Clients with Special Needs

[Guest GQ Pro]

I just meet a new client who has a severe case of cerebral palsy. I was a bit nervous before our encounter. Afterwards, I found the experience with him to be very rewarding. Any clients with special needs who have hired an escort? If so, how did it go? Any other escorts have clients with special needs? I wrote about the experience in detail on my blog.

"Secret Escapades of a Gay Gigolo" http://gqpro.tumblr.com/

[+ Charlie]

Congratulations on your professionalism in such a situation. Several years ago, a man with thalidomide birth defects posted here, because he was upset about the treatment he received from a pair of escorts who had been well reviewed here. He had told them in advance about his condition, but they went ahead with the appointment, but made obvious their distaste at his appearance. Although there were some expressions of sympathy here, other posters viciously attacked HIM for criticizing the escorts. I corresponded with him privately, and he was so emotionally devastated by the personal criticism that he was unwilling to have anything more to do with the escort scene, including this site. It's always worth remembering that not everyone (client nor escort) has thick enough skin to avoid traumatization when they are demeaned for something over which they have no control.

[josephga]

I use to have a massage client that had cerebral palsy. I had one massage client that had a Colostomy bag. When he first called to book he told me he had a bandage on is stomach but didn't go into much detail. Id never seen a Colostomy bag b4 so didn't know what to expect. I saw him about 3 or 4 times b4 he moved away

[Guest countryboywny]

Congratulations on your professionalism in such a situation. Several years ago, a man with thalidomide birth defects posted here, because he was upset about the treatment he received from a pair of escorts who had been well reviewed here. He had told them in advance about his condition, but they went ahead with the appointment, but made obvious their distaste at his appearance. Although there were some expressions of sympathy here, other posters viciously attacked HIM for criticizing the escorts. I corresponded with him privately, and he was so emotionally devastated by the personal criticism that he was unwilling to have anything more to do with the escort scene, including this site. It's always worth remembering that not everyone (client nor escort) has thick enough skin to avoid traumatization when they are demeaned for something over which they have no control.

 

Beautifully written, Charlie, AMEN.

[josephga]

Congratulations on your professionalism in such a situation. Several years ago, a man with thalidomide birth defects posted here, because he was upset about the treatment he received from a pair of escorts who had been well reviewed here. He had told them in advance about his condition, but they went ahead with the appointment, but made obvious their distaste at his appearance. Although there were some expressions of sympathy here, other posters viciously attacked HIM for criticizing the escorts. I corresponded with him privately, and he was so emotionally devastated by the personal criticism that he was unwilling to have anything more to do with the escort scene, including this site. It's always worth remembering that not everyone (client nor escort) has thick enough skin to avoid traumatization when they are demeaned for something over which they have no control.

 

Thats a horrible story I think he had the right to criticize the escorts. If they only want too fuck perfect people find a new career

[bcohen7719]

Congratulations on your professionalism in such a situation. Several years ago, a man with thalidomide birth defects posted here, because he was upset about the treatment he received from a pair of escorts who had been well reviewed here. He had told them in advance about his condition, but they went ahead with the appointment, but made obvious their distaste at his appearance. Although there were some expressions of sympathy here, other posters viciously attacked HIM for criticizing the escorts. I corresponded with him privately, and he was so emotionally devastated by the personal criticism that he was unwilling to have anything more to do with the escort scene, including this site. It's always worth remembering that not everyone (client nor escort) has thick enough skin to avoid traumatization when they are demeaned for something over which they have no control.

 

That's an incredible story. Many, many thanks for sharing. I have a neurological problem, and can relate. My heart goes out to that fellow.

 

BC

[cany10011]

GQ Pro, i've always enjoyed your blog and writing from day 1. It's a fascinating read into the escorting experience from the "other side" of the fence. Sexual needs come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages. It's nice to know that there are those like you out there who can help meet those needs with professionalism and understanding.

 

Other topics i'd like to see on your blog might include: knowing when to quit escorting, how to balance your escorting life with a boyfriend, are there limits into what you would do with a client vs. boyfriend?, what do family/friends/others know about your "job"? Just some curious questions i think might be interesting to address.

 

 

 

I just meet a new client who has a severe case of cerebral palsy. I was a bit nervous before our encounter. Afterwards, I found the experience with him to be very rewarding. Any clients with special needs who have hired an escort? If so, how did it go? Any other escorts have clients with special needs? I wrote about the experience in detail on my blog.

"Secret Escapades of a Gay Gigolo" http://gqpro.tumblr.com/

[KMEM]

GQ Pro-

 

Good on you.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[dane michaels]

I just meet a new client who has a severe case of cerebral palsy. I was a bit nervous before our encounter. Afterwards, I found the experience with him to be very rewarding. Any clients with special needs who have hired an escort? If so, how did it go? Any other escorts have clients with special needs? I wrote about the experience in detail on my blog.

