Respect for the city

[gcursor]

So I saw on one of the social networking sites tonight, a porn star was going to be performing in a city. They were talking bad about this city saying it's nothing but a ghetto and another chimed in saying they hate the city too. This is even before they perform at that event in the city?

 

I mean I've even had some people I hire say that where I live is a dismal place and it's full of trashy people (not before the call...afterwards).

 

I know that people hate certain cities with a passion. But if a city is giving you money to perform or you're going to be seeing people in that city, would you really want to be like this? I mean show some restraint.

 

Isn't that the respectful thing to do or are we past that point?

gcursor

[bigvalboy]

You are right GC..a city is nothing but bare realestate without the people who occupy it. To say that you hate a city or call it ghetto is to show disrespect for all the good people that make it there home. If by chance they where talking about Detroit, it has gotten a really bad representation the last few years, I would contact them either by social network or directly and tell them how inappropriate there comments were. Good luck!

[gcursor]

The Times Square Social Media

 

Thanks bigvalboy. I dont mind people making the comments but if you're going to make it on a social network and cant do it in front of the people that you are performing for then that is kind of cowardly.

 

If you really think that a city is a sewer or a ghetto then fine...dont perform there..turn down the money. But if you are going to perform there then have some respect and a little decorum. We do have some common manners I would hope. Respect the person and the town that you're going to be entertaining. Don't just call the city a bunch of white ghetto trash (thats not what they said...I am making a point) behind an electronic screen name and expect that somebody somewhere won't eventually pick up on it.

 

This is the age of social media. Learn how to use it efficiently and for your benefit. but DO NOT EVER put anything out there that you would not want shown in TIMES SQUARE on the big screen there! make whatever comments you want but be prepared to defend them.

gcursor

 

 

 

You are right GC..a city is nothing but bare realestate without the people who occupy it. To say that you hate a city or call it ghetto is to show disrespect for all the good people that make it there home. If by chance they where talking about Detroit, it has gotten a really bad representation the last few years, I would contact them either by social network or directly and tell them how inappropriate there comments were. Good luck!

[rvwnsd]

If someone trashed the city in which I live I would not pay money to see them. In fact, I would probably not see them for free. Every city has something going for it. When I lived in Chicago, it was (and still is) fashionable to trash anything outside of the city, including the suburbs and Downstate cities like Springfield (the state capitol), Rockford, and Peoria . Granted, many of them are nothing but identical house after identical house, but many of them have beautiful parks, interesting museums, and good performing arts venues.

[bigvalboy]

Anton seriously, we need details...THAT is a great story. The guy in New York is now in madrid and married to a spanish guy? How can you leave us hanging like that? L O L

[gcursor]

and they

 

bvb, thats the end of the story

 

And they lived happily ever after. The End.

 

Anton seriously, we need details...THAT is a great story. The guy in New York is now in madrid and married to a spanish guy? How can you leave us hanging like that? L O L

[+ Shoreboy]

I agree...I grew up in New Jersey and now choose to live in New Jersey. I love the diversity of the State, especially since I live walking distance to the Jersey Shore.

 

I cringe everytime someone makes a Jersey joke....if you hate living here then simply move.

[bigvalboy]

Thanks anyway Anton, It was still a very nice story....I love a happy ending!!

[Decatur Guy]

Usually, I find something to like about every place I've been or lived. Usually when someone hates a place, they tend to hate lots of things.

 

I find the opposite annoying, too: People who LOVE a place to the exclusion of anything else. I have straight pal in NYC (which I like very much), but he thinks it's special beyond what it is. He was telling me about some coffee shop in the UWS that plays classical music, has readings, etc. ... He said it was the kind of thing you find "only in New York City!"

 

And I chimed in: "Or Decatur, Jawjah, population 17,000 or so"

[gcursor]

Yeah. I am kind of glad that I have stopped hiring for a while. It's depressing to plan out dates that are extensive in nature only to hear somebody say that the town is depressing or something like that. It takes me a while to save up for my dates and I make sure that everything is top-notch. However coming into town and saying bad things about a city is just sad. I don't know..I have always been taught that if you don't have anything to say then don't say it at all..just suffer in silence. I think that's just part of the job people have to accept.

 

I know that people don't think I AM a bad person when they go on dates with me. I hope not. But they do condemn the city and the surroundings. Sadly it isnt something I can even control. I work so hard on the rest of the date and the one thing that gets downgraded is the one thing I can never fix. Oh well, it doesnt matter anyway. In a week, all these comments will be forgotten and people will go back to however they behaved before.

 

I really hope though that people don't let a city's stained reputation dominate what they think about a particular client or the time they spent there. Sadly though, I think that it might. There won't be anything I can do to change it either.

