Escorts Already on a "Date"

[Minneapolis]

I was in New York about a month ago and was having dinner at the bar in a resturant near Times Square. I was looking across the bar and saw this hot italian guy (20-something) having a quick drink with an older guy (late 50's). The resturant wasn't a gay resturant--just some place near the theater. The older guy dressed kind of dainty in a suit, while the younger hot guy had on a tight black muscle shirt and a few gold chains. I made some quick eye contact with the hot guy and he smiled back. I just had the feeling the guy was a straight escort, and I wanted to find out, but I didn't know how to approach him. Any suggestions on this? Has anyone had any experience of bumping into a possible escort and getting a number?

[Minneapolis]

I was in New York about a month ago and was having dinner at the bar in a resturant near Times Square. I was looking across the bar and saw this hot italian guy (20-something) having a quick drink with an older guy (late 50's). The resturant wasn't a gay resturant--just some place near the theater. The older guy dressed kind of dainty in a suit, while the younger hot guy had on a tight black muscle shirt and a few gold chains. I made some quick eye contact with the hot guy and he smiled back. I just had the feeling the guy was a straight escort, and I wanted to find out, but I didn't know how to approach him. Any suggestions on this? Has anyone had any experience of bumping into a possible escort and getting a number?

[guyinsf]

I'm confused. It was two men together. Why would you think he was a "straight" escort? Perhaps it was even a father and son.

 

At any rate, putting myself into the older guy's shoes, and assuming that he had, in fact, hired the handsome young man to be his date that evening, I don't see that there is an appropriate way for you to introduce yourself at a restaurant. The only thing I can imagine that, while bold, at least (mostly) respects their privacy is walking by and dropping your business card on their table as you exit. And I wouldn't even recommend that. I definitely know that I wouldn't appreciate a stranger approaching an escort and me while we're dining and attempting to chat in order to arrange a future meeting. Discretion issues aside, it's just plain tacky!

[guyinsf]

I'm confused. It was two men together. Why would you think he was a "straight" escort? Perhaps it was even a father and son.

 

At any rate, putting myself into the older guy's shoes, and assuming that he had, in fact, hired the handsome young man to be his date that evening, I don't see that there is an appropriate way for you to introduce yourself at a restaurant. The only thing I can imagine that, while bold, at least (mostly) respects their privacy is walking by and dropping your business card on their table as you exit. And I wouldn't even recommend that. I definitely know that I wouldn't appreciate a stranger approaching an escort and me while we're dining and attempting to chat in order to arrange a future meeting. Discretion issues aside, it's just plain tacky!

[+ Lucky]

Once I cruised a hot guy, who had a nice escort look. He tactfully rolled his eyes and head back slightly so I would notice the older man behind him.

I thought it was a very polite way of both acknowledging my interest and also honoring the commitment to his date.

(And, no, I can't say they weren't really lovers, but later that night I saw the escort at a club, without his friend.)

Generally, I don't think it is polite to intrude on another's daqte.

[+ Lucky]

Once I cruised a hot guy, who had a nice escort look. He tactfully rolled his eyes and head back slightly so I would notice the older man behind him.

I thought it was a very polite way of both acknowledging my interest and also honoring the commitment to his date.

(And, no, I can't say they weren't really lovers, but later that night I saw the escort at a club, without his friend.)

Generally, I don't think it is polite to intrude on another's daqte.

[Guest alanm]

Simple solution: Go to the men's room and see if he follows you in. Tried and true methods are usually the best, maybe that's why they are tried and true.

[Guest alanm]

Simple solution: Go to the men's room and see if he follows you in. Tried and true methods are usually the best, maybe that's why they are tried and true.

[Paul Revere]

Actually, you should never assume anything. The two guys you saw may have been father/son; uncle/nephew; teacher/student or any other regular combination (and I am not winking or being smart here).

 

I was in a restraunt one time and saw an older guy (say 60s) with a young muscle stud. I assumed that the older gentleman was paying for the company of the young muscle guy. One of my friends joined us, and he knew the couple. They were actually lovers. The young muscle guy was simply attracted to older guys.

