any recommanded sub bottom daddy providers?

[Oni Graves]

Hey all, new member here, and need some suggestions.

My status is kinda awkward tbh, I'm a dom top without enough self-esteem to fill up his ego. Also I'm uncut with a sensitive tip, if you know you know, that can also make things awkward.

My type is mature bottoms that really know how to put themselves under their man and guide the top, verbal, lingrie and roleplay are all big plus. 

So I'm wondering if anyone has experience with submissive daddy providers like that, and where to find their page?

Prefer clean but also open-minded about it.

Thank you thank you 

 

[Oni Graves]

Oh I forgot to mention, located in LA area

[pubic_assistance]

18 hours ago, Oni Graves said:

My status is kinda awkward tbh, I'm a dom top without enough self-esteem to fill up his ego

Certainly niche.

So ....you consider yourself a dominant top but you need your bottom to be a mouthy, mature man in panties who "guides" you ?

A bit complicated but not without an answer.

My first suggestion would be that maybe you should stop calling yourself a "dom" and you might be more successful in finding what you want. Sounds more like your a micromanaging sub who likes to fuck. Always best to understand your niche turn-on when shopping for the appropriate partner. 

 

[Oni Graves]

28 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Certainly niche.

So ....you consider yourself a dominant top but you need your bottom to be a mouthy, mature man in panties who "guides" you ?

A bit complicated but not without an answer.

My first suggestion would be that maybe you should stop calling yourself a "dom" and you might be more successful in finding what you want. Sounds more like your a micromanaging sub who likes to fuck. Always best to understand your niche turn-on when shopping for the appropriate partner. 

 

Hey, thanks for responding man. Almost lost hope there. Yeah I understand the requests are complex. I definitely have dominate side and my turn-one are the power dynamic, especially if the partner is a mature sub, doesn’t have to be BDSM but I just LOVE that type. But some trauma past and lack of experience made it quite hard to express all that. So it became a dead end, I’m happy to hire a provider that fits my needs to meet the fantasy, but just searching for “sub daddy bottom” never really shows any helpful results. That’s why I decided to seek help and see if anyone had good experience with certain providers before they can refer to me. Thanks again tho.

[Nue2thegame]

You’re looking for a “power bottom”. Several RM men advertise that service. 

[Oni Graves]

1 minute ago, Nue2thegame said:

You’re looking for a “power bottom”. Several RM men advertise that service. 

Cool cool, so just use “power bottom “ as a key word while searching? I’m gonna try it out now. Much appreciated! 

[+ Jamie21]

I’d suggest first finding a vers daddy type who appeals to you. I say vers because he needs to understand a top mindset. Then engage him in discussion about what you want. If he’s a good provider he’ll understand what you’re looking for. I find many clients don’t exactly know what they’re looking for - they can’t articulate it and often they don’t know it fully. It takes a bit of time (a few sessions) and some flexibility from me to help them. I’ve had guys change their minds on what role they think they are after a few sessions. It’s good to avoid being rigidly in a box. 

[pubic_assistance]

14 hours ago, Oni Graves said:

my turn-one are the power dynamic,

Yes. same here. So I get it. Love to play with power dynamics.

YOURS is somewhat complex but not rare. The problem (in MY opinion) is the word "sub". You want someone who likes getting ass fucked but is in control of the situation, almost dominant with a possible kinky feminine side. So I agree with the above suggestions to search for an older "power bottom" first. Your desire for a panty clad, daddy type is going to be a real needle in a haystack...but doesnt hurt to ask. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 1/17/2026 at 11:40 PM, Oni Graves said:

Oh I forgot to mention, located in LA area

As the author of the original post, you can go back and change the title to include the city... You will get much more helpful responses.  Click on the 3 dots in your original post, or ask a Moderator for assistance.

Edited Monday at 05:57 PM by Vegas_Millennial

[Oni Graves]

8 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I’d suggest first finding a vers daddy type who appeals to you. I say vers because he needs to understand a top mindset. Then engage him in discussion about what you want. If he’s a good provider he’ll understand what you’re looking for. I find many clients don’t exactly know what they’re looking for - they can’t articulate it and often they don’t know it fully. It takes a bit of time (a few sessions) and some flexibility from me to help them. I’ve had guys change their minds on what role they think they are after a few sessions. It’s good to avoid being rigidly in a box. 

I think you are right man. It has been a bad circle on repeat. My condition and lack of experience made some sessions awkward , the awkward sessions thickened my condition. I do have a decade of longings for a certain type, but maybe just get comfortable with experienced providers can be a good start.

[LuckyLechon]

8 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I’d suggest first finding a vers daddy type who appeals to you. I say vers because he needs to understand a top mindset. Then engage him in discussion about what you want. If he’s a good provider he’ll understand what you’re looking for. I find many clients don’t exactly know what they’re looking for - they can’t articulate it and often they don’t know it fully. It takes a bit of time (a few sessions) and some flexibility from me to help them. I’ve had guys change their minds on what role they think they are after a few sessions. It’s good to avoid being rigidly in a box. 

Not to commandeer this thread but genuinely how does one figure this out? I feel like I knew but things shift - am I just into a lot?

[ketut]

https://rent.men/WillTantra is in Denver but travels.  He might fit the bill for you.  

[+ Jamie21]

1 hour ago, Oni Graves said:

I think you are right man. It has been a bad circle on repeat. My condition and lack of experience made some sessions awkward , the awkward sessions thickened my condition. I do have a decade of longings for a certain type, but maybe just get comfortable with experienced providers can be a good start.

Good luck. Experienced guys will guide you. 

[Oni Graves]

36 minutes ago, ketut said:

https://rent.men/WillTantra is in Denver but travels.  He might fit the bill for you.  

Oh he is definitely cute

[Oni Graves]

2 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Yes. same here. So I get it. Love to play with power dynamics.

YOURS is somewhat complex but not rare. The problem (in MY opinion) is the word "sub". You want someone who likes getting ass fucked but is in control of the situation, almost dominant with a possible kinky feminine side. So I agree with the above suggestions to search for an older "power bottom" first. Your desire for a panty clad, daddy type is going to be a real needle in a haystack...but doesnt hurt to ask. 

TBH I don’t really need my bottom to be in control. It’s just performance anxiety and I easily got knocked out of the moment. The bottom being submissive consistently really helps me stay in the focus. I had like one or two successful encounters in Europe when they just simply enjoyed being my “man wife”or “good girl” for the night, but when I try to search for similar providers after being back I had no luck so far lol. That’s why I thought maybe asking for recommendations might raise the chance. BTW your description was quite on point, that’s really my favorite type.

[rawview]

You should talk with Marco Napoli.  His home base is NYC now, but travels and I know CA was a location where he had connections/visits.  He is vers, however, really wants to know what you like and non-judgemental.  Really sweet guy & fun.  Good luck.

 

https://rent.men/MarcoNapoli#platinum

[Oni Graves]

3 hours ago, rawview said:

You should talk with Marco Napoli.  His home base is NYC now, but travels and I know CA was a location where he had connections/visits.  He is vers, however, really wants to know what you like and non-judgemental.  Really sweet guy & fun.  Good luck.

 

https://rent.men/MarcoNapoli#platinum

Oh, I think I must followed him on some platforms before, he looks quite familiar. Glad to know he is also chill, Imma gonna have to check out his page

[mike carey]

7 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

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