Aaron Mark review

[Guest alanm]

Aaron Responds

 

Not a great response, not a horrible response.

 

I guess Aaron felt he had to write something, so he did.

 

I do understand why the reviewer believe there was no point in bringing up the early exit with Aaron before he left.

[Guest PWIT]

RE: Aaron Responds

 

>Not a great response, not a horrible response.

 

Agree. It had the potential to be a great response up until the last part of the last sentence. The part that kept it from being great for me was:

 

"but it would have been more classy if he would told me about his issues or even send a subtle signal- instead of just going on to write this review. "

 

If instead he left the 'classy' part out, it would have been a better response IMO. For example, if he instead he finished with:

 

...but I wish he had told me his issues and allowed me an opportunity remedy the situation.

 

Now that would have put the response into the 'great' category in my opinion.

 

just my two cents worth....no charge actually :+

PWIT

[Luv2play]

RE: Aaron Responds

 

Having read Aaron's response, I wouldn't hire him. He failed to address the timing issue. I completely understand why the reviewer did not ask Aaron to stay once he started putting on his clothes. For me that would just be the ultimate mood breaker, as in "this date is over". In the same situation I would not debase myself by asking an escort to stay. Like the reviewer, I would just chalk it up to experience. I think he wrote a very balanced review but Aaron did not respond to his points. An escort of that caliber is expected to have more social graces that he demonstrated, IMO. At the very least, he could have apologized.

[Louis]

RE: Aaron Responds

 

I'm fine with Aaron's remarks. I feel his the words he chose was because he is extremely upset about it.

Personally, I think that both parties should email each other and have another meeting. Maybe Aaron would be willing to give a discount to meet with Callipygean, and maybe Callipygean can be specific as to what he expects.

I have no doubt that if they would give it another go, the two of them would have a great time, and Callipygean would probably give one of the best reviews that Aaron has recieved.

So I really think there should be some dialogue between the two.

And yes.. I am speaking from my own personal experience in with another escort.

[jeanclaude44]

RE: Aaron Responds

 

Remember that English is not Mark's first language although he speaks very well. But in my 2 meetings with him he occasionally needs prompting to get the right word.

So try not to let his use of the word "classy" color your evealuation of his response.

[Louis]

RE: Aaron Responds

 

I forgot about English being his second language. What you are saying makes a lot of sense. I have helped a lot of people learn English, and quite often its hard to find the right word to use to express themselves exctly the way they want.

[+ purplekow]

RE: Aaron Responds

 

I have enjoyed Aaron's company on about 4 different occasions. He has always been professional and he has gladly obliged me in each request I have made of him. I have dined out with him in NY and Las Vegas and on each of those occasions the restaurant was elegant while our dress was casual. I am sure that if my tastes were as of those of the original reviewer, and his dress of equal importance to me, I would have have made a point to ask for a different type of attire. (In fact, he next time I am in Vegas perhaps I will request a tuxedo as I am sure Aaron would cut quite the dashing figure in one and then out of one.)

I also agree that Aaron's English is great but as a second language I think classy is probably not the word he would have chosen if English were his native language.

As for leaving early, that has never happened with me, quite the opposite in fact. I think Aaron could do well to explain how that came to pass on this occasion, but if the explanation would be hurtful to the client then I think his discretion is warranted.

[Guest alanm]

RE: Aaron Responds

 

>As for leaving early, that has never happened with me, quite

>the opposite in fact. I think Aaron could do well to explain

>how that came to pass on this occasion, but if the explanation

>would be hurtful to the client then I think his discretion is

>warranted.

 

 

For the client's sake, I am glad that people have mentioned that English is not Aaron's first language. It may have been diffficult for Aaron to find the right words to explain why he left early. Easier said than done, but if this is the client's first experience of a escort leaving early, try to forget about it.

[augustman]

RE: Aaron Responds

 

From Aaron's response I will take the cue he was caught completely off guard. As mentioned on another thread, the really good ones almost have a sixth sense with their clients. Possibly in this case Aaron read the situation wrong and unfortunate for both, an unsatisfied client and an escort has his first negative review. I have seen support for both so sounds like just one of those times when things did not align. I would like to thank Callipygean

for his review because it was not an easy one to write. It is not a terrible review just a time when things did not work out correctly. I have been there and I wish I had the courage to say something but until now I have not.

