Seeing a guy on RM and sniffies simultaneously

[+ PhileasFogg]

More and more often, I’m seeing active advertisers on RM also on sniffies (with no “gen” references)   One was even on sniffies listing his cum dump at Caesar’s Hotel in New Orleans while “Available Now” on RM

Notwithstanding the dissonance of seeing someone “selling it” and “giving it away” at the same time, Do you assume:

1) they have their own personal needs and sniffies is quick and easy,

2) they’re actually using sniffies (against platform rules) to solicit business (which usually has coded gen references),

3) they’re a sex addict, or 

4) there’s something else (if so, what)?

 

[56harrisond]

 

[+ PhileasFogg]

59 minutes ago, 56harrisond said:

 

Different twist….not about hangups but giving it away

[nomad]

Another member here gave me feedback on a guy I was thinking of hiring.  He had mtg set up with the guy.  Got text that he need to delay about an hour.  So he doom scrolled Grindr only to see ad with the same pics of a guy now accepting anonymous loads.  He replied.  Sent pic of 🍆 Was livid to know it was the same guy cuz he was parked in the hotel's lot already.  Went to the room, door was left ajar.  Guy was in doggy position ready to receive.  He was so angry that he couldn't finish which annoyed him even more.  Went to a nearby park and shoved his load down a rando's throat.  

[SecretProvider]

1. providers are allowed to have active sexual lives outside of work

2. providers may tell people reaching out on sniffies that they can pay for it if they like. 

3. Don't be judgey. 

4. see answer 1. 

[DMonDude]

13 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

More and more often, I’m seeing active advertisers on RM also on sniffies (with no “gen” references)   One was even on sniffies listing his cum dump at Caesar’s Hotel in New Orleans while “Available Now” on RM

Notwithstanding the dissonance of seeing someone “selling it” and “giving it away” at the same time, Do you assume:

1) they have their own personal needs and sniffies is quick and easy,

2) they’re actually using sniffies (against platform rules) to solicit business (which usually has coded gen references),

3) they’re a sex addict, or 

4) there’s something else (if so, what)?

 

I've found it's a mix of 1 and 2.

Providers are their own boss. So they can work for 4 hours, have a hookup from Grindr/Sniffies, and then work again the next couple hours or whatever else they want. They are within their right to charge one person, but not charge another. They have no obligation to not be on Grindr/Sniffies while also showing Available Now on RentMen/RentMasseur.

I've talked to one provider who i saw on Sniffies once (i recognized him from his RM ad) and he said as much. He uses it for whatever, depending on who reaches out to him and what they want. Some guys are people he would just hook up with for his own fun, other guys who may not be someone he wants for personal fun he will say "we can do it if you're gen" in the DMs. He also goes to Sniffies/Grindr to find both other workers or regular people to film with for his OF (this is what i particularly asked him about and he said i wasn't the kind of scene partner he was looking for but that i was welcome to hire him).

I don't really think much of it other than maybe sometimes wanting to roll the dice and see if a provider i see on Grindr/Sniffies would see me as worth their personal fun (hasn't happened yet lol) or would be worth filming with for their OF (recent interest/kink of mine to film with OF guys). If i do reach out to them and they ignore/say no, i usually then would never hire them after just because it'd be awkward 🤣

Edited 4 hours ago by DMonDude

[+ PhileasFogg]

6 hours ago, SecretProvider said:

1. providers are allowed to have active sexual lives outside of work

2. providers may tell people reaching out on sniffies that they can pay for it if they like. 

3. Don't be judgey. 

4. see answer 1. 

Your animosity toward me clouded your interpretation (no need to respond) but as @nomadreferenced above, the thought of being coated with countless loads of spunk from strangers.   THAT is something that I’d find grossly unacceptable and worthy of judginess. 

My question was geared toward the motivation.  But your response does conjure the question “how much is enough?”    Because if they’re a sex addict, it may be driven by meth.  Or, if I’m patient, why pay them $/hr for time when they may offer it for free?

And BTW, if someone hits me up for cash on sniffies, I’m reporting it.  Why, because I don’t know who’s on the other end of that solicitation and I’m not taking the risk.  

