and ugly. I get that I have money, and that's what they want from me. What I don't get is why some of them don't even try to hide these unpleasant facts from me as part of their service. Recently, I used an escort that was well reviewed (yes, here) who verbalized as well as demonstrated his total indifference to me. Right up front he told me that he would pay attention to me for these two hours, but then he would totally forget me. He saw, he said, five clients a day, so, of course, he was not interested in cumming or what I did for him. He only dry kissed when he advertised French, and he only got oral didn't give. His indifference was the most cutting. I caught him watching the clock during our most intimate moments, and he remained silent and expressionless the entire time. Not only did I leave feeling belittled and used, but I couldn't understand what he hoped to gain from slapping me with the truth. Many escorts on this website, I'm sure, will criticize him for his brutal honesty, but what I want to know is why he didn't seem to realize that it was not only hurtful to me, but bad for his business?

 

If you write a review, the escort will have the opportunity to respond to your concerns.

[jjkrkwood]

Unfortunatley unsub, THATS the reality of the situation in the escort game. Some people have "poor" people skills in REAL life and in business. And perhaps his brutal honesty doesnt affect his business; if it DID he might be forced to change attitude. ? As long as YOU know the game going into it (as you seem to) you should be prepared for many GOOD experiences AND some bad ones along the way. Just dont repeat with the escorts you dont click with. (you would be surprised at how many guys will repeat because they think the guy is HOT).

[jgoo]

I do hope you will do a review as it would be a very worthwhile service to others. I certainly can understand how not all escorts have the same sense of service or what is important but from your description it seems incredible that someone would behave the way he did. Who knows the psyche of the escort that would result in that kind of attitude but I suspect he may not be proud of what he does, have some self-loathing and somehow by taking it out on others it helps him cope with his choices. What is very disturbing, beyond leaving you unsatisfied and upset with the encounter, is that he was well reviewed. I would have hoped the review process would have given some clues. Was he reviewed multiple times and were most of those from reviewers with more than one review? Again, I encourage you to do your own review.

[tom1980]

I've never had an escort verbalize his thoughts like this, but I've had some who display that attitude -- including one or two who are well reviewed on this site. In the cases of well reviewed guys, I assume they are having a bad day or that they just don't click with me the way they have with others. I asked one of those guys about it, and he apologized. He said he wasn't really feeling up for the appointment when the time came but that he hates to cancel because people get angry about cancellations. I understand the dilemma, but I told him I would've preferred him let me know that he wasn't in the mood and wasn't sure he could provide a good experience. In that case, we could've rescheduled or I could've hired someone else. The problem from his perspective is that most clients are so horny that they want him there no matter what, and they don't mind if he just lays there without interacting. It was a very interesting conversation.

[seeker630]

I'll join with the others in imploring you to write a review. I would never hire someone who showed such a total lack of respect, although some here would not be fazed by it.

 

I'd also be curious if there were any clues to his attitude in previous reviews. As we all know, different clients look for different things from an escort experience, and in some type of interactions, that attitude might not have been obvious.

 

Sorry you had an unpleasant experience, but please help future clients make a more informed hiring decision by sharing via a review.

[unsub2O17]

My concern about writing a review is that I just don't want to affect his livelihood (BTW, he told me that he makes $20,000 a month but that he rarely does overnights because they're boring and the client might actually want to snuggle or might snore!!). Did he have a bad day or just wasn't up to it? I don't know. He also takes steroids which, I suppose, could affect his mood. See, guys, it just gets better and better. As a number of you said, some men may actually like this kind of behavior. Oh, as for his reviews, they stressed that he'd do whatever he was asked to do. But, in reading them over again, no one said with what affect or manner he would do those actions. I guess you gotta read between the lines--even here.

[bigvalboy]

He also takes steroids which, I suppose, could affect his mood.

 

He takes steroids?...hello, mood swings is one of the biggest side effects of steroids...so I've heard LOL.....Unsub, unless you are infatuated with this guy and in your book he is a must have, and you need to justify another link up, I would just move to 'greener pastures' with escorts with less drama in their life. Every escorts experience is different, some good some bad. I hired an escort not long ago that came with stellar reviews from Daddys, but my experience was just ho hum. You never know. Good Luck!

