Feeling not attractive enough to hire

[Awksjoe]

Thanks again everyone I'll let you know how I get on in January. I'll be going to Berlin and Alicante and somewhere in-between. It's gonna be a trip alone for my 40th birthday to kind of find myself lol cheesy I know xxx

[TBD]

On 11/22/2025 at 7:58 PM, SecretProvider said:

No provider will care about your scars. 

I would encourage you to be as transparent as you can. Don't just say 'I am fat', be honest with your size. I never reject a client based on looks, but I do like to be mentally prepared with what I am dealing with. There is such a big range of 'fat' - it can be a little overweight, it can be morbidly obese or even extreme obesity, and we may need to plan for some logistic (are there stairs? is the bed big enough? will you be able to use the shower at my place?) 

One thing that I would also be mindful of is if you are of a size that causes difficulty with being able to reach every where in order to wash yourself fully - please ensure you take extra special care and time to do so before your meeting. (that includes all skin folds and so on, a full deep clean - not just a quick rinse off) 

 

@PhileasFogg  these are not troll like/negative comments. I feel it's unfair to say he is only negative. I want more providers to post here, not less. I wish they were more active on these forums. 

[thruster]

I have been hiring for 13 years, and have the same issues as the OP. I am always well groomed, well dressed, polite, and friendly. I never disclose my age or weight, and neither do I disclose my profession, or domestic situation prior to meeting, nor have I ever provided a photograph or deposit. I have always hired young, attractive guys, and I have never been declined.  My sincere delight in my hire's youth and beauty becomes evident in our playtime, and memories of the experiences bolster my self-image.

My thoughts: be confident, and have the requested payment on hand. I think very few guys will refuse you. And have fun!

Edited Saturday at 11:43 PM by thruster
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[+ purplekow]

On 11/24/2025 at 6:15 PM, Awksjoe said:

Thanks again everyone I'll let you know how I get on in January. I'll be going to Berlin and Alicante and somewhere in-between. It's gonna be a trip alone for my 40th birthday to kind of find myself lol cheesy I know xxx

Still lost?

[Thelatin]

I highly encourage diet and exercise.  It makes everything better.  You feel better, people are nicer, the long term costs of health care etc.   So glad I interested in fitness a few years ago - it becomes an addiction if you let it.

[Whoisyourdaddy]

20 hours ago, Thelatin said:

I highly encourage diet and exercise.  It makes everything better.  You feel better, people are nicer, the long term costs of health care etc.   So glad I interested in fitness a few years ago - it becomes an addiction if you let it.

I agree. Due to my former career, I've been dieting and exercising most of my life.

Unfortunately, I'm still being bombarded by providers canceling or ghosting at the last second. (To be honest, most providers aren't asking for pictures.)

It's also not a money issue because I always pay their rate.

I don't know what to think anymore. I'm getting more discouraged by this hobby.

Ultimately, it's first-world problems.

[BuffaloKyle]

I guess we'll never know how it went for @Awksjoe as he hasn't logged in since December and his trip was in January.

[marylander1940]

On 11/22/2025 at 2:37 PM, Awksjoe said:

Hi I'm from the UK and solo travelling soon to Spain and Berlin. Iv been wanting to hire someone for years and think this will be the perfect time . 

I'm not looking for a pep talk just I have some hangups about my body I'm overweight and have scars on my body that I'm very insecure about my questions are . Do the providers care what I look like? Would they find it weird if I didn't get fully naked? Should I tell them in advance that I'm fat? Lol thanks 

 

 

Just tell the escorts up front your stats and everything will be fine. Maybe one or two won't get back to you but the other ones have met guys of all sizes and appearances. It's part of the job.

At least the side of the Atlantic plenty of clients are overweight. You're not alone!

[+ SidewaysDM]

On 4/6/2026 at 8:49 PM, marylander1940 said:

Just tell the escorts up front your stats and everything will be fine. Maybe one or two won't get back to you but the other ones have met guys of all sizes and appearances. It's part of the job.

At least the side of the Atlantic plenty of clients are overweight. You're not alone!

@marylander1940 your advice is spot on! Personally, every provider I have been interested in, I have been open and honest about my height, 6’ 1” , my weight, 285 lbs, my age at 64 years old, and  that I don’t top or bottom. I have never been rejected by any provider that I was interested in hiring. Being open and honest also sets a positive tone, so you can be relaxed and enjoy your session.