What do you look for when hiring?

[zach_wilson]

As an escort, and only being in the business a year and some time. I would like to know what really seals the deal when looking for that guy thy stands out from all the rest. Is it the quickness of the response, or is it the way the respond? Ext. I am not scared to say I have hired only once to see what it was like to be on the other side of things. And I found your as nervous if not more so than the escort. Because while there are pictures and what not you never know how theyll act in person. So how do you choose the one guy. Very intrigued to know so that I can better myself as an escort as I plan on hopefully becoming one of the greats.

[cany10011]

Besides the physical attributes (comely face, bubble butt) and sexual compatability, I usually go for someone who responds reasonably promptly (within 24 hours) and in complete sentences and is able to commit to the date/location specified.

[fanman]

Promptness is somewhat important, especially when someone is looking to hire in the short-term. I'm in my late mid-to-late 20's so I'm always looking for people around my age who don't seem flaky. Sometimes you can tell from their response if they aren't going to be super friendly or cool, but it still can be hard to tell how someone is. So having some reviews is pretty helpful for me.

[whyamihere]

Since I'm primarily a "lurker" (obvious from my number of posts) and have never posted a review with daddy - you can take my advice with a a grain of salt.

 

I find you quite attractive and "of interest". I like massage (especially mutual) but that doesn't seem to be a "service provided" by you. That's OK, but maybe you're excluding potential clients who would otherwise contact you. Not everyone has an insatiable appetite for anal as seems to be the overriding flavor of this forum.

 

Overall your photos on M4RN are too solemn. Makes me wonder if you are happy. Yeah, I see a couple of grins, but they look a bit "forced". I bet you have a captivating SMILE hiding in there so display some!

 

I pay particular interest to an escort / masseur that has a website or blog like peterhuang or Joey_Bryant (not that I've been with either of them). But that indicates a high level of legitimacy to me. It impresses me when I do an initial inquiry and get a response with either a detailed email or a link to a personal website.

 

I can tolerate some spelling errors but I seek someone with with a real head on their shoulders. It is IMPORTANT to me that ads and responses be in proper English. I'm not too particular though regarding follow-up text responses.

 

Being older (and maybe bit over ideal WHP) I'm attracted to ads that make me feel welcome right from the beginning. But it's also OK if that is made clear early on.

 

Cost is a major factor factor me. I dislike the "ask me" routine, although I have. I look favorably at discounted lengthier sessions (1.5hr or longer sessions) since that's what I prefer.

[gcursor]

the criteria

 

When I hire somebody, I like them to be well versed in Disney trivia:

1. What was the first name Walt Disney wanted to call his mouse instead of Mickey?

 

well versed in computer trivia:

1. Name 5 ways to copy and paste in Microsoft Excel

 

well versed in videogame trivia:

1. what videogame console continues to sell (which continues to baffle most game experts) and isn't a relatively new console

 

seriously, most of the time I look for honesty in all communications with the person I'm hiring. I'm also VERY big on the person knowing how to provide great customer servoice. Typically I look at reviews beforehand to judge who I may or may not be interested in initially.

Gcursor

 

As an escort, and only being in the business a year and some time. I would like to know what really seals the deal when looking for that guy thy stands out from all the rest. Is it the quickness of the response, or is it the way the respond? Ext. I am not scared to say I have hired only once to see what it was like to be on the other side of things. And I found your as nervous if not more so than the escort. Because while there are pictures and what not you never know how theyll act in person. So how do you choose the one guy. Very intrigued to know so that I can better myself as an escort as I plan on hopefully becoming one of the greats.

[Muscle Lover 2]

After consideration of whether they are physically appealing to me, I look at reviews. Are they giving enough of themselves to justify the expense? I am not HWP; how have they treated other people who are similar? Do they do the things they said they would do? Then, at first contact, how do they come across. I have almost not hired a few of the great (big Giovanni, for example) because they were gruff, did not discuss much of anything, etc. However, 2 of the best 5 hires I've ever made were hard to talk to (one did not even have any reviews on this site, which did give me more pause) individuals so I have learned not to make that the absolute litmus test. My 2 cents...