"Secret Escapades of a Gay Gigolo" http://gqpro.tumblr.com/

Hi GQ Pro,

 

When I saw your thread I was floored. I just spent a weekend outside Atlanta with my client who also has Cerebral Palsy, all I can say is that my experience sounds to be as rewarding as yours. I think that key is to be true, treat them as your equal (as we should any client) and enable them to enjoy all that they can. This man has touched my heart in ways he may never know. It is these type men that truly breath life abundant to me. I will have to check out your blog to read your experience. Thank you for sharing!!!!!

[leigh.bess.toad]

It's always worth remembering that not everyone (client nor escort) has thick enough skin to avoid traumatization when they are demeaned for something over which they have no control.

 

Charlie -- your last sentence hit home in a very real and personal way with me. Although not nearly as severe or obvious as CP or other more serious disabilities, I do have congenital arthiritis which has affected my gait since I was old enough to walk. I knew I was going to have my hips replaced at some point in my life by the time I was 5. But the one incident that stands out in my head occured over 40 years ago in junior high school when several teenage girls started quacking at me in the cafeteria because of how I was walking. It's amazing how such a seemingly insignificant incident that lasts no more than 10 seconds invovling people you don't even know who they are can scar you so indelibly for the rest of your life. But I will never get the sound of those girls out of my head as long as I live. Thank you Charlie for reminding us of the need to always be aware of the impact, even unintended, our actions can have on others.

[+ Tygerscent]

I've never met ANYBODY who did not have a special need... including myself... and it always seems to be the same one: Intimacy~

Tyger!

[email protected]

503.719.9274

http://www.tygerscent.biz

http://www.daddyreviews.com/review/tyger_portland

http://www.maleescortreview.com (Tygerscent in Portland, Oregon)

http://www.rentmen.com (AAAtygerscentXXX in Portland Oregon)

http://www.men4rentnow.com (tygerscent in Portland, Oregon)

 

 

I just meet a new client who has a severe case of cerebral palsy. I was a bit nervous before our encounter. Afterwards, I found the experience with him to be very rewarding. Any clients with special needs who have hired an escort? If so, how did it go? Any other escorts have clients with special needs? I wrote about the experience in detail on my blog.

"Secret Escapades of a Gay Gigolo" http://gqpro.tumblr.com/

[bcohen7719]

Charlie -- your last sentence hit home in a very real and personal way with me. Although not nearly as severe or obvious as CP or other more serious disabilities, I do have congenital arthiritis which has affected my gait since I was old enough to walk. I knew I was going to have my hips replaced at some point in my life by the time I was 5. But the one incident that stands out in my head occured over 40 years ago in junior high school when several teenage girls started quacking at me in the cafeteria because of how I was walking. It's amazing how such a seemingly insignificant incident that lasts no more than 10 seconds invovling people you don't even know who they are can scar you so indelibly for the rest of your life. But I will never get the sound of those girls out of my head as long as I live. Thank you Charlie for reminding us of the need to always be aware of the impact, even unintended, our actions can have on others.

 

Lee:

 

I've had some experiences and memories. They are awful. For years, I believe that this tendency has been pooh-pooh'd as meaning that certain people are simply less thick-thinned (or more sensitive) than others. That was never a satisfying explanation. In the history of war, it was always deemed a big puzzle as to why certain soldiers endured torture, but came through at the end to lead "normal" lives, while others became shell-shocked after minor explosions. More lately, the study of post-traumatic stress disorder points to how some people's neurological structure is just hard-wired more differently than others, and probably because of genetic differences. This is not to say someone shouldn't have smacked those girls across the face...but don't feel badly. You are not alone.

 

BC

[leigh.bess.toad]

Lee:

 

I've had some experiences and memories. They are awful. For years, I believe that this tendency has been pooh-pooh'd as meaning that certain people are simply less thick-thinned (or more sensitive) than others. That was never a satisfying explanation. In the history of war, it was always deemed a big puzzle as to why certain soldiers endured torture, but came through at the end to lead "normal" lives, while others became shell-shocked after minor explosions. More lately, the study of post-traumatic stress disorder points to how some people's neurological structure is just hard-wired more differently than others, and probably because of genetic differences. This is not to say someone shouldn't have smacked those girls across the face...but don't feel badly. You are not alone.

 

BC

 

