HELP newbie here needs answers

[Guest Merlin]

Don't send many email, but do send one on the day prior to the meeting to let you know you are still planning on meeting him. I recently contacted an escort a week ahead and agreed on a time and place, and I emailed him the day before. When I called him on the agreed day to give him my hotel room number, he seemed mildly surprised. He told me than in his experience guys who contact a week ahead usually flake out.

[+ newatthis]

a dissenting view on dinner

 

Jeepman of course mentioned dining. I suddenly thought of going out to eat or drink ...Perhaps dinner in would be better but it almost seems a shame to not experience the whole sensuality of dining out if you know what I mean.

 

I'm going to take a dissenting view here. If you're as inexperienced and keyed up as you describe, I think you'll do much better starting with an erotic encounter in your hotel room (or wherever) in which you explore your fantasies. You can suggest a drink or dinner afterward, especially if you're starting the evening reasonably early -- it will be a nice break between erotic innings.

 

I have 2 reasons for this view. First, if you're very horny, it may be hard to sustain a conversation over dinner for long . (You wrote "Obviously I'm not going to start dry humping the man on his bar stool" so it is on your mind.) Second, eating and drinking (including that bottle of wine you've got ready) might not be the best thing to do immediately before you get down to business.

 

In any case, I wouldn't agonize too long about any of this, including my views. Having chosen the right guy, you're bound to have a great time.

[NYTomcat]

Do that many people really flake out and cancel. Funny, I would think (in my totally inexperienced opinion which I should not even be sharing) that its the calls on the spur of the moment that would be crank calls and not the one with long lead times. Not a problem I will make sure I make contact.

 

I appreciate the other side of that argument NewatThis. I actually feel like my initial apprehension, nay panic, has subsided.

 

Obviously my point about jumping him at a bar was for humor as much as anything, however, you may be right that meeting "in" is a better solution.

 

OK so what I need is two nights or maybe a weekend, I actually thought that was going to be the case.

[+ Charlie]

I think newatthis (he really isn't) is right about not having a meal before the physical part of the evening, though one drink together beforefore the main event might be a good idea to calm the nerves and assess one another. Go out for dinner after you have released the sexual tension. If you want some suggestions for a restaurant in Philly, send me a private message and we can discuss it.

[justaguy]

"OK so what I need is two nights or maybe a weekend, I actually thought that was going to be the case."

 

Not to put a damper on things but...don't let your imagination outstrip reality. What I mean is don't be so full of expectation that the escort can't live up to them no matter what. Relax and have fun. He's there for you. If things go great, then think about more.

[+ purplekow]

Well actually MsGuy although I live near NYC we are meeting in Philly. Any recommendations?

 

Just recently I drove down to Philly and met Sean Knight. We went for dinner at Prime a steak restaurant at the Barclay Hotel in Rittenhouse Square. It was a great place to meet. Small well appointed bar. Plush and upscale seating. Unisex bathrooms with individual totally private toilets if you really cannot wait, dont choose to wait or just want to get an appetizer. The food was excellent, except, strangely enough the steak which was adequate. We shared appetizers, veggies and dessert and each had half a steak and dogbagged the rest of the steak. Sticky bun ice cream was terrific. The meal was lighter that way It was a short walk or ride back to the hotel and the festivities followed. It was a bit pricey, but I enjoyed it and it was a very relaxed atmosphere. Also in the area are Ruth's Cris steakhouse and a few others.

 

I usually avoid a very heavy meal for some practical reasons and some personal. But this worked out very well. If you are inexperienced at oral sex, you may find yourself gagging a bit. Depending on the escort, you could be the most experienced cocksucker in the world and still be gagging. So you should consider a light meal protection against what could be an inopportune reappearance. A glass of wine is fine; more than a glass and you might not get ass. A little poem I put together for you. More than a glass may make one or both of you sleepy. Alcohol can also leave you a little bit softer than you need to be before your big entrance.

I am sure the escort will be up for his entrance no matter what.

 

So, my plan would be: Drink at the bar. Get seated. Order. Join him in the john for a quick kiss and perhaps a feel or two. Return to enjoy the meal, not too heavy. Short walk back to get the nerves down and the food moving. Enjoy the rest of the evening. I do think having the encounter start before the meal and then fun again after is probably the way to go, but if you go this way, give yourself plenty of time and realize that you may never make your reservations.

[Guest greatness]

What an exceptional piece of advice

 

Purplekow... You should write a book. You never know it might become a NY Times best seller...