[NYTomcat]

Beyond the initial physical attraction. ... which always....always includes a face shot.... I go for sincere Flirty conversation. Since my first hire. I have never hired someone I had not either met previously. Or talked to via the forum prior to even broaching hiring. Look is less to me than personality

 

Though I am a face guy.

[leigh.bess.toad]

After the basic qualifications are met -- are they physically appealing to me and do their sexual interests match mine -- the big things are the reviews. How are they thought of by their clients. As of Friday, I'll have hired 9 different escorts in my brief hiring career (spanning all the way back to October, wow). Of those 9, every single one of them was mentinoed in the escort of the year lists this year.

 

But, I'm like TC -- after my initial hire, I don't think I've hired anyone that I haven't either met in person before or talked to pretty extensively on the forum, either through the posts or, more importantly maybe, via private messages. And a lot of the private messaging was initiated by the escort. Nothing aggressive, just "I enjoyed your post" blah, blah, blah. And if not via PM's, emails. One of the escorts I've hired, and one who I hold as a very dear friend, was the 3rd person to ever reach out to me, unsolicited, when I joined the forum, only a week after joining.

 

But another way is also the recommendations of friends as well. I do know which friends have similar tastes and interests to mine and a recommendation from them of someone will carry a lot of weight. I will obviously do my own due diligence, but that is a big plus.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Though I am a face guy.

 

And it's a lovely face, too.

[uwsman2]

The first thing for me is physical - I have to get turned on looking at their pictures for me to consider hiring them, and for me that means some hot muscle. After that, it is somebody who looks like they will be friendly (smiles on at least some pictures), and who either has good reviews from other than first-timers. In recent years, most of my hires have been traveling escorts who were active participants on this message board, so I had a decent idea about their personalities before I contacted them.

[Guest Spanker01]

Zach,

 

Obviously appearence, and I too like face shots, and an ass shot is also helpful. Then are we going to be compatible. If it appears that we will be, then I research for reviews and or previous posts. If everything looks good. then I go ahead and initiate contact. A prompt reply is important. At this point I am looking for honest answers to my questions, and as to payment also. I could go on and on, but I would be repeating what other have said.

 

Spanker

[bcohen7719]

Zach:

 

In addition to attractive appearance--and most escorts seem to disagree strongly with me about this--it is someone who won't mind emailing back & forth awhile. I'm phone shy. To date, it appears that most escorts don't have time for this and want you to call them. I'm in a tiny minority, if not alone.

 

BC

[Decatur Guy]

Physical attraction. Attractive price range -- too low means amateur; too high means, well, too damn high. A profile description that reveals some level of education and trustworthiness. A profile description that reveals a sexually creative mind.

 

And those reviews can be gold.

[inheat75]

Depends on what I have in mind when hiring. If I'm just looking for an hour (or two), then great looks (or maybe just great looks) will be huge factor in my decision. If, however, I'm looking for an extended session, such as overnight or dinner plus few hours of fun, then I'll have to add his personality in to the mix.

[gcursor]

Not alone

 

You're not alone BC...I'm like that as well.

Gcursor

 

Zach:

 

In addition to attractive appearance--and most escorts seem to disagree strongly with me about this--it is someone who won't mind emailing back & forth awhile. I'm phone shy. To date, it appears that most escorts don't have time for this and want you to call them. I'm in a tiny minority, if not alone.

 

BC

[EZEtoGRU]

For me, masculinity plain and simple. This makes up 80% of the criteria which I use to make a choice. Also makes it difficult to choose someone without actually meeting or knowing them before. One cannot judge masculinty in a photo or an e-mail conversation.

[seeker630]

You're not alone BC...I'm like that as well.

