Variety or Comfort?

[Guest jb]

When I travel (even when I'm at home, actually), I hire the same escorts again and again rather that being adventurous and trying someone new. I find I have a better experience with an escort who knows me and understands my tastes and preferences. (Of course, some of them charge their regular clients less, too.)

 

Just wondering how others feel!

 

jb

[+ nycman]

As my dear mother always says:

 

“The most delicate and beautiful flowers only grow in a well cultivated garden…but occasionally stop to smell the wild rose as well.”

 

That’s my 2 cents on the topic.

[Guest jb]

>As my dear mother always says:

>

>

>“The most delicate and beautiful flowers

>only grow in a well

>cultivated garden…but occasionally stop to

>smell the wild rose as

>well.”

>

>That’s my 2 cents on the

>topic.

 

I'm inclined to agree with you (and your mother), NYCman, but lately I've found that many of the wild roses have thorns!

 

jb

[Justice]

I don't adjust very well to change. I live four blocks from the hospital where I was born. (I'll be 45 in December.) I'm still friends with people that I've known since kindergarten (getting married to someone from my high school's arch rival almost cost one friend her membership in my social circle ;-))and I've been at the same job for almost 20 years. Thanks to this site, I found two escorts who a) are partners, b) are very nice guys, and c) just happen to be very good at what they do. }> I still can't believe how lucky I got -- I found variety and comfort at the same time.

[ted]

I have my regulars, one on the east coast and one on the west...and I experiment every once and awhile. My experiences have generally been good, based on info gleaned here.

[CT Dick]

I need a bit of each.

 

The familiar is just that. There is no adventure; no pleasure of discovery. On the other hand, there is never disappointment. It is a sure thing.

 

The newby offers the fun of anticipation, the discovery of what turns him on, what he is good at, how he looks, etc. And also the chance of a flop.

 

So, I vary my appointments to include some of each.

[Damascene]

I tends towards comfort. I like have a known quantity; plus I

am very nervous with a new guy. You are putting money into an

unknown quantity - all the good reviews in the world won't warn

you about bad chemisty between you and an escort.

 

That said I usually have two to three escorts on my list at

most times, so I can get a limited variety. When one of my

escorts retires, I hate going through the process of finding a

replacement.

[Guest MrB]

Well put, NYCMan.

 

MrB

[+ deej]

I have a few regulars. (And I'm about to add another to that list, I think.) One of the guys I've been seeing since I moved here five years ago.

 

I also hire a new guy once in a while. How do you think I found the regulars? ;-)

[Bilbo]

Yeat's "Ode to a Grecian Urn" comes to mind. Wasn't it about the divine moment of anticipation of a new pleasure being made permanent?

 

Also, when I was a teenager and my city banned fireworks because some kids hurt themselves. And I made a speach at a hearing about how if we protect ourselves from every possible danger we become an unAmerican herd of sheep. (Please forgive me, Aussies, Brits, etc.)

 

An integral part of beauty is its ephemeralism(?). Its property of not lasting.

 

And if we completely avoided the thorns, would the roses smell as sweet? Maybe not.

[Guest italbear]

my advice...go with the regulars -- and maybe try 1 or 2 others when your in a particular city....it can do wonders...that's how I met Yuri in Orlando (he's awesome) and Peter Dixon in Chicago (huge dick)..they weren't regulars -- but I researched and found them -- and decided to give them a chance...they were incredible...have fun....

[+ bigjoey]

my feelings exactly. i think the comfort level works two ways and the escort is more relaxed as well. seeing a regular eliminates the "getting to know you" phase of the relationship and the time together becomes time with a "friend" (in fantasy if not fact).

 

to me, sex is just a part of the total relationship and the fun of being together. i like the intellectual stimulation that an intelligent escort provides.

 

over time, with some escorts, real friendship can develop. i have remained friends with a couple of retired escorts where sex and monetary exchange are no longer involved; we just like talking and getting together. we became part of each others lives and wanted the nonsexual part of the relationship to continue.

 

i have noticed that the escorts that i have a regular relationship have broadened their "limits" with me. the reviews on some of these men are very specific as to what the escorts will not do; yet they will do those activities with me. i think this goes to their comfort level with me being clean and healthy. it could be that as a regular, they want to please me more that a one time client as they know what i like and what it takes to keep coming back. in any business, your existing customers are your best potential customers if they are treated right and like the product/service; this could be like frequent-hire-miles.

[Guest blankman]

Keats wrote that poem.

 

The poem also has something to say about art. It's only on the urn that the moment you describe can be frozen in time.

[Bilbo]

With my memory, when you think that there is only a one letter difference between the two names, I came pretty close.

 

However, it seems to me that although the moment with each new individual can only be frozen in time through art, aren't a lot of people saying that they are junkies for that moment and keep changing partners in order to feel it anew each time? And, quite often, I am one of them.

[Guest Merlin]

I really like to look for new guys and enjoy the excitement of anticipation. Sure, sometimes I am dissappointed sometimes, but often delighted. But when I meet a guy I really like I will continue to hire him as long as the excitement is there.