Do you feel more comfortable going to apts or hotels?

[JoeyBryant]

So its been over a year since I briefly hosted from my studio when I first started out in Miami. Then I got roommates and haven't done from home until now. Since then I've only been doing outcalls with the occasional incalls while traveling.

 

I have noticed that when it comes to incalls in hotels there can be a bit of reluctance to go by some people. I've had emails telling me that they rather wait until they can host as they "didnt like the idea to meet at a hotel".

 

There was one time, while traveling; a guest came to my hotel but refused to walk inside due to "cameras and security." Even though I was a bit suspicious myself, I walked down to meet him. Completely normal. Then he still wouldn't walk up so we went to the leather district for a drink. In the end it ended up being an outcall for me.

 

Would you be comfortable at your place just because its your place, or because of security in hotels or the possibility of 'something going down'?

[Boston Guy]

I'm not sure if your question is directed at escorts or clients, so I'll answer from my point of view as a client.

 

I've hired escorts for incalls occasionally but really quite infrequently. I'm more interested in hiring someone while I'm on the road, which means I'm in a hotel. While in a hotel, I strongly prefer that the escort come to my hotel. It's more efficient for me that way and I like the fact that the hotel does offer a certain amount of security and anonymity.

 

BG

[+ purplekow]

I could care less either way. Hotels are fun and different but I do feel a certain need to restrain my somewhat loud orgasm in a hotel while I have no such reluctance in the privacy of my own home. If I am going to have a screaming orgasm, and that is only a minority of time, then I don't want to suppress it nor do I want security knocking on the door to make sure someone wasnt killed.

[Guest greatness]

oh my

 

how loud are you? That's hot!

 

I could care less either way. Hotels are fun and different but I do feel a certain need to restrain my somewhat loud orgasm in a hotel while I have no such reluctance in the privacy of my own home. If I am going to have a screaming orgasm, and that is only a minority of time, then I don't want to suppress it nor do I want security knocking on the door to make sure someone wasnt killed.

[+ purplekow]

Well it isnt always the case that I am loud, but when I am loud, it is screaming loud. It builds up from a mild grunt to a more animalistic guttural sounds to some intermittent crescendo decrescendo moans until the crescendo of the moans get louder and louder and the descrescendos less and less and then a panting screaming orgasm and then complete exhaustion and collapse. Funny thing is, I can have an orgasm that is just as intense and in now way leads to that kind of noise. Usually the loud one is the second one as it is harder to bring about and the grunting and moaning seem to help push it along. Nowadays, the rare third one, is usually not quite so loud. When I was a younger man the second one would not be loud at all and the third one would be the aria. Back then, subsequent ejaculations would still be loud but not as loud.

[Guest greatness]

so hot!

 

It's like reading a romance novel... So hot!

 

Well it isnt always the case that I am loud, but when I am loud, it is screaming loud. It builds up from a mild grunt to a more animalistic guttural sounds to some intermittent crescendo decrescendo moans until the crescendo of the moans get louder and louder and the descrescendos less and less and then a panting screaming orgasm and then complete exhaustion and collapse. Funny thing is, I can have an orgasm that is just as intense and in now way leads to that kind of noise. Usually the loud one is the second one as it is harder to bring about and the grunting and moaning seem to help push it along. Nowadays, the rare third one, is usually not quite so loud. When I was a younger man the second one would not be loud at all and the third one would be the aria. Back then, subsequent ejaculations would still be loud but not as loud.

[whipped guy]

Either way works

 

This is an interesting question. I hire only when I am away from home so I am obviously staying at a hotel. It is certainly more convenient for the guy to come to me. However, there is something about going to the guy that has an aura of adventure attached to into whether he is working out of his place or even if he is staying at another hotel. Now in my particular case going to the guy’s residence in the past usually meant that he had certain “amenities” that made it worth the effort. However, of late that has not been the case… and especially in NYC where I have not really discovered anyone with whom I have felt comfortable who has such facilities… and that in spite of a guy or two getting some decent reviews. Consequently since I have to carry the “tools of the trade with me” it is certainly more convenient to have the guy come to my hotel… but either way has its pros and cons.

 

As for security cameras in hotels or even apartment buildings, I have never even given it any thought, but I can see how some guys (either the escort or the client) might feel uncomfortable. As an example, one friend who needs to be ultra discreet was taken aback by having to show an ID to enter an escort’s condo complex and almost didn’t go through with the appointment due to that fact.

 

Now regarding hotels in general, the walls can be somewhat thin at times and even in a large upscale type property. As such there is always the threat of security catching on to what is transpiring… while that can be a nuisance it also adds a bit of the unexpected and an atmosphere of excitement to the proceedings… and especially when your “neighbor” starts banging on the walls in response to what ever thrashing is occurring in the room. Now fortunately that has happened only once, but it did put quite a damper on the proceedings. Now I usually schedule evening appointments, However, the one time I scheduled a late afternoon session the maid not realizing that I had a late checkout almost pranced into the room in spite of the fact that the “do not disturb” sign was hung on the doorknob. I think she caught a glimpse of my feet tied down on the bed… but then again I have a feeling that hotel employees have seen it all!