Gcursor

I too like to make initial contact by email and exchange a few emails to confirm sexual compatibility and enolugh sense of personality to ensure I'm going to be comfortable with the person (especially since I like to spend a little time before & after the physical action talking and relaxing.) If the escort is communicaiton and informative, usally 2 or 3emails is sufficient. VERY short answers and minimal responses make me wary and generally send me looking elsewhere. If the escort is willing to invest a few miniutes answering my questions and ensuring compatibility, then I tend to think he's not that interested in accomodating MY needs (as opposed to simply doing what HE wants to or feels is appropriate.)

 

 

So - honest and informative communication is key.

[Michael Wayne]

Hi Zach. Obviously the only replies here have come from clients or guys who want to be clients and every answer is CORRECT because what makes a good escort to one client may totally turn off another client. You cannot have an attitude and not have have an attitude. Some clients want one and some don't and you either have one or you don't. Some won't hire unless you are hanging 8 or more inches and that is just the fact. Others, who seek a bottom, don't even care if you have a cock at all. Some want ripped muscles and a little age yet others want a thin twink. Again, you cannot be both. Some prefer if you have a boyfriend cause it makes you stable but others that is a total turnoff cause you are thus unavailable. As the first escort to answer your question I think it is really cool that you aspire to be one of, "The Greats," as you said. I have made slightly over a million dollars in the biz (wish I still had it all!!!!) and my biggest and best asset is not the nine inch cock but it is JUST BEING A HELL OF A NICE GUY AND STAYING OFF DRUGS OF ANY SORT. I treat EVERY client like he is BRAD PITT and I make them feel hot and wanted. I give them what their wife won't and trust me, the VAST majority of your clients are closeted married men-not out gay guys like most of the forum members. I LOVE the forum members but they will not be even 5% of your clients. be a nice guy. all my best cutie: http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[leigh.bess.toad]

trust me, the VAST majority of your clients are closeted married men-not out gay guys like most of the forum members. I LOVE the forum members but they will not be even 5% of your clients.

 

Mikey, I love you man, but you are certainly dead wrong on one thing in that statement. To imply that most forum members are out gay guys is simply, completely and totally not true, at least in my experience. Not even remotely close to true. At the DC luncheon, over half of the guys there were and/or are married. I know a significant number of the guys in Palm Springs were and/or are married. Half of my friends on the forum here are married. Sure, there are a considerable number of forum members who are out and gay. But I'd wager at least 50% of the forum members were and/or are married. And then you've got the smallest weird group like me who are out and gay and married simultaneously. So who knows what group you'd put me in. Will the vast majority of his clients be non-forum members. Absolutely. But don't assume that because someone is on the forum they are out and gay.

[Rhinestone Cowboy]

I always look at a lot of factors when I hire: but mainly what I'm trying to zero in on is a certain level of professionalism. Like some of the other repliers here, I am also a "face guy." Being able to see someone's face in their profile/ad also tells me that they're committed to this and taking this seriously as a career, and aren't afraid to put themselves out there. Like Mikey said, everyone's tastes are different. And, in my case, my tastes also change from day to day depending on the kind of experience I want to have. So, other than a face pic, I also look for pictures that HONESTLY show what someone looks like. Anything that's too arty, too obscure, looks like it's trying to hide something or compensate for something is annoying. I just want to see what I'm going to get, and then I'll decide if that's what I'm looking for. I always google the phone number in the ad and see what other websites an escort advertises on; this also tells me if they're someone who's always moving around, changing their name, etc., and can tell me if it's someone I should be wary of. If someone has a positive review on Daddy's Reviews I've never, ever been disappointed. But I do hire people who haven't been reviewed and had a lot of great experiences. Personally, above $250 an hour isn't worth it to me, so that's my upper limit and anyone who wants to charge more go for it and good luck to you. But -- and this is just my experience -- some of the escorts who seem to charge on the LOWER end have wound up being fantastic. Some of the guys who charge a lower rate do so because they really love what they're doing and would rather a client book for multiple hours than just try to survive on the expensive one-hour quickies. So until this becomes a regulated business, I never assume a low-price is automatically a sign that they're amateurs (particularly if everything else about their ad/demeanor/etc is professional). Most importantly, I'm not hiring an escort because I'm someone who can only have sex with someone if I pay for it -- I have plenty of sex with people who aren't escorts (I'm in NY, in a long term open relationship, I'm in good shape, I'm young). I'm hiring an escort because I want a sexual experience with an individual who understands how to guide an encounter to a fun, enjoyable climax. Everyone's heard the line about "...you're paying them to leave" which is, of course, true -- but before they leave, I'm paying for someone to PERFORM. So when I'm evaluating an ad I'm looking to see if it's a person who understands (and enjoys!) their part of that performance.

