I Sense That The Forum Is Changing

[doitb4ugo]

Without having a lot of specific instances, I sense that the Forum is slowly changing in terms of it active members and the postings that surface here. I doubt this is a seminal event but have not been a member for long enough to put what I am noticing into perspective.

 

A number of prolific posters seem to be very silent lately. Their posts have been taken up by another group of newer guys who seem to have jumped in over the last several months.

 

I will not label what I see as good or bad but probably inevitable in our fast paced world. The topic of escorts etc. have provided an anchor that keeps this place lively and entertaining. If you agree or can better articulate what I am feeling, Please post. If you disagree and have a different perspective, Please post. If you want to highjack the thread for some banter, Please post. You get the picture.

[Guest greatness]

Well everything changes, nothing stays the same.. That's life..

[jackhammer91406]

Different....

 

In the seven years (give or take) that I have been aware of this place, there have been many posters who are no longer here. Some folks have thankfully disappeared, others have sadly moved on. There can be many reasons for this...they have been booted, lost interest, had life changes, illness (my case). death, alienated by other posters and sometimes a difference of opinion with the owner. All add up to attrition.

 

There is no doubt that new interest is important to any message center to replace those who have left for the above mentioned reasons. New posters can bring new points of view, or new ways of seeing things. One thing we have in common is an interest in men. This site offers a variety of forums to in which to participate and a variety of men to talk with and listen to (or ignore as in my posts).

[Guest alanm]

A number of prolific posters seem to be very silent lately. Their posts have been taken up by another group of newer guys who seem to have jumped in over the last several months.

 

I will not label what I see as good or bad but probably inevitable in our fast paced world. The topic of escorts etc. have provided an anchor that keeps this place lively and entertaining. If you agree or can better articulate what I am feeling, Please post. If you disagree and have a different perspective, Please post. want to

 

The Forum has changes dramatically over the last year or so, which is neither good nor bad. I have been posting here since 2000, but the biggest chance has occurred lately. The discussions used to be much more serious -- I enjoy the birthday wishes, but they were unheard of five/ten years ago. People are less nasty now, and there's more fun posts. But, there are time I look back with very kind thoughts at some on the vicious take-no-prisoners threads that thrived here. You had to really think before you posted -- and even then someone might blast the hell out of it -- there is less brain prower required now.

[raife]

The Forum has changes dramatically over the last year or so, which is neither good nor bad. I have been posting here since 2000, but the biggest chance has occurred lately. The discussions used to be much more serious -- I enjoy the birthday wishes, but they were unheard of five/ten years ago. People are less nasty now, and there's more fun posts. But, there are time I look back with very kind thoughts at some on the vicious take-no-prisoners threads that thrived here. You had to really think before you posted -- and even then someone might blast the hell out of it -- there is less brain power required now.

 

Things have gotten much fluffier lately, which is great if you like cotton candy, but there's definitely less red meat to chew on. Seems the ideologues, instigators head-butters and trolls are ban-hammered much more quickly so what's left is less controversial, but a little more monochrome. That's cool though, there are other sites that let the sparks fly, I'd just as soon the rentboy loving quarter of my little world be a more placid and serene environment, the better to kick back, feed the geese and enjoy the view.

[+ Charlie]

I have been here from the beginning, and I can assure you that the forum is always changing. Whether that is a good thing or not depends on whether you happen to like the changes that are taking place. The people who post regularly these days seem to be less confrontational than the old crowd. I certainly find it less stimulating than it used to be, but I suspect most people would say the same about me.

[Guest greatness]

oh charlie

 

You always sound like a warm big brother to me. Always calm and nice. Kisses and hugs!!

 

I have been here from the beginning, and I can assure you that the forum is always changing. Whether that is a good thing or not depends on whether you happen to like the changes that are taking place. The people who post regularly these days seem to be less confrontational than the old crowd. I certainly find it less stimulating than it used to be, but I suspect most people would say the same about me.

[josephga]

I personally prefer thing calm. Being confrontational on line means absolutely nothing. Some find it easy to do because there's no consequences for being that way. Most would never have the balls to pop off at the mouth in real life..

[JoeyBryant]

I personally prefer thing calm. Being confrontational on line means absolutely nothing. Some find it easy to do because there's no consequences for being that way. Most would never have the balls to pop off at the mouth in real life..

 

Exactly...much less call someone with that nonesense. But, I dont see any reason to come here like that. I think there's enough crap to deal with offline, to come on here and have to fight someone who said something slick. I like debate, and dont mind a confrotation, but dont care for downright insulting and putting people down. I've noticed that has gone down quite a bit though

[RockHard]

Cha-cha-cha-changes.

 

Some folks have thankfully disappeared...

Amen to that. You can find many of the Daddy haters over at Male Escort Review. Some gay men wear grudges like drag queens wear shoulder pads. Competition is supposed to be good for the consumer but, it seems to me, posting here is more a decision of choosing bad over worse.