 

The bottom line is either works for me and as long as the escort is located in a safe area of town I don’t mind going to him… However, the operative word in that sentence is "safe".

[Romann]

I've had maybe one or two times where a possible client was leery about coming to my private place in Downtown Dallas or at a hotel while traveling. While I feel this is completely normal and everyone should exercise caution whether they are they escort or client when going into environments that are not familiar to them, I also feel that this can be mitigated with proper communication. For MYSELF, I tend to do a lot of chatting with the potential client prior to the actual meeting time/place whether that be via email, text and/or phone. By making your client feel more comfortable through communication about the entire experience and of course if the escort has the reviews to substantiate their claims, this goes a long way at adding additional security to the entire experience. Strike that connection with your client in the beginning rather than at the time of meeting and most of the pieces will fall into place.

 

Hope this helps.

[+ Charlie]

I generally prefer to go to the escort's place rather than to a hotel, though the latter isn't necessarily a deal breaker, unless I am expected to pay for a hotel room only for the appointment. I just feel more comfortable in a private home than in a hotel, where staff can intrude.

[+ deej]

I generally prefer hotels but I'll admit it's mainly because someone ELSE handles cleanup and laundry.

[justaguy]

I prefer that the escort host, if only to avoid going into clean-up-the-house mode but really bacause I like my privacy. I would reiterate whipped guy's thought on a safe neighborhood. A good hotel in nice part of down is an attraction.

[Guest greatness]

so sweet

 

Indeed he is..

 

For MYSELF, I tend to do a lot of chatting with the potential client prior to the actual meeting time/place whether that be via email, text and/or phone. By making your client feel more comfortable through communication about the entire experience and of course if the escort has the reviews to substantiate their claims, this goes a long way at adding additional security to the entire experience.

[Guest greatness]

well

 

I did an incall once and I didn't like it due to a personal reason. I usually have escorts come to me either at home or a hotel. I prefer going to hotels these days because of my nosy neighbors. I have a private massage therapist who comes to give me a massage, only massage, once in a while and neighbors gossiped that I was hiring escorts. After that I usually meet escorts at hotels.

[+ newatthis]

...As an example, one friend who needs to be ultra discreet was taken aback by having to show an ID to enter an escort’s condo complex and almost didn’t go through with the appointment due to that fact..

This seems to be happening more frequently (or I'm hearing about it more). I was unpleasantly surprised not long ago when I discovered that the elevator in an escort's hotel required a key card to activate it -- he had not mentioned this when he sent me his room number. Luckily I had a cell phone with me.

 

A friend of mine who doesn't have a cell phone wasn't so lucky -- he arrived at an escort's address to discover it was a gated complex with no gate person. So he turned aroiund and went home.

[Guest DuchessIvanaKizznhugg]

2 cents....

 

I can understand the reluctance of some men to have their personal movements monitored as they embark on a rendezvous with an escort---particularly by security cameras. If the client is married or strongly closeted, or if he believes he has much to lose should his "clandestine" behaviour become known, I'm sure the fear of discovery can be quite strong. Plus, with TV shows airing their tabloid "undercover stings" relating to both on-line activities and sex, it's like pouring gasoline on a smouldering ember.

 

Coming to grips with our sexuality--even more so in various geographic parts of the country (and the world)--- will continue to be fraught with all kinds of (sometimes horrific) steps....the worst of which are those which are imagined. Depending where on the continuum the client is with respect to his seeking an escort experience, I can easily see how nervousness can gain the upper hand.

 

From my perspective as a client, I generally prefer to have an escort visit me.....either at my home when in town or at my hotel when I'm travelling. Part of the joy of the entire experience, for me, is that after a rousing, toe-curling, laugh-and-grunt romp, it's so much more restful and calming when you don't have to get dressed and re-enter the outside world immediately afterwards. Bliss extended. (Then again, I could just be lazy and hate to park the car!)

[Romann]

I was unpleasantly surprised not long ago when I discovered that the elevator in an escort's hotel required a key card to activate it -- he had not mentioned this when he sent me his room number. Luckily I had a cell phone with me.

 

You mean to tell me your cell phone is not attached to your head and ready at all times?