Thanks BC -- but you know it's odd. I've dealt with the little kids all my life pointing at me whispering to their mom "why is that guy walking funny" and it didn't really bother me. Quite often the kids just come up to me and ask. I had a guy come up to me just in the last month or two in the gym while i was in my 40th minute of an High Intensity Interval Training session on treadmill and asked if I walked like that because of arthritis (like it's any of his business) and no problems. I know I was outworking his ass. I've dealt with the questions, and the giggles, the condecension ("let's help the cripple out" -- damn it I'm not cripple), and the overprotectiveness of family and friends, and although it's annoying, the annoyance lasted seconds. But it's that one 10 second incident that for whatever reason was permanently seared onto my soul -- perphaps as the culmination of all the little hurts over the years, I don't know. Why that one little incident over the hundreds and hundreds over my lifetime stuck there forever is something I don't understand. I just know that it has. And it really hasn't got a thing to do with thick versus thin skinned. I am pretty thick skinned. With as many of these incidents as I've encountered over my life, I think I have to be. But I guess I'm trying to make the point, not very well, that you can never tell what one incident, what one comment can permanently stick with someone. And that can be for good or bad. But I do know this: I think it's also made me a better person. I know what it's like to be on the receiving end of those comments. It's why I try to go out of my way to be nice and courteous to everyone. I know that had I let the accumulation of all the little hurts stick to me over the years I could have become a bitter old queen who hated the world. But it is indeed better to shine a light than to curse the darkness. Hopefully along the way I've educated some people about living with a disability. In a lot of ways though I'm not disabled. I'm differently abled. Sure I can't run the 100 meter dash in under 20 seconds -- never could. But I can do other things better than most too. Do I consider someone disabled because they're tone-deaf? Is someone disabled because they can't do even simple math functions in their head (like calculate a 15% tip on a restaurant bill of $73.29, or god forbid an 18% tip). I guess that's one reason Gaga's Born This Way spoke to me so much because I got two categories in there, especially the line "Whether life's disabilities Left you outcast, bullied or teased Rejoice and love yourself today'Cause baby, you were born this way". Oh yeah, and the gay thing too. .

 

What doesn't destroy you makes you stronger. But stronger can also be kinder or gentler or more compassionate or more understanding or more patient. Everyone has something to contribute. And I thank GQPro and my man Dane for reminding us of that with the story of their clients with CP.

[Michael Wayne]

I had a great regular client in Florida years ago who was shot at an atm and was in a chair. I had to lift him onto the bed. miraculously he had full sexual function though. nice guy and his disability in no way impeeded us having great sex.

[nate_sf]

I've never met ANYBODY who did not have a special need... including myself... and it always seems to be the same one: Intimacy~

 

I think Tyger's point is important in this profession (and also as a decent human being) that we all need intimacy, and when someone arranges to have an escort come see them it is to enjoy intimacy.

 

Though I have not encountered a client with CP, I've met with clients with a whole range of other issues ranging from the residual of cancer treatment, to war injuries, to trauma from past events that effect intimacy. As we all age, it seems most everyone ends up with some kind of physical ailment just through enduring life, and being able to navigate that goes with the territory as an escort. In these situations I try to identify what is possible and worth trying, rather than what is not possible because of what the physical situation may be. I hope that's not sounding too sanctimonious!

 

Maybe a bit straying off topic, but does anyone here watch "Breaking Bad"? The teenage son in that show has some kind of physical disability, I'm not sure what it is but it requires him to use crutches and also appears to create a slight speech impediment. I think the way they handle that character on the show is really interesting, because over the progression of episodes you gleem snippets of the challenges that come from having a disability or different-ability, and you also get to know the character and see what he's like as an individual. He's one of my favorite characters on the show.

[seeker630]

I think Tyger's point is important in this profession (and also as a decent human being) that we all need intimacy, and when someone arranges to have an escort come see them it is to enjoy intimacy.

 

I don't disagree with anything said here but I will point out that not EVERYONE who hires wants emotional intimacy. Speaking for myself, I need to feel some minimal 'connection' with anyone I hire, and I enjoy cuddling after. But for some guys, it's all about physical connection with a body and they're not interested in any emotional connection.

 

Though I have not encountered a client with CP, I've met with clients with a whole range of other issues ranging from the residual of cancer treatment, to war injuries, to trauma from past events that effect intimacy. As we all age, it seems most everyone ends up with some kind of physical ailment just through enduring life, and being able to navigate that goes with the territory as an escort. In these situations I try to identify what is possible and worth trying, rather than what is not possible because of what the physical situation may be. I hope that's not sounding too sanctimonious!

Maybe a bit straying off topic, but does anyone here watch "Breaking Bad"? The teenage son in that show has some kind of physical disability, I'm not sure what it is but it requires him to use crutches and also appears to create a slight speech impediment. I think the way they handle that character on the show is really interesting, because over the progression of episodes you gleem snippets of the challenges that come from having a disability or different-ability, and you also get to know the character and see what he's like as an individual. He's one of my favorite characters on the show.

 

I really enjoyed 'Breaking bad' the first year or so and think it is a really good show, but at some point I started finding it too depressing (for me, at this particular point in my life)) and stopped watching. Hopefully I'll catch-up in the future when I've regained some internal equilibrium.

The son has cerebral palsy - as does the actor who plays him, RJ Mitte: http://www.amctv.com/originals/breakingbad/cast/rjmitte

[nate_sf]

Great points seeker, thanks. Yes, intimacy could include "scratching that itch" whatever that might be. Even if that's just a good hard pounding!

 

Thanks for the info on RJ Mitte. I hadn't investigated him but had always been curious. He's damn adorable if you ask me. But yes, Breaking Bad is not for everyone, and though very well made is very intense and dark.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I've always felt that everyone currently has or has had a disability of some nature, just with different degrees of severity and with their own limitations. Examples of the most mild disabilities would include needing braces to straighten one's teeth, vision that is not 20/20, hearing impairment, or injuries such a broken bones or torn tendons. Does that broader definition make you think about this thread any differently?