 

That said I will say evey guy who I have had the pleasure of dining with has asked about attire for dinner. I always pick a place that casual will not be an issue. That said, I do like a guy that dresses well and I thought the general rule of thumb, better to over dress than under dress (well except in the room). The best dressed hands down Alex of Alex and Rob. I can still that latin man dressed in that silk shirt, cufflinks and poured into those black pants. I honestly could not take my eyes off him for the entire meal. The kicker is that was the meal at the end but who cares I had this stupid grin on my face all throught the meal.

[alanalt]

RE: Aaron Responds

 

>Not a great response, not a horrible response.

>

It wasn't a 'classy' response and I'm referring to the tone that the response conveyed to me rather than the use of any particular word, the subtler uses of which a non-native english speaker may/may not understand.

 

While I understand that Aaron and other escorts on this site may focus on reviews as 'feedback' (and no one likes to get less-than-glowing feedback in public), the main object of reviews (in my view) is to pass on an appraisal of the escort to other potential clients who may be interested in hiring him. So while Aaron may have preferred a quiet 'word to the wise', those of us interested in hiring Aaron appreciate the review. In fact, I think it's fair to say that the reviewer bent over backwards to be fair and balanced in the review and Aaron could certainly have received far harsher treatment.

 

For me, Aaron's response lacked one of two things to be effective. The first (as already noted by others) would have been an explanation for his early departure (the clothing was a non-issue for me. Barring a request from the client, dress should be left at the escort's discretion). Failing such an explanation, (and I can certainly understand and appreciate Aaron's desire to be discreet) it would have been nice to acknowledge the reviewer's fairness in his comments and that he planned to follow the matter up further in private with the reviewer.

 

Finally, to be fair, neither the review or response has really changed my view of Aaron and he certainly remains at the top of my list of those to contact when I go to Vegas, but perhaps there's a * beside his name now to remind me of the importance of clear communications when laying out my expectations. And any reminder of that never hurts anyone as far as I'm concerned! ;-)

[+ deej]

RE: Aaron Responds

 

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[Guest Callipygean]

“What we've got here is failure to communicate.” I guess that classic line from Cool Hand Luke has never been truer than it is in this situation. Mark’s response, together with other comments I’ve read here, have made me reflect long and hard about this experience. For one thing, I must concede that it was unfair of me to fault Mark for not meeting expectations I did not communicate to him. Insofar as that is true, protestations on those grounds are justified.

 

Perhaps I should have raised these issues during our meeting, as he contends, but this is one of those occasions when it did NOT seem like a good idea at the time. To have begun our meeting by immediately getting off on the wrong foot, questioning his attire and making us both uncomfortably self-conscious of it, did not seem to me a beginning calculated to lead to an enjoyable evening together. Later, I kept my silence again when he left, because at that point the mood was broken and I doubt any sort of discussion could have retrieved it. It seemed to me that no good purpose would be served by ending on a sour note, voicing my disappointment, so instead I chose to see him off amiably. That reticence, too, may have been a mistake. In any event, from the hint in his response I gather that Mark had his reasons that would not flatter me. If so, I thank him for his tact in sparing my feelings, and his professional discretion in not embarrassing me by disclosing them, something an escort of lesser character and integrity might be tempted to do.

 

I believe Mark’s expression of sadness is genuine, and I feel bad for that. He is truly a fine person, and a superb escort – I never believed otherwise, neither should anyone else. If I’ve done him an injustice, then I’m sincerely sorry for that. If I’ve learned something from this, it is to be more assertive in future in communicating my wants. If there is a lesson for others, it is the danger of making unwarranted assumptions and taking anything for granted. “I wish he’d told me” countered by “I wish he’d asked” is not the happiest closing dialogue for any escort-client encounter.

[Louis]

I really think it may be worth your while to send him an email, asking for another session, and tell him that you will write a review about that session as well. Just cover all the bases.

I tend to be shy when talking about expectations with escorts, and twice in Southern Ontario, my expectations were not met. I sent each of those escorts an email. The one even was partially my fault, and partially the escorts fault because he had jet lag, and also lost his voice....so we met again. The other incident, the escort just seem to be a bit rushed, so I emailed him back, telling him that the experience was gret, but he seemed a bit rushed. I saw him several times after that, and all I can say, is that he sure made up for the first session.:-)

So email him back, explain exactly what you expect, and tell him you will write another review....:-)

[Lookin]

Callipygean, thanks for the great review and for the follow-up comments! I don’t have much to offer on the dress situation, but the early departure by the escort and your reaction to it definitely got me thinking.

