Do bottoms enjoy tops who can keep going for hours?

[+ ApexNomad]

3 minutes ago, AtlTopGuy said:

The majority of providers don't want to spend a few minutes to understand the expectations (interests, limits, expectations, duration, etc) of new potential clients, they view it as time wasting/sexting/etc. When I find a provider that will take that extra time I typically have a stellar experience with him.

Agreed! And when you do find them, these are the keepers.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

15 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

Speaking as a bottom, and based on your comment about what impresses you, my question isn’t so much whether a top can go for hours. Having my ass catch on fire doesn’t impress me. What impresses me most is exactly what I said—putting a partner’s needs above your own. Creating intimacy. Because the simple truth is, if a top is going for “hours,” there’s really no benefit to the bottom at that point. It becomes painful. It’s no longer about them; it’s about the top.

I can't disagree with what you're saying and I understand completely.

Also, as an escort who's a 100% top, I am seen for a variety of reasons.  What I enjoy personally can be very different than what is expected of me professionally.  

I fully realize that my height, look and build lend themselves to many bottoms wanting me to sexually 'use' them in some way.

That said, I'm capable of different things.  It's just a matter of who I'm with and what they want (or what I think they need).

 

[Constantine]

7 hours ago, Rod Hagen said:

Another reality is that coming is difficult for some of us and it does take hours to get out that single, unimpressive, load.

 

When I'm jacking off I'm done in minutes but when I'm topping during sex it takes an hour or two. I really don't know why. It is what it is. Some bottoms enjoy it though. The last one came twice and said that was the first time he'd done so during sex.

[+ ApexNomad]

4 hours ago, Quincy_7 said:

 

When I'm jacking off I'm done in minutes but when I'm topping during sex it takes an hour or two. I really don't know why. It is what it is. Some bottoms enjoy it though. The last one came twice and said that was the first time he'd done so during sex.

Are you a provider? 😂 😘 

[+ ApexNomad]

4 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

I can't disagree with what you're saying and I understand completely.

Also, as an escort who's a 100% top, I am seen for a variety of reasons.  What I enjoy personally can be very different than what is expected of me professionally.  

I fully realize that my height, look and build lend themselves to many bottoms wanting me to sexually 'use' them in some way.

That said, I'm capable of different things.  It's just a matter of who I'm with and what they want (or what I think they need).

 

For what it’s worth, I didn’t mean to suggest that a top should only focus on their partner’s needs at the expense of their own. What impresses me—really in any relationship—is when both people are aware of and attuned to each other’s experience. That kind of mutual connection is what stands out to me. I genuinely enjoy pleasing my partner, but in my experience, that kind of reciprocity and self awareness—sadly—isn’t always the norm. 

And you certainly don’t need to hear this from an old man like me, but you are special. You seem very thoughtful, intuitive, and present in a way that’s rare. It’s something that I’m sure many in your orbit, whether it be in your professional or personal relationships, cherish. 

[Constantine]

8 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

Are you a provider? 😂 😘 

I provide financial incentives to twinks in exchange for special services.

[+ Italiano]

As a bottom, I LOVE being topped, but definitely NOT for hours.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

6 hours ago, Quincy_7 said:

I provide financial incentives to twinks in exchange for special services.

 

 

 

[+ Jamie21]

On 3/27/2025 at 9:16 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

It's just a matter of who I'm with and what they want (or what I think they need).

Yes! I find lots of clients aren’t sure what they want. They might tell me or think that they want to be pounded for hours but they don’t really want that when you get under the surface. Clients ask for physical activities because that’s easy to ask for. But what you have to think about is how the client wants to feel. I translate the physical requests “pound me for hours”, “lots of body contact”, “wear short shorts when you open the door”, “work hard on my glutes” into how they want to feel: ‘like a slut’, ‘desired’, ‘seduced’, ‘carefree’, ‘not judged’….that kind of thing. What people ask for is not necessarily what they want. 

[hungry4darkmeat]

So im a total bottom and i have had many sessions where the top used me for several hours. My first ever time with my ex we did it all night long but we were young lol 

now in my fifties i tend to shoot for a couple hours total with a couple different scenes and some breaks. That said my absolute favorite is when they surprise me by either lasting longer than forty minutes or better yet busting multiple loads in an hour long session.

If I’m up to - and prepared for - it I will gladly take a marathon pounding - my favorite top provider ever used to routinely go for two or three hours and only busted at the end. But he is an exception to every rule so maybe not fair to include. He knew that if i tried to tap out it meant he was on the precipice of breaking me and so he kept going and made me surrender- that was the night he cucked my long time top fb and made me his bitch forever 

[+ Letmeworshipit]

As an oral only guy, I love dating guys who are insatiable priapics, especially multicummers and sex addicts. They are so much fun for either an extended session or a weekend. A guy with a strong sexual presence and phallic need is my kinda guy.