RM guy stole my deposit -- any recourse?

[+ JamesB]

4 hours ago, nycman said:

Whenever I get requests like this, I always chalk it up as an immediate loss.

If I give the money, I’ll never get the services promised and I’ll never get the money back.

If I say no, the relationship is done. 

True whether it’s escorts, business associates, friends, or family.

Having said that, sometimes I say yes, and sometimes I say no. 

 

I couldn’t agree more.
There’s this one regular I started seeing a few months before COVID. During the pandemic, he asked if I could front him the fee for a future session. I felt bad for him and everything going on, so I sent the money, fully expecting I’d never see him or the money again.

But to my surprise, he came through and not only he delivered but with extended time as a thank you.

Since then, he’s asked for the same favor every year, usually in the first couple of weeks of January. I’ll admit, every time I send the money, I assume it’s the last I’ll hear from him. Yet here we are in 2025, and he’s still showing up.

[DunwoodyGuy]

Here's what you can do: Never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER send a deposit again.

Ever. 

[studchaser]

On 7/8/2025 at 5:11 AM, 56harrisond said:

 

 

I disagree about no to deposits. It sucks when ppl aren't honest but clients play games too!!! Clients will ask for oics claim they are booking and the day of "get sick" or simply ghost. Providers need some kind of assurance if they are traveling say an hour or more or clearing their schedule for a significant amount of time. 

 

If a guy is new on the scene or has a questionable reputation you have to gauge your risks adequately but a blanket no to deposits is unwarranted. In most businesses a contractor is getting something before the job starts. Fair is fair