 

I can understand your reluctance to tell an escort “Not so fast!” when he starts dressing right after the ball is over, and I can understand an underlying worry that he’s doing it because he wants to get the hell out, and I can understand your feeling that the mood can’t be recaptured. But, as you've said, those are only assumptions and, taken together, they lead down the path of turning a previously enjoyable encounter into an experience you wouldn’t want to repeat. It might be worthwhile to consider some alternative assumptions, and a way of checking them out, that would leave the door open to ending things on a high note.

 

When an escort starts getting dressed right away, it’s quite possible that his last ten clients considered the session over when the whoopee was over, and he was following a well-worn path. (I know that, as a client, I often get on the road before the big hand’s on the twelve, and Aaron may be used to that scenario.) It would be ideal, of course, if he would check out your thoughts on the matter before he starts pulling on his socks. But there’s also no reason you couldn’t let him know how hot you think he is, and how you’d love to get back under the covers with him and spend the last hour just counting your lucky stars - or his.

 

I personally shy away from lists of official formal requests, especially once the hookup is underway, and I sense you do too. For me, it’s easier to make my requests in a humorous, non-confrontational manner, and it doesn’t break the mood either. That way, you get your request out there, without putting either of your egos on the spot, or breaking the mood. And his reaction will tell you all you need to know. If he tells you he needs to cut it short, you’re no worse off than you were before, and you can at least save on the tip. But if he jumps back in your lap, well, then . . . steamy review to follow!

 

Thanks again for sharing such a personal experience and getting us all thinking.

[Epigonos]

My comments here are going to be general rather than specific to this thread. I NEVER hire an escort for one hour. With the exception of an occasional overnight I hire for either lunch or dinner and two or three hours of play time. During our play time I make a point of glancing at the clock, now and then, to ascertain the amount of time remaining. I then tend to wind thing up sexually about a half hour prior to the end of the appointment. This gives us an opportunity to shower together, which I enjoy, dress, and say goodbye. I realize that this might sound calculating to some, and might even lessen their enjoyment of the get together BUT it avoids the problem of the escort thinking that since the sexual part of the encounter has ended it is time to depart.

In a recent article in the L.A. Times it was noted that there are currently NO restaurants in the Los Angeles area that require men to wear a coat and tie. I have, to my despair, seen guys in both Spago's and Valentino's wearing levi's and tee shirts. At my 60th birthday party I asked the men to wear coats and ties. The crys of outrage were almost deafening. Now keep in mind that most of those complaining the loudest were people in my own age range. I refused to relent and afterwards many remarked on how much, in the end, they had enjoyed "dressing up". If people my age feel this way we need to be aware that many younger guys do not even own coats and ties.

The most valid comment from others IMO is that if some specific behavior or dress is very important to the client he MUST communicate that to the escort. Communication is EVERYTHING when hiring an escort. Even the best escort in the world in NOT a mind reader.

[mansniffing]

RE: Aaron Mark review--and attire

 

It'hit and miss. Even when you specify a preference, "askin' ain't always gettin'." My last booking was a London "porn star" with a perfect uncut piece and "hot" feet that he exhibits on some foot fetish sights. I asked him not to wear cologne and to wear a jockstrap. He arrived wearing a subtle cologne and jockey shorts. The plus was that he had on white socks and sneakers. His feet had a slight hint of pheromones. Overall though the cologne and his passiveness killed the encounter. Unfortunately I had never seen a review of this fellow. So much for expectations. I know, I should have written a review. He is good looking, had a good body, beautiful cock and feet and a pleasant manner. Well, as Joe E. Brown in "Some Like it Hot" replied to Jack Lemmon when Lemmon removed his wig and said "I'm a man"-----"Nobody's perfect."

[+ Lucky]

I finally got around to reading the review and felt that it was more than fair. It seems inexcusable for an escort to leave an hour early while taking full fare plus tip and then turn around and blame the client for being less than classy. For those who rave about Aaron Mark, where is the class? I wouldn't hire him. And I think he should go out and buy a good shirt with that tip he took.