NewBie QuesTioN - tO BE or nOt tO BE

[doitb4ugo]

I have been involved in this forum since sometime in January 2010. I have been using the newbie label when discussing things with various members as well as when hiring. Given that my first hire was toward the end of February and I have had approximately 10 sessions with 4 guys since then, Am I abusing the nebie term and sould I stand on my own two feet when setting up time with an escort. I think I'm using the Newbie tag to somehow escape responsibility for ensuring that I get what i want and communicate. Also, possibly, the Newbie tag gets me off the hook in the performance aspect of the meeting. If I'm not as good at this as I'd like, the Newbie label gets me off the hook by lowering the expectations of what I'm involved in...Just some self-reflection here on a Sunday afternoon....

 

Your thoughts on the Newbie title and what it means to both clients and escorts.

[+ Charlie]

Strangely enough, in all my years here, it had never occurred to me that "newbie" referred to "new at hiring escorts;" I always assumed it meant new on this board, or new at discussing escort issues.

[+ g56whiz]

I have had approximately 10 sessions with 4 guys since then

 

DAMN! I don't know which to covet more: your libido or your resources!!!

 

Yes. I think you've outlived your "newbieness". That's not to imply that you or anyone else have or should have all the answers on this subject. That's what this board is all about.

 

Damn, ten sessions since January. That's almost like once every two we . . . . . Okay. Okay! Inquiring (and prurient) mind want (NEED) to know: who were the repeats?

 

ps Congratulations!

[Romann]

Right!

 

Yes dear, the "newbie" title needs to be retired because it's about as old as a stale bag of chips from last year found in the far back of the pantry. And 10 sessions under your belt? You're a PRO now!

 

Hell, you're even a Baron and have surpassed my postings and I've been here since March of 2009.

 

<kiss kiss>

[doitb4ugo]

I hate to do it but.

 

Perhaps It is time. I don;t like doing it but like some things in life, you need to give it up or face the combined riducule of your acquaintances.

 

Sex is more complicated than I ever imagined, I will feel a newbie until I can't do it anymore.

 

Alas, I also have to rewrite my introductory template for contacting an escort which suggests that I'm all very new to this stuff. Gawd, growing up sucks. And Romann, of all the daddy's I've run into in these brief few months, I can't believe you want me to grow up...

 

rich

[NYTomcat]

Honestly Rich you outpace me. I've been here since October 2009 my first hire November and over that time had 9 hires including 4 weekends. Now I would say im still one of daddy's newbies. And will continue to be until my experience and versatility expand but you. You pushed boundaries from day two. After we picked you up and brushed you off day one. LOL

 

I have to say... no more newbie for you

[+ purplekow]

Once you have given advice to someone with less experience then you, you are no longer a newbie. Tom you there are not a newbie about 100 times over. Doit Sorry Oldbie like the rest of us. Just a horny middle aged man with a dollar and a dream.

[NYTomcat]

Once you have given advice to someone with less experience then you, you are no longer a newbie. Tom you there are not a newbie about 100 times over. Doit Sorry Oldbie like the rest of us. Just a horny middle aged man with a dollar and a dream.

 

Ok Pk maybe thats true. Never thought about it that way. But while you are probably right. Well.... there is a difference at times. A friend in HR once told me there is a difference between 20 years experience and one years experience twenty times. Though I am beginning to branch out in my experiences I would definately say im more the latter than the former. I've been told and met many of the "advanced" as another friend from the forum once described it, men from the forum. Perhaps considering the group I have met of truly remarkable and worldly people ( Cooper,lucky, adamsmith,gwhiz,taz, foxy,sky,glutes, baronartz, even your grand self the great Pk )...etc...) I will always consider myself a newbie in your August presence.

[uwsman2]

You're all newbies....

 

I've been hiring escorts off and on since about 1979.... so quit debating about which guy who started hiring in the past year is a newbie and which isn't... )

[NYTomcat]

I've been hiring escorts off and on since about 1979.... so quite debating about which guy who started hiring in the past year is a newbie and which isn't... )

 

There you go. Thanks UWS Im keeping my newbie tag for now.

[Guest greatness]

oh my

 

We have to establish a special position in our forum... Master Yoda? or Master Windu? I'm a Padawan learner..

