The demise of kindness and respect?

[GentJ]

I'm pretty new, so I can't speak to the slowdown. But my hooker friends all say it's gotten slower. 

All of my in-person interactions have been lovely. Online is another matter. It seems echoing some of the stuff other people here have said: people tend to forget that we're also humans with feelings, loved-ones, and a life outside of this. Nothing worse than telling your friends to go have fun without you, and then sit at home alone because a client ghosted 😔

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

I suggest reading this post in the Lounge:

The title alone is a good reminder to always behave like a Gentleman in this gentlemanly hobby

[FaustOust]

And I was just thinking that I should be less kind and less polite in order not to be mistaken for a push-over, manipulated, or taken advantage of because the escorts know they can get away with it with a “nice guy”.

I fear the world has become meaner and politeness and civility won’t protect us nice  guys.  

But maybe I am just embittered on my way to being jaded.  We‘ll see….

[+ PhileasFogg]

4 hours ago, FaustOust said:

And I was just thinking that I should be less kind and less polite in order not to be mistaken for a push-over, manipulated, or taken advantage of because the escorts know they can get away with it with a “nice guy”.

I fear the world has become meaner and politeness and civility won’t protect us nice  guys.  

But maybe I am just embittered on my way to being jaded.  We‘ll see….

Well, then you might want to check your number on Mr Number?   

It’s a choice each of us has to make, but personally, I’d prefer to be criticized first for being kind rather than a jerk.  BUT, be sure that, if someone hustles me and refuses to make it right, then I’m capable of responding in kind if I choose.

Maybe there are some therapists among us, but might not the concept of “Projective Identification” apply in the response @FaustOust might exoect to receive?

[jackcali]

8 hours ago, FaustOust said:

And I was just thinking that I should be less kind and less polite in order not to be mistaken for a push-over, manipulated, or taken advantage of because the escorts know they can get away with it with a “nice guy”.

I fear the world has become meaner and politeness and civility won’t protect us nice  guys.  

But maybe I am just embittered on my way to being jaded.  We‘ll see….

There is a very big gap between politeness and submissiveness.  You can be civil and still refuse to be insulted or taken advantage of.  In a slightly different context, I was once beaten up in high school by an extraordinary well-mannered European kid who we regularly mocked for being so polite.  (I think I said something untoward about his mother).  He told me he was going to beat me up and then did so, though I got a couple of punches in before I was on the ground.  Three things about the fight, though.  First, he didn't insult me (or my mother), second, he didn't even try to hit me in the face, and third, he helped me up afterwards.  I learned a few lessons that day, only one of which was that he had issues with his mother.

Edited Wednesday at 12:26 PM by jackcali
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