The Rules

[Archangel]

I’d like to propose a small but important amendment to the forum’s Rule 1 on Civility. The current rule reads:

“1. Civility: Conduct yourself in a way that respects this site and all who come here. Hate speech/hateful speech, name-calling/labelling, inciting or engaging in arguments, publicly shaming, and attacking other members, groups of members, or people who are the topic of discussion is prohibited. Remember: you may criticize a person’s opinion but don’t attack the person.”

I propose inserting the following clarification just before “Remember”:

Unacceptable speech includes conscious or unconscious aiding, abetting, supporting, or endorsing disparaging and/or judgmental remarks concerning race, color, religion, sex (including transgender status, sexual orientation, and pregnancy), national origin, age, bodily physicality (including height and weight), disability, or genetic information.

This clarification doesn’t alter the intent of the rule—it reinforces it. It provides clearer boundaries around what constitutes respectful discourse, including speech that may unintentionally cause harm or reinforce bias. Given that this forum includes people from a wide range of identities—many of whom experience intersectionality across multiple demographics—it seems important to name and protect those realities explicitly.

It also brings the rule in line with well-established norms for civil behavior and helps ensure this forum remains a place where all participants feel respected and safe to engage.

I hope this is received in the spirit of goodwill with which it’s offered, and not as a violation of any rule or posted in the wrong spot.

[pubic_assistance]

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 7/11/2025 at 9:46 AM, Archangel said:

Unacceptable speech includes... remarks concerning...sexual orientation....age, bodily physicality (including height and weight).... or genetic information...

There goes 80% of the discussion in the Deli, Spa, Questions About Hiring, and Lounge!  No more discussion of hiring straight providers, seeking uncut Latin escorts, BBC, Asian massage parlors, or twinks, or bears, or asking if the provider really looks 29 still, or asking for recommendations for men with certain size body parts.

The remaining 20% would simply be the word "Bump". 😉 

I guess we would still have the Men's Finances sections to read.  Welcome to the new men's only Wall Street Journal!

At least we could still create new threads on deposits and tipping. 😁 

[RadioRob]

One thing I’ve learned over the years… you can’t implement every suggestion provided. But all suggestions will be reviewed and considered. 

It’s not personal… it just may not fit into the overall strategy for the site and make sense when looking at a larger picture. On its own, any idea can sound promising, but the devil is in the details.