Meet up that only led to talking a/k/a therapy. WTF

[Miami305]

Met up with a “ performer” who  basically didn’t perform. Instead he spent the whole time disclosing deep secrets and intimate  things about his  personal life  to the point that I genuinely felt bad  that he is such a mess. 

He was very engaging and then abruptly said the hour is up.  My fault for not closing the deal ? Was I duped ? Perhaps I should have charged him for listening as a “therapist. “ Thoughts?
 

Btw, his massage  pricing was less than the “full service” I paid for— and at least that  includes a  massage.

Maybe the single review he has should have been a clue. 

Edited August 10 by Miami305

[LookingAround]

It's at least half your responsibility for managing the time. At least 51% on you cause you saw where this was going. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

In those situations, you need to steer them and the conversation back to what you hired him for. If he doesn't stop, you'll need to be a bit blunt, but do it nicely.

Another note, which works if he's being honest - it pays dividends if you spend some time listening to what a provider complains about, nod, agree, and say it's not his fault. If an escort wants to talk about themselves, let them take center stage, and they'll love you for it.

[TomKTwoZero]

Well who was it?

 

[+ nycman]

16 hours ago, Miami305 said:

My fault for not closing the deal ?

No, but I am willing to bet you paid upfront. That’s on you.

16 hours ago, Miami305 said:

Was I duped ?

Yes, but this is an easily avoidable situation. No Huggie, No Kissie, No $$$$.

Repeat after me, "We’re not here to talk. We’re here to fuck."

[maninsoma]

It's horrible that this "provider" did this to you, but as others have suggested if you find yourself in a similar situation in the future then you need to be more proactive about addressing it early.  If I really felt like the guy was such a mess that he wouldn't be able to perform well, I'd simply say something to that effect (more kindly, of course) and send him on his way without paying (or, if I knew he had to travel a bit to get to me, I'd give him a small amount of money for his travel efforts).  I imagine saying something like, "It sounds like you have a lot of worries on your mind and this isn't a good time for you to be working.  Let's do this another time when you're feeling up to it."  That would still give the guy an opportunity to apologize, state that he didn't mean to go on about his personal problems, and initiate what you hired him for -- or he can leave.  If he's just playing a game (trying to get paid for doing nothing but talking about himself), then he can make the decision to cut the crap and give you what you hired him for or leave.  

Edited Monday at 08:02 PM by maninsoma

[pubic_assistance]

23 minutes ago, maninsoma said:

  I imagine saying something like, "It sounds like you have a lot of worries on your mind and this isn't a good time for you to be working.  Let's do this another time when you're feeling up to it." 

^^ THIS RIGHT HERE ^^