Do providers prefer being notified?

[Kevin Slate]

I became COVID positive the day after a massage.  I was completely well during the massage and only had a mild sore throat when I tested the next day.  As a courtesy I notified the provider when I found out and he texted back that it was no problem.  But when I later tried to schedule another meeting my number was blocked.  Would providers prefer not to be told?  What about for other exposures?

[+ SirBillybob]

30 minutes ago, Kevin Slate said:

I became COVID positive the day after a massage.  I was completely well during the massage and only had a mild sore throat when I tested the next day.  As a courtesy I notified the provider when I found out and he texted back that it was no problem.  But when I later tried to schedule another meeting my number was blocked.  Would providers prefer not to be told?  What about for other exposures?

What difference does it make, really, when you are doing the correct thing? It goes beyond courtesy to fiduciary responsibility.

Wishing to be in the dark about a problem cannot be deemed a valid preference because you yourself will have had no prerogative for any values-based alternative.

You know how no can sometimes mean yes? Don’t wanna know consistently means the opposite, or should.

Edited October 4, 2024 by SirBillybob

[marylander1940]

33 minutes ago, Kevin Slate said:

I became COVID positive the day after a massage.  I was completely well during the massage and only had a mild sore throat when I tested the next day.  As a courtesy I notified the provider when I found out and he texted back that it was no problem.  But when I later tried to schedule another meeting my number was blocked.  Would providers prefer not to be told?  What about for other exposures?

I don't know why he blocked you, but you did the right thing notifying him. I can't imagine why he reacted that way at all.... sounds childish. 

On a similar subject I'm sure most masseurs/escorts would rather be informed about a client testing positive for an STD also so they can get tested and get treated. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

18 hours ago, Kevin Slate said:

I became COVID positive the day after a massage.  I was completely well during the massage and only had a mild sore throat when I tested the next day.  As a courtesy I notified the provider when I found out and he texted back that it was no problem.  But when I later tried to schedule another meeting my number was blocked.  Would providers prefer not to be told?  What about for other exposures?

It means he thought you made that up to get out of the appointment. Very common among providers.

[Simon Suraci]

On 10/3/2024 at 6:03 PM, marylander1940 said:

I don't know why he blocked you, but you did the right thing notifying him. I can't imagine why he reacted that way at all.... sounds childish. 

On a similar subject I'm sure most masseurs/escorts would rather be informed about a client testing positive for an STD also so they can get tested and get treated. 

I agree 100% with @marylander1940. You did the right thing.

17 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

It means he thought you made that up to get out of the appointment. Very common among providers.

^While this may be true of clients canceling their appointments last minute, this post is about a client trying to book another appointment once he was well again. The client unknowingly exposed the provider to Covid during the first appointment and told the provider about it after the fact - a responsible and decent thing to do. Why the provider would turn down more business by blocking the client beats me. It’s not like the client is permanently contagious. Maybe there was some other unrelated reason. It says more about the provider how he handled things. Time to find a more mature provider.

[Kevin Slate]

My attempt to reschedule was several months later when back in the city.  The provider had invited me to contact him when I returned (before I texted him the next day) and I tipped well. I could have been blocked for an unrelated reason but I have only been blocked once ever (by anyone) and when I saw the person much later he said it was a mistake and he didn’t block me again.  
 

I just wondered more generally whether or not providers wanted to know of exposures — not just COVID.  I don’t plan to see that provider again. 

[soloyo215]

On 10/3/2024 at 8:28 PM, Kevin Slate said:

I became COVID positive the day after a massage.  I was completely well during the massage and only had a mild sore throat when I tested the next day.  As a courtesy I notified the provider when I found out and he texted back that it was no problem.  But when I later tried to schedule another meeting my number was blocked.  Would providers prefer not to be told?  What about for other exposures?

I don't think that all providers will have the same reaction. The provider who blocked you (basing this on the premise that your COVID was the reason for doing so) did not do the right thing. He should have thanked you. The same goes for other exposures.

There's this rather interesting effect, that directly telling a person about exposure to infections make them reject you, but those are the same who have no problem sticking their tongues in my ass. Not sure why that's the case, but being clear and direct about certain things involving bacteria and viruses has had that rejecting effect.

You did the right thing, and in my estimate, most people, not just providers, will be grateful that they got the heads up about exposure to diseases.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Yeah, you did the right thing.  Your escort is an immature shithead, unfortunately.

Always notify partners with these sorts of things.  Being a sexually active adult means occasionally having uncomfortable conversations.

Also- from strictly an STD standpoint- always know your status.  You can easily now schedule an STD panel online or through an app.  There's no more excuse.