 

IMO, MER is utterly worthless and, after witnessing "Lucky's Place," I can now say I have seen the world's longest tongue (belonging to Oz) and it's stuck real far up Lucky's ass. I enjoyed the laugh. Lucky requires a lot of attention and Oz knew exactly how to serve it. But, honestly, who cares?

 

I feel sorry for Lucky. At times I liked him but he threw any notion of credibility out the window with his drama defection. I have a feeling management (the term is as loose as Cory Jay's ass) here doesn't miss his drama.

 

People are less nasty now...You had to really think before you posted -- and even then someone might blast the hell out of it -- there is less brain power required now.

Living life as a bitchy cunt is hard work. Negativity is SO exhausting. Me thinks our "less nasty" selves are ahead of their time. If only those Republican dames would visit here and take their cues from us.

 

Escorts need a place to go where the cunts won't attack them. (When someone discovers such a place, let me know.)

 

Brain power? Let's get real.

 

I certainly find it less stimulating than it used to be...

Stimulation comes in all styles of shakes and breakdowns. There's the kind of stimulation that causes a heart attack and then there's the kind that gives a real man an erection. IMO, a stimulating board starts at the top. And that's all I'm going to say about that. Like I said, the choice is between bad or worse.

[Racketjock]

For me it has changed, and I join Doit it not really have a clear thoughts about why I feel that way. I don't find that I have much in the way to add to many of the discussions that haven't been said already. I am not part of the Palm Springs or NY group events. I watch with someone of an old timer perspective the joys of those coming into their own with a bit of nostalgia and thoughtful, but often silent, shared pride. I am not a big fan of negativity and criticizing others for what they might not know, when to search an archive, how/ what to post, or die-hard allegiance to one escort or another that draws fierce debate, ad nauseum, just because. I have been around awhile. I like reading others' perspectives. I miss hearing and reading more from our beloved objects of affection and lust. I value learning about others, what we share, what we don't, and in that process learning a bit more about myself. So, back to Doit's thoughts. I agree with him and I take some responsibility, pride, choice, and affirmation with posting and giving of myself. To those that take the time to reach out when I have gone absent and commented both publicly and privately with questions and shared tales, I appreciate it. I remain thankful for change. I believe it's important that all things continue to do so. For how we embrace that, react, respond, nurture, and adapt make the journey all the richer. Just my humble 2 cents and waxing poetic.

[jackhammer91406]

One other thing...

 

I neglected to mention that when I first started hanging out here few knew each other in the real world. After I had been here for a while and taken my lumps from some of the posters who took no prisoners (as someone put it) I got enough nerve and my skin thickened enough that I extended an open invitation to meet in the real world when I traveled. A surprising number of total strangers took me up on it and I met some great people who are friends to this day. I even put an open invitation on this MC for anyone who wanted to join me for my annual month in St Augustine and again a surprising number of people replied and joined me, one of whom is now one of my best friends.

 

The point of all this rambling is that once you have met someone in real life, your handle has a face and person attached, and it's harder to be a pissy-ass grump when you know the people you are talking to. I think this fact has had an impact on the tone of discussions at this MC. I think it's a good thing. Others may not agree.

 

As a side note, please ignore the grammatical errors in my first post and any in this one. I am a recovering cancer victim and am heavily medicated. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

[NYTomcat]

I believe it has changed. Yes its more congenial but that comes at a loss of passion as well. Given I was probably one of the latest great confrontations .... I can say I dont miss the notoriety but I do miss the passion that such encounters stirred.

 

That said I do think we are seeing one huge loss here. That no one has commented on. As congenial as we may see the forum. The escorts who regularly posted here are also disappearing not to be replaced. While it is a marketing tool. I think many find it Just requires too many minefields to traverse to make it worthwhile. That is a shame. For I hire almost exclusively those who I have come to know here . I am not the kind who has a very particular type.... but I miss the banter we used to have

[Anton]

Hi doitb4ugo,

 

If I look at myself, then I'm clearly one of those who have been posting less. However, that's not a surprise if you know what my considerations are when I post : I try to post only if I have something useful to add.

 

I just checked and I have been a lurker since 2001 and a member since 2003. Lately a lot of interesting questions have been posted here, but a lot of those questions have been asked before. I could have chimed in and write again what I had been writing before, but somehow that didn't appeal to me.

 

So what did i do? (Yep, I remained mute.) Is that good or bad? I would say : neither.

 

No matter what, I hope this gives a slight answer.

 

Sincerely, Anton (previous from Amsterdam, now in Tampa.)

[adriano46]

I too have been checking into this forum almost from the beginning (though under another name that, in all my moving around, I stopped using and then opted for the new one I use now... so my cumulative postings are less than in reality).

 

I have enjoyed a lot of characters who have contributed, and yes, there were a few I wish would have gone away sooner, but I myself contribute less these days, and only when I have something to add in most cases.