Gcursor

[gcursor]

and it is kind of funny too. Despite what you do to plan the dates to the nth degree, people sometimes still aren't happy. You pick them up at the airport and it's not a Mercedes Benz. You wore tennis shoes instead of dress shoes. You just look funny. You're not rich or a ceo. A million other things that you have no control over. Planning the dates out to the last detail only to get hit in the end with something from left field. Well I had a good time but---- I would come back but ----- All you are looking for is somebody to spend a little time with and make them feel special. You look at the people you see and think "God I am so not perfect" and sometimes they tell you how imperfect you might be. A laundry list of 78 items from your hair to your fingernails to what kind of pants to wear. If you do all 78 of these things then I MIGHT see you again...is implied. You think to yourself, "This will take forever though. I know I'm not the brightest, richest or sexiest man but I tried. doesn't that account for something?" You desperately start to think how fast you can fix all 78 items on the list (remembering that the next person might have another list for you) and you sit in deep contemplation. You realize that no matter how hard you try or how long you take, your work will never be done to attain the level you need to be at. So you get back online and start searching for the next person.....

[rvwnsd]

...He said it was the kind of thing you find "only in New York City!" ...

 

If you don't mind me asking, did your friend grow up in New York or is he a transplant?

[Diverdan]

Hey, gcursor. Don't let the stupid, uncouth and miserable bitches get you down. Detroit, like many other cities has had some hard times, and I can name a bunch of other cities that have sections in them that I would not want to visit. However, I have always found jewels of individuals to be with, to enjoy and elements of every city I have visited (including Detroit) that brought me happiness. I regret that you have had some of those experiences, but suspect that if you could peal back their smugness and their attempts to be superior, you would find them to be pretty shallow, with few life experiences that will allow them to survive with years of happiness. Stay the course, and be happy. We love you!!!!

[bigvalboy]

Gc I have so many thoughts here it is hard to know where to start and I can be VERY long winded...so here is the short version. Don't second guess yourself, I am guessing you are a pretty spectacular and interesting person. If someone doesn't like your city or you or the effort that you have put forth, F em...Try hiring from your own area if possible and just don't let all of this get you down, and by the way, I have been a dabbling in realestate for some time now, and I must tell you that I think Detroit is going to get the last laugh here. It is was and still is a GREAT city, and things will get better.

[nate_sf]

This is the age of social media. Learn how to use it efficiently and for your benefit. but DO NOT EVER put anything out there that you would not want shown in TIMES SQUARE on the big screen there! make whatever comments you want but be prepared to defend them.

gcursor

 

When I was in 5th grade our teacher told us "don't put anything in writing that you are not prepared to have shared with the world." In retrospect maybe it was a strange thing to tell a bunch of ten-year olds, but I've remembered that advice ever since. Especially when writing email, or now with social media, be prepared to share it with the world or else don't write it down.

 

I'm impressed when I see a concert and the performer makes an effort to say something nice about (or at least show some interest in) the place he or she is performing in. Sometimes it can be contrived, but still it's nice to have them make the effort.

 

As others have said, pretty much everywhere has something good going for it but it takes a mature person to be able to see that. If someone is slagging on your town before they've even arrived, tell them to stay home. Or if they're already there, don't waste your time... take them back to the airport. Or perhaps kick them to the curb at the Greyhound station!

 

I haven't been to Detroit but I've known some people from there and they tell me there are some interesting places and nice neighborhoods. Where I live Oakland gets the same kind of bad rap, but it is a fascinating city with more than it's share of problems but also some really cool things going on. Arguably Oakland has become more progressive in the arts and music than San Francisco. I know there have been efforts to attract the "creative class" to Michigan so maybe similar things can be said for Detroit.

 

Gcursor, don't get yourself down. You can never satisfy everyone. Think of those talent shows on TV where the judges can't even agree on what they like or dislike with a contestant. People may give you their opinions (either solicited or unsolicited) and it's up to you whether to take it or leave it. If it's a negative or immature person who can't think of anything good to say, that's the time to leave it!

[gcursor]

The responses to this post were entertaining, compassionate and interesting to read. Thanks very much to all who participated it's always good for me to sound this stuff off online to see how far off-base my initial thinking is about ideas. thanks again!

[EZEtoGRU]

I say kick the guy to the curb. Your money is as green as someone from NYC, DC, or LA.

 

Detroit, the city proper, has had tough times and has been in decline for decades. However, some of the suburbs like Birmingham, Bloomfield, and Grosse Pointe are as nice as any you will find in the country and are very stable. As someone else mentioned in this thread, anywhere you go will have good and bad points. Find a different escort who appreciates the opportunity to travel on someone elses dime and the chance to go somewhere new.

[Decatur Guy]

If you don't mind me asking, did your friend grow up in New York or is he a transplant?

 

He's a transplant who acts like a native! (I've sometimes heard the transplants are worse).

[Steven_Draker]

A popular singer (name omitted) did a European Tour and was 'caught' on tape that each city he was performing in was his "favorite". It was phony funny.

 

Sometimes it's better to remain silent instead of saying something that's not sincere or just driven by commercial interests.

 

They say "If you don't know me, don't judge me". I still have to visit Detroit to make my opinion.

[Lookin]

You realize that no matter how hard you try or how long you take, your work will never be done to attain the level you need to be at.

I keep coming back to this sentence and wondering who is defining the "level you need to be at". If you're defining it, which I hope you are, why not set it at a level that's closer to where you are now? You seem like a fine individual, from your posts on the Board, and I don't see any reason why you shouldn't be very happy about that. I think you could say you're at a pretty good level right now and no one here would argue with you.

 

If someone else is defining the "level you need to be at", who might that person be?

 

And how did he rise to such an esteemed position? http://www.maleescortreview.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

 

 

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