 

Just recently I drove down to Philly and met Sean Knight. We went for dinner at Prime a steak restaurant at the Barclay Hotel in Rittenhouse Square. It was a great place to meet. Small well appointed bar. Plush and upscale seating. Unisex bathrooms with individual totally private toilets if you really cannot wait, dont choose to wait or just want to get an appetizer. The food was excellent, except, strangely enough the steak which was adequate. We shared appetizers, veggies and dessert and each had half a steak and dogbagged the rest of the steak. Sticky bun ice cream was terrific. The meal was lighter that way It was a short walk or ride back to the hotel and the festivities followed. It was a bit pricey, but I enjoyed it and it was a very relaxed atmosphere. Also in the area are Ruth's Cris steakhouse and a few others.

 

I usually avoid a very heavy meal for some practical reasons and some personal. But this worked out very well. If you are inexperienced at oral sex, you may find yourself gagging a bit. Depending on the escort, you could be the most experienced cocksucker in the world and still be gagging. So you should consider a light meal protection against what could be an inopportune reappearance. A glass of wine is fine; more than a glass and you might not get ass. A little poem I put together for you. More than a glass may make one or both of you sleepy. Alcohol can also leave you a little bit softer than you need to be before your big entrance.

I am sure the escort will be up for his entrance no matter what.

 

So, my plan would be: Drink at the bar. Get seated. Order. Join him in the john for a quick kiss and perhaps a feel or two. Return to enjoy the meal, not too heavy. Short walk back to get the nerves down and the food moving. Enjoy the rest of the evening. I do think having the encounter start before the meal and then fun again after is probably the way to go, but if you go this way, give yourself plenty of time and realize that you may never make your reservations.

[NYTomcat]

Purple, you are a sensual dynamo

 

Just recently I drove down to Philly and met Sean Knight. We went for dinner at Prime a steak restaurant at the Barclay Hotel in Rittenhouse Square. It was a great place to meet. Small well appointed bar. Plush and upscale seating. Unisex bathrooms with individual totally private toilets if you really cannot wait, dont choose to wait or just want to get an appetizer. The food was excellent, except, strangely enough the steak which was adequate. We shared appetizers, veggies and dessert and each had half a steak and dogbagged the rest of the steak. Sticky bun ice cream was terrific. The meal was lighter that way It was a short walk or ride back to the hotel and the festivities followed. It was a bit pricey, but I enjoyed it and it was a very relaxed atmosphere. Also in the area are Ruth's Cris steakhouse and a few others.

 

I usually avoid a very heavy meal for some practical reasons and some personal. But this worked out very well. If you are inexperienced at oral sex, you may find yourself gagging a bit. Depending on the escort, you could be the most experienced cocksucker in the world and still be gagging. So you should consider a light meal protection against what could be an inopportune reappearance. A glass of wine is fine; more than a glass and you might not get ass. A little poem I put together for you. More than a glass may make one or both of you sleepy. Alcohol can also leave you a little bit softer than you need to be before your big entrance.

I am sure the escort will be up for his entrance no matter what.

 

So, my plan would be: Drink at the bar. Get seated. Order. Join him in the john for a quick kiss and perhaps a feel or two. Return to enjoy the meal, not too heavy. Short walk back to get the nerves down and the food moving. Enjoy the rest of the evening. I do think having the encounter start before the meal and then fun again after is probably the way to go, but if you go this way, give yourself plenty of time and realize that you may never make your reservations.

 

HOLY COW, I mean HOLY PURPLEKOW, did you ever get this one right. Are you sure your not an escort working under an assumed name. Cause you read me like a book.

 

The lite meal is a must, as you all know Its been awhile here. So that fulll feeling would not be a good idea anyway. One glass of wine is perfect, take off the edge but not enough to lower the libido or energy level. If my night went as you described, it would blow my mind.

 

I am following the advice of so many here and not over planning anything. No expectations, let the experience fall as it will. I know just having the time to explore intimacy again will be huge for me, especially with someone patient and incredibly hot . If it happens to work as the Great Holy PurpleKow describes all the better but I'm taking it slow and I'm gonna put it in the hands of a professional. Is it me, OK smoking body, great abs, perfect bubble butt, great shaped cock but the eyes. what gets me going is smoldering sensual eyes. It just makes you want to play with the rest.

 

Sorry I just went back to his picture, nevermind I digress

 

I must tell you, the comments on here have been practical, useful, playful, enticing, daring (OK I admit a quick grab at the bathroom at Prime might be over my comfort zone but What a turn on. whew is it getting hot in here) but most of all supportive. You guys are just the best.

 

Purple you wrote the script, thanks I love it. Even if it doesn't happen this way, you made this old romantic feel great tonight. I think now I can describe at least the tenor of what turns me on. I didn't want the poor guy, with the smoldering eyes, to have to guess.

[+ Gar1eth]

If you haven't done so already, be sure to let him know what your situation is. The really good ones have an incredible way of cutting through the nervousness and putting you at ease.

 

Yes, this is a must. If he doesn't know this is your 1st time--let him know when you meet with him. My 1st escort Dallas Taylor went very slow with me--even taught me how to kiss properly. I miss him but he retired before we could meet again. I wonder if he is still in Dallas.