[MiamiLooker]

My concern about writing a review is that I just don't want to affect his livelihood...

 

Then this makes this thread pretty much useless.

[unsub2O17]

He takes steroids?...hello, mood swings is one of the biggest side effects of steroids...so I've heard LOL.....Unsub, unless you are infatuated with this guy and in your book he is a must have, and you need to justify another link up, I would just move to 'greener pastures' with escorts with less drama in their life. Every escorts experience is different, some good some bad. I hired an escort not long ago that came with stellar reviews from Daddys, but my experience was just ho hum. You never know. Good Luck!

 

Oh, don't worry about that. Not only am I not in love, I can't wait to move on. What I wanted to know was if his lack of pretending was a defect in his service.

[unsub2O17]

Then this makes this thread pretty much useless.

 

Sorry you feel that way, Miami. I'm out for education, not revenge.

[+ Travis69]

Oh, don't worry about that. Not only am I not in love, I can't wait to move on. What I wanted to know was if his lack of pretending was a defect in his service.

 

I would say yes his lack of pretending was a defect in his service and a defect in his overall character as a person. Sounds like he is not a "people person" at all and is in the wrong business. He probably isn't very personable with anyone.

[MiamiLooker]

Sorry you feel that way, Miami. I'm out for education, not revenge.

 

So, you pose a question to no one who was there and to no one who knows either you or the escort? How would posting a truthful review be considered revenge?

[seeker630]

Sorry you feel that way, Miami. I'm out for education, not revenge.

 

I hope you'll reconsider - and educate OTHERS. IMO, you should be willing to contribute as well as benefit. (That might sound harsher than I intended, but if everyone else has the same attitude, then any 'education' will cease )

[unsub2O17]

I hope you'll reconsider - and educate OTHERS. IMO, you should be willing to contribute as well as benefit. (That might sound harsher than I intended, but if everyone else has the same attitude, then any 'education' will cease )

 

All right. Your point is well taken. I will reconsider. It'll take some time to compose because I want to keep it factual and not judgmental.

[BostonPhil]

All right. Your point is well taken. I will reconsider. It'll take some time to compose because I want to keep it factual and not judgmental.

 

You should write a review! Reviews keep us honest and should be a driver to all of us to provide a good experience to each client and keep our ads true. He will have the opportunity to respond, which he hopefully will do.

 

The entire idea of an escort is to make you feel good, feel special and well, get you off. It sounds like you got the opposite experience. I know I don't like it when I am treated like a piece of meat to just lay there be used. I can't imagine how you must have felt paying to be treated that way.

[unsub2O17]

Okay. Okay. You guys win. I've submitted a review, but I'd still like to hear from others if my concerns were genuine or just over reacting or over expecting.

[Phil_musc]

Thanks, unsub, for submitting the review. It was the right thing to do, IMO. This is a service job and if the service is not delivered properly, you should complain and not hesitate to inform others of your experience. We make our decisions based at least in part on what we read here and what kind of experience other guys have had. I come here to read and learn (oh all right, there have been quite a few good laughs along the way also), and I would like to learn from your particular experience also. If this guy is making what he claims to be making, I don't think one less-than-stellar review is going to cause him to have to go to the local loan shark to pay the grocery bill.

 

You mention the use of steroids and that may well be relevant to this situation - they can cause alterations in personality. It's also possible that the guy might have been sleep-deprived and not filtering as well as he might normally. We're all human and have off days but a service is a service. For what you were paying,you deserve better. You have earned the right to share your experience with a review. Please be honest and measured though in your writing - nothing hurts credibility more than exaggeration and distortion that is

apparent. Just the facts, sir, we can draw our own conclusions.

[unsub2O17]

Review submitted. I tried to be as factual and non-judgmental as possible. Look for it in , what?, two weeks or so.

[josephga]

depends on who it is might not show up at all.

