Tipping

[Edward]

I need some guide lines on tipping. Where most of these guys are self-employeed is it necessary to tip. It is not like a service provider that is an employee of someone else. Just want to know what is expected. I have sent gifts afterwards for exceptional service.

[Guest Rusty_McMann]

I cover this on my website, www.RustyMcMann.com:

 

A Word About Tipping

Over the course of my 20 years in Manhattan – between working as a waiter, going to bars, and having a superintendent in my apartment building – I learned a lot about how tipping works. Sometimes a tip is a thank you for a job well done; and sometimes a tip is a bribe for next time.

 

Look: I’m very well paid for what I do; I understand that and I don’t expect to be tipped as a matter of course. And I always appreciate tips when I get them. If, on the other hand, I do a favor for a client (like picking up a few things from CVS on my way to your hotel room) and I don’t see any extra love at the end of the night… I’ll be less likely to do it for you again.

 

And yes, a joint is a perfectly acceptable tip.

[seeker630]

This topic comes up several times a year - 4 threads in the past year.

 

(Not to stifle discussion, but just point out that a lot of people have already expressed widely-differing opinions on the matter.)

[maxwellissmart]

This topic comes up several times a year - 4 threads in the past year.

 

(Not to stifle discussion, but just point out that a lot of people have already expressed widely-differing opinions on the matter.)

 

Tipping is great. It's also unnecessary. If someone gets upset for not getting a tip (under the pretense of "you don't appreciate me and my service enough"), then they need to charge more.

[Guest Rusty_McMann]

Tipping is great. It's also unnecessary. If someone gets upset for not getting a tip (under the pretense of "you don't appreciate me and my service enough"), then they need to charge more.

 

As an escort, I coudn't agree more. However, if -- like any service provider -- I go out of my way to do a favor and/or endure some kind of mishap (like having excrement all over my midsection because the bottom didn't prepare thoroughly) and don't' get slipped an extra $20, I'll be less likely to be available for this client again. Is that so selfish?

[+ poolboy48220]

I've always gone by the Miss Manners rule, that you tip employees but you don't tip the owner of a business. When escort agencies were more common, I tipped, but now not so much.

[gallahadesquire]

I usually go for an overnite, the start of which is dinner at one of several fine restaurants (although once it was a Longhorn). Somehow, I feel that doing that is equivalent to a tip.

[jjkrkwood]

This topic has been discussed to exhaustion here, and each time there are different points of view which I wont regurgitate now.

 

Bottom line, do what you feel like and are comfortable with. There are no right or wrongs.

 

However, IF the escort "Expected" a tip, I'd find another escort.

[maxwellissmart]

As an escort, I coudn't agree more. However, if -- like any service provider -- I go out of my way to do a favor and/or endure some kind of mishap (like having excrement all over my midsection because the bottom didn't prepare thoroughly) and don't' get slipped an extra $20, I'll be less likely to be available for this client again. Is that so selfish?

 

I agree with that too. More often than not I get tipped, but I also have a pretty laid-back, friendly and BFE approach with clients too.

[jjkrkwood]

I agree with that too. More often than not I get tipped, but I also have a pretty laid-back, friendly and BFE approach with clients too.

 

Guys tip their Boyfriends ???? Maybe thats why my relationship ended, I didnt tip ! ;-)

[Decatur Guy]

I tip if the following three things come together:

 

1. The guy really blows my socks off

 

2. The guy isn't watching the clock and we go a little over.

 

3. The guy charges less than the average going rate in my city ($200 is my Atlanta barometer).

 

 

If two guys give me an equally impressive fuck, and they both go a good 60 minutes but don't rush me out the door and we wrap up 15 minutes later, the guy who charges $180 an hour is going to get a tip and is first in line for repeat business. The guy who charges $250 an hour won't get a tip, but will get repeat business if the cheaper guy isn't available.

[SteveEscort]

It's nice to get a tip but quite honestly I don't ever think about it.

 

I find kind gestures like a bottle of wine at Christmas or a trip to the theatre on a weekend appointment to be more of a tip than anything of actual monetary value.

 

Never forget - Repeat business is worth more than a tip

[Edward]

I have had a couple of my regular boys come out and ask for gifts, birthday and Christmas. I was a little suprised, but though what the heck. Maybe they will treat me a little better next time. any comment?

[Guest Rusty_McMann]

I have had a couple of my regular boys come out and ask for gifts, birthday and Christmas. I was a little suprised, but though what the heck. Maybe they will treat me a little better next time. any comment?