 

Gman

[+ purplekow]

By the way NYTom, when is this event taking place. I want to place a red letter on my calendar. Please keep us posted. Inquiring minds want to know but Forum posters are just plain nosy.

[NYTomcat]

November 16, 2009 , Not nosy, I put it our there after all. Plus given all the advice its the least I can do to satisfy prurient interest.

[+ azdr0710]

satisfy prurient interest

 

prurient interest??....PRURIENT INTEREST?....c'mon.....you know we're here only to help you out with answers to your concerns and to offer practical and encouraging advice

 

I can assure you we have absolutely no interest in who your dude is and what the details are of your actual encounter....

 

I'm shocked, SHOCKED that you'd ever THINK a thing like that.....

[NYTomcat]

prurient interest??....PRURIENT INTEREST?....c'mon.....you know we're here only to help you out with answers to your concerns and to offer practical and encouraging advice

 

I can assure you we have absolutely no interest in who your dude is and what the details are of your actual encounter....

 

I'm shocked, SHOCKED that you'd ever THINK a thing like that.....

 

LMAO Never, of course not, I just come on the forum to get my news for the day like the rest of you. However for those interested I promise I'll write the tell all book (well not all, some things are just mine) the tell most book once the evening is complete. I may be new, but shy and retiring I'm not.

[NYTomcat]

Thanks for all the advice

 

I know the forum is for discussion and not reviews but given all the help you guys gave me I had to just post to tell you how thankful I am for all the sagely advice (sagely in the nature of worldly or experienced not aged). The anticipation was incredible but the experience was even better. I will write a review as promised once the encounter has completed. (OK it was so good I extended)

 

On your recommendations, The evening started slowly to gain comfort which was almost immediate, your previous reviews could not have been more correct. No expectations and just letting the evening unfold was perfect. Music is my thing and since this isn't the place for a review let me just set the stage with the proper mood music. Lets just say the theme of the evening started like this:

 

 

the middle proceeded to this:

 

 

waking in the morning left me feeling:

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sHtet0DYr9w

 

So now I have a second overnight, I'm expanding my horizons and shooting for:

 

 

an eclectic collection of music I admit, but it was all just Romanntic

[+ Oliver]

... let me just set the stage with the proper mood music ... it was all just Romanntic

 

WOW! I'm so happy for you. I believe you have all of us in the mood! Now all we need is a name????:confused:

[+ sf westcoaster]

NYTOMCAT -

 

The music selections are outstanding - probably tell us as much about the session as a review will. However, I am looking forward to your review and the unveiling of this mystery escort.

[justaguy]

Good going NYTomcat!! Hat's off to you and hoping for continued good times!

[NYTomcat]

NYTOMCAT -

 

I am looking forward to your review and the unveiling of this mystery escort.

 

Read my musical posting more closely. I made no spelling errors

[NYTomcat]

Good going NYTomcat!! Hat's off to you and hoping for continued good times!

 

Thanks so much justaguy, I intend to

[+ nycman]

Am I the only one that has a mini-crush on NYTomcat?

 

He sounds like the nicest guy.

 

Hope you enjoyed your Romann Holiday!

[GoodFella69]

Crush on NYTomcat

 

Am I the only one that has a mini-crush on NYTomcat?

 

He sounds like the nicest guy.

 

 

 

nycman: I am right there with you on the mini-crush. NYTomcat sounds sweet, considerate and a total class act.

[+ sf westcoaster]

Oh, a Rommantic evening - no wonder it worked so well!

[Guest greatness]

I know

 

He is so sweet. So it was Romann you met? That must have been a very hot evening for you. I wish I were well enough to hire guys like Romann ~~~.

 

nycman: I am right there with you on the mini-crush. NYTomcat sounds sweet, considerate and a total class act.

[+ Axiom2001]

NYTOMCAT -

 

The music selections are outstanding - probably tell us as much about the session as a review will. However, I am looking forward to your review and the unveiling of this mystery escort.

 

 

 

I just spotted this particular post today and agree with you. After receiving all of these responses to your initial request-- I think we'd like to know who this "special guy" is and if it, your meeting with him, went successfully. Definitely, a review is in order! -

[+ purplekow]

Glad everything worked out Tom. So tell me, did you go to Prime and do some grabass in the private john or not? Sounds like you did a real Madonna, from virgin to sexpig in one night, so I hope you really enjoyed it. Or perhaps your time with Romann was too short to waste anytime out of the room so your never made it out of the room. That would be understandable. But if you went to dinner, I hope you brought your wallet because that man Romann can eat almost as voraciously as he can fuck. By the way, there was an Escort Roman Holiday in Philadelphia, who has moved to Florida, so don't be confused readers, this is Romann not Roman.