[justaguy]

Tom, I've also noticed the decline in the number of escorts' voices, especially of late. I don't know if this, too, is cyclical or if the "minefield" simply became too much. Perhaps those that have been here longer can help answer that question.

[wayout]

I believe things have changed as well, mostly related to an increase in the social and congenial aspects of posts. The banter between individuals that does not necessarily add anything to a thread has increased quite a bit in my opinion. That creates the sense of threads/posts being less serious or having less substance. I have seen some decent thread topics degenerate lately into conversations that are hardly related to the original thread but more like a conversation between a few individuals that is not relevant or interesting to others (at least to me that is). In this regard, things have gotten a bit out of balance. Depends on your own perspective whether that is a good or bad thing.

 

I love the escorts that participate and want to hear more from them but not sure how to achieve that. I do believe it would be worthwhile to have more new escorts join in. Not sure how many even know about the forum. For some of the escorts I have hired recently I have introduced them to the forum and have seen them post but I have noticed that they don't seem to have kept up posting regularly after a time. For both clients and escorts, the forum serves a need but if it does not satisfy that need to some extent then it is unlikely they will continue to participate.

[best hotel]

I love the new sweet guys with their manners, kindness, birthday wishes, etc.....and the atmosphere of clients and escorts advising clients and escorts continues to be impressive....and i appreciate the guys who post the pics (vintage being my favorite)......but I prefer a mix of sweet and salty........i miss Rick's humor (yes), Tom Isern's intellect, David's authenticity, FFF's creativity, ...healthy confrontation, respectful debate, activism, ....i hope that some of the guys who have left , or may be lurking, will return.....i have learned alot here and you all have so much to teach.....this is such an odd and specialized community...i hope it can be less centrifugal as it changes

[+ overeasy]

I find the forum to be a valuable retreat and resource. While I come here often, and post much less often, I do consider it a mostly comfortable source of information and discussion. I find that my posts are not numerous...primarily because many times my position on the discussion has already been expressed, or because I have no real experiential information or opinion to add....But that does definately not mean that I don't get a lot from the discussions. While I do note that the personal attacks and challenges have dropped off...also don't miss them that much....

[Cooper]

The silver lining

 

Without having a lot of specific instances, I sense that the Forum is slowly changing in terms of it active members and the postings that surface here. If you disagree and have a different perspective, Please post.

 

doitb4ugo, Over the years posts like yours have surfaced. It's like Fall, a change of season and color. With winter coming I'm sure things will pick up.

 

I'm not certain if your message is referring just to the "Lounge" or all Forums. If you were to follow other Forums you'll see a lot of great posts and useful information.

 

Not long ago daddy established 2 new Forums, the Gallery and Comedy/Tragedy, both have become very popular with the members. I enjoy reading about the theater and have seen shows reviewed by our members. The most recent being "Memphis: The Musical", which I highly recommend... As for the Gallery, thanks to you and others, this Forum has really taken off.

 

My favorite Forum has always been the Strip Club Forum. No where on the internet can you find a better source of information on male strip clubs throughout the US and Canada. Today, in the Strip Club FAQ, a member submitted an excellent review on the club Urge. Members who enjoy this type of entertainment have provided us with valuable information.

 

There are many positive aspects of these Forums and it's always nice to hear that someone appreciates what you contribute.

 

Coop

[Steven_Draker]

Artificial sweetener anyone

 

If there's a drop in participation it could be because some posters died of sugar coma

 

http://www.truthaboutabs.ws/blogger/thedietsolutionprogram/index.files/artificialsweeteners.jpg

 

others stay away from the forum by choice.

[AdamSmith]

If there's a drop in participation it could be because some posters died of sugar coma [/color]

 

LOL. Startled to find myself in roaring agreement with Hr. Prof. Draker! In olden days, the least flaw in one's logic or facts would bring a stinging, and usually accurate, rebuke from such as woodlawn, doug69 or FinFangFoom. It was enlivening. The boards knew Blake's wisdom: 'The tigers of wrath are wiser than the horses of instruction.'

 

Further to the current mood of the forums, Blake again: 'The standing water breeds reptiles of the mind.'

[Guest greatness]

Guilty as charged.. I need a good defense lawyer for several manslaughter charges against me. lol Anyone?

 

If there's a drop in participation it could be because some posters died of sugar coma

 

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[JT Brooklyn]

"False Sweetness" who would of thought that could be found on DADDYS? JT for one...

[cany10011]

I've been a lurker watching on the sidelines for several years and have enjoyed, learned a lot, and finally felt compelled to participate in some posts by joining as an active member. While I've enjoyed the stinging, caustic, and catty remarks by some posters I also felt it was a little intimidating to post. I think it is a little more genteel now, for good or bad, I think this forum provides an excellent opportunity for guys to post thoughts/ideas/news that might be of interest to other guys and also to serve as a sounding board or voice of reality when engaging/interacting/hiring escorts. Key players in the forum change for the reasons already explained yet without "fresh meat" active members, it would be very boring! Keep up the uncensored, unscripted dialog guys