[Rod Hagen]

Of those 9, every single one of them was mentinoed in the escort of the year lists this year.

 

That list is as much an indicator of time spent at one's computer as escorting skill. I'm consistently well-reviewed (64, all good!) and have a stellar reputation as well. However, the years I have not been included in that list all correlate with my decreasing participation in this Forum--nothing against the MC, I just don't make it the priority I used to (and yet I don't feel like I have more free time, how'd that happen?!). I suspect if I promoted myself here like I used to, with frequent posts of a non-dickhead nature, I'd be back on that coveted list.

[Michael Wayne]

To Lee. Great point. As a new member I have seen 20 forum members as clients over the last year. Forum members are a very valuable (but still small) part of my client base and are more valuable with every passing day. I wish they all would book me because I would give each one my best effort. Of the 20, 15 are gay and out of the closet with no wife. 5 are married and closeted. Those are just my numbers. As in any pole there is a large margin of error. Your experience is probably more accurate and I was just going on my numbers. I do ask married status. It is the only personal question I ask a client. They all get 100% discretion but my married clients get 120% discretion if that is possible. To Rhinestone: GOOD WORDs! To ROD: I am sure that every one of your clients knows you are the real escort of the year- at least in their minds. Awards are no sure sign or guarantee of a good experience for the client. Some guys who win awards are sweet, humble and nice but others become arrogant, untouchable assholes.

[leigh.bess.toad]

That list is as much an indicator of time spent at one's computer as escorting skill. I'm consistently well-reviewed (64, all good!) and have a stellar reputation as well. However, the years I have not been included in that list all correlate with my decreasing participation in this Forum--nothing against the MC, I just don't make it the priority I used to (and yet I don't feel like I have more free time, how'd that happen?!). I suspect if I promoted myself here like I used to, with frequent posts of a non-dickhead nature, I'd be back on that coveted list.

 

And as someone who in the past has encouraged you to take your show on the road to the East Coast, I would certainly appreciate the chanced to experience that stellar reputation for myself. Is the EOY list all encompassing -- does it include all the truly great providers? Obviously not. Your absence alone shows that it doesn't, because I do know your reputation and would love to be able to hire you. Absence from the list does not, by any means whatsoever, indicate that an escort is anything less than stellar. But I think presence on the list does indicate a quality provider. And while certaily not everyone on the list is for every client, it does sort of provide me a jumping off point to consider guys to hire -- when they get to the East Coast.

[zach_wilson]

gcrusor,bc, and spanker,

 

I agree that emailing back and forth is good on both ends, as it not only gives the client a good view of what kind of person the may be hiring but it also gives the escort a good view of the client. Making for a more comfortable experience in that you can feel at ease as to who you will be seeing, I can say that i do request atleast one phone call before the actual meeting date again just to make sure I get a good feel for the person and what they are looking for.

 

Mikey,

 

Agreed that you should always use the golden rule when speaking with anyone not just clients, and treat them they want to be treated(for me thats with the upmost respect.) You mentioned that clients look for different things, submissive, dominant ext, i feel part of being a good escort is being able to do both and feel comfortable with it, whilst i don't bottom I make it a point that im versatile on wether or not im a submissive top or a dominant one, this could also lead to a more enjoyable time outside the bedroom, example your traveling with someone and they want you to pick everything that is done in your time together from the bedroom, to dinner.

 

thanks again everyone for the amazing advice

[Guest Spanker01]

And Zach, remember that there are a lot of things two tops can do together, without anal being a part of the encounter.

 

Spanker