 

three words: tacky, tacky, tacky

[jjkrkwood]

I have had a couple of my regular boys come out and ask for gifts, birthday and Christmas. I was a little suprised, but though what the heck. Maybe they will treat me a little better next time. any comment?

 

The operative word here is "Maybe". Then Maybe NOT......

[maxwellissmart]

Guys tip their Boyfriends ???? Maybe thats why my relationship ended, I didnt tip ! ;-)

 

Precisely.

[maxwellissmart]

...ask for gifts, birthday and Christmas. I was a little suprised, but though what the heck. Maybe they will treat me a little better next time. any comment?

 

That's a big "maybe."

[MrBigTL]

If I go to a business establishment and the person providing a service is an employee for whom tipping is expected, I tip and am usually very generous for good service as I am the type of person who uses the same places frequently and know that by being known as a good tipper I will generally get exceptional if not preferential treatment. Generally these employees make less than the prevailing wage for the service they are providing. If I go to a professional who sets their own price, I do not tip.

[leigh.bess.toad]

I'm normally tip my guys. Not a lot, but just enough to show that I appreciate what they do for me. I'm a good tipper in a restaurant. I tip my hair cutter, even though she owns the salon. I tip the valet at the car parking for the medical office building where my physical therapist is, even though the signs say it's free (and only a few others do tip).

 

In thinking about it, I probably should have tipped the appliance repairman today because his advice saved us a few hundred bucks in unneeded service and expenses.

 

All that being said, most guys I know appreciate it but it really isn't expected. But asking for a tip should never be done.

 

And one of the very first threads I ever posted was asking about tipping. And yes, it comes up multiple times every year. And probably always will.

[Michael Wayne]

I tell my clients that TIPPING is not expected and that the price is all inclusive. I also tell them that the greatest tip I get is a second appointment. Repeat with me and you are tipping. I have built my biz on repeats and regulars and if you offer a fair rate and don't stick out your hand expecting more they more than likely will book you again. http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1 "I am NOT about the CLOCK, I am about the COCK!"

[down_to_business]

My view is tipping is reserved for low wage service jobs like waiters and bartenders. I consider escorts to be highly paid professionals. I don't tip my doctor, my lawyer, my accountant, the exterminator, a plumber etc. Now the exception to that is for going above and beyond or for exceptional service. If, for example, an escort drove far on his own time to meet me for an appointment (and didn't charge me for it) I would most definitely tip.

[SteveEscort]

If, for example, an escort drove far on his own time to meet me for an appointment (and didn't charge me for it) I would most definitely tip.

 

I travel into London and Birmingham often for overnight and longer appointments and I never charge a client for the travel time, only the cost of the train ticket. I thought it was the norm.

[Lohengrin1979]

My view is tipping is reserved for low wage service jobs like waiters and bartenders. I consider escorts to be highly paid professionals. I don't tip my doctor, my lawyer, my accountant, the exterminator, a plumber etc. Now the exception to that is for going above and beyond or for exceptional service. If, for example, an escort drove far on his own time to meet me for an appointment (and didn't charge me for it) I would most definitely tip.

 

This, this and this. My only exception to this rule is my regular masseur who provides sensual and therapeutic services. I don't tip him but I will periodically buy him a gift card to his favorite restaurant or a nice wine because I use him so often and he's always so accommodating.

[SteveEscort]

This, this and this. My only exception to this rule is my regular masseur who provides sensual and therapeutic services. I don't tip him but I will periodically buy him a gift card to his favorite restaurant or a nice wine because I use him so often and he's always so accommodating.

 

Exactly, an expression of thank you made individually for a service well done and over and beyond the means required.

 

My father told me when I was a kid you should never tip the owner of the business only his staff because the owner is the one who walks away with the profit and the villa in Tuscany when he retires and sells the business.

[unsub2O17]

This is why I love the forums. I am a newbie, and it never occurred to me not to tip. My first time I gave 40%. My second, 30%. My third, 20%. All to the same guy. He's always very appreciative and does work very well with me. However, after reading this thread, I'm thinking that I've been inappropriate, and he may actually be a bit insulted. I'm seeing him again next week. Now, what do I do? Do I discuss this openly? Do I just tip less or not at all? Do I substitute a gift. What do I do now!? As I said, he's all of the good things--receptive, nonjudgmental, willing to try new things, not a clock watcher. Any help would, of course, be much appreciated.