Bi guys' sexual roles.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 8/9/2025 at 3:49 PM, purplekow said:

So for the bi guys out there, are you willing and able to give and receive or are you a one way street?  This pertains only to anal, as I think most guys who have sex with men give and receive oral, though they may have a preference for one or the other. 

I consider myself to be bi-sexual, because I will sleep with BOTH gay and straight men.

My personal preference as I aged:

In my teens:  Receive oral only.  Never thought of anal penetration.

In my 20s: Give and receive oral.  Couldn't stand to watch anal penetration in porn.

In my early 30s:  Started anal play, both penetrating and receiving.  Discovered Bukkake and loved being in the center of it.

In my late 30s+:  Learned how to be a bottom like a pro, through instruction and lots of practice.  Agree what @Jamie21said above, it's mostly a mental attitude but also some preparation.  Don't like to receive oral anymore.  Prefer to give oral on small to average sized penis. 

Edited Thursday at 06:20 PM by Vegas_Millennial

[jeezifonly]

The physiological existence of nerve clusters and the neural pathways to the perception of pleasure is independent from how one identifies on the Kinsey scale. That's how some Kinsey 0's find pleasure in anal stimulation with their female partners - they're able to tap into the specific sensations as they connect to overall sexual arousal even without the presence of another penis or male energy. I was straight w a girlfriend in college, but sure was curious about my ass. 

So, either you're able to make a successful effort of learning your own nerves and pathways or not. A sudden jab with dick (or toy) of any size, regardless of partner, without the prior awakening and stimulation to make the hole hungry for it, is rarely going to make one want more. The good news? The barriers to enjoyment can be removed with some focused effort during solo play. But only if enjoyment of it is wanted.

If you truly want to not enjoy getting fucked, no one can stop you. Top away! 

 

[SaintV]

My opinion is explore, don't worry about titles. Don't worry about being a top or bottom. try everything that you are comfortable with. Try things you're not comfortable with, but know your limits. I was always a top with guys. It's almost funnily enough, like I thought it was "gay" to be a bottom. I liked being in control, In the bed, at work, everywhere. Until I was actually talked into being a submissive bottom.  

The feeling of not having to be in control. Where you just follow direction and only have to be in the moment and let somebody else guide things is the greatest feeling ever for me. Now the role can change depending on who I'm with. I still greatly enjoy being a top. But I have learned that being a bottom is pretty great also. I prefer to be a submissive bottom, but just do what you like. Don't be scared to try anything within your limits.