 

I have another friend in his early 30s, who is very hansdome, athletic, and has a great personality. He only dates squat men over 65. Go figure. Its what makes the world go 'round.

 

As I hit 50 this week, I am hopeful for more young muscle guys who appreciate more mature men.

 

Now if you do run across an escort on a date, mind your own business, and just be happy that the "client" is having his fantasy fulfilled. Then come home, log on to Hooboy's site, and find your own escort to fulfill your fantasy.

[Paul Revere]

Actually, you should never assume anything. The two guys you saw may have been father/son; uncle/nephew; teacher/student or any other regular combination (and I am not winking or being smart here).

 

I was in a restraunt one time and saw an older guy (say 60s) with a young muscle stud. I assumed that the older gentleman was paying for the company of the young muscle guy. One of my friends joined us, and he knew the couple. They were actually lovers. The young muscle guy was simply attracted to older guys.

 

I have another friend in his early 30s, who is very hansdome, athletic, and has a great personality. He only dates squat men over 65. Go figure. Its what makes the world go 'round.

 

As I hit 50 this week, I am hopeful for more young muscle guys who appreciate more mature men.

 

Now if you do run across an escort on a date, mind your own business, and just be happy that the "client" is having his fantasy fulfilled. Then come home, log on to Hooboy's site, and find your own escort to fulfill your fantasy.

[Guest]

I would have to be a little suspicious of a young muscle guy prefering out-of-shape senior citizens. I would have to suspect that economics was a large part of cement keeping the relationship together. How many times have you seen some beautiful model taking out a financially not-so-well-off 60 year-old? I'm not saying there's anything wrong with a daddy-son relationship. In fact, I wouldn't mind taking care of a younger bro' myself. But I don't think a ripped 25 year-old would pick me of all people (or anyone over 10 years his senior with a less than perfect body) solely because of my looks or personality. He may find me attractive enough and a nice man, but if I were taking care of most of the mortgage and/or other expenses, I wouldn't delude myself.

It reminds me of a couple I saw at a fairly formal charity function a few years ago. One was a totally ripped/gorgeous 30 year-old lawyer. The other was a 60 year-old surgeon who was certainly in good shape for his age, but no adonis. The (platonic but gay) friend I was with admired the 30 year-old's apparent lack of superficiality at enjoying this cultured 60 year-old. Well, as the only two gay pairs at this function, we gravitated together, and eventually were invited to their place.

Without dragging out this story, it turned out that this "lawyer" was barely working, being essentially entirely taken care of by the surgeon. Even worse, the lawyer often put down the surgeon even in our presence during the week-end we spent together. It seemed like an abusive relationship.

I've yet to see a relationship where there was a *LARGE* difference in the looks department, where the better looking guy wasn't getting something extra out of the relationship. Again, I'm not saying it's wrong by any means. But that's really how things truly are.

....

As for the original question, I would agree with the guy who said that your only hope is to run into him in the bathroom. Even then, you may feel a little silly if it turns out he's not who you think he is (although one could also add "Nothing ventured, nothing gained").

[Guest]

I would have to be a little suspicious of a young muscle guy prefering out-of-shape senior citizens. I would have to suspect that economics was a large part of cement keeping the relationship together. How many times have you seen some beautiful model taking out a financially not-so-well-off 60 year-old? I'm not saying there's anything wrong with a daddy-son relationship. In fact, I wouldn't mind taking care of a younger bro' myself. But I don't think a ripped 25 year-old would pick me of all people (or anyone over 10 years his senior with a less than perfect body) solely because of my looks or personality. He may find me attractive enough and a nice man, but if I were taking care of most of the mortgage and/or other expenses, I wouldn't delude myself.

It reminds me of a couple I saw at a fairly formal charity function a few years ago. One was a totally ripped/gorgeous 30 year-old lawyer. The other was a 60 year-old surgeon who was certainly in good shape for his age, but no adonis. The (platonic but gay) friend I was with admired the 30 year-old's apparent lack of superficiality at enjoying this cultured 60 year-old. Well, as the only two gay pairs at this function, we gravitated together, and eventually were invited to their place.

