Poor Communication

[TyrEngineer]

This seems to be a fairly common trait among providers and I was kinda curious how others respond.

For context I found a provider I find extremely attractive on mintboys (not the best platform). He responds to my messages when he gets bored or something, and has said yes to a time I suggest on 3 occasions now. The issue is that he goes radio silent as that time approaches. The real kicker is that later on he will send me a message as if nothing was wrong. I am baffled by this because the conversation keeps going but we still haven't met.

It feels like a game to me at this point, so I have started treating it like a game. There is some entertainment value but I would actually like to meet him. I don't understand his reasoning because I'm not paying him for this idle chit chat thru text messages.

How common is this nonsense? I have a feeling that most people would have moved on already lol

 

[+ ApexNomad]

3 hours ago, TyrEngineer said:

This seems to be a fairly common trait among providers and I was kinda curious how others respond.

For context I found a provider I find extremely attractive on mintboys (not the best platform). He responds to my messages when he gets bored or something, and has said yes to a time I suggest on 3 occasions now. The issue is that he goes radio silent as that time approaches. The real kicker is that later on he will send me a message as if nothing was wrong. I am baffled by this because the conversation keeps going but we still haven't met.

It feels like a game to me at this point, so I have started treating it like a game. There is some entertainment value but I would actually like to meet him. I don't understand his reasoning because I'm not paying him for this idle chit chat thru text messages.

How common is this nonsense? I have a feeling that most people would have moved on already lol

 

This is not a common trait with providers. 

[TyrEngineer]

6 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

This is not a common trait with providers. 

I was referring to poor communication in general, not the silly game this guy is playing. If it's not common the search feature must be built with AI making stuff up.

[+ ApexNomad]

8 minutes ago, TyrEngineer said:

I was referring to poor communication in general, not the silly game this guy is playing. If it's not common the search feature must be built with AI making stuff up.

Time’s a luxury we all can’t afford to waste, so why keep engaging with someone who doesn’t seem to value it? It’s like giving your energy to something that’s never going to give back.

[TyrEngineer]

7 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

Time’s a luxury we all can’t afford to waste, so why keep engaging with someone who doesn’t seem to value it? It’s like giving your energy to something that’s never going to give back.

Yea I expect this to be the opinion of most. He contacted me out of the blue for right now and I think I've accepted this situation is never going to live up to my dreams. I think he is trying to monetize his sex life or he wants some spending money for the weekend. Oh well, another crazy story to add to the diary.

[TyrEngineer]

He also said "please bring cash for payment" which sounds quite odd to me. Luckily clients won't put up with his shenanigans so I don't need to go out of my way to warn anyone.

[Guest]

Poor communication seems common on Mintboys. 

It's less common on RM.

[acks0104]

Believe people when they show you who they are. He's showing you he only wants to see you when he feels like it and when it's convenient for him. If that's the level of respect and professionalism you're interested in, then hey, go for it. Some men do not mind hot messes but each to their own

[maninsoma]

On 5/2/2025 at 8:13 PM, TyrEngineer said:

He also said "please bring cash for payment" which sounds quite odd to me. Luckily clients won't put up with his shenanigans so I don't need to go out of my way to warn anyone.

I was initially sympathetic with you but I don't understand why you'd find this odd.  You found the guy on an escort/masseur site, yet you think it sounds odd that he indicated he expects to be paid and wonder if he's trying to monetize his sex life?  I'd say he's an escort who is poor at planning in advance for whatever reason, thus he's failed to follow through on what you thought were firm appointments.  Then he's reached out to you when he's available in the moment because he views you as a prospective client and he's ready to work at that time.  I don't find anything unusual about this, but I do agree that it's disappointing that some people aren't just able to say that they don't want to schedule advance appointments so it's clear that it only makes sense to attempt to book them when you are ready for an appointment within the next hour or two.

[TyrEngineer]

8 hours ago, maninsoma said:

I was initially sympathetic with you but I don't understand why you'd find this odd.  You found the guy on an escort/masseur site, yet you think it sounds odd that he indicated he expects to be paid and wonder if he's trying to monetize his sex life?  I'd say he's an escort who is poor at planning in advance for whatever reason, thus he's failed to follow through on what you thought were firm appointments.  Then he's reached out to you when he's available in the moment because he views you as a prospective client and he's ready to work at that time.  I don't find anything unusual about this, but I do agree that it's disappointing that some people aren't just able to say that they don't want to schedule advance appointments so it's clear that it only makes sense to attempt to book them when you are ready for an appointment within the next hour or two.

I feel like people like to twist words on purpose. Of course I think all providers deserve payment for services rendered, any other expectation would be absurd. You make it sound like I am looking for charity.

I have never once had a provider specifically mention they want cash for payment. As if they didn't want me paying with a credit card.

If this guy wants to hook up with clients only when he is in the mood while ignoring the times I gave him for my availability then it seems like he is trying to monotize his sex life. I couldn't have been any more flexible with my availability, and sitting around all day waiting for a message saying come now isn't my idea of a fun time.

[+ Jamie21]

6 hours ago, TyrEngineer said:

If this guy wants to hook up with clients only when he is in the mood while ignoring the times I gave him for my availability then it seems like he is trying to monotize his sex life.

He is. You should be glad you walked away. If you hired him it’s most likely to be disappointing and you’d regret it.