 

I've been hiring escorts off and on since about 1979.... so quite debating about which guy who started hiring in the past year is a newbie and which isn't... )

[JT Brooklyn]

Newbie in the Neighborhood!

 

Strangely enough, in all my years here, it had never occurred to me that "newbie" referred to "new at hiring escorts;" I always assumed it meant new on this board, or new at discussing escort issues.

 

I'm definitely with Charlie on this one!

 

IMHO....Newbie= At this Place and Time NOT spending the Dime!

[Guest greatness]

I second that~~

 

Charlie you are so insightful~~~

 

I'm definitely with Charlie on this one!

 

IMHO....Newbie= At this Place and Time NOT spending the Dime!

[NYTomcat]

I'm definitely with Charlie on this one!

 

IMHO....Newbie= At this Place and Time NOT spending the Dime!

 

OK Brooklyn and Charlie, So under that definition.... Doit and I are ?.....

[+ honcho]

I Won't Grow Up, I will never go to school!

 

I think it's possible to be a bit of peter pan, a curmudgeon, an Iconclast, and an optimist all at once . . .

 

I believe it is possible to share what experiences one has had so far, without believing that

one has all the answers, and also to have a healthy skepticism when others pontificate.

 

When I was in college one day at lunch a woman across the table from me declared 'viriginity is a state of mind' ... mayhap so is newbieness?

[JT Brooklyn]

Newbies will always exist!

 

OK Brooklyn and Charlie, So under that definition.... Doit and I are ?.....

 

Newbies..But that's a Hellava lot better than Wannabes!

[+ sf westcoaster]

OK Brooklyn and Charlie, So under that definition.... Doit and I are ?.....

 

In place of "newbie" you could be called "explorers" - i.e. someone who is still searching for the promised land!

[NYTomcat]

Newbies..But that's a Hellava lot better than Wannabes!

 

Im happy with the moniker newbie. Keeps me feeling fresh

 

In place of "newbie" you could be called "explorers" - i.e. someone who is still searching for the promised land!

 

 

 

Explorer I like that but I would suggest that even lucky and Charlie would still want that title. Too. Or maybe they are trailblazers.

[+ deej]

Im happy with the moniker newbie.

 

There ya go.

[+ Lucky]

Im happy with the moniker newbie. Keeps me feeling fresh

 

 

 

 

 

Explorer I like that but I would suggest that even lucky and Charlie would still want that title. Too. Or maybe they are trailblazers.

 

 

I think that Charlie and I both consider ourselves over the hill.

[doitb4ugo]

OK Brooklyn and Charlie, So under that definition.... Doit and I are ?.....

 

Sluts

[Mark Gordon]

New bie or Not New bie?

 

I think the term ‘Newbie’ is best suited to those who are new to an online forum, such as this one. I have never had a client refer to himself as a Newbie, but I have had clients refer to themselves as inexperienced, first timers and virgins. Rich, I think that after ten sessions with escorts, presuming this is the extent of your MM sexual experience, you might still describe yourself as ‘relatively inexperienced.’ However, you should’ve acquired some self-knowledge about what sort of things you enjoy – information which escorts whom you contact would find useful in determining compatibility and ensuring a successful encounter. But if you still see yourself as being on a voyage of discovery and wish to be guided by them, then you should say so.

 

It is best not to overplay how new you are to all of this, as your escort may very well pick up on it. It is not unusual for clients to claim that they are inexperienced, virgins or first timers. Sometimes they really are, sometimes this is just their fantasy which they’d like you to play along with, and sometimes I think they hope for exceptional treatment as a consequence.

 

Some years ago in London, I had a client who told me that it was his first time with a man. About 3 or 4 years later, this same client turned up again. He showed no signs of recognizing or remembering me, so I did not allude to our previous encounter. Especially after he told me that (whaddaya know), it was still his first time!

[MsGuy]

That just means you've seen both sides, Lucky.

 

I think that Charlie and I both consider ourselves over the hill.

 

Hills and clouds, they have a lot in common.

 

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[NYTomcat]

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There ya go.

 

Deej. I love it

 

-my everlasting appreciation from the original NY permanent newbie so much more original. And how perfect to come right on my 1000 th post.

[uwsman2]

"first-timer"

 

Actually, I can imagine somebody telling every escort he is with that it is his "first time" in hopes that he will get special treatment. That is, that the escort will feel he should put out a special effort to make it special for the client because, after all, it's his first time!!