Without dragging out this story, it turned out that this "lawyer" was barely working, being essentially entirely taken care of by the surgeon. Even worse, the lawyer often put down the surgeon even in our presence during the week-end we spent together. It seemed like an abusive relationship.

I've yet to see a relationship where there was a *LARGE* difference in the looks department, where the better looking guy wasn't getting something extra out of the relationship. Again, I'm not saying it's wrong by any means. But that's really how things truly are.

....

As for the original question, I would agree with the guy who said that your only hope is to run into him in the bathroom. Even then, you may feel a little silly if it turns out he's not who you think he is (although one could also add "Nothing ventured, nothing gained").

[Guest BenDover]

<But that's truly how things really are.>

 

God forbid that younger, "ripped" men might find wisdom, culture, elegance, experience, and kindness attractive and even hot! I find your comments demeaning to young gay men in particular who may have greater depth than just the physical. Love, companionship and fraternity are also a part of gay life, not just a hot body, financial gain and being supported.

[Guest BenDover]

<But that's truly how things really are.>

 

God forbid that younger, "ripped" men might find wisdom, culture, elegance, experience, and kindness attractive and even hot! I find your comments demeaning to young gay men in particular who may have greater depth than just the physical. Love, companionship and fraternity are also a part of gay life, not just a hot body, financial gain and being supported.

[Guest MrB]

Hey, or maybe the older guy was hung 13 inches?

 

 

MrB

[Guest MrB]

Hey, or maybe the older guy was hung 13 inches?

 

 

MrB

[Traveller]

>Hey, or maybe the older guy

>was hung 13 inches?

>

>

>MrB

 

This is why we're going to have big fun on our field trip to Stellas.

 

Later.

[Traveller]

>Hey, or maybe the older guy

>was hung 13 inches?

>

>

>MrB

 

This is why we're going to have big fun on our field trip to Stellas.

 

Later.

[BewareofNick]

If you're feeling really bold, go up to the guy and pretend like you know him:

 

"Oh my God!! I haven't seen you in AGES!!! Listen, I don't want to interrupt, but here's my card, call me when you get a chance! I'd love to see you!" Then just make a quick exit. He'll either make up a quick excuse to his date or he'll look at him and say, "I don't know WHO the heck that was!!"

 

If he really IS an escort, you'll get a call, or if he's gay and not an escort, you may get a call as well!

[BewareofNick]

If you're feeling really bold, go up to the guy and pretend like you know him:

 

"Oh my God!! I haven't seen you in AGES!!! Listen, I don't want to interrupt, but here's my card, call me when you get a chance! I'd love to see you!" Then just make a quick exit. He'll either make up a quick excuse to his date or he'll look at him and say, "I don't know WHO the heck that was!!"

 

If he really IS an escort, you'll get a call, or if he's gay and not an escort, you may get a call as well!

[+ Lucky]

Pulling that kind of act seems pretty selfish. What ever happened to the idea of just respecting other people's privacy, or does your dick have to govern everything?

[+ Lucky]

Pulling that kind of act seems pretty selfish. What ever happened to the idea of just respecting other people's privacy, or does your dick have to govern everything?

[CT Dick]

Dick says NO!

 

What if they are in a committed relationship and the older guy is insecure about his young lover's fidelity? What trouble could you be causing with this suggestion?

 

The only action I've read here that I like is making eye contact and then going to the men's room. If the guy follows, you win. If he doesn't, it wasn't meant to go anywhere.

 

And THAT is what I think.

 

Dick

[CT Dick]

Dick says NO!

 

What if they are in a committed relationship and the older guy is insecure about his young lover's fidelity? What trouble could you be causing with this suggestion?

 

The only action I've read here that I like is making eye contact and then going to the men's room. If the guy follows, you win. If he doesn't, it wasn't meant to go anywhere.

 

And THAT is what I think.

 

Dick

[+ nycman]

>What if they are in a

>committed relationship and the older

>guy is insecure about his

>young lover's fidelity? What

>trouble could you be causing

>with this suggestion?

 

Thank you Dick. You took the words right

out of my mouth. I've been the younger

guy in a committed relationship trying

hard to make my "older guy" feel secure.

A situation like this is a recipe for

disaster on all sides.

 

Respect the privacy of others...is that so hard?