[BuffaloKyle]

As stated providers can and do have hookups outside of sessions with clients. I'm sure it's a nice change for a provider that loves to cater to a client's desires to hookup with someone and have their own sexual wants and needs taken care of. Also I'm sure if they have a big OF presence that they look on there for guys to film content with.

[DMonDude]

1 hour ago, PhileasFogg said:

Your animosity toward me clouded your interpretation (no need to respond) but as @nomadreferenced above, the thought of being coated with countless loads of spunk from strangers.   THAT is something that I’d find grossly unacceptable and worthy of judginess. 

My question was geared toward the motivation.  But your response does conjure the question “how much is enough?”    Because if they’re a sex addict, it may be driven by meth.  Or, if I’m patient, why pay them $/hr for time when they may offer it for free?

The thing is, Nomad and you both have no way to know that the provider in question Nomad is referencing wouldn't have cleaned out and freshened up after their cum dump session before seeing the client who made the post (which he didn't get to do because the client showed up early for the rescheduled time). It's only gross because you and the client in question just automatically assumed the provider would have still been loaded up when the client arrived for their session. No normal person would do this, and it's literally no different to if that provider had just seen a different client who also may have came in them prior to your session with them.

But only because it was a cum dump scenario do you feel this aversion and grossed out feeling. That's what makes it an issue of you/the client you and Nomad are talking about being judgy. It also leans into hypocrissy when the client Nomad is talking about then immediately left and hooked up with some rando in a park who also was probably collecting loads, as if that's somehow not the same as getting stranger loads in a hotel room. Just kinda silly overall.

Also, sex addiction is not exclusively driven by meth/drug use. Other mental afflictions, or trauma related response to past sexual assault or other traumas are just as likely (if not more so) to be the cause of sex addiction, but the fact you just automatically went to "they must be a meth user" is also you being judgemental without you realizing it. So that's why @SecretProvider said what they said (which didn't even have much animosity to begin with, it was lightly snarky at best, you just read it that way because the shoe fit). They didn't say anything much different to what i said in my comment.

Just saying...

Edited 2 hours ago by DMonDude

[BonVivant]

Providers can charge some people and hook up with others for free. It all depends on attraction, need, immutable factors. There are absolutely gorgeous guys I wouldn’t have had access too if it had not been for RM. That is the way it goes. 

[nomad]

1 hour ago, BuffaloKyle said:

As stated providers can and do have hookups outside of sessions with clients. I'm sure it's a nice change for a provider that loves to cater to a client's desires to hookup with someone and have their own sexual wants and needs taken care of. Also I'm sure if they have a big OF presence that they look on there for guys to film content with.

Not sure about filming collab content thru these hookup sites since OF/JF has gotten strict about documenting consent of the people in the vids now.  I do know guys put on ads to gain followers on their socials which is a sub feeder stream for their paid content pages.  One guy told me he gained over 20K followers for his IG by being on Grindr for 3 months as he travelled about.

[BuffaloKyle]

48 minutes ago, nomad said:

Not sure about filming collab content thru these hookup sites since OF/JF has gotten strict about documenting consent of the people in the vids now.

Yeah true, didn't think about that.

[DMonDude]

1 hour ago, nomad said:

Not sure about filming collab content thru these hookup sites since OF/JF has gotten strict about documenting consent of the people in the vids now.

It's not really that much of a deterrent. You can still post collabs to those sites long as the other person either also has an OF/JF account that you ahve to tag them in the post, or the other person has to submit ID verification to the platform before the creator can post the video. Obviously less people will do that, but it's not a true blockade.

Plus, a lot of OF/JF creators who don't want to deal with that, simply set up a Telegram channel and divert their subscribers to that for direct sales of sex tapes where you pay them through CashApp/Venmo/Zelle and they send you the video on Telegram. It saves the creator having to jump through identity verification hoops on the OF/JF platform, and they make more money per sale because OF/JF isn't there to get their 20% cut or however much it is now. That's what some creators were doing last i was using the platform regularly.

Edited 15 minutes ago by DMonDude