[jackcali]

I have to say that I'm indifferent between hotels and apartments as such, with issues of discretion and anonymity determining which is preferable. Here in NYC, where I live, I'd rather go to a private apartment without a doorman than a hotel, because it's totally anonymous. Good hotels are almost as anonymous because I blend into the hotel crowd -- I'm just another somewhat-overweight businessman in his 50s wearing a suit (if it's during the week) or khakis (if it's the weekend). I don't like seeing escorts at their homes if they live in doorman buildings, because doormen here know EVERYTHING about their tenants and I don't like a doorman knowing that I'm there to visit an escort. (It's because of nosy doormen that I will NEVER host an escort at my home.) Worst of all is a cheap hotel, because anyone (whether s/he knows me or not) who sees me in one of those hotels knows I'm there to do something illicit.

 

If I'm traveling, I much prefer hosting at my hotel, but that's more for convenience than anything else.

[+ Lucky]

The posts where guys wonder what the neighbors will think if an escort comes to their house reminds me of a post on Gay Thailand, where the men who pick up young guys in the bars are embarrassed to be seen walking down the street with their choices. So they send them separately to their hotel or room. My feeling is, if you are embarrassed about who you hire, or that you hire, then don't.

[jackcali]

The posts where guys wonder what the neighbors will think if an escort comes to their house reminds me of a post on Gay Thailand, where the men who pick up young guys in the bars are embarrassed to be seen walking down the street with their choices. So they send them separately to their hotel or room. My feeling is, if you are embarrassed about who you hire, or that you hire, then don't.

 

Lucky, that's just silly. There are all sorts of behaviors that are suitable in private but that we'd be embarrassed about in public. I'd be embarrassed if I farted in public, but I still do it in private sometimes.

 

Also, keep in mind that hiring escorts is illegal, notwithstanding the relatively sporadic efforts at prosecution. People with high-profile jobs, or who work for the government, or who have children and an angry ex-spouse who might fight to change custody arrangements all have very good reasons to keep private their hiring of escorts. Just ask Elliot Spitzer.

[+ Lucky]

Well, you are right, at least about Elliot, the poor fool. I have the advantage of having none of those fears. But there was a day when I did. So I realize that my remark was too broad and thank you for your sensitive manner in calling my attention to it.

[jackcali]

Well, Lucky, I don't think my manner was particularly sensitive, but if your thanks are sincere, they are very much appreciated. If instead they are an expression of Lucky sarcasm, well, as always that's very much appreciated too.

[+ newatthis]

You mean to tell me your cell phone is not attached to your head and ready at all times?

It took me a long time to even get a cell phone, and that was mostly for convenience when traveling -- I zip in my handy Canadian, French, or UK SIM and voilà!, I'm a local. It's prepaid, and I doubt if I spend in a year what others spend in a month. I have a general aversion to talking on the phone anyway. I understand in theory why people walk around with phones attached to their ears, but can't imagine myself ever doing it.

 

On the other hand, the idea of a smart phone with web access and neat apps does attract me. I'm just waiting for them to be available unlocked and prepaid. Maybe the Google phone??

[Guest greatness]

I agree

 

I don't like those girls who use their cell phones while driving. I almost got into an accident!

 

I I have a general aversion to talking on the phone anyway.

[JoeyBryant]

I can understand the reluctance of some men to have their personal movements monitored

 

I think thats main reason. Even with good communication and reviews, some are a bit cautious visiting someone in a hotel, and then walking out few moments later. There are working girls I've known who were so certain that they had 'ho' written on their forehead the second they stepped into the lobby.

 

But as most of us know, thats going overboard. hotel staff really aren't interested in someone's comings and goings, especially if it's just 1 roundtrip. Even if they are, I've never had a receptionist climb over the desk, follow me to the room and eavesdrop.

 

As for highrise condos, I've always been directed to a nearby carpark to save on the hassles of parking. It also depends which city you're in. I've found hotels up north (Chicago/Boston) are far more strict on entrances than the ones down here.

[uwsman2]

Apartment preferred

 

I always go to the escort when hiring here in NYC. I don't need to have my doormen keeping track of who is coming to see me. And when I go to an escort in NYC, I much prefer to go to somebody's apartment than a hotel room. Hotel rooms have a very sterile quality, although there is the advantage that they at least appear clean. (But then I've read that hotel rooms are only superficially clean, and that in a busy hotel there can be all kinds of exotic schmutz in a hotel room.) But I also like to hire visiting escorts, which usually means going to their hotel room. A few times, however, I've connected with visiting escorts who were staying in private apartments of absent friends, which was truly ideal.

 

When I'm hiring while "on the road," I'll usually have the escort come to my hotel, for the simple reason that I'm not that familiar with the escort's city and would rather not have to go out exploring, although I've made exceptions to that when the escort was located not far from me. Years ago, I had some interesting experiences with escorts in New Orleans, where the escorts were living in the French Quarter and my convention hotel was nearby... that always worked out well. (I understand the escort scene in NO is much diminished since Katrina...)

 

A tip to escorts who host in-calls: try to have your bathroom set up to be user-friendly for the client. Clean towels, in particular, are much appreciated!!