Real Talk on massage rates - let me know your thoughts

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On 8/10/2025 at 3:09 PM, rustyrex said:

I mostly stopped hiring masseurs from the gay sites for anything but the extras.  I think some have the nerve to charge $200 for an hour for an unskilled, unlicensed, with no HE or anything else.  I had one guy pull that nonsense on me and he literally hurt me.  Gorgeous body with muscles but unskilled and decided to put his knuckles into my legs and ass a little too deeply and he didn't even take off his shirt.  Never again...  I've had better luck with the legal sites and they offer the HE and more for a lot less and they are trained with a license.  I still peruse the ads...mostly to scoff...but once in a while a diamond pops up that's worth the effort.  If my legal guys offer me full service I have no problem giving them a lot more.  

What are your preferred legal sites?   

In SF it is impossible to find a guy who is well trained and offers a decent HE for less than $300 on RM.  So I am interested in finding a couple long terms providers I can build a better working relationship with.

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On 8/10/2025 at 3:09 PM, rustyrex said:

I mostly stopped hiring masseurs from the gay sites for anything but the extras.  I think some have the nerve to charge $200 for an hour for an unskilled, unlicensed, with no HE or anything else.  I had one guy pull that nonsense on me and he literally hurt me.  Gorgeous body with muscles but unskilled and decided to put his knuckles into my legs and ass a little too deeply and he didn't even take off his shirt.  Never again...  I've had better luck with the legal sites and they offer the HE and more for a lot less and they are trained with a license.  I still peruse the ads...mostly to scoff...but once in a while a diamond pops up that's worth the effort.  If my legal guys offer me full service I have no problem giving them a lot more.  

 

Ah so this is what people are doing. Using the "legal" sites and still getting the "extras."

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On 7/21/2025 at 5:40 PM, Hey_Jay said:

When the hour massage rate was around 120-140 and 90 minutes is around 150 I get a lot of massages! Like 2-3 x a month
 

Now at 200 average for an hour massage (not to mention if you’re actually gonna get a good one) I’ve only been going once a month or sometimes less. 
 

I can still afford it if I want to but I’m really looking right now on the value for what you pay for. So my massage frequency definitely dropped more than 50%. I also, wonder if massage providers here are noticing the decline. Or is it just me? lol 

Do you ask beforehand about any extras like a HE, and do you describe yourself including age, maybe race? 

I do take all of that into consideration, especially if I cannot see your identity on the many apps and websites I use. 

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On 8/1/2025 at 4:01 PM, TonyDown said:

Is 200 the new normal for a massage?

$200 is indeed the new normal for an erotic (happy ending) massage. 

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On 8/11/2025 at 1:32 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

Yes!  I'd rather have a good trained massage from an average looking guy than a horrible massage from a good looking guy at a premium price.

When you’re on your stomach and all you can see are the guy’s feet through the face cradle, all of the guy’s good looks mean nothing (unless you’re into feet)

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On 8/1/2025 at 8:22 PM, JamesB said:

 

May I suggest doing what’s worked well for me? I also use an envelope to pay providers which I prepare in advance with just their exact fee. If I choose to tip, I simply add it afterward, it's always easier to put more in than to take some out.

I usually fold the bills for the flat fee together in one pocket with the anticipated tip bills folded together in another pocket.  A trip to the bathroom after I get dressed allows me to change the tip amount if necessary.