[jjkrkwood]

Lets not pretend that an escort just may not be "attracted" or turned-on" by you, and may also have poor actting skills. Noones Perfect.... Not sure an honest review will change anything, nor does it mean the next clients experienece will be the same. The only thing that I fault him for is the verbalization of his feelings. Its like rubbing salt in the wound....

[unsub2O17]

Lets not pretend that an escort just may not be "attracted" or turned-on" by you, and may also have poor actting skills. Noones Perfect.... Not sure an honest review will change anything, nor does it mean the next clients experienece will be the same. The only thing that I fault him for is the verbalization of his feelings. Its like rubbing salt in the wound....

 

Fair enough. I'll still know to look for good acting skills and keeping his "real" opinions to himself, so I can fantasize away.

[SteveEscort]

Okay. I get that most of the escorts that I like to hire are young and gorgeous. I get that I'm old and ugly. I get that I have money, and that's what they want from me. What I don't get is why some of them don't even try to hide these unpleasant facts from me as part of their service.

 

Personally, I like the guys who think they're old and ugly because I can assure you, they are not old and ugly. I meet someone and look at their more endearing quality and focus on it. Yes I am an escort and you are the client and it's true, I am there for the money but most of the time the money is immaterial to the experience. I have had the best sex with the guys who consider themselves to be old and ugly. It's the good looking pretentious dickheads I can't be arsed with.

 

Recently, I used an escort that was well reviewed (yes, here) who verbalized as well as demonstrated his total indifference to me. Right up front he told me that he would pay attention to me for these two hours, but then he would totally forget me.

 

That's awful, I certainly wouldn't forget someone who booked two hours, I would look forward to their return next time they are in the area. I don't forget about clients. Some go to the back of my mind at times who suddenly pop up out of the woodwork, but we catch up like old friends. I have a very active memory and can remember the finest detail of almost every conversation I have ever had which has set me in good stead, so if I did forget about someone, I'd remember everything the next time we met.

 

He saw, he said, five clients a day, so, of course, he was not interested in cumming or what I did for him. He only dry kissed when he advertised French, and he only got oral didn't give. His indifference was the most cutting. I caught him watching the clock during our most intimate moments, and he remained silent and expressionless the entire time.

 

Not criticising you here but if I didn't want to cum, and yes us working boys are all guilty of this one, I would concentrate on you and not you giving me oral LOL. This is one of the reasons why I advertise myself as a 60% bottom escort. It means I can get bottom appointments where he does the work and I don't need to cum, than try and be a stud that I am clearly not.

 

Not only did I leave feeling belittled and used, but I couldn't understand what he hoped to gain from slapping me with the truth. Many escorts on this website, I'm sure, will criticize him for his brutal honesty, but what I want to know is why he didn't seem to realize that it was not only hurtful to me, but bad for his business?

 

It wasn't good form, as I said, I find the guys more endearing quality and focus on it, whether that be his intelligent conversation, his 8" dick, his love of having his nipples tweaked and make him feel good.

 

As I have said before and which I will say again, rather than gifts and shite like that, a second appointment is worth more to me than anything else. I would want you to want to come back and want to spend more time with me. Wanting more of what you had and make it more passionate and more intense a second time so we both know our limits and what we want from the liaison. The best advice I can give you is to write a review and take it from there. If you get a personal reply by email admitting there was issues then take that as him acknowledging that things went wrong. If you get a prissy public reply with a "I am so precious and so is my life, my body and my personality" attitude then at least the rest of the community can see what a bitch that escort really is.

[jawjateck]

Review submitted. I tried to be as factual and non-judgmental as possible. Look for it in , what?, two weeks or so.

 

That's the key: state the facts, assign him the "Not Recommended" rating, and let the readers decide whether to hire him or not. That kind of review has legitimacy. Some posters write negative reviews (about actual bad experiences), but make judgment and value assertions about the escort that are personal and petty. Thus, they undermine the purpose for which they wrote the review because the facts get obscured by the pettiness.

 

Yes, we can